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take this injunction further to mean that you should love whoever you find yourself with at
any moment Love thy neighbor Love thine enemy Use agape which is the GrecoChristian
term for selfless unbiased nonpossessive universal love Or experiment with using the
unconditional positive regard that many psychotherapists use with their clients When your
primary aim is to broadcast goodwill you act much less defensive and your composure quotient
will soar Thus a pure lighthearted mentality not only gives you access to the moral high
ground but will also affect many minutiae of your body language and microexpressions
improving your overall aura This is the bravery of the innocent
The key to being popular is to like more people Research has shown that likable people
like others On average the mostliked people like larger numbers of people and they like those
people more So forgive those you feel have wronged you Forgive your parents siblings
all your family and friends Then forgive everyone else from your past and present and even
your future Forgive people from every walk of life Forgive the rich the poor all sides of the
political spectrum Forgive humanity then fate and then the entire universe Have no fear of
rejection from others have no need to be accepted Be able to say love you with no regret
Cherish yourself and your body the way it is and know that you along with everyone else
are absolutely worthy of being loved
Human kindness is the surest step toward deep healing from any kind of trauma
Expect only good from others and project this expectation in the form of positive overtures
People wont be able to help but respond to you in positive ways and their responses will
reinforce your view of the world as a pleasant place further entrenching your expectations
If you work hard at becoming pure of heart you will earn your way to peace Combined
with altruistic acts youll find pleasure And combined with assertiveness and composure
you will find power
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
used to have a stinging pain in my chest that would surface during stress It was healed
after made a deliberate effort to be pure of heart The notion that had pure intentions
reassured some last bastion of muscles in my thorax that they could stop their defensive
bracing could feel these muscles release And because they could finally relax was able to
bring them to a full contraction using exercises such as the coughing laughing panthoot
and diaphragmatic stretching exercises Being pure of heart is the most foolproof way to ensure
that you are breathing easily and consider it the eighth and final tenet of optimal breathing
Conclusion
Most people have a secret fear of being bad or having done things for which they can never
atone But it is never too late to start being pure of heart You can do it at any point in time
Start now As you take on the Program Peace system recommend that you imagine yourself
turning over a new leaf Decide to let go of the regret shame and guilt you have carried with
you from past misdeeds and mistakes Turn any ounce of selfhatred that you may harbor into
selfforgiveness Guilt keeps us from becoming good people so use your participation here as
an excuse to get rid of it Purify your heart by allowing yourself to make it a clean slate
Trauma has made it difficult to be cool playful humorous and pure of heart By removing
the trauma you will make these things much easier See yourself as going from afflicted to
blessed See yourself as principled incorruptible and salt of the earth When you think pure of
heart think dominant but nondominating Think nonsubordinate but nonaggressive Think
assertive but lighthearted Having faith in your goodness is the key to making optimism and
relaxation possible Know that what youre doing comes from a good place with other peoples
best interests in mind As long as you know that you mean right by others you dont have to
worry about offending them with your composure Expect yourself to be pure of heart in
everything you do and conceive of your life from here on to be a heros journey
Chapter Finding Happiness Through Playfulness Composed Kindness
Chapter Bullet Points
e Treat everyone as if they are the least awkward person you have ever met
e There are so many ways to be endearing Theres no need to forfeit your composure or
health to do so
e Creating a pure of heart mindset will make many of your troubles disappear
When mammals are playful they are truly wonderful creatures
e You can directly reduce stress by stimulating the play and nurturance areas of your
brain To do this you must be playful with and nurture others
e The feel good neurochemicals like endorphins serotonin oxytocin and vasopressin
derive from kind behavior Nature endorses morality
e Remember that real virtue does not complement itself and is not even aware of itself as
a virtue
e Laughing exercises will give you a bold laugh and fortify your innards
e Every laugh should almost sound antagonistic as if you were laughing at someone
but only because it is assertive and unaffected by submissive tendencies
e Anight full of fake laughing and smiling will increase the tension you feel the next
morning And yet one minute of genuine unadulterated laughing can relieve all
that strain
e Selfstimulating happiness is key to perpetuating your upward developmental spiral
e Selfamusement is very healthy and a trait of dominant people
e Feel free to be silly
e Act like every day is your birthday and every night is Saturday night
When you are mistreated think of it as an opportunity for personal growth Consciously
deciding to underreact to negativity is regarded by many to be the most powerful way
to achieve spiritual growth
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
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