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Rich-Study5520
|
2023-12-30 12:05:27
| 1,703,937,927 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
18ue8e1
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/18ue8e1/someone_from_my_past_invited_me_for_date/
| 2 |
I (f32) dated this guy (38) briefly but it turned out it was all about sex. Which hurt me a little after we slept and he wouldnt contact me. He ignored me after when I've met him with his daughter. Year later he apologised when he reach out to me and added me on facebook. And since every now and then we'd talk on messenger. He's been claiming for past 2 months he'd date me seriously and he wants relationship. He saw me on tinder and reach out to me on messenger that he would date me and let's get dinner (which he would never do, it would be cheap coffee dates on his lunch break). Should I go out with him? Isn't it gonna be awkward? How should I behave? It's not like it's first date but it kind of is.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Someone from my past invited me for date
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18ue8e1/someone_from_my_past_invited_me_for_date/
|
sprownie_
|
2024-08-17 08:59:44
| 1,723,885,184 | 0 |
['matches', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1eudb7d
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1eudb7d/where_to_find_dates/
| 2 |
Hello I F21 am looking to know where to find suitable partners, everyone says hobbies and such however I will not lie my hobbies mainly include solo activities and my city kinda sucks for most community activities. I also don't smoke amd im not very 420 friendly (the smell makes me feel like im suffocating) so I'm already down 50% of my age range and their social activities. I have tried hinge with no luck and I go to bars but I go with friends and my friends are hot. Like they're really attractive so usually they're getting hit on or im being asked to help them talk to them. Im on the bigger side in height and weight 5'8 and i think 204 pds i do lift weights as well but my fat ratio is still higher then it should be. I'm also waiting for marriage so that lessens my pool even more I get matches but maybe because I'm talking like a normal person I get unmatched. I feel like I'm behind in everything romantically I really want to date and start the process for the long term but I don't have the partner to do it (Apologies for any grammatical errors this was typed on my phone at like 2 am)
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Where to find dates?
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1eudb7d/where_to_find_dates/
|
Nervous_Form_8931
|
2024-05-03 17:15:28
| 1,714,756,528 | 0 | null | 0 |
1cje1lq
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1cje1lq/hinge_first_time_hooking_up_and_a_little_nervous/
| 4 |
33M in NYC and Im new to OLD and Hinge is my first app. Ive only been on it for 2 months and have met with 11 women, many just first dates, some went to second and third. Its both exhausting and expensive. I decided to stop using the app after April, so I went all out and swiped on both long term and casual looking profiles. I dont swipe anymore but matches are coming in, and Im seeing this woman tonight exclusively to hook up. Ive never had to meet someone with this intent in mind. My hesitancy though is from how open she is. She said she is free after 7pm weekdays, and her weekends are free. She did have to go away for 3 days recently, but I guess Im surprised shes not more "busy" or occupied haha. Im overthinking this arent I?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Hinge - first time hooking up and a little nervous
| 4 | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1cje1lq/hinge_first_time_hooking_up_and_a_little_nervous/
|
continuingtofuckup
|
2023-09-06 12:00:48
| 1,694,001,648 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
16bid7u
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/16bid7u/my_30f_bf_34m_got_an_email_from_bumble_about/
| 1 |
We've been together for going on 2 years we had an issue earlier this year with cheating. We decided to stay together, but every now and then I check his phone cuz I get insecure if he's going to cheat again He has emails from bumble about community guidline changes and another one about updated terms and conditions. Does this mean he's active on bumble?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
My 30f Bf 34m got an email from bumble about community guideline changes
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/16bid7u/my_30f_bf_34m_got_an_email_from_bumble_about/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-04-07 09:01:29
| 1,396,861,289 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
22eusr
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/22eusr/after_a_month_of_txting_going_on_a_first_date_on/
| 1 |
We met on tinder, He travels a lot for work and showed up on my tinder radar. I live in a small town and he usually stays in the city. I was always too busy with school and work to meet up. We've been txting for over a month now and he's finally coming back and he decided to stay in the same town I live so we could finally hang out. He's only staying for one night. We talked about going on a hike and then dinner. I don't have any experience dating american guys so I don't know what to expect. Sex too soon? Should I only make out? I really like him I don't want to screw up things
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
After a month of txting, going on a first date on wednesday.. what should I expect?
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/22eusr/after_a_month_of_txting_going_on_a_first_date_on/
|
reluctantdonkey
|
2023-11-19 19:33:42
| 1,700,422,422 | 0 |
['facebook dating']
| 0 |
17z4wf9
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/17z4wf9/nice_swerve_facebook_dating/
| 1 |
Has anyone else noticed that on Facebook Dating, if the person gives you their number and you add them as a contact, adds their last name as a two-heart emoji thingy? Noticed it with someone else I added, was showing a friend and she was like "Oh, cute that you added him with that little heart thing after his name..." I was like "I DID NO SUCH THING!" And assumed it was just a glitch. Just added someone else as a contact and, --- there are those damned hearts again. Do other apps do this? It's kind of an annoying swerve, I gotta say. &x200B;
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Nice swerve, Facebook Dating
| 1 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/17z4wf9/nice_swerve_facebook_dating/
|
silvie13
|
2021-08-06 02:40:51
| 1,628,217,651 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
oyxszh
| true | null | 99 | 0 |
/r/AskMen/comments/oyxszh/what_are_the_best_ways_a_women_can_approachaskout/
| 78 |
It is likely that this question has been asked here before and I missed it. About me, feel free to skip. I have been in a couple of very long term relationships most of my life, so I am new to asking men out. I’ve done the online dating thing, and have met some great and interesting people, but I’m just not feeling it at this point in time. Essentially I would like to know some of the best ways you’ve been approached by women. What is too subtle or too direct? Any thoughts, ideas, or stories are greatly welcomed.
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
What are the best ways a women can approach/ask-out a man she is interested in, in the physical world (not through digital means)?
| null | 0.89 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/oyxszh/what_are_the_best_ways_a_women_can_approachaskout/
|
V_Lao
|
2018-12-25 19:31:51
| 1,545,766,311 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
a9hkif
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/a9hkif/is_christmas_the_worst_time_of_the_year_for/
| 2 |
Allow me to specify: I meant pulling girls First year spending Christmas away from family, I’m in zone 1 London and the streets are literally empty today. Same thing with tinder really
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Is Christmas the worst time of the year for dating (London)
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/a9hkif/is_christmas_the_worst_time_of_the_year_for/
|
tossaway_111
|
2021-12-05 03:10:57
| 1,638,673,857 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
r964bg
| true |
Question
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/r964bg/why_is_that_so_hard_for_others_to_accept_that/
| 5 |
I (43M), have never gotten any interest from women. Never gotten so much as a smile, never been flirted with, nothing. By the time I was 15 I knew it was going to be an uphill battle and by 18 that no things were not going to get better and they never did. This is where strangers on the internet will bring up confidence and working out. Started weight training at 14 and until my mid thirties when laziness took over had a visible 6 pack and lots of muscle, I was confident that despite my laid back nature I could kick the ass of most everyone I came across, but also fully confident that I would still be going home alone after. Despite that laziness mentioned earlier, I am back to working out, 20lbs lockdown weight gone and probably 5 more to go for my own preferred size. You know what being not just in shape but better than most got me, nothing, do that for yourself, if your ugly then no one will care how defined you are. You have got to get out there and be seen, now here I am supposed to say I don't like bars an such, introvert, netflix, etc... Sorry I like bars, and at least when you are younger if you are in really good shape, you burn those alcohol calories like it's nothing so enjoy that while it lasts. But yeah, bars, clubs, concerts, art shows, parties, parks, beaches, social gatherings of all kinds. Hundreds and hundreds of opportunities to meet thousands of women and not once has it gone far enough for my personality to shoulder some of the responsibility for turning them off. Get some hobbies and interests. Have plenty, those aren't a problem, but the people in your life interrupting them to inquire why you still aren't with somebody and then treating you like your brain is broken are. Covid comes and so make the leap and try OLD. Do the research, multiple apps, multiple bio rewrites, take and narrow down from hundreds (not an exaggeration) of photos. More than a year later not a single like. Through the miracle of modern tech I have been rejected en masse by every single and looking woman in my age range, in a large urban area within a hundred mile radius. All without having to leave the comfort of my home. Some of us are just ugly, we have tried and failed, I have never chased models, my only dealbreakers were that she is not currently in jail and that she is not an IV drug user. Obese, pregnant single mother, currently treating an STD but not treating her diagnosed mental health issues, I would say bring her on but that is someone who already turned me down and wasn't nice about it either. People want to be with people that they are attracted to. If you have someone in your life that you can see is ugly and they are always getting rejected and therefore they figure it out that they are ugly, then let them be ugly. Don't send them off on missions to improve this or that thing making them think that if they grind out enough XP they will be more acceptable. There is a bottom level to dating at which no matter what you do no one will ever want you, and for some of us that is ok, we understand, so long as everyone else does not take it as an opportunity to undermine our worldview because the reality of it makes them uncomfortable.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Why is that so hard for others to accept that some people are just plain unattractive?
| null | 0.73 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/r964bg/why_is_that_so_hard_for_others_to_accept_that/
|
CommeDeuxGouttesDeau
|
2020-04-30 06:53:55
| 1,588,229,635 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
gaqr4f
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/gaqr4f/what_to_expect_for_first_date_in_a_few_weeks_with/
| 2 |
Been talking to girl from Hinge for a few weeks after matching. As our town starts opening businesses back up and opening parks and limiting the social distancing, we made plans to meet up for a "picnic" in the park here in a few weeks gauging how things go... I've never had a SO or gotten past a coffee date that ends in "yeah sure thanks for coffee. Bye". So idk what I'm doing. I can say, we are into each other and have connected much more than I expected before meeting up. We started talking on the phone and we just both love doing that now. Like yesterday I called her at 7 and we talked until 12:30am. Did the same on Sunday from 9-1:30am. We just lose track of time and feels like we could talk forever. I also know she's really into me so far. She's told me and flirted about it, and even said she was really nervous to Meetup (good kind. Like "you're too cute. I hope I'm not awkward because I've enjoyed getting to know you") My question is "what to expect?" For example, if we go walking after a picnic, then is holding her hand a good idea? Kiss her as I'm saying goodbye? Don't? I feel like a middle schooler again
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
What to expect for first date in a few weeks with a girl I've hit it off really well with during quarantine?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gaqr4f/what_to_expect_for_first_date_in_a_few_weeks_with/
|
phoenixhere4303
|
2019-12-11 06:09:00
| 1,576,044,540 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
e9385z
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/e9385z/what_should_i_do_next/
| 1 |
Thank you for reading this, I welcome all input even of just to affirm what I already know. Edit: I'm (m) 36, and she's probably mid-late 20s. I'm not great at this stuff... well let me rephrase: for a semi-normal, semi-successful, decent/good person I don't have a ton of recent experience in dating. I go on a handful of dates a year, I mostly don't engage with online dating, and honestly I'm pretty much alright with that. But every now and then I meet somebody I actually really like, and this is the latest example. I'll either ruin the surprise or build suspense by saying I already recognize where I messed up. So, here's the situation which I'd appreciate advise regarding. I'm happy to get into more of the deeper issues mentioned above, but primarily I'm trying to figure out my next step in this particularly nuanced situation. There's a store I frequent, and a little while ago I was coming in and this gorgeous woman was sitting outside doing paperwork. I awkwardly said something to her about it being a great day outside and that she had the best "office view" then continued on my way into the store. Fast forward a couple weeks (she might have helped me once or twice between here and there)... she's helping me with my selection and we banter a bit and it's a GREAT exchange. I think then "hey this woman is cool, but I'm sure she's just being nice because she's friendly and is doing her job well" The next week I stop back by the store, and somebody else helps me but I made a joke and the woman I'm into joins into the joke Okay, now I'm really interested because she is willing to have fun in the situation (in a weird way, that is specifically a majorly important trait in a match. Happy to get into details, if wanted). The next time I come in, she's helping me again and I had to see if she was interested or just being nice... not going to lie, I had played this situation out in my head a few times (from quoting reddit about internet explorer being brave enough to ask to be your default browser to just bluntly saying I'd love to get to know her better). What came out was possibly the most pathetic "pick up line" I've ever attempted, "I know you probably get asked this all the time, but would you like to get a cup of coffee or something sometime?" AND SHE SAID YES and immediately wrote her number down. I texted her later that evening something along the lines of "Hey, its [me]. I'm glad we connected, let's chat soon" She texted back later "Hi [me] Yes, let's". I found out in between when I texted her Ann's when she texted back that my plans that night had changed, so I thought "WTH, why not see what she's doing after work?" So I text basically that my plans have changed, and I'm planning on something else instead (playing pool), and she could join if she'd like. She replies by essentially (much more, it was actually a significantly longer text than I usually getting in the dating world or outside of it) she's not feeling well but lets get a rain check. I offer my sympathy, and then say let's do. She texted back "(smiley emoji) have a nice night". I didn't text back, mostly because by time I saw it it was a bit later and I didn't want to disrupt her not feeling well just to say "you too". That was a Friday, and I texted her the following Sunday "Hey I hope you're feeling better (Smiley emoji)" ... I had a couple drinks... don't judge me ... no reply ... I text about a week later "Hey (her name) I hope you're having a great weekend How would your schedule look to get together this week? I have work during the day, but I'm free most evenings this week" ... no reply ... So now here we are two weeks later. I didn't want to follow up and seem desperate, but I'll admit I'm still thinking about her. So I want to reach out, but I also don't want to press too hard because I'm probably going to continue coming by her workplace for the goods I've been buying there... so I'm going to see her again, and I want to be respectful to her and not make her work awkward or difficult. So... r/dating advice ... what do I do?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
What should I do next?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/e9385z/what_should_i_do_next/
|
tmps1993
|
2023-07-06 13:27:33
| 1,688,650,053 | 0 |
['matches', 'matched', 'dating app', 'dating apps', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
14s97y6
| false |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 5 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/14s97y6/do_90s_babies_even_want_to_date/
| 2 |
Been on dating apps off and on for years. Most of the women I've matched with have just wanted to fuck. It was fun at first, but now I want a deeper connection. I want courtship. I want to grab a coffee with a nice woman and have engaging conversation. I want it to develop into something where I have that true life partner. I just don't get it. I get a handful of matches from what looks like legit profiles on Hinge...no response. I get matches on Bumble...no intro. I explicitly stated in my profile no hookups or fwb and I get messages trying to solicit sex immediately. Then after weeding through everything I don't want in a partner I have a nice engaging conversation with a lovely woman who seems to have it all together for a few hours via text, the moment I ask her to grab coffee...ghosted. Why even match me? Why are you even on a dating app? My profile is so transparent, clear as crystal. It's not hard. Don't match me if you don't want to date, if you do match me and aren't interested or lost interest have the common courtesy and decency to either unmatch me or be honest enough to tell me it is not a match. Don't lead people on or give false hope, not cool.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Do 90s babies even want to date???
| 2 | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/14s97y6/do_90s_babies_even_want_to_date/
|
strikingserpent
|
2021-09-09 12:05:07
| 1,631,189,107 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
pkwgsb
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/pkwgsb/i_need_advice/
| 0 |
How do you meet people when you have crippling social anxiety. I have dating apps but no luck there. Not unattractive just can't take decent pictures. It's killing me
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I need advice
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/pkwgsb/i_need_advice/
|
CertifiedWildman
|
2017-10-30 14:18:26
| 1,509,373,106 | null |
['plenty of fish']
| 0 |
79nzp1
| false | null | 24 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/79nzp1/dating_is_like_fishing/
| 113 |
Something my dad told me when I was was a sophomore in high school. He told me that dating is like fishing with one type of bait. He told me that there’s plenty of fish in the see, and each one likes to eat different stuff. And you can make the try to imitate other bait as much as you want to attract a certain fish, most of those types will tell what you really are and won’t even go for a sniff. But if you just have that bait play it’s part, let it do what it was meant to and not try to pretend to be some other shit, you’ll attract a lot of the fish you didn’t even know wanted a bite.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Dating is like fishing
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/79nzp1/dating_is_like_fishing/
|
Nadigan
|
2016-02-07 04:37:03
| 1,454,819,823 | 0 |
['match.com']
| 0 |
44k14o
| null | null | 9 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/44k14o/got_dumped_not_sure_why/
| 1 |
I'm 33 male Indian I'm sure everyone says the race isn't important but it is based on my experience. So after dropping my self out of dating I started back in match.com and met this girl in Jan and we clicked right away after texting back and forth. She is an actor and dog groomer. She was doing a play so she was quiet busy so we mostly kept in touch via text and met occasionally for lunch and coffee. I really liked her so didn't want to blow anything and she said she was coming from a abusive relationship so I gave lot of space and we just kissed a bit. But tonight we were supposed to go for bowling but she had a last minute so I said lets just go to a park for asunder but when I tried to kiss her she turned her face and said she isn't interested. I asked if she was tired she mentioned she doesn't feel it and wanted not to see me again since she isn't interested . I was caught blindsided because she was texting till the date back and forth and we met quiet a few times over the last week. So I'm really confused what happened was it me ? I wouldn't worry about but this is like the 3rd girl. Who has dumped me like after a dating a month or two so I'm not sure what am I doing wrong here. Here is the text that o got back from her after the date. Me: Sorry if I put you in a spot. I prefer straight answers and thanks for clarifying. Her: You didn't. time to make a decision. You have all the personality attributes I'm looking for, but I just didn't get the spark I'm trying to find. I don't want to force anything, because that has ended up badly for me in the past. I did want to give you a fair chance. I think you're a really good guy, but it's not fair to either of us if I'm only halfway into a relationship. I do hope you find who/what you're looking for.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Got dumped not sure why
| 1 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/44k14o/got_dumped_not_sure_why/
|
Ok-Theory1132
|
2021-07-29 18:44:27
| 1,627,584,267 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
ou3k1f
| true |
I Need Advice
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/ou3k1f/do_i_stick_around_or_create_distance/
| 12 |
I've been dating this guy for a month now and things were going really well until yesterday. We have great conversation about religion, our previous relationships, mental health and our beliefs about the world. The sex is pretty damn good and feels kinda magical. I've been showing him around town (he just moved to my city from across the country.) He is really affectionate when we're together: hand-holding, kissing my hand, cuddles, holding my thigh when I'm driving, stuff like that. I have a tendency to get lost in my romantic pursuits but have been doing well about maintaining my own life, doing my own thing, and not relying on him to make me feel good but doing things that make myself feel good instead. I was getting hopeful that this was going somewhere in the realm of commitment. Until yesterday. I had spent the night at his place and we went out to lunch. The previous day I had read this other post on Reddit about how when you are dating someone to always assume that they are seeing other people unless exclusivity has been clearly established. This got me worried and sad because I know it's true that you can't expect exclusivity when you're dating someone but things had been going so well! So when we are out to lunch I ask him if he is seeing or sleeping with other people. He answered that yes, he is sleeping with another girl. He explained that they don't go out and do fun things like hiking and drinks the way we do. He described himself as being her booty call. When he asked if I was I told him no and there was a fat pause in the conversation which did not feel good lmao. He asked if I was looking for a serious relationship and, after a brief pause from me, I said yes. He said he was enjoying time to "focus on me" at this time in his life. He's wrapping up a divorce right now as well, which I learned recently. I don't know. On one hand I feel disappointed and sad because I felt like we were compatible and that we were heading towards exclusivity. But on the other hand, he had "looking for something casual" in his bio on Bumble and I am almost certain that I did too. And dating nowadays you can't assume that the other person is only seeing/talking to you. So I feel like I did this to myself, lol. He is a really respectful person and I would like to remain friends but I can't help but feel somewhat misguided by him. And I know that if I continue on with dating and keeping it casual that my feelings will continue to grow. Do I stick around?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Do I stick around or create distance?
| null | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ou3k1f/do_i_stick_around_or_create_distance/
|
StaticNocturne
|
2023-10-20 17:53:30
| 1,697,824,410 | 0 | null | 0 |
17ch807
| true | null | 56 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/17ch807/is_facebook_dating_worth_a_crack/
| 1 |
Like most of us I’ve been turned bitter and twisted by these wretched apps and barely bother checking them anymore, however before I pull the plug on online dating I figured I might give Facebook dating a shot. Has anyone had any success with it? I can’t help but feel like it will attract a slight older but nuttier crowd given facebooks demographic these days but I’ve been wrong before (once several years back)
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Is Facebook dating worth a crack?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/17ch807/is_facebook_dating_worth_a_crack/
|
kale-70
|
2023-10-22 00:53:39
| 1,697,936,019 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
17dh8mr
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/17dh8mr/has_anyone_signed_up_for_scimatch_just_read/
| 1 |
In today's fast-paced world, the classic tale of bumping into 'the one' at a coffee shop is getting rare. Now, a single selfie on the dating app SciMatch is all it takes to open the doors to potential romantic sparks. This newcomer on the dating app scene is shaking things up by tossing out the tedious task of crafting dating profiles, opting instead to dive into AI-powered facial recognition.
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
Has anyone signed up for SciMatch? Just read article on Fox News.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/17dh8mr/has_anyone_signed_up_for_scimatch_just_read/
|
voidfloater_
|
2021-06-02 03:36:01
| 1,622,604,961 | null |
['matches', 'swipe', 'swiped', 'dating app']
| 0 |
nqcemr
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/nqcemr/approach/
| 2 |
Hi, I'm M22 and I've got some serious social problems. I've gotten to a point now where not only do I not know what to say to girls in general as far as a public approach goes in general, due to just like a general fear of embarrassment; but I found that I now have an irrational fear of taking the risk of a potential misunderstanding due to my awkwardness and lack of experience that I could just end up being viewed as a complete creep who may be viewed as someone trying to harass a girl. Of course I swear that would never be my intention, but because I don't understand what girls want, I just avoid the risk as a whole. But, being human, obviously I crave affection so I really want to take opportunities to have a relationship with somebody. So how can I even approach anyone, and like, where does one even go to do that? I don't know where girls expect to meet people, so I of course don't wanna be that weird encounter in an inappropriate location or situation. Since I don't understand how socialization really appropriately works, I don't know what places and situations call for potential flirting. And even then, I don't know how to flirt. I'm not creative enough to come up with something catchy to say, I can imagine myself going as far as complimenting something about the girl, maybe her saying thanks or something, and then just being an awkward silence. I can't tell if I'm overthinking this or not at this point but I feel like from the perspective of most girls, they probably wouldn't want some strange nerd approaching them with hardly anything to say. I don't know where people tend to socialize, the only place I'm at when I'm not at home is work really. Where do I find looking people who won't misunderstand my approach? Also, for the past like 4 years I had been using every major dating app and then some. Virtually no matches except for the ones that were bots, that never responded, that unmatched before my eyes, and the ones where nothing came of a short conversation. I swiped until I ran out of people to swipe. Recently I gave up entirely and deleted everything, so now I feel like all hope is officially lost.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Approach
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nqcemr/approach/
|
JoshKosh55
|
2021-09-11 01:39:05
| 1,631,324,345 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
ply5ga
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ply5ga/difficulty_meeting_women/
| 1 |
I’m 23, an engineer who just got his dream job, nice car, in really good physical shape, and everything’s just going really well in general. I’ve been working on my mindset, my style, just everything and making great progress. I’m just having a hard time meeting new women and dating. Maybe I’m in a rut or something but I’m not sure what’s wrong. Of course I use a dating app but my results are…weak. My standards are in check but most women still aren’t very interested. I need help getting out there and meeting new girls. Any advice?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Difficulty meeting women
| null | 0.6 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ply5ga/difficulty_meeting_women/
|
[deleted]
|
2020-03-02 05:15:36
| 1,583,126,136 | null |
['online dating', 'dating apps', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'pof']
| 0 |
fc762x
| true |
Tinder/Online Dating
| 24 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/fc762x/tinderonline_dating/
| 6 |
Tomorrow is the day My last relationship ended 2 years ago. I’m a 30 year old guy. I’m ready to get back out there I’ve been ready lol but just haven’t done anything about it. I was thinking of starting with Tinder and Bumble, these will actually be the very first apps I ever have, not just dating apps. My last relationship, which lasted 2 years, we met on POF (website for me, not app). So I know sites/apps can work! Anyone have any thoughts or advice? Thank you Also, I have no social media. Not my thing at all. I don’t have a ton of friends, but the ones I do have, we have each other’s numbers so we just call or text whenever something is going on.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Tinder/Online Dating
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/fc762x/tinderonline_dating/
|
Sweet-March3513
|
2024-06-15 22:41:28
| 1,718,491,288 | 0 |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1dgtjpj
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1dgtjpj/i_screw_up_every_talking_stage/
| 1 |
I’m atreactive enough to get matches on dating apps or go on a date. But my anxiety ruins any talking stage I have with a girl and frankly I’m just ready to give up. I get nervous and it’s obvious and I respond fast to people because I feel compelled to. When I don’t respond fast enough then girls don’t like it. Idk how to win anymore tbh. So I’m about ready to give up. I’m really my own worse enemy at this point. How do I stop letting my anxiety take control and let it dictate my relationships and these talking stages because every time it kills it? I’m just so done, this is more of a rant than anything now tbh.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I screw up every talking stage
| 1 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1dgtjpj/i_screw_up_every_talking_stage/
|
masshole4life23
|
2016-07-08 23:57:30
| 1,468,022,250 | 0 |
['match.com']
| 0 |
4rxqn9
| null | null | 11 | null |
/r/dating/comments/4rxqn9/after_how_much_time_is_it_acceptable_to_ask_a/
| 2 |
I met an exceptional woman on match.com a couple of weeks ago, we chatted a bit back and forth and decided to meet up for some casual drinks at a chain restaurant in town. The date went incredibly well and I am seeing this woman again 4 days after our first date. My brother is getting married at the end of August. If things continue to go well with this woman, would it be inappropriate of me to ask her to be my +1 to his wedding? I need to RSVP by August 1, so we're talking approximately 3 weeks from now and possibly 3-4 more additional dates before I ask her. For what its worth, I have not slept with this woman yet; we have only kissed on the lips. I appreciate and look forward to everyone's responses.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
After how much time is it acceptable to ask a date to join you at your brother's wedding?
| 2 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/4rxqn9/after_how_much_time_is_it_acceptable_to_ask_a/
|
iamam0nstr
|
2022-05-03 06:18:56
| 1,651,558,736 | null |
['pof']
| 0 |
uh9s0e
| true |
Question
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/uh9s0e/someone_i_thought_was_sincere_on_pof_for_almost_a/
| 1 |
and stole almost 1000 dollars from my cashapp.. still not sure how but anyways... what can I do to get some payback?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Someone I thought was sincere on POF for almost a year, got me good... they had my keys logged...
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/uh9s0e/someone_i_thought_was_sincere_on_pof_for_almost_a/
|
MapleButterBoi
|
2021-07-11 09:12:15
| 1,625,994,735 | null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
oi17vj
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/oi17vj/im_in_my_own_way_vent/
| 2 |
Idk what the hell is wrong with me. I cant seem to get into the dating game. Everytime I try, I make an excuse...oh I have to focus on school...oh I just started a new job. I'm always waiting for that moment but the moment never comes. I have been single for a decade now. My last relationship was with someone who was emotionally abusive but i dont think it's affecting my dating game now. I just feel scared and inadequate. I've matched with great girls on dating app and as soon as things start getting more intense I get scared and back out. There's just...so many issues I have and I feel like I have so many problems to work through. And maybe my self esteem is pretty low and I've got anxiety and ocd and life goals are eveywhere...idk what girl wants to date a guy with all these problems but...like...idk when those things will go away either. I cant wait forever. I dont know why I am in my own way....I just know that I am and I don't know how to fix it.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I'm in my own way. (Vent)
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/oi17vj/im_in_my_own_way_vent/
|
FakeAssWriter
|
2022-07-18 08:00:10
| 1,658,131,210 | null |
['matches', 'online dating']
| 0 |
w1tqj3
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/w1tqj3/online_dating_feels_really_really_forced_should_i/
| 10 |
Getting matches is pretty fun, having women flirt with you is awesome. I just can't help but feel like it's all forced. I'm not attracted to them the way I should be, it just feels like I'm acting out a role, rather thsn genuinely interested. I want to date, I want to fall in love. I just feel like I'm forcing everything.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Online Dating feels really really forced. Should I stop entirely?
| null | 0.92 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/w1tqj3/online_dating_feels_really_really_forced_should_i/
|
sicklikeanimals
|
2020-04-15 17:35:03
| 1,586,972,103 | null |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
g1wm13
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/g1wm13/texting_a_new_guy_during_quarantine/
| 2 |
Alright guys. I’m an active Hinge user in NYC. Before quarantine started, I’d matched with this SUPER cute guy. We were supposed to go out, and then surprise—I got COVID and had to cancel. I admit I was bad at responding because I was incredibly sick. Our messaging stopped, then I deleted the app because I figured I wasn’t gonna use it during all this. I redownloaded it a few days ago out of boredom and immediately matched with this dude again. We moved it to texting yesterday and texted nonstop all day. No messages today. So...what now? NYC’s SAH orders are obviously super strict so I can’t exactly ask him out. Where do I go from here? I’m worried about texting too much but at the same time what else can I do?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Texting a new guy during quarantine
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/g1wm13/texting_a_new_guy_during_quarantine/
|
chipy4848
|
2024-02-03 21:47:45
| 1,706,996,865 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1ai75t1
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1ai75t1/26_years_old_where_do_i_meet_people_these_days/
| 1 |
I’m on dating apps but I don’t have much success on them cause I’m a horrible texter. I do well when I do get the chance to go out with someone in person but I have no idea where to meet people other than dating apps these days. I work alone all day, I train at a wrestling school which only has one women and it would make things awkward with everything else anyways so I don’t meet people there. Going to bars/clubs alone also sounds painful.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
26 years old, where do I meet people these days??
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1ai75t1/26_years_old_where_do_i_meet_people_these_days/
|
TAAC_001
|
2020-01-14 18:22:12
| 1,579,026,132 | null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
eop3nc
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/eop3nc/first_date_after_meeting_online/
| 1 |
Hello everyone, first post here and I'm looking for some advice. But first a little background: I (M20) matched up with a girl (F19) on a dating app back in November last year, and we've been chatting constantly since, sometimes with 3-5 day breaks in between. We both go to the same university, we had some common topics to talk about, as well as things like movies, series etc., I also helped her with some uni work. So It's been alright so far. I've been planing to ask her out for a coffee for some time now, first it was before the new year, but I didn't have enough free time then, so I waited a little more and decided to ask her out this weekend. The problem is that I haven't dated anyone I met via app before, I only had 2 relationships before and knew the person or had some common friends. I also haven't been in a relationship for a couple of years, so I feel quite awkward asking her now and I feel that I've waited a bit long (have I?). My idea is to let her pick a place and time, but I also have a place in mind as a backup. Anyways, my questions are: 1) How can I tell if the date is going well? 2) What should I avoid? Those are my specific questions, but other advice is welcome as well. Cheers :)
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
First date after meeting online
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/eop3nc/first_date_after_meeting_online/
|
General-Ad3922
|
2024-05-13 21:18:09
| 1,715,635,089 | 0 |
['matches', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1crar5y
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1crar5y/decent_looking_yet_barely_any_matches_help_pls/
| 1 |
Hi there, 29M here using the apps after a breakup. The apps are driving me a bit crazy. I don't have anything alarming in my profile, no fish pics, no drunk pics or with other girls, no red flags. Just a nice smiling portrait of me, a pic of me with a camera, skiing, and travelling. My job is good, I speak a few languages, my bio is short and witty. My interests are concerts, travel, sports, etc. I workout a lot and am pretty fit. My mental health is good and I go to therapy. I am kind and conscientious in general, and emotionally intelligent usually. And yet I only get like 3 matches a week and that's with Tinder Platinum. The girls I do match with flake or ghost. Out of 200 matches using all the apps over 4 months I have been on precisely 4 dates. One recent date flaked 15 minutes before the date because I said I don't own a car. I'm not even joking. Another girl sent me a message after the date just saying: 'You seemed a little anxious'. I then asked her why, she said it was because I tried to fill the silences too much. I decided to put my photos on photofeeler and average around a 7 and 8 with my best photo getting a 9. Many of the girls I do match with are either overweight, have very basic blurry selfie pictures of them, or quite unattractive. What is going on here? For the record, Tinder is still where I do best, I average about 1 match a month on Bumble, and 1 every two weeks on Hinge. I only had one good period when first making account where I would have a lot of matches. I'm really considering quitting but then I live in a rural area and it would be even harder to meet anyone. Advice or even just sympathy would be appreciated xD Thanks
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Decent looking yet barely any matches - HELP PLS
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1crar5y/decent_looking_yet_barely_any_matches_help_pls/
|
Dsg1695
|
2023-06-10 01:52:07
| 1,686,361,927 | 0 | null | 0 |
145ndqn
| true | null | 37 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/145ndqn/28f_no_real_relationship_experience_is_it_really/
| 0 |
The last time I dated someone was when I was 23 and that was only for a few months. It felt like settling & wanted to be with someone that was more in line with what I’m looking for. And I’m not asking for much. Decent/cute looks, tall, smart, good job, funny etc. I’ve only used dating apps, getting matches have never been the issue. I get msgs but the usual ghosting, lack of connection, fizzling out, ones that want me I don’t want/ones I want don’t want me etc. Im told I’m attractive but I never get attention in person, while I’m not the friendliest I mean a lot of women get bfs & have resting bitch face. A few people throughout the years said I don’t know what I actually want. I haven’t had sex since the last guy & don’t masturbate either. I feel with women it’s not as odd vs a guy my age who doesn’t have a sex drive. Is it really just a matter of not meeting the right guy? I think if the right person that checked my boxes came around maybe I’d feel that spark everyone else experiences? Am I unlucky? Pretty girls really don’t have a hard time dating so my lack of success using the apps sporadically throughout the years makes me 2nd guess my looks. I use the apps very casually now, I don’t really have much a desire to reply consistently to msgs, I feel like years ago when I did it didn’t make much of a difference in my success.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
28F & no real relationship experience, is it really a matter of not being able to find the right person?
| 0 | 0.38 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/145ndqn/28f_no_real_relationship_experience_is_it_really/
|
cutewitoutthee
|
2020-07-31 03:30:03
| 1,596,166,203 | null |
['matched', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
i10d64
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/i10d64/i_abled_bodied_24f_have_a_date_next_week_with_a/
| 4 |
So a little background: We matched on 2 different dating apps. Got into conversation and clicked real quick. We went to the same college. Are both in similar career fields. And our personalities seem to really mesh. The conversation has been effortless and pretty nonstop. Plus he’s adorable/attractive, and I think he feels similar about me. After a couple days talking on the app we exchanged phone numbers. After several days texting, we FaceTimed today for the first time. I was anxious and nervous before the FT, and giddy afterwards. I felt like a love struck teenage girl during the FT. We plan on having our first date next week, and we both seem to really be looking forward to it. Now while I do have certain disabilities myself, they are under control with medication and I’m highly able to function. A majority of ppl I know have no idea I’m technically disabled bc you can’t tell by looking at me. The man I will be seeing next week, however, is quite obviously disabled. He’s in a motorized wheelchair from an accident several years ago which left him quadriplegic. His physical abilities have been severely limited bc of this, however his mindset and outlook is astounding to me. What he lacks in physical ability he definitely makes up for in seemingly all other aspects about him. This is still very early on so I don’t want to get too ahead of myself. But I’m realizing I’ve never actually hung out with anyone disabled for any extended lenh of time. It’s not like I’ve been avoiding disabled people, but I just haven’t met or had the opportunity to hang out with any disabled ppl. I will be going to his apartment for the date bc covid closings and social anxieties and accessibility reasons. It just makes the most sense to us and feels the most casual. We’ll probably watch a movie or play some games. I’m under the impression that he does have some arm movement abilities but that it’s pretty limited. I haven’t really asked any questions about his physical abilities, but have rather let him share what he’s felt like sharing. Anyways, I’m nervous and am wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice or tips for me going into this? Are we crazy for trying to make this happen? All opinions welcomed
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I (abled bodied 24F) have a date next week (with a not abled bodied 28M) and would like advice/tips/opinions from anyone with personal or secondhand experience with disabilities
| null | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/i10d64/i_abled_bodied_24f_have_a_date_next_week_with_a/
|
MAMFinc
|
2023-04-04 09:51:31
| 1,680,601,891 | 0 |
['matches', 'OLD', 'hinge']
| 0 |
12be1sq
| true |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/12be1sq/so_old_is_finally_dead_now_that_it_has_become/
| 0 |
On the way to work I heard an article on NPR how the Democrats used Hinge to connect with voters ahead of the state Supreme Court decisions. Is this the nail in the coffin that kills OLD? On top of bits, lack of matches and everything else….
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
So OLD is finally dead now that it has become political?
| 0 | 0.22 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/12be1sq/so_old_is_finally_dead_now_that_it_has_become/
|
[deleted]
|
2023-05-04 00:10:13
| 1,683,159,013 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
13745o9
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/13745o9/about_to_start_dating_someone_from_high_school/
| 3 |
I met someone on bumble from who I went to high school with and we recently have decided to go on a date soon. I’m nervous because I don’t want us to relive our high school years when we date.Any advice for me?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
About to start dating someone from high school
| 3 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/13745o9/about_to_start_dating_someone_from_high_school/
|
StonedSpaceCowboy
|
2021-07-11 21:39:33
| 1,626,039,573 | null |
['matched', 'dating site']
| 0 |
oid7ta
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/oid7ta/am_i_wrong/
| 2 |
Matched with someone on a dating site. Said hi to each other. First real things she ask is if I want to hang out and cuddle? I replied that's kind of weird, and that was the end of the conversation. Am I wrong to think it's weird to cuddle with someone you don't know? Was that some kind of code? Are all other people just meeting up and smashing? That's not me. I'd like to talk and date for at least a week to see if we are mentally compatible. Am I approaching everything wrong?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Am I wrong.
| null | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/oid7ta/am_i_wrong/
|
etoileli8
|
2024-05-27 11:07:36
| 1,716,808,056 | 0 |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
1d1p1ik
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1d1p1ik/just_started_dating_a_guy_but_i_regret_it_help/
| 1 |
I went on a dating app and he sent me a like so I matched his profile, we started talking he keeps sending me texts, and then he insisted on watching a movie together I said okay let's do the weekend, but then he started insisting again on moving to another app so that we can call each other, we did, we had 10 hours of talking in 2 days, he started planning for what we're gonna do together in the future, mind you we don't even live in the same country and I'm never gonna be able to move to his country if he didn't help me out, I'm also thinking about moving to another country which is far away from his because it's easier for me to move there but he has been advising me to move to a his country or his neighboring country, he didn't even ask me if I've in mind any specific country I'd like to move to one day or how long will it take me to get ready etc.. (keep in mind the guy seems kinda rich, I'm poor as hell, so maybe the guy thinks I can just go and take money out of my bank account whenever I want or something, I'm not sure) Since we started chatting he keeps talking about the future the future.. I don't do that because come on We don't even really know each other yet Also he told me about a girl he dated before me for 3 months (when I asked) he said that he has never dated, only that girl but he broke up with her because she doesn't really talk with him, he's kind but he's a chatty guy wants to talk a lot (for example said we'll watch 2 movies tonight, that's 4 hours) which is not my cup of tea tbh and I stated that in my bio already, and he keeps checking my profile probably every single day (for what). Now the other thing is.. he has dated another girl before her.. I found an account of his where he said in a comment that he used to date a girl that ghosts him but now he's dating another girl and they understand each other so well, his comment was 1 month old, but he also posted another post on another platform about his ex gf saying that she left him because she doesn't feel anything towards him anymore and that he's struggling to move on, it was a few days before we started talking, (remember when he said he left her because she doesn't talk) so...???? He dated 3 girls one after the other??? And he is hiding it from me already?? What the heck! I'm battling mental illness, and I have got other responsibilities, I don't have time for BS I don't even wanna date anymore if I'm gonna be honest, and I genuinely don't know how can I get away from this without hurting his feelings, I'm also still on the app where we met if I block him he might probably go and talk about me on there (happened before with another guy I dated for a few months) and I don't think blocking someone out of nowhere is fair, I'm thinking about telling him that I started seeing somebody else but I don't know how to..
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Just started dating a guy but I regret it, help? (Also kinda venting)
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1d1p1ik/just_started_dating_a_guy_but_i_regret_it_help/
|
puppylovrr2016
|
2022-08-26 00:13:18
| 1,661,472,798 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
wxtyxi
| true | null | 207 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/wxtyxi/am_i_doomed_to_the_single_life_forever/
| 122 |
I (27F, Boston) have been single for 5 and a half years minus a some 2-3 month flings and bad dates courtesy of the major dating apps. 🥲 I have a great job, my own place, a very sweet dog, and amazing friends. I really want someone to share my life with, get married, have kids but the fact that I’ve been single most of my 20s has really been weighing on me as I watch my friends get married. I don’t have any single friends and none of my friends know anyone they could set me up with. I’ve done the app thing so much and had such little success that I have totally given up. I’m trying to meet people locally by signing up for anything that looks fun (hiking groups,etc). Nothing seems to be working. I don’t have any trouble getting first, second, third dates but things just fizzle or the guy says they don’t want anything serious (which is incredibly frustrating because I filter for people that say they are looking for something serious and also am very up front about what I want). Idk I’m feeling super hopeless and like I’m going to die alone. Is this a normal late 20s thing? Are other people struggling? Does dating suck right now? Has dating always sucked? Should I try taking my remote job to a city that isn’t Boston?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Am I doomed to the single life forever?
| null | 0.86 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/wxtyxi/am_i_doomed_to_the_single_life_forever/
|
Additional_Fuel_1460
|
2023-07-29 14:14:54
| 1,690,640,094 | 0 |
['tinder', 'hinge']
| 0 |
15ctdcb
| false |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/15ctdcb/should_i_f27_get_sterilized_because_men_arent/
| 1 |
I''m a software engineer, have hobbies etc. However I've never been in a relationship and most men are not into me, I'm like a ghost to them. I've tried Tinder, Hinge, the college bar scene etc and it just does not work for me. Men have a lot of contempt for me for some reason, and I think its because I'm ugly to them or something. I'm thin but my face is not pretty. I'm also approaching my 30's which I've read is kind of difficult for women when it comes to dating, even pretty women in their 30s struggle a lot. And I'm not even able to attract someone in my peak 20s, so its over. Should I get sterilized? I'll never have a family anyways. Tldr: Should I (F27) get sterilized because men aren't into me and I'll never have a family?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Should I (F27) get sterilized because men aren't into me and I'll never have a family?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/15ctdcb/should_i_f27_get_sterilized_because_men_arent/
|
elon_fusk
|
2023-10-06 21:57:36
| 1,696,629,456 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
171p0s2
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/171p0s2/how_to_get_dates_as_a_short_average_looking_guy/
| 1 |
To all the short guys out there, whats your height and what works the best for you in getting dates? I'm 5'6, brown guy and not getting any luck on dating apps, clubs/bars and cold approaching. Don't have many close friends as I recently relocated to west an year ago. Don't know what to do. Would like to know what specifically worked for you?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to get dates as a short average looking guy?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/171p0s2/how_to_get_dates_as_a_short_average_looking_guy/
|
Old_Orange2334
|
2023-05-08 11:27:56
| 1,683,545,276 | 0 |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
13bm7ku
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/13bm7ku/am_i_tripping_or_is_dating_just_extremely_hard/
| 0 |
Hii, Im (24F) and this is my first reddit post so I am a little scared to post but eh. Anyways I have been single for the past 4 years and counting, my ex cheated on me with multiple women and almost gave me STIs so I do admit I had a lot of issues to work through before I started dating again. Of course it wasn't an easy process but I overcame all of my trust issues and I can confidently say I don't feel insecure about dating anymore. I started dating again in 2021 (My ex and I broke up in 2019) and it has just been so terrible. Let me give you an example I started seeing someone November last year (2022) but things shortly ended around January(2023). The season why things ended is because he said I was being too "controlling". Idk if thats the case tho. So for background, him and I matched on a dating app and we just clicked, the connection was there and we both found each other very attractive so things just escalated quickly. We met up, kissed and held hands(nothing sexual happened tho). And to be honest he was very good to me... until he wasnt. He has this one habit that I wasn't the biggest fan of. He likes to go out and party which is fine, he can do whatever he wants but the issue is that he would just disappear, completely vanish for hours, sometimes until the next day afternoon. The first time he did this I did have a conversation with him about it, he apologized and said he will keep in mind to keep me updated and that he really likes me so he will do his best to cater to my needs. And personally I wasnt asking him to text me throughout the night but to just at least let me know that he will be out so he will probably reply late or get home late. However after that conversation things just went downhill, his texting became very minimal and he would go out and party and go MIA for days. I got fed up with it so we got into a fight then he hit me with the "Im not your ex, Im not cheating, have some trust" and that honestly made me feel like shit, as if he was trying to use my past against me? I replied by saying that its not about trust but rather about respect cause he wouldnt be too happy if I went out and about the whole night with my phone on DND. I guess he didnt want to argue or he really thought I was being controlling cause he just ghosted me. But yeah those are just one of the instances, honestly idk what Im doing wrong or whether I am in the wrong or if I just have shitty taste in men or maybe Im controlling? idk but dating is just so difficult.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Am I tripping or is dating just extremely hard nowadays?
| 0 | 0.33 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/13bm7ku/am_i_tripping_or_is_dating_just_extremely_hard/
|
[deleted]
|
2020-11-18 18:37:21
| 1,605,724,641 | null |
['matches', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
jwlga6
| true |
Venting
| 21 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/jwlga6/feels_like_everyone_just_wants_to_be_chased/
| 8 |
Everytime I get a match on tinder/bumble/hinge, it seems like everyone is just waiting for me to make the first move. I'm fairly good looking (23M, 6ft dark complexion)and I don't think the matches I'm getting are necessarily "out of my league" but they are attractive girls. Nobody seems to say anything to me unless I say something first. And even when I do say something (usually a nice opener complimenting her or replying to a prompt),they either don't reply or its always a deadend (a very dry thank you or just a haha which is very uninviting to continue the convo). I would say I have a good profile with nice pictures and good conversation starters as prompts or questions I'm asking. I'm so tired. This process is taking a toll on me. I want someone I can spend the holidays with. I'm so tired of being alone but it seems like no one is willing to put the effort to move forward.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Feels like everyone just wants to be chased
| null | 0.79 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/jwlga6/feels_like_everyone_just_wants_to_be_chased/
|
Funseas
|
2022-01-29 16:56:20
| 1,643,475,380 | null | null | 0 |
sfm8l8
| true | null | 225 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/sfm8l8/if_obesity_is_a_dealbreaker_for_you_are_you_ok_if/
| 102 |
I’ve noticed a lot of people (mostly men) say on Reddit and profiles that obesity is a dealbreaker. Profiles I’ve seen range from no fat chicks to hints about how important healthy eating and fitness are. It seems both obesity and finances are equally superficial and “simple” to change. Eat less, exercise more. Earn more, spend less. For someone over 50, both health and money seem more important in dating. And yet… I’m guessing that people prefer one dealbreaker over the over. I’d like to know the logic — something more than everyone has the right to be hypocritical if they want to be.
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
If obesity is a dealbreaker for you, are you ok if financial stability is a dealbreaker for her/him?
| null | 0.79 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/sfm8l8/if_obesity_is_a_dealbreaker_for_you_are_you_ok_if/
|
Redditandweepedit
|
2022-07-14 02:06:44
| 1,657,764,404 | null |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
vykddo
| true | null | 135 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/vykddo/am_i_a_walking_red_flag/
| 52 |
Am I a bag of red flags? Just turned 40F in April, been divorced 6 years and haven’t dated in 2 and only one semi serious relationship really between divorce and now). Have one kid that I am primary caregiver for (she is with me 95% of the time). I’m debating rejoining dating sites, but I’ve been off all of them since right before the pandemic when I kind of hit a space where I didn’t enjoy it anymore, it felt like work and I wasn’t meeting anyone that really intrigued me enough to want to give up time with my daughter. Over the last two years I’ve really focused on building a beautiful life, friendships, hobbies etc but I’m wondering if that 6 years divorced and 2 years not dating is a set of red flags for men that may otherwise be interested. Also, don’t know if I want to get married again. Really enjoy my independence but wouldn’t mind finding someone really interesting to spend some free time with. Also, if it matters…I have a fine, relatively peaceful coparenting relationships with my ex and would consider us surface level friends at this point in life so there is no baby daddy drama.
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Am I a walking red flag?
| null | 0.86 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/vykddo/am_i_a_walking_red_flag/
|
EnvironmentSea7433
|
2023-12-26 03:44:40
| 1,703,562,280 | 0 |
['OLD']
| 0 |
18qyvcp
| true | null | 73 | 0 |
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/18qyvcp/how_many_women_pay_for_old_sites_or_apps/
| 4 |
I really don't mean to offend anyone with the question. I just can't shake the feeling that as a woman, I should not be, "chasing," which includes paying for OLDating. I'm hoping that I'm off base with that thought process, but curious about how many women do pay to be on an OLD site or app? And what is everyone's thought on this topic?
|
datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
How Many Women Pay for OLD Sites or Apps?
| 4 | 0.57 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/18qyvcp/how_many_women_pay_for_old_sites_or_apps/
|
Valenaster
|
2021-02-28 18:16:18
| 1,614,536,178 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
lumh4k
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/lumh4k/new_beginnings_where_to_start/
| 1 |
Hello, this might come across as unusual but I (31, M4F, Mexico) have never had that much of an interest in dating, tried a couple of times with apps and irl without much success, but now I think the time might be right for me to actually look for a likeminded SO, yeah, I know my timing is awful with this pandemic going on. Anyways, I would like to ask you, good people of r/dating_advice, where should I start, taking into account covid irl social life has been reduced to a minimum with family and friends only, so I guess it will have to be through electronic means, honestly at this point wouldn't mind a long distance/overseas relationship, I've scrolled through subreddits like r/r4r or r/ForeverAloneDating but don't know how effective those might be, what are your thoughts on those? or is there an app other than tinder that you would recommend? Finally if you have other tips, suggestions, questions or anything of the sort, I'm all ears, thank you!
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
New beginnings, where to start?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/lumh4k/new_beginnings_where_to_start/
|
omarcomin89
|
2016-02-29 03:10:52
| 1,456,715,452 | 0 |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
488151
| null | null | 1 | null |
/r/dating/comments/488151/suggestions_to_keep_interest_until_first_date/
| 2 |
Have been texting with someone from OKCupid every day(for about a week) who is moving to my city in 3 weeks. Obviously we haven't met, and I want to make sure there's a good balance between interest over the next three weeks and not exhausting things between now and then. Thanks for any help.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Suggestions to keep interest until first date
| 2 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/488151/suggestions_to_keep_interest_until_first_date/
|
tiny-dweller
|
2024-05-29 07:52:30
| 1,716,969,150 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1d36qp1
| true |
Question ❓
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1d36qp1/guy_gave_me_his_number_now_is_acting_weird_about/
| 1 |
I was getting my car worked on and this young mechanic guy gave me his personal number on the back of his card. I asked for one since I wanted to leave a positive review. We look to be around the same age (30s) and even though he's not typically my type, I thought what the hell, I've been single for a while, I'm not on any dating apps (because I'm sick of them) and my schedule is so busy anyway. I don't normally do something like this, but thought he was nice. I just thought, we could have fun, I wasn't thinking anything long term. So I went ahead and messaged him. He seemed surprised and actually wasn't sure who it was. I know it was his personal number because he wrote it on there and I was already done with the transaction. I felt he may have been attracted to me because he was acting kind of nervous, but he was super polite which I liked. Anyway, he hasn't messaged me back since we talked a bit. I even said I wasn't mad he gave me his number. If I didn't care I wouldn't have bothered messaging him, and if he wasn't interested he wouldn't have bothered putting his personal number on there. I feel like guys always shoot their shot with women even if those women are out of their league, but once in a blue moon if the woman takes up their offer, it's like they don't know what to do or maybe lose interest because they find it hard to believe shes giving him a chance which in turn can make them lose interest. It's like us women can't make it too easy for men or else they'll lose interest but on the same note, if we don't take up their offer, then nothing will happen. I don't understand guys a lot of times.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Guy gave me his number, now is acting weird about it.
| 1 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1d36qp1/guy_gave_me_his_number_now_is_acting_weird_about/
|
approachpattern
|
2020-10-27 19:20:34
| 1,603,826,434 | null |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
jj7tqm
| true | null | 75 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/jj7tqm/the_issue_that_theres_no_compromise_on/
| 34 |
I really don't like kids, but most women I've dated want kids. How should I deal with this issue? I tried okcupid and said I don't want kids. I messaged women who listed not wanting kids, and there was zero interest. I do better on apps that don't let users specify if they want kids, but then I run into the "Do you want kids" conversation that shuts everything down. I don't know what to do. Anyone have any advice? Where would I be more likely to find women who don't want kids? I'm guessing these women would be more likely to be career-oriented, although I don't know what else to look for. And is there a way to learn to like kids? Edit: Thanks so much to everyone for the advice! You've given me a lot of great ideas and things to ponder about.
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datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
The issue that there's no compromise on
| null | 0.79 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/jj7tqm/the_issue_that_theres_no_compromise_on/
|
No_Communication746
|
2024-01-06 23:21:28
| 1,704,583,288 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
190dbo1
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/190dbo1/no_chemistry_between_us/
| 1 |
What does " We have no chemistry between us mean?" This was the reason given by a guy who recently broke up with me and I've been trying not to take it hurtfully. This was a long distance relationship which lasted about 6 months. He's 33 M, Black. I'm 26F, Asian. He was emotionally unavailable and very manipulative. He was always "busy". I kept asking for a video call but he hardly face timed once. I have never dated anyone outside my nationality and was fairly new to online dating. I was really hopeful to have a long term relationship with him, but he sort of changed as weeks passed. One such incident was when I cooked something, shared it and told him "I would like to make cute bento boxes like this for you" and his response was "Aww, but not in these kind of plates ". The plates in question were stainless steel and it's common in my country for us to have food in steel plates. This is one of the many instances where I've felt sick to my stomach. I have blocked him after he told me "I am not into whatever we have going on right now, it's a new year, let's focus on our own lives". I broke up with him once before this and he begged me to take him back, only to break up with me after 20 days? And that too in this way? I need advice. A part of me still isn't ready to accept this, a part of me just wants to confront him, question him, unblock him. This whole fiasco is constantly making me upset and not good enough for anyone.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
No chemistry between us
| 1 | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/190dbo1/no_chemistry_between_us/
|
suhhhnn
|
2021-02-22 04:15:17
| 1,613,967,317 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
lpetoj
| true |
I Need Advice
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/lpetoj/19f_just_had_my_first_tinder_date/
| 1 |
And I’m screaming inside because I was awkward but we surprisingly talked a lot and he was so nice omg. I’m just really shy. Anyways, anyone have tips to be less shy and more outgoing? This person was really chill but I’m afraid I’ll act awkward again, he also admitted that he was really nervous....what to do? Also I’ve never dated anyone before!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
19f- just had my first tinder date
| null | 0.6 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/lpetoj/19f_just_had_my_first_tinder_date/
|
ImaginaryAI
|
2014-12-09 18:58:09
| 1,418,151,489 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
2os466
| null | null | 1 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2os466/that_limbo_period_after_dating_someone_is_the/
| 1 |
I got EXTREMELY lucky dating this really pretty girl and ended up dating for two weeks before she chose someone else. (She was dating multiple guys, which sucks because we made out a lot too, yuck) Now i'm not having any luck. Not landing any dates. I've got a couple numbers off tinder but i'm not that interested in those girls. They're just ehh. Haven't seen a girl yet that I really liked that I can ask out. How do you deal with this lonely period :[
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
That "limbo" period after dating someone is the worst
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2os466/that_limbo_period_after_dating_someone_is_the/
|
Plus-Government-7992
|
2024-02-14 16:30:44
| 1,707,928,244 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1aqr1gy
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1aqr1gy/first_second_date_ever/
| 1 |
i (21m) have never entered the relationship / dating game till the last couple months (parents / family constrictions). but recently i’ve gotten into it. i had my first date a couple months ago and i’ve had three more since, but those first three ended up w/ hookup cause we met on tinder and it was sexual to begin with so we never really did a second date because it was casual. that’s until this last date i had this week. she’s (F19) a 10/10, really nice girl, nice family, and while we still met on tinder, it wasn’t sexual at all (in comparison to the others). i took her out to a nice sushi place nearby and we went to get ice cream after, then hung out in my car. the whole date was fun, we were laughing, telling stories, and telling each other about anything. we even had a homeless man come up to us in the car and he started singing (weirdest thing ever) then asking for money, we gave him cash and i gave him my ice cream and we thought it was really funny. the one thing i think it may have been missing was flirting and physical touch. i complimented her a couple times but she never did it back i think (not physical), except for my watch which she thought looked really nice. and physical touch, i feel like was a little hard to pull off. i tried walking with her and sticking next to each other but sometimes i realize that we’re like 1-2 feet away from each other when walking so i get closer, i don’t know if it’s her pulling away or we just naturally got farther. anyway, the end of the date approached, and i didn’t make a whole move, i was overthinking the whole date more than i ever was, so i didn’t go for the kiss either. when we were chilling in the car, we were there for like 25 minutes talking and i think that was the time to go for one (and she may have been waiting for a move then too), but she ended up being like “yeah i think my car is up there” cause i had to go soon. i drove her to her car and i hugged her as i went out to say bye. she texted me thanking for dinner and said she had a great time. i texted back yeah, we should do it again and we’re talking about something i told her i was doing after the date (like a funny story), she said she’s down for a second date. but now im completely lost and have zero clue on where to take her. she seems like a classy girl, we were passing by a jazz club and she thought that was cool but i feel like that may be corny, i’ve never been to one either. some people are suggesting going to an arcade or a movie or something, i feel like food again would be boring(?) but is the safest choice. i don’t really know what to do here and im really nervous
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
first second date ever
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1aqr1gy/first_second_date_ever/
|
36AllOut
|
2021-01-21 07:35:06
| 1,611,214,506 | null |
['matches', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'hinge', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
l1to5a
| true | null | 179 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/l1to5a/can_i_please_get_some_honest_feedback_from_women/
| 67 |
Hi. I was wondering if I would be able to get any feedback from women about my two dating profiles as I don't ever get any matches on either apps for a long time and I feel like I put effort in to show my personality and represent who I am so it's kinda disheartening. I know it's the pandemic and all but it didn't really hit where I live too bad until recently and even pre-covid I wasn't get luck. This is my Okcupid profile: https://imgur.com/a/FVSvXF9 This is my hinge profile: https://imgur.com/a/ABPg2hY I don't use Tinder or bumble because I know I'm not attractive enough for those apps but I did believe if given a bit more room to expand on myself and my interests I could alleviate that problem. I know the photos aren't....good lol but they're kind of all I've got in terms on non-selfies and I know "wearing a tank top in the water" looks weird but in my defence that was taken at sunrise I hadn't thought through that there'd be nowhere to leave my top; I shouldn've gone shirtless to the pier so a decent photo opportunity got ruined but I feel like it's better than nothing. With regards to Okcupid I don't know how to view my profile so you see all the stuff I haven't filled in and I didn't fill in all the topics but I don't want my profile to turn in to a novel and by the time anyone gets that far down I reckon they've made up their mind about me anyway. i'm not very good at articulating how I feel, who I am and what I want so my profile isn't the best representation of me but the best representation of how I can express myself. Thanks.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Can I please get some honest feedback from women about my profile?
| null | 0.93 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/l1to5a/can_i_please_get_some_honest_feedback_from_women/
|
ThePenTester88
|
2022-05-11 05:01:38
| 1,652,245,298 | null | null | 0 |
un1ycs
| true | null | 20 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/un1ycs/rejected_a_woman_and_she_went_ape/
| 13 |
Well... rejected may not be quite the best word, or right one but it was more of a half rejection? I was talking to a woman (who lived 3 hours away... that's another story) for 3 weeks and the first week we hit it off fast. Texting daily, and most of the day, got along great, etc... and then she dissapears for like 4 days so I figure she lost interest and i unmatched her and deleted her number. It is what it is, no big deal. Well on day 5 she reaches out again with some lame excuse about it being a "hectic week" which is bs. We all have a few minutes to text someone regardless of how busy you are. So I figure, ok why not. Lets see where or if this goes anywhere; I was a little lonely and I did enjoy talking to her so I gave her another chance. We end up talking on the phone basically daily, sometimes multiple times/day and each call was around 2 hours. Sometimes more. Talked about everything and anything. I was starting to be a little unsure of her due to a handful of things she had mentioned and said that I didn't like and I started seeing more of who she really was. So last Friday we talked for about 6 hours (until 12am) and she invited me to go to a kentucky derby watch party with friends of hers, and then to a hockey game that evening. She then told me what I should wear, and how everyone (guys) wears these certain types of shoes - which I dont have, nor really care to have. I told her this and she said we could go to Nordstrom Rack... wtf? I mean sure, I get telling someone what is appropriate to wear but to actually want to go BUY them so that I "fit in" with her crowd, is fkn weird to me. At this point, I was still semi- interested but at the same time, also even more unsure about her but I still wanted to at least meet her and see if I was wrong. Anyways, like I said, she invited me out on Friday late at night, to come visit her the next day; so basically I had like 7 hours to prepare. I wake up the next morning, start really thinking about it and decided that while I enjoyed talking with her, I didn't think a LDR would be something I wanted, and I wasn't sure enough about her to make the drive. So I text her telling her some excuse as to why I couldn't come. The text was very nice, respectful, apologetic, etc... I never hear from her until the next day. She was furious and said she lost all respect for me and to "man up" and bla bla bla, and that she ended up calling up some guy she was unsure about - which tbh, I'm not so sure I believe, given the way she was texting me and what she was saying. It felt like I really hurt her feelings and that she was super into me, and sad that I didn't come, so was trying to make me jealous. So for the hockey game, she already had tickets to it, and this "guy" "told her to sell them" and he bought "better" seats. So whether or not any of that was true i could care less but, the simple fact that she had the guy buy new tickets last minute so she could sell HERS, is a giant nope for me. I ended up telling her this wasn't going to work and wished her luck. Her reply was anything but nice. She went off on me lol. We had never even met and she was acting like we were in a relationship and I cheated on her or something. Definitely dodged a bullet on this one.
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OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Rejected a woman and she went ape
| null | 0.84 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/un1ycs/rejected_a_woman_and_she_went_ape/
|
thebroathlete
|
2016-02-16 06:35:10
| 1,455,604,510 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
4618zb
| null | null | 122 | null |
/r/AskMen/comments/4618zb/guys_who_missed_out_on_the_dating_and_sex_in/
| 30 |
For the guys in here that lost their virginity late, finished high school and/or college as virgins, and the guys who got in on the game late (after 21?), how did it affect you and how are you doing today in regards to women? Might as well share my story. I missed out on all of the sex, dating, and love during my high school and college days. Went to a university where you more or less had to be in Greek Life or sports in order to have success with girls that were reasonably attractive. After college, made it my life goal to pretty much sleep with as many hot girls as possible. I went well out of my way (gym, hobbies, etc.) to get hot girls. Got in better shape, took up fun jobs, and used as many dating apps as possible. Ended up sleeping with about 50 different women who were well above average in terms of looks, not exactly models but not plain looking women either. I could have slept with a lot more if I had lower standards. All in all, what affects me the most is the mental aspect of it. I have slept with hot girls but that is just not enough. I want to feel like how the cool kids in college felt when they were hooking up. I want the spotlight to be on me when I am making out with hot girls and I want to feel validated through women and sex. Sad life to live but I am pretty much that guy whose Instagram is loaded with him having photos taken with hot girls and making out with them as well. Some people who knew me growing up hate me, say that I have "changed" and how I am so wrong for choosing this kind of life. People say that as someone in his late 20s, I should get married. I admire guys like Dan Bilzerian to the point that I view them as my role models. To be honest, missing out on the sex and dating in my high school and college days when I desperately wanted to have success has done a number on me. I have dated girls and led them on to believing that it was something serious, then I cheated on them just for the fun of it. I have hurt girls' feelings and felt great about it because of it. I am afraid of marriage and whenever girls call me scumbag, cheater, douchebag, dick, and some of the harshest names out there, it puts a smile on my face. It has done a number on me to be honest....
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
Guys who missed out on the dating and sex in their youth and school days, how did it affect you and how are you doing today?
| 30 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/4618zb/guys_who_missed_out_on_the_dating_and_sex_in/
|
glitter_debicki
|
2024-02-02 03:03:49
| 1,706,843,029 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1agtlnz
| true |
Question ❓
| 61 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1agtlnz/was_he_just_after_sex/
| 57 |
I went on a great first date with a guy: dinner, drinks and dessert and made out and then he said he would like to see me again but then we were texting and he go weird and starting making jokes about sex positions and then he said "because we both dont want a relationship, lets do more than kiss next time?" and i then asked so you dont want to date me? and he said no I want to do both (date and fuck). I then said I was on dating apps to find a relationship and then he said no dramas and wished me well. Was he just after sex?
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Was he just after sex?
| 57 | 0.78 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1agtlnz/was_he_just_after_sex/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-02-18 11:44:10
| 1,392,723,850 | 0 |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
1y8gg0
| null | null | 5 | null |
/r/dating/comments/1y8gg0/is_this_a_rude_message_to_send_given_the/
| 2 |
I (26/M) started talking to this girl (24/F) through OKCupid back in January. For the last 6 weeks we have been sending very lenhy messages, around 3-5 paragraphs, back and forth. Starting through okcupid and eventually adding each other on facebook. While they aren't always the most interesting topics, they are always positive and usually carry a lot of enthusiasm each time. The one off thing about our interactions is that they seem to happen once every 3-4 days. This inconsistency has made me very confused on what she's looking for, or what she might be thinking in regards to seeing me. I saw her for the first time last week where we got coffee and spent almost 4 hours talking non-stop. All cues seemed very positive. She was smiling and nodding most of the evening and (other than one or two instances) all of our conversations flowed really well. We both seemed generally interested in getting to know each other, which leads me to believe at the very least we're compatible as friends. About an hour after the date I sent a courtesy text saying "Thanks again for coming out. I had fun :)". It took nearly 24 hours for her to respond at which point I thought she probably doesn't want to see me again. But she ends up responding with "Sorry for the super late reply It was crazy busy at work today.. but yes It was fun :). Hopefully plan another hangout soon". It still sounded positive so I decided to ask her out on a second date. On Saturday (4 days ago) I asked her to watch The Lego Movie with me through Facebook. It says she saw the message, but 4 days with no response makes me think I'm probably not going to hear back. It seems like a very frequent habit, so I continually question if I'm just wasting my time with her. I understand not being a priority, but this awkward delay just seems confusing to me. Is she interested in dating at all? Does she not even want to be friends? My friends have come up with potential reasons for her inconsistent/delayed messages. Things ranging from having an addictive hobby like gaming, possibly being new to dating, or maybe she's just seeing multiple people at once. In any case I want to give her some benefit of the doubt. If she never responds to the date I'm wondering if I should send a message to let things go. Normally I would be 100% sure that she isn't interested but from the first day we started talking there has always been that 3-4 day delay. Other than that all of our messages have been really great, and she seems enthusiastic about continuing to talk to me. It would be unfortunate because we seem to get along great, but at this rate I'm not even sure if we would make good friends anymore. I might send something like: "Hey _______ I thought I should send you another message to see how you're doing :). I had a lot of fun getting coffee with you last week, and was hoping to see you again soon but maybe now isn't the best time. I want to be honest I think you're very beautiful and a great person to talk to, but if the timing isn't right maybe we can continue getting to know each other sometime in the future. I hope we stay in contact, and when we're less busy maybe hang out again. You're an amazing person so keep being awesome Have a good one ______" TL;DR: Met a girl on Okcupid. I've been talking to her consistently for 6 weeks with really enthusiastic responses, but she has a bad habit of responding once every 3-4 days. It's been 4 days since I asked her on a second date and haven't received a reply back yet. Should I end things if I don't hear back? or if I do, should I even continue dating her...
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Is this a rude message to send given the circumstances?
| 2 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1y8gg0/is_this_a_rude_message_to_send_given_the/
|
recklesspizza
|
2020-01-13 21:59:48
| 1,578,952,788 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
eob55p
| true |
Tinder/Online Dating
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/eob55p/back_to_square_one/
| 2 |
I started seeing a woman a few months ago off of tinder and we connected really well. We were looking for the same things in a long term relationship and shared similar interests / values. Over the course of several months, we both developed feelings for each other and expressed that we both really liked one another. Unfortunately, due to her demanding career and an unexpected situation with her family, we had to break it off last night. We both agreed that due to her busy schedule, it would be difficult for her to physically be available for a relationship. (She would only be free to meet up once every other week, which wasn’t exactly ideal.) She said that this hasn’t been fair for me and that she hopes we can keep in touch. I’m hoping that she meant the latter part because I do care about her and I want her to be happy. So, I’m back to square one. Maybe I should take a break from the whole dating scene altogether.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Back to square one
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/eob55p/back_to_square_one/
|
vrogo_
|
2024-09-04 01:40:08
| 1,725,414,008 | 0 |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1f8ha9j
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1f8ha9j/dating_rant/
| 2 |
Straight to the point: I'm a 25-year-old straight male from Toronto. I work out regularly and am in good shape—not the influencer type, just a regular guy who’s fit and muscular. I’d say I look average, maybe even bad, but I’ve never asked people to rate me. I’m on and off dating apps, get a few matches, but nothing really goes anywhere. No hookups, flings, casuals, or LTRs. I’ve never been to a pub alone. I have a strict routine that I stick to during the weekdays. Is it my mistake that I’m not approaching women a lot? I only approach them during my routine (is it wrong to expect something from that?). Any advice would be great! And yeah, you’ve probably guessed my ethnicity by now—yup, I’m Indian 😂. Anyway, to all the fellow men out there at 25, let’s keep grinding. We got this. (Feels like this might be the end of my bloodline though, lol.)
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Dating rant
| 2 | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1f8ha9j/dating_rant/
|
darkhorse2k
|
2019-06-13 13:04:38
| 1,560,431,078 | null | null | 0 |
c05kk0
| true | null | 68 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/c05kk0/myth_real_life_dating_is_easier_than_old/
| 16 |
Guy perspective: Seen a lot of threads on here, where somebody is complaining about OLD and is told that OLD is the problem. The reality is, OLD is NOT the problem, dating is generally hard. Either way, you are effectively trying to get somebody to buy into your brand. I 100% gaurentee that these same women rejecting you from OLD will not make it any easier for you in real life. What real life does is not offer a screening process, where you simply do not know: a) If she is already attached! b) What her intentions are , at least with OLD her being on a dating app and matching gives some sort of an indication. c) What will happen when you put yourself on the line and physically approach her to find out. What happens if you approach her and she tells you to fuck off? Where will your self esteem be then? (I have had that). At least with OLD, if she is not interested she will just ghost you at worst - low investment. To add, real life dating means your selection pool is limited to a small sample of people that you already know. A more healthier view is to treat OLD as a tool to be introduced to potential partners, once it has done that, it has served it's purpose, you then have to do the rest of the work. If you get rejected, and I have been many times, you move onto the next girl that shows real interest. Laws of averages means that this is bound to happen at some point. I personally know 10 people who have met their partners using a dating app. If you do not believe me, go out next weekend to a bar and club, and see for yourself if real life dating is easier.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Myth: Real life dating is easier than OLD
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/c05kk0/myth_real_life_dating_is_easier_than_old/
|
No_Shoulder856
|
2023-10-16 07:09:44
| 1,697,440,184 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
179040b
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/179040b/should_i_still_reach_out/
| 1 |
Should I text him even after all this? I met this guy on a dating app a couple days ago and we hit off so well. We were getting along really well and made plans to go on a movie n dinner date. The morning of, I get messages from some girl who was apparently his ex and she was trynna get back with him and messaging around to the girls he’s been talking with. Anyways there was this drama and I asked him what’s going on, he explained how they broke up and that there’s nothing anymore and they won’t get back together. We went on the date, had an amazing time - also hooked up. We were actually talking about seriously dating but then I had to mention something about my past as that may change his perspective and he appreciated me telling him and though it’s not something he can come to terms with. I understood and we bid farewell but then in the morning I get a call from him apologising if he came off rude but it’s just not something he wants in a serious partner as he’s dating to marry. I said it’s all good and we ended on that note. His ex then apparently showed up at his place and also texted/called me trying to disrespect me as she’s trying to get with him. He calls me once she leaves and rants on about how he’s never getting with her and explaining what had happened when she came over. I listened and gave him general advice about him making up his mind to either clear off from her and make that distance or work on things and get with her - said he can’t. I say okay, you can figure it out then and that anyways since we’re not trying to talk after - bye and take care. He thanks me for the advice and we hang up. 2hrs later he texts me that he thinks we should never talk again, send me 2 more messages which were unsent (Idk what 1 unsent message was but I saw the other one before he unsent it, said something along the lines of ‘everyone hides shit’). I said yes we established that so why is he texting still, said he just wanted to make it clear and I liked it but didn’t respond. He seems hurt and going through stuff but the way he keeps calling and texting also made it seem like he still wants to try talk to me but is hesitant because of our conversation last night. He seems to have now removed me on snap and blocked my number. Do you think it’s wrong of me to try add him again on snap and ask if he still wants to hookup on a casual basis because I’d like that. Last night before we hooked up, we asked if we both wanted anything casual or lean towards dating (this conversation happened before our serious convo). He said he’s okay with casual but prefers serious as he likes me. But it is okay for me to try and add him right and ask for casual since the issue of us was getting serious and issue with some stuff but with hookup that issue won’t matter. I’m really attracted towards him and would wanna hookup again.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Should I still reach out?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/179040b/should_i_still_reach_out/
|
Accurate-Award-4404
|
2021-07-12 02:19:35
| 1,626,056,375 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
oihzcm
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/oihzcm/is_he_playing_games/
| 1 |
Met this guy online and we hit it off pretty quickly. Great conversation, lots in common, settled on a coffee date a few days after we matched. Coffee date went great and we continued texting after. We agreed to meet up for a second date (I asked), but he cancelled the morning of because of weather. Again, we continued texting and he made it seem like he was interested in me. This time he asked for a second date, but cancelled the day of again. Am I being played here or am I overthinking this? Do I cut ties? Do I give him the chance to explain?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is he playing games?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/oihzcm/is_he_playing_games/
|
Sethiall_dat
|
2023-02-01 18:09:26
| 1,675,274,966 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
10r1i85
| true | null | 10 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/10r1i85/is_this_normal_for_dating_these_days/
| 2 |
I'm looking for some input on a trend that I've noticed in my dating life. I (30M) have been working in my mental health for quite a while and as a result I've been out of the dating scene for close to 7 years now. I'm at a point where I've got myself together and I'm ready to see what's out there. Finding matches hasn't been difficult over the past few months, usually 1-2 per week, but I'm noticing a consistent trend in my conversations; I get to know them quite well, but they never put any effort into getting to know me. I feel like they're just farming me for attention and then I lose interest and move on. Is this a societal norm that I just have to deal with or is this a me-problem? People always say that "if they like you then they'll put in the effort to get to know you" but is that really the case? Do I have to volunteer information about myself for a woman to get to know me in today's dating climate? Is this normal? ETA: It would be nice to get a woman's perspective on this. So far, it seems like just a bunch of bitter guys venting in the comments.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is this normal for dating these days?
| null | 0.63 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/10r1i85/is_this_normal_for_dating_these_days/
|
JoyfulDeath
|
2017-11-28 18:27:55
| 1,511,893,675 | null |
['swipe', 'OLD']
| 0 |
7g68fi
| false | null | 64 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/7g68fi/whats_with_people_old_feeling_the_need_to_mention/
| 5 |
Lately, I have been seeing women say something like how they like to spend time with family, love their family, or something similar to that. It has got to the point where I start to left swipe on them because it is starting to feel like something is just really off. I mean I do have a family, but I don't feel the need to mention or talk about them, especially on OLD. Can someone please explain to me what's up with women who feel the need to mention their family?
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datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
What's with people OLD feeling the need to mention their family?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/7g68fi/whats_with_people_old_feeling_the_need_to_mention/
|
Warm_Carpet6905
|
2022-04-03 21:07:37
| 1,649,020,057 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
tvjzqz
| true |
Question
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/tvjzqz/can_we_be_friends_after_one_date/
| 1 |
I (32F) met a guy OLD and we had one date that went well. However, he’s looking for casual and I’m looking for serious. I’m glad we found that out ASAP. Our conversation was great and intellectually stimulating. I’m a friendly person in general but don’t meet many people I click with like that. I’ve been out growing my friend group and trying to make new friends. I just haven’t found many people I vibe with. So when I do, I would like to become friends. Even though we met because of an interest to date (since that’s not going to happen), could we develop a friendship instead or is that weird? We already unmatched so I’m not asking for this particular guy. I’m just wondering if this happens again, could I ask to be friends?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Can we be friends after one date?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/tvjzqz/can_we_be_friends_after_one_date/
|
Upset_Glove6856
|
2022-01-30 04:24:22
| 1,643,516,662 | null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
sg0o8p
| true | null | 20 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/sg0o8p/guy_from_dating_app_wanted_me_to_send_him_nudes/
| 0 |
So I (19F) matched with a cute guy (23M) and we were texting earlier today. Things got kinda hot and he asked if I could send a picture of my face. I told him that I would snapchat him later from the shower and said that I’m sure he would like that. He texted me when I was close to hopping in and said, hey you taking a shower soon ms. sexy. I had already called him daddy and he called me baby a few times, but it just felt kinda weird. He saw that I left him on read and he immediately apologized and said he was sorry for making me uncomfortable. Should I still consider dating him?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Guy from dating app wanted me to send him nudes, then apologized for it
| null | 0.42 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/sg0o8p/guy_from_dating_app_wanted_me_to_send_him_nudes/
|
mattmurdocks
|
2022-11-02 21:41:15
| 1,667,425,275 | null |
['dating apps', 'hinge']
| 0 |
ykigc7
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/ykigc7/trying_to_decenter_romance_from_my_22f_life_but/
| 0 |
I am looking for some advice but I don't really know where else to go. I am trying to realize that I don't need to be persued/in a relationship to enjoy my life but my best friend, who is one of the very few people i talk to on a regular basis outside of school and work, is making it very hard. For context (sorry if this is vent-y): I, over a year now, got out of a two year relationship that was going nowhere and I had felt su\cidal in for a few months. It was my first relationship and the guy was perfectly nice, but I felt like the girl in the yellow wallpaper. Just purely hysterically insane and no one could see it. I finally break up with him in October of last year and withdraw from school, move back to my parents, and have a year that I am SO thankful for. It was really hard at some points, especially the isolation as I had one friend in the area (the best friend who I will talk about) but she was in a deadend relationship and working and in school so we rarely met up. This summer I was lucky to go on a summer abroad program with my university where I was just like full blast madly in love with this guy who had a gf which felt like a sign from the heavens that I wasn't mean to be in a relationship. But I was still like obsessed with him and cried a lot and.... okay Second to last week of my trip my best friend calls me and says she just left her husband. This was great news as this guy was emotionally manipulative and refused to tell his extended family that they were married. His mother was a total nutcase and was so manipulative to her too. I am so happy for her and I want to be clear of that. We talked for hours on the phone every night about how we were finally in new chapters of our lives (she had also been in that relationship for two years) and how amazing it felt. For me, staying out of dating was the right choice. My friend decided that getting into dating was the choice for her. I am totally supportive of this and have no issue with it. She is so beautiful and funny and really deserves someone who loves her, and I know she had moved on from her ex months before she ended the relationship, so I trust her when she says that she is ready to date. The issue really is that this is all she talks about now. Every conversation becomes "look at this guy I'm going on a date with" and about dating apps and how every guy she goes out with ends up being disappointing or annoying or weird. Everytime she comes to visit me in my city she will explain while she's driving to my place that she needs to get ready at a certain time because she got a date for that night... Literally unless I tell her I have booked a reservation for something or have tickets to something for us she will end up leaving my house by 5 to go out with a guy? I thought it was over a few weeks ago when she went on a few dates with this guy that it seemed like was serious about her, but said he couldn't be with her once she told him she had been married.... I guess I understand him though I do think the way he said it was a dick move, but then she basically instantly has another date that night. I don't really think she is doing it to self harm or anything, she genuinely seems to just be having fun. Which is great But I cannot hear about it anymore! It makes me feel so inadequate. She is so beautiful and men have always loved her, but I am objectively not as good looking and I do not get even half of the attention she does. She is not trying to rub it in my face but somehow the subconscious rubbing of it in my face is almost worse. Like she doesn't get it. I want to feel secure in myself, to not feel like I need to be putting myself out in the dating pool, but every day I hear about her dates, have to help her chose clothing for it, have to listen to her joke about "how many bitches I have on hinge" etc etc...... How am I supposed to find meaning in being single when the person closest to me keeps implicitly telling me there isn't meaning? Sorry if this comes off as insecure or judgemental. I really love her so much and she's one of the most important relationships in my life.
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TwoXChromosomes
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t5_2r2jt
|
Trying to de-center romance from my (22f) life, but friend (22f) is making it hard
| null | 0.36 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/ykigc7/trying_to_decenter_romance_from_my_22f_life_but/
|
Alenon12
|
2023-07-05 19:23:30
| 1,688,585,010 | 0 | null | 0 |
14rkl8j
| false | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/14rkl8j/facebook_dating_gone_anyone_figure_out_ways_to/
| 1 |
Let me preface by saying all the links on google to fix the FB app disappearing ive tried (the try one of these 8 things blah blah). I can only assume maybe i was banned, though it makes no sense as i've never done anything wrong and there's no reports in the support inbox. Disappeared over a year ago and I've never understood or been able to find out why. Seems to be no way to appeal aside from reporting a bug, which I wonder if that even does anything. At least around here it was one of the better apps for real people looking for serious relationships.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Facebook dating gone, anyone figure out ways to fix/appeal why this happens?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/14rkl8j/facebook_dating_gone_anyone_figure_out_ways_to/
|
Heathen_H
|
2024-03-25 13:01:26
| 1,711,371,686 | 0 |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1bnd2v2
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1bnd2v2/im_not_sure_what_further_to_do/
| 4 |
Hi, male (40 almost 41) so I have been single since my divorce in 2021. Admittedly, it did take some time to get over what happened. Since trying to get back out dating I feel lost and outdated. I'm trying to be as open and clear about this as possible. I've been trying to get advice and help for several years now I posted in another subreddit and basically was shamed and told to “go outside and fuck in the bushes.” I have tried dating apps with absolutely no luck. I live in a fairly small town with not too much to do or at least not within my interest. I spent most of my time hiking and I'm trying to get into cycling. Unfortunately, although both of those things I recognize have communities. I cannot find one in my local area. Especially for something beginning. I mostly hike alone. And occasionally I'll go cycling with a friend. All of my friends and family are married and don't really know anyone that is not. The very few single people that I've encountered from friends aren't interested or be wouldn't be compatible according to them. The most successful I've been was back in February. The week of Valentine's Day a coffee shop in the next town over. Had a blind dating thing I attended. It went fairly well until she said she was a Christian and I told her I was not. That was her deal-breaker it was over. Which is fine, I appreciated her honesty and I'm sure she appreciated my honest response too. It seems within my area blind dating or speed dating and such of things are far and few in between. Apparently only time people are single and looking to date isn't in and around Valentine's Day. I have been using various dating apps to little to no luck most of the time. I did a quick Google search as to what makes it a dating profile more interesting and the best I could find was a good photo is important. It's the first and last thing anyone sees. Very little. Do people actually read the about me section or? Look at the interest. It's about attraction. Which honestly makes sense. I know that personally When scrolling I would read the profiles and look at pictures trying to determine if I felt like they had at least a few common interests as well as if I was on some level attracted to her. After doing the research, I've decided to take my profiles down. I realized that my photos were no good based on the information in my quick Google search. Another issue I've had with dating apps many of my matches either didn't respond to the first message or just conversation was like pulling teeth And I wasn't getting responses before the person either deleted their proof profile or moved on. My friend's girlfriend is very adamant about helping. She's insisting that we do a photo shoot. Her thought is to basically just take pictures until we get a good one so that way I can put my profiles back up. To me that just feels generic and forced. Especially after reading several articles saying that they should show you demonstrating your hobbies, being within your element of doing so, etc. Is there really a point to doing a photo shoot? Aside from that, she always suggests that I go out in public such as local carnivals and other things in the area. The problem there is as far as I'm concerned that if I'm out doing that that's going to be what I'm focused on. Also, there are some things that have been suggested to me that I do that aren't really within my interest. I feel that if I do things outside of my interest, it's going to suggest that I enjoy doing that. So meeting someone outside of my interest is basically not really going to be effective as it's going to be setting a precinct for me to do something I probably don't want to do. Am I possibly missing the point, or is there something that we could do that wouldn't seem generic and forced? What do women want to see in photos for dating apps? Is there something better I could be doing?
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datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
I'm not sure what further to do.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1bnd2v2/im_not_sure_what_further_to_do/
|
Maya_Urban
|
2019-02-23 17:25:12
| 1,550,942,712 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
atxqfs
| true | null | 10 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/atxqfs/is_this_too_much_to_ask_of_a_fwb/
| 7 |
Matched with a guy several weeks ago, we both agreed we're just hooking up. Since day one this guy has never been on time. If we're meeting at my place, he's at least 45min late; if meeting at his, he's never ready when I show up. Maybe it's because I'm used to punctual people, but this annoys me quite a bit. I put up with it because he's hot, the sex is good, and we actually get along really well. One day I finally had enough and confronted him about it, using "I statements" etc., and he told me his drug problem is more serious than he had led on before, and it's causing him issues like this throughout his life. Well shit. I went into caring friend mode and got all emotional, saying stuff like "you could do so much more with your life blah blah" (it's a topic I feel strongly about). Because of this little episode, he thinks I want more than fwb, and is now ghosting me. This all started because I expect someone to be on time. So reddit, is that too much to ask? It would bother me if my platonic friends are chronically late too. Or is it just me?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Is this too much to ask of a FWB?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/atxqfs/is_this_too_much_to_ask_of_a_fwb/
|
ShafordoDrForgone
|
2021-07-07 14:19:05
| 1,625,667,545 | null | null | 0 |
ofjtcv
| true | null | 12 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/ofjtcv/paying_it_forward/
| 0 |
Have you ever let your feelings about your previous OLD experience affect how you treat the next person?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Paying it forward
| null | 0.44 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/ofjtcv/paying_it_forward/
|
brous475
|
2022-05-13 02:42:28
| 1,652,409,748 | null |
['swipe', 'OLD']
| 0 |
uohtws
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/uohtws/too_many_red_flags/
| 1 |
33M here, recently got back into OLD and not much has changed. I've blamed myself for my lack of success, I've blamed OLD and dating as a whole, I've blamed any and everything in my almost 10 years of being single. But I always come back to believing I have too many red flags, so some confirmation/advice would be great. Red flags: Shaved head/bald, have a cat (still don't understand why its a bad thing but whatever), am a centralist gun owner in a overwhelmingly blue state, into nerd things (video games, DandD, Marvel), not into sports (which is big here according to the profiles I swipe through), I don't have any social media accounts, and the biggest red flag is that I live at home still (my student loan payments are more than most people's mortgages). White flags? (neither good nor bad?): Into golf and martial arts Green flags: Can cook, have a beard and some hidden tattoos (again, not sure why that's desirable but I see it a lot), tall (6'1), in decent shape, in a stable job that pays well (but unfortunately not well enough for me), and other "normal" good qualities like a good person, sense of humor, family orientated, etc. I honestly think I should stop trying and just wait until I get a crazy paying job, win the lottery, or wait another 10ish years to pay off my loans and move out, but then I'll be 20 years single and deal with that. I'm rambling, have at it
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Too many red flags?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/uohtws/too_many_red_flags/
|
Kingjames23X6
|
2024-05-06 01:14:01
| 1,714,958,041 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1cl6tik
| true |
Giving Advice 💌
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1cl6tik/so_frustrating/
| 1 |
Everytime I find someone IRL it goes good in the beginning and then they turn out ghetto demanding money etc etc idk if it’s b/c of where I live or something just how it is here but it’s really annoying so I just go on tinder once in a while just for fun you know ? I just wish I could find a submissive woman (not even speaking like sexually) just a soft kind hearted beautiful woman. I do find some IRL but it’s always a catch like oh I have a kid okay baby daddy shit all the time drama drama drama I don’t care it’s annoying it’s not that I dislike someone who has kids but the b.s drama that comes with it is too annoying. Starting to think like it’s just a fantasy to find the woman I wish. Just like always something
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
So frustrating
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1cl6tik/so_frustrating/
|
squad-W
|
2024-03-25 19:56:55
| 1,711,396,615 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1bnn7x1
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1bnn7x1/wherehow_to_meet_girls_without_a_friend_group/
| 2 |
I have a small group of friends and theres no girl that Im interested in atm. Im thinking about downloading tinder? Any of you managed to get into a serious relationship while using it? Any other tips are much appreciated.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
where/how to meet girls without a friend group?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1bnn7x1/wherehow_to_meet_girls_without_a_friend_group/
|
benden010
|
2022-06-19 20:48:20
| 1,655,671,700 | null |
['matches', 'OLD']
| 0 |
vg4as0
| true | null | 71 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/vg4as0/34m_in_need_of_some_postdivorce_dating_advice/
| 48 |
Hello, I'm not sure if this belongs more in here, or in r/Divorce, but I am really struggling to know if I am ready to date again from an outsiders perspective or honestly how to rationalize certain things in my head. As a leader into this, I have been officially divorced for 2 months but separated living apart for 7 months and separated in totality for a year. To start, I am a 34yr old divorced father of 4. My ex was really the only person I ever seriously dated. To make matters worse, my friend group after meeting her was husbands of her friends and now obviously I don't talk to them. So here I find myself as a 34 yr old divorced father of 4 kids, oh and I also live at home with my parents right now. I could rent an apartment, but if I save for another year I can put a sizeable down payment on a home instead. It's a choice I made out of financial responsibility, not out of an inability to be a responsible adult. Additionally, I have been getting into much better shape since leaving my ex. I workout 5 days a week and have dropped a good amount of weight. I've made a ton of progress here but still have more I want to accomplish here as well. I'm not excessively obese by any means, i would consider myself to currently have a dad bod. To put in perspective I am 6'3 and 250lbs. From a personal time perspective, I honestly struggle here because it feels like I only ever get 2-3 days every other week of personal time. Custody is supposed to be 50/50 1 week on/off but honestly my ex is not a good mother and the kids spend time with me half of her week with the kids. So in my head right now I have 3 hurdles before even the mentality of being ready to date kicks in: 1. I have 4 klids. No matter the status of me being mentally ready, this fact will never change. But because of their mother's inability to parent, my personal time to date (or even try and build new friendships outside of kid events etc.) is extremenly limited How do you manage adding someone new to your life with 4 kids and hardly ever any downtime from being a single parent? 2. While I am physically in much better shape than I have been in quite some time, and very happy with where I currently am, I am still not at my goal physicality. Should I wait to date until I hit this point? 3. I live at home with my parents. God it sounds awful saying that as a 34 year old divorced guy... but I make a good amount of money in a really stable career field and this financially puts me at an incredible advantage. Should I wait until I have a home before trying to date? I created a few profiles on OLD sites but my matches were sparse and I can't blame them. Regardless of my average? looks, having 4 kids is just a non-starter for a lot of people. I decided to deactivate the profiles for now just to re-asses where I am and how I want to proceed. I did go on a date with someone, but I wasn't feeling it from a physical attraction side. Mentally I feel I am ready. I'm not looking to dive headfirst into another relationship, I don't feel the need to not be alone. In fact I really enjoy my alone time and the freedom I have with it that I've missed for years and years. The flip side of that though is I also miss connecting with someone on an emotional and physical level. I'm ok taking things slow... what I really just struggle with is my life at a point where I can start doing that again or should I just wait a year even if mentally I want to be starting to date again? I know that ultimately it's only an answer I can make on my own, but I would love to get others opinions. I'm sure I left out a lot of stuff in this incoherent ramble, so feel free to ask any clarifying questions. TLDR - Mentally I am ready to date, but is my life at a point where I can/should? Edit: As an addendum - I have very few photos of my new self with weight loss. How should I go about quickly getting some quality photo's for a dating profile if I do decide to pursue OLD some more right now? Edit 2: Thanks everyone for all the advice and feedback. I will be keeping my online profiles deactivated for now until I feel like I am at a point in my life where I have everything where I want it to be. I agree with the people saying that if I have to come here to ask the question, then I still have doubt and that doubt means I am not ready. When I finally move into my own home within the next year I will re-evaluate myself and dating then.
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
34(M) in need of some post-divorce dating advice
| null | 0.86 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/vg4as0/34m_in_need_of_some_postdivorce_dating_advice/
|
Due-Werewolf2956
|
2024-03-22 13:18:06
| 1,711,113,486 | 0 |
['matched']
| 0 |
1bkz0xt
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bkz0xt/a_really_complicated_situation_between_me_22m_and/
| 1 |
Hi there, I'm in an extremely dire situation, and even though I know there is no definitive solution, I still want to share it and hear opinions. I lived through so much stuff and went through an insane amount of emotions but I'm going to summarize for everybody's sake. (It still ended up being long lol, I'll write down a TLDR at the end, but it's better if you read it all for the details.) I'm (22M) an exchange student in a different country. I had so many problems when I first arrived, both personal issues and several culture shocks. I felt really lonely and marginalized. I met a lot of people, but I couldn't find someone like me to hang out with. Then I met this local girl (24F) on a blind date event. I was literally shocked at how similar she was to me. Everything I said resonated with her, and vice versa. The date was going really well (or I thought so) until she said that she liked someone else, that she didn't wanna give me hope, and that we could be "friends." I don't know if I showed it, I tried not to, but I was really shaken to be friend-zoned on a first date. I felt nauseous throughout the whole night and even the day after. It really damaged my self-confidence and made me think, "How wretched I must be to be friend-zoned on the first date?" Almost all of my friends told me not to see the girl again, but I was too curious about the reason she even went on a date when she liked someone else. So I texted her and invited her to walk around the lake with me at night. She accepted. She was really emotional and tired. That night I learned more about the guy (23?M) she liked. They're flatmates, and actually, they're both attracted to each other. But the guy doesn't want a relationship and flirts and sleeps around with other girls (as well as her, obviously). And this bothers her because she wants a committed relationship and gets extremely jealous when he's talking to other girls. That's the gist, basically. I also learned the answer to my question. Apparently, she selected the "I search for friendship" option for the blind date event, whereas I chose "relationship." She just wanted to make friends from different cultures. I have no idea why we were even matched, but it happened. And I learned that she wasn't searching for any relationship because she was interested in him. This reassured me because I wasn't rejected for being me. I was rejected because she wasn't looking for anything. Everything happened so fast later on. I am sure that I am in love with her. I thought this through, and it is not a basic crush. The feelings I have for her are so special and nostalgic to me because this is the second time I've felt them. It's been a really long while ever since the first one (it was my ex). I didn't believe in love and thought that my feelings for my ex were just childhood enthusiasm (we started dating when we were 14 and ended when we were 18). But now that I was feeling the emotions I had when I was 14, after literally eight years, my belief in love was restored. I'm hundred percent sure that my having problems here and feeling alone had a huge part in all this, but it happened, and I can't change it. I couldn't hold down my feelings for her, she was in my mind at all times, and I wanted to be with her all the time. I knew that it was impossible to be more than friends, but I still wanted to hang out with her. But she is really busy and has a lot of stuff to do, and we could barely hang out. That's why it was always me inviting her, but I felt like this could eventually be a bother for her. Also, even though I tried so hard to accept that we were friends, it was harder and harder each time I saw her. That's why when she went abroad for two weeks, I decided that it might be the time to forget about her, and I promised myself not to text her unless she did. I didn't have hopes anyway, since it was always me texting her. Those two weeks were tough. I wanted to see her, but it was impossible. She was literally on the other side of the world. That's why I forcibly focused on other stuff. I kinda felt like forgetting her until she came back and actually texted me to hang out. I didn't expect that, I was happy, but at the same time, everything was returning. And the same day I saw her from the window when I was sitting in a café. Then I realized that nothing had changed and that it became even worse. When we met again, I realized that I missed her so much. And became sure that I would never accept being just friends. However, the crucial part is the stuff she said to me when she came back. She told me that being far from here made her think, and she decided to put herself over anyone else. She was the one who was in control now, unlike before when the guy she liked was controlling her life. And she said that she's now open to other people and to dating. This changed everything. This gave me a reason to shoot my chance. But deep down, I know that it's just a case where "impossible" became "near impossible." It's still really hard for many reasons: She still likes him, she's attracted to him, and they live together. I'm temporarily here, and I'm gonna return back to my country in 3-4 months. She doesn't show any romantic interest in me whatsoever; I would have noticed it if she did (I'm literally in the deepest part of the friend zone since she talks about her love life with me). She's really gorgeous (the guy she likes is really attractive as well), and I'm not on the same level as her (she's even taller than me). She is really picky, and she never had any relationship before. We can't spend enough time since she is really busy, and we can't text either because she doesn't like using her phone much, so she responds to everything late. I'm in a deep paradox now. Before, I had no chance but to be friends, but that sentence she said gave me the littlest of hope to shoot my chance, and I have no idea what to do now, basically. I know the best option is to either forget her (I'm convinced that it's impossible unless I go back to my own country) or to declare my love (My rejection chance is 99% since I don't see any signals). I don't want to harm our friendship either because I want to spend my limited time here with her as much as possible. It's pretty fucked up in the end, and I wanna hear your opinions on how I should approach this because I'm clueless. Be honest, I know there's not a good outcome either way. Like, even if we end up being together (near impossible, but let's assume), it's gonna end up in a long-distance relationship. After thinking it through, I think what I want is to feel that my feelings are reciprocated, and that's all. Because anything else is impossible. But even that is really complicated. TLDR: I'm (22M) an exchange student and madly in love with a girl (24F) here, but she liked someone else (23?M) and didn't want any relationship. I was okay with being her friend just to spend time with her. But it became even worse over time, and I couldn't accept being friends. And lately, she told me that she is over him and is now open to other people and to dating. Now I have a slight "chance," or more like a reason to shoot my chance, but it's still near impossible since I'm temporarily here, she doesn't show any signals, I'm not at her level, and many more reasons. I'm confused if I have to shoot my chance or not, and I can't forget her either.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
A really complicated situation between me (22M) and a "friend" (24F)
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bkz0xt/a_really_complicated_situation_between_me_22m_and/
|
mematic_in
|
2024-07-09 18:50:49
| 1,720,551,049 | 0 |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1dza94b
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1dza94b/is_2_months_a_very_long_time_for_a_talking_stage/
| 2 |
For context, I matched with this girl on Hinge right before I had to travel somewhere for two months. I haven’t met her yet, just have been texting for like a week. I’m not sure how to proceed given that I won’t be able to meet her for 2 months. Also, is there any texting advice that would help me out?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is 2 months a very long time for a talking stage?
| 2 | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1dza94b/is_2_months_a_very_long_time_for_a_talking_stage/
|
Single_Bee_4751
|
2022-01-07 02:28:59
| 1,641,522,539 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
rxw5it
| true |
I Need Advice
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/rxw5it/hookups/
| 0 |
Hey everyone! I'm trying reddit to get help for the first time. I recently moved to Chicago from Germany. I know we are in middle of a pandemic. However I never had issues finding FWB or women to hookup in Germany. Since I moved here, I barely had sex. I only met 3 women since September. I don't see any problems with my body and I don't look bad (I'm average). I usually use Tinder. I've been bothered by prostitutes a lot. Am I trying in the wrong platform? I'm 30, Persian, 5'7 ft. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
hookups
| null | 0.25 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/rxw5it/hookups/
|
Gibberish94
|
2017-06-12 01:14:12
| 1,497,230,052 | null |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
6gp4zo
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/6gp4zo/his_way_of_saying_he_not_emotionally_ready/
| 2 |
Meet a guy it's of OkCupid, can went in a date and causally talk. Recently he been MIA for the last month or so. Today he message me apologizing on why he been so distance. He been under a lot of stress lately and it was staring to get overwhelming, I told him I completely understand and everyone have their moments. I asked him if everything was going better for him now, he told me no. I replied back but saying he didn't need to apologize for going thru a rough time and to take your time in working things out. I also mentioned that if he wanted to talk to someone in here for him. He called me sweet and that's the end of the conversation. This was his way of saying he not ready for a relationship right?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
His way of saying he not emotionally ready?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/6gp4zo/his_way_of_saying_he_not_emotionally_ready/
|
NWO_IV_LIFE
|
2018-07-09 19:16:40
| 1,531,163,800 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
8xf2rq
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/8xf2rq/over_analyzing/
| 3 |
So I (M 33) and divorced, have been using Bumble for about 4 months now, it's great. Last Friday I went out with a girl, same age and it went pretty well and felt comfortable around each other. We ended up at her place and I got to say it was amazing. She texted me the next morning about how much fun the night was and I concurred. I actually saw her the next day too because I left my sunglasses at her home. We both agreed that we want to see each other again but didn't set a plan she is also going out of town for work. We agreed to check in when she's back. This is where I start to over analyzing, it's hard not to because that's what I do for work. I'm trying to keep communication to a minimum but I also don't want to come across as indifferent or that I just want to hook up, I'm comfortable with just that but I did enjoy the rest of our time. What's the balance? Thanks for any insight.
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Over analyzing?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/8xf2rq/over_analyzing/
|
TheLuckySwipe
|
2022-06-25 15:06:49
| 1,656,169,609 | null |
['matches', 'matched', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
vkh04w
| true |
Giving Advice
| 16 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/vkh04w/just_a_quick_psa_since_i_see_so_many_angry/
| 0 |
No matter what stage of "dating" you're at. Quite literally, you could be in a relationship, a MARRIAGE, hooking up, just matched on the app, talking for a day, talking for a week, an hour a year: ALWAYS assume that person could fall out of love and interest for you. At any stage of your interaction with them. The reason so many people have so much pain is because so many of us have not caught up to the reality of the fickle age we live in now, of social media, dating apps etc. If you make peace with the fact that you could wake up tomorrow after having had amazing sex with someone, an amazing time, been promised a relationship, or promised a date, a girl who had enthusiasm for you but then ghosted etc, you will literally never have to make another Reddit thread complaining about these assorted issues that ultimately communicate the same message "LEAVE ME ALONE I'M NOT INTERESTED IN BEING WITH YOU IN ANY CAPACITY". TLDR: Just block and delete numbers, matches, people who don't reciprocate interest. Treat them like randoms on the street you never met and would never spend time with or get to meet and just keep searching for someone who will show you a lot of enthusiasm. You will have a MUCH easier time with dating this way. No expectation, no disappointment.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Just a quick PSA since I see so many angry threads: HAVE ZERO EXPECTATIONS OF PEOPLE....
| null | 0.48 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/vkh04w/just_a_quick_psa_since_i_see_so_many_angry/
|
digitaljam_ontoast
|
2021-03-26 10:00:33
| 1,616,752,833 | null |
['online dating', 'dating site']
| 0 |
mdl9s7
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/mdl9s7/wait_for_text_or_move_on/
| 2 |
What should be my next move? I(30F) was exchanging mutually long messages with someone(30M) from an online dating site for a few months. He mentions his ex quite a bit and said it is the distance during a pandemic that ended it. Later, he said this is the longest he has gone without seeing her. I asked if this means they're over or taking a break. 6 days later, no response. I sent a short text yesterday saying I hope he is doing okay and that I'm getting vaccinated that day. He didn't even look at the message but did like a few of my Instagram photos. Should I just give him time or block him on Instagram/delete his number and move on? Is it rash to do that after only 6 days of no response? I did take a week to respond to him at one point, but this was because I had a family tragedy and was grieving. I did tell him I was going to be MIA for a short time when that incident occurred.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Wait for Text or Move On?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/mdl9s7/wait_for_text_or_move_on/
|
m-k-s-
|
2022-09-25 06:34:59
| 1,664,087,699 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
xnfosa
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/xnfosa/do_we_talk_too_much/
| 2 |
I (20f) met this guy (22) almost two weeks back on Tuesday on Bumble and we went on a nice date on Saturday a week ago now after he asked me on it. Also, he texted me right after the date saying he wants to see me again. Unfortunately, he caught covid so we had to put a hold on that. Still, we have been texting each other every day a lot, and I do mean A LOT. Just toda, I texted with him for three literal hours from half past eleven to now half past two at night. Everyday we have chatted before bed for at least an hour and wished each other a goodnight. During the day, we do chat but because of our studies it is not as active. The conversation isn’t that at all dry. I genuinely want to chat with him and it seems like he wants to do the same. We just talk about everything random and tease each other about stuff so it’s at times super playful too. And honestly time just flies by when I talk with him like just now I thought like how could it be three hours that I’ve been talking with him without a pause of any kind. Also, so far the conversation hasn’t been sexual in nature or even suggestive which I like. I’m not sure if that makes a different in your judgement. I have very little real experience on dating or even really talking with guys like this so I began to wonder if this was normal. Personally I don’t want to cut back on the talking because I just want to talk with him but also because I don’t want him to think I’m distancing myself from him. But any advice will be very much appreciated. Btw we’re seeing each other this upcoming week again. Exciting!
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Do we talk too much?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xnfosa/do_we_talk_too_much/
|
heart_of_blue
|
2016-09-01 20:58:08
| 1,472,763,488 | 0 |
['tinder', 'bumble']
| 0 |
50pidq
| null | null | 26 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/50pidq/what_have_your_experiences_been_with_apps_like/
| 22 |
And if you've used both, do you prefer one over the other?
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
What have your experiences been with apps like Tinder and Bumble?
| 22 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/50pidq/what_have_your_experiences_been_with_apps_like/
|
Murdog891
|
2021-06-06 19:17:14
| 1,623,007,034 | null |
['online dating', 'dating app']
| 0 |
ntt86m
| true | null | 14 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ntt86m/had_my_first_no_show_date/
| 13 |
Well, it was bound to happen. I met a girl though online dating app. We had a time a place to meet up for brunch. Ended up being a complete no show. I mean, I've had people cancel on me before, which is no problem cause they let me know. But this was first time being a complete no show, and never informed she won't be coming. It was bound to happen eventually, but still sucks haha.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Had my first no show date
| null | 0.89 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ntt86m/had_my_first_no_show_date/
|
juiceb0x22
|
2011-12-31 01:12:10
| 1,325,293,930 | 2 |
['online dating', 'plentyoffish', 'okcupid']
| null |
nwy70
| null | null | 5 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/nwy70/young_gay_adult_here_how_on_earth_do_i_meet_other/
| 13 |
I'm 19. I'm gay. I'm not into dating people solely for sex. I like to have intelligent conversations and "connect". I've tried joining LGBT groups locally, meetups and so forth. But I've never found anyone I'm interested in. Online dating has also been an epic fail. 90% of the time, even if I specify on my profile I'm not looking for hook-up's that's what I end up getting asked for + the 20% that MIGHT not want that seem exceedingly incapable of having interesting intellectual discussion. Sites I've tried: - plentyoffish - stickam - ladslads - fitlads - nexopia - trevorspace - thegyc - okcupid - dlist - gay.com I'm starting to feel like I'm living in a world of zombies.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Young gay adult here. How on earth do I meet other gay people my age that are not solely interested in sex?
| 15 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nwy70/young_gay_adult_here_how_on_earth_do_i_meet_other/
|
ExpensiveNinja
|
2022-07-11 01:47:40
| 1,657,504,060 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
vw6tt7
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/vw6tt7/any_suggestions_on_a_camera_for_a_solo_photoshoot/
| 0 |
I'm looking to get back into online dating and realized that I don't have many updated pics within the last 8 years. Most of my pics don't display my style or how I look today, so I'm looking to go out on my own with a tripod and finding cool places to take some photos. Looking for suggestions on: A camera ($500 at most) Tripod Location/scenery ideas (preferably with few people around) Also open to any other ideas. Thanks!
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Any suggestions on a camera for a solo photoshoot?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/vw6tt7/any_suggestions_on_a_camera_for_a_solo_photoshoot/
|
ste_ph
|
2018-06-18 16:15:22
| 1,529,338,522 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
8s0rdq
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/8s0rdq/20_m_met_a_bumble_girl_19_f_that_i_really_liked/
| 1 |
A couple months ago I met a girl form bumble that I could instantly tell I liked. Our first date went extremely well - I had a better connection with her than I had ever had on a first date. We arranged a second date and kissed goodbye. I could see the blush on the side of her face as she walked away. On our second date, we ended up spending about 10 hours straight together but it was far from a perfect date. In fact it was a complete disaster. I made mistake after mistake ie. not eating enough, getting too drunk on our night out to a club which she insisted upon, and then getting a little high on weed. She seemed slightly less interested - taking long toilet breaks and talking about how she should be 'living her own life' rather than keeping up the texts. Despite this, we ended up sleeping together on that date and due to my poor choices of substances to intake, I was a little soft leading to poor sex. After that date, she seemed increasingly less interested in texts leading to her completely ignoring my calls and texts. Although, she has left them all 'unread' and did answer one call whilst she was travelling. I told her I'd call her when she got back and did - yet to no answer. This leads me to believe that she is still at least slightly interested since she hasn't completely called it off. I really do believe that this girl is something special. Even though almost two months have passed I still think about her regularly. If we didn't get at least one more date where I could redeem myself I would be quite upset. I have been 'playing it cool' over the texts but it clearly isn't getting me anywhere. My question is should I quit with the cool guy strategy and let her know how I really feel? Over the past few months, I have changed a bit as a person and feel like she would really relate to the 'new me.' Most dating advice that I have seen would advice against telling her this and to keep it cool I'm not sure if I believe that. Should I tell her that and how much I like and respect her? My thoughts right now are to give it another month or two and then to quit the 'cool' attitude and give it one last shot.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
(20 M) Met a bumble girl (19 F) that I really liked.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/8s0rdq/20_m_met_a_bumble_girl_19_f_that_i_really_liked/
|
avaragejoe95
|
2022-07-27 17:27:01
| 1,658,942,821 | null |
['matches', 'matched', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
w9ko8m
| true |
Question
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/w9ko8m/does_anyone_find_dating_is_hard_nowadays/
| 1 |
I think with dating apps and social media, dating had become harder because there are too many options. There are guys who have no attention and there are guys like me who get overwhelmed, I get matches, I forget to reply and it’s just a complete mess when it comes to picking someone to date when there are so many options. Before dating apps I think it was a lot easier since as a guy you can’t approach 100 women in a month, where in dating apps you might be matched with 100 woman. I talked to my friends and most of the time female friends have the same issue
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Does anyone find dating is hard nowadays
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/w9ko8m/does_anyone_find_dating_is_hard_nowadays/
|
WavecrestRd
|
2023-03-09 14:02:58
| 1,678,370,578 | null |
['swipe']
| 0 |
11mszum
| true | null | 95 | 0 |
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/11mszum/fitting_into_another_persons_life/
| 64 |
I've seen some comments in the past month or so from people who feel frustrated that potential partners are only looking for someone to fit perfectly into their lives. It is deemed or feels inflexible...or maybe that means they want someone with no baggage or someone who only wants a lot of sex – or doesn't want sex. Maybe it's someone who isn't interested in living together or becoming part of your circle of friends which is something you value greatly. Maybe that potential partner just wants to see you once a week, or maybe every day. Maybe they want you to go to their church and agree with your politics. It just sounds like we generally want someone who is either perfect or perfect for us. Me? I would love a punk rock fan who is naturally fit, doesn't complain incessantly about shit they can't control, is a flaming liberal who doesn't watch political shows, but enjoys philosophical discussions over a little weed while pausing the movie we're watching together after I've cooked a nice meal. That doesn't seem crazy to me, but there are more than a few folks out there who consider my wishes to include some of those dreaded red flags. Weed? Hell, no. Punk Rock? Noise. Physically Fit? But what if I have a bad knee Movies? Boring. Eating in? But I love going out Wanting someone perfect makes sense. We're all here in the backstretch of our lives without a partner. For either good or sad reasons. Things haven't worked out like we hoped. But we want that really great partner who helps us feel good about ourselves and life in general. We want someone that just fits in to all of our ways. We want it because time it tight and we DESERVE it. Besides, who doesn't want everything perfect. It's perfectly normal to want it all. I read all the red flag alerts, whether it's a guy whose shoes are too dirty or a woman who still has kids living at home with her or there are a few extra pounds or there is a health issue – mental or physical. Too many pillows on the bed or too many cats or dogs. There might be strange or just unusual hobbies/habits. Then there is our need to avoid any repeat of their previous relationship. Like me. My Ex has OCD. I can't do that again. It was rough, but I accepted that part of life with her with zero complaints. But oh man...not again. So we build that list of “requirements” in our heads and swipe depending on the perceptions created from chance meetings, awkward first dates or just poorly written profiles. There are poor candidates no matter how you slice it, but we squeeze the pool of possibilities and eliminate others based on our exhaustion with issues. I'm not suggesting there is a solution. No. I'm suggesting we all slow down. If you're anything like me you know that you're not perfect. I think what I really want is someone sincere. Who communicates their affection for me. Who appreciates my golden attributes and helps shine and scrub some of my tarnished aspects. Not broken parts, just damaged, marred. Are any of us pristine? I guess I'm complaining about our attitudes. We are truly perplexed when we get ghosted or someone continually changes directions. We shouldn't be. Every single time someone smiles at me or ignores me I give it way too much credit. I'm not outwardly desperate, but I really want someone fun and cool and laid back because I need that to get through the week. So while we all have that specific red flag, we should forgive others for their awkwardness, their lack of skill selling themselves and their not unexpected insecurities. Assess, decide and move on. But be kind about it and be kind to yourself while you search because it all starts with you and the golden rule. Thanks for reading, I love to write and thought that this one was shareable.
|
datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
Fitting into another persons life.
| null | 0.96 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/11mszum/fitting_into_another_persons_life/
|
TheGhostOfCamus
|
2024-08-14 21:49:27
| 1,723,672,167 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1esds68
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 8 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1esds68/i_feel_frustrated_and_clueless/
| 1 |
Let’s call this girl: Lauren Hi Yall, I 25M made a strange choice but it felt like the risk was worth it at the time. So, I asked a girl I work with for a date and she said “No, right now isn’t a good time”. She also told me earlier in the conversation that she didn’t have a boyfriend. I try forgetting about it but obviously from then on, there’s this slight bit of tension and energy between us. So naturally, I low key flirt with her, make her laugh and she would also respond to it in a nice way. But she was clear that she wasn’t ready for dating or anything. However, slowly the energy dies down and my patience kinda runs away. I ask her out again to see it she has changed her mind but the answer was still the same. I forget about it completely now as I understand that she isn’t interested. However, fast forward 3 weeks and then she video calls me and invites me to the pub for drinks with our other coworkers. I went, we flirt again etc nothing happens. I was trying not to act on asking her out anymore and let things go where it takes us. 3-4 times again, she invites me to the pub with my other coworkers. Thing is I have no interest in hanging out with my coworkers as they’re simply not my type of crowd but whatever hangouts I have done with them, it was because she would ask me and that she would be there. One day she asks me out to the pub, again with the coworkers 🤦, and I go again, but this time all the coworkers leave and it’s just me and her. I buy her drinks, she buys me a round and then we play a bit of snooker and then we go to a restaurant and talk and had fun and laughed a lot. I walked her to her house and left thinking that maybe now things have turned around. “She knows by now that I dislike hanging out with our coworkers” Next day, this time I ask her to the pub and just like I said by now I expressed my disapproval of hanging out with other coworkers . She tells me, I will meet you at the pub at X time and then I wait for her at the pub. I thought she would be alone but there’s another dude from our workplace as well. I proceed to ask him what he was doing there and he says “ X msged on the group chat whether anyone would like to go to the pub”. I felt like an idiot and got upset. I waited for her to come, she came and she could see I was quiet and very upset. I waited for the boy to finish his drink and go for a refill. As soon as he went for a refill, I ask her why she invited him, and she was like I asked everyone in the group chat to come and he showed up. I was like but I asked you only. And she said, we are friends and I wouldn’t want to hang out with you alone and said this is the deal. I told her I am going to finish my drink and leave. And as soon as the boy came back I left. The next morning, she has a sour puss. I was clear in my thinking that if this is what she wants then it’s okay. Why make myself uncomfortable by chasing a girl that clearly wants to stay friends and keeps on making me hangout with her friends. I was quite, she was quite. Suddenly she asks me if I would like to go to the pub again. I asked her “whether it was just her alone or her friends too”. She says “my friends as well”. I was like no thanks. She comes back to me and asks me again whether I would like to go, and then I say “ I will go but I am only coming for you”. I go to the pub with them her and 7 other co workers. I sat with her and started talking and she complained that yesterday when I left abruptly with the boy in the pub, she didn’t liked that as she came for me. And I said, it doesn’t matter because I told you multiple times, I don’t want to hang out with your friends and we cannot stay friends as well. And she was like, if that’s the case it may not work out as I would like to stay friends before dating and giving someone a chance. I was like fair enough, but that’s not for me as I can’t keep going out with her friends anymore. She gets quiet and tells me “ I really like you, I do, but I like someone more”… I was like who? She says her ex. I ask whether you guys are still dating or something and she laughs and says no. As soon as the conversation was going somewhere, one of her stupid friends came and sat infront of us and asks us what we are discussing. P.S everyone by now where I work knows about us because she told this girl in the very beginning that I had feelings for her when I first asked her out. I told the girl to go back because we were having a conversation and give us some space. Two other blokes starts to tease me, saying “bro, you can’t get her. Get the hint. Move on. That my shorts were gay and that I should install tinder etc” meanwhile all of them are laughing thinking it’s all a big fat joke. I got quite and upset and really angry at them. I tell the two blokes “ to shut the fuck up” in real anger and then took my jacket and went out of the pub. Girl I like comes running towards me and consoles me and tells me you can’t be doing that, they were only joking. I told her, “ I told you so many times, I don’t want to hang out with them”. She sticks to her “well being friends first is important to me”. We have a disjointed conversation and she says that she will think about it or some crap and then her friends come from the pub and says sorry to me. I leave. Fast forward to now, she doesn’t text me anymore but still talks to me at work and maintains her stance “that you hate everyone” and that it was you who told me that we can’t be friends. She smiles and looks at me all fucking day but her stance remains the same whenever we speak. Moral of the story: Try to not ask your coworker out tbh. It’s not worth it. Feels like I wasted a lot of time honestly! Thoughts and advice??
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I feel frustrated and clueless!
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1esds68/i_feel_frustrated_and_clueless/
|
like-a-sloth
|
2024-04-17 18:29:55
| 1,713,378,595 | 0 |
['OLD']
| 0 |
1c6hbxc
| true |
Question
| 44 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1c6hbxc/quote_the_best_first_message_that_youve_received/
| 5 |
I'm interested to see specific quote to know how other women are introducing themselves.
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Quote the best first message that you've received from women on OLD.
| 4 | 0.61 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1c6hbxc/quote_the_best_first_message_that_youve_received/
|
junebug2100
|
2019-12-18 14:56:16
| 1,576,680,976 | null |
['OLD', 'hinge']
| 0 |
ecdnqc
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ecdnqc/fake_profiles/
| 0 |
Lately the only people to carry a conversation with me on OLD have turned out to be fake accounts. I have been using Hinge. Are some apps more prone to fake/catfish scams? FYI, I did a reverse image scan on one and came up as an actor, one I was pretty sure was an actor and one flipped out when I went to leave the conversation for the day(misspellings, not too aware of attractions in his home town, awkward questions).
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Fake Profiles?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ecdnqc/fake_profiles/
|
WittyPianist1038
|
2024-07-25 20:47:01
| 1,721,940,421 | 0 |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1ec5k0y
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ec5k0y/how_do_i_keep_them_interested/
| 0 |
Hia, I'm a single man in his mid 20''s, I'm not Adonis on earth but I'm a decent looking human I like to think and as such I do get a few matches on dating apps. I havnt been able to actualize many of them and I think I know the reason why. I'm painfuly awkward with strangers especially when I have hopes about getting closer to them either as friends or in a relaitjonship. I was wondering if somone could advise me on how to talk to women over text in a way that at least has them agree to a date or not ghost me. More often than not when we're conversing it turns into a game of 20 questions. (Eg where do you work what do you do for fun what music do you listen to) which I get is unappealing but I'm just so lost on how to drive a conversaition forward. If anyone could give me some tips I'd be all ears
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do I keep them interested
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ec5k0y/how_do_i_keep_them_interested/
|
[deleted]
|
2011-10-02 05:28:38
| 1,317,533,318 | 0 |
['plentyoffish', 'okcupid']
| null |
ky4v2
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ky4v2/nailed_my_first_date_in_years_and_clueless_on/
| 3 |
Okay, so here's the story of moi... About to turn 31 year old male. Never been very successful with women. Haven't had a lot of relationships. Longest ones actually only lasted a little over a month. This is when I was younger, around 22-24. Lived out west, had all my successes there, then moved back to the east coast of Canada. Lived with parents for the next few years, until only managing to get financially secure enough again to move out and share a condo with my sister. During this time I had no success with women, went up to 240 pounds, and was Forever Alone. At the start of this year, I made 5 resolutions: Quit smoking, lose weight, move out, get a better job and start dating (or at least get some action). Since then I've accomplished most of those goals... I've recently dropped down to 199, I got a new place, I met a nice girl on OKCupid for a while... So I'd been still working hard to accomplish more. I exchanged a few intermittent emails with a girl on Plentyoffish, about to turn 32 year old female. She didn't have a picture, and her profile was pretty short, but she had Netflix and a love of ranting mentioned so I rolled the dice and messaged her. She always seemed pleased to answer me back over just a few messages, but her delays were so long that I'd thought she ignored me... Until her last message had her new phone number in New Brunswick. (She was in the process of moving from out west as well.) I called her this afternoon, and after a 40 minute call we made plans to meet up for drinks this night. I'd already taken the time ahead to look up local bands playing online so I wouldn't be totally caught off guard, so I already had a suggestion for a folk rock kind of bar (which she loved). We met there at a quarter after 9, as she took a cab and I drove. I'd already seen her pictures on Facebook, as she'd asked to friend me right after the call, but I was amazed to see that she was even prettier than I'd thought. I'd been to this bar a few times and had a few stories about the place, so when we ordered our beers I already knew where to take her. We went to the back and stole the leather loveseat before anyone else... And we stayed there for over three hours, talking the whole time. It went great. She loved to make fun of herself, and she laughed at all of my jokes. I didn't want to appear like the shy old me, so I just forced myself to keep going, although it wasn't hard. She liked to talk too, so the conversation flowed easily all night long. I was already starting to get some strong suspicions that she was into me... As absolutely foreign and bizarre as the idea seems the rest of the time, but which I successfully ignored. We sat right next to each other on the loveseat, with our shoulders and legs bumped together, for most of the time. I didn't get self-conscious or shrink back, thankfully. She seemed very relaxed and at ease, and she seemed to play with her hair quite a bit and leaned in close to talk to me. She'd rest her hands on my arm or knee as we talked. At a quarter after 12, having hardly paid attention to the band at all the whole night, I drove her home instead of having her call a taxi. She had a lot of stuff to do with her family the next day and was ready to go. We pulled into her parking lot, with the light off in the car, and she leaned over after unbuckling to give me a kiss on the cheek... I was feeling particularly bold after all the contact from earlier, as I had assured myself that she liked me. So before I knew it I moved my mouth over and gave her a kiss on the lips back. And she was into it! Yeah. Nailed it like a boss. She kissed me back for a minute, nothing with tongues or filthy like that. Seeing as she lives with her parents while she gets settled in, and we were right there in their driveway. She smiled at me as she backed out of the car, apologized she wouldn't be around next weekend (friends wedding), and said that when she got back we could 'mutually celebrate our birthdays.' (Her birthday is actually the day AFTER mine, coming up soon.) So yeah. Now I'm back home, and I'm moved past the 'high on endorphins' stage to the 'worrying paranoia crash' stage. I like this girl. She's funny and charming, and she mysteriously thinks I am too. I get worried about stuff, though... How she's working for nonprofits and stuff while I'm working in a tech support center with vague ambitions to go back to school in a couple years. How she's traveled overseas and lived across Canada, and I've only left the country once to see Ohio. Or how she's a Harvard graduate while I've only managed to be a college drop-out. I'm not even sure what little things to do next... When should I text her or send her a FB message next? If I already did live music, what's a good place to go to next? Especially in chilly fall weather. If I should get her something for her birthday, even if it's something small? I'm amazed I managed to fake being cool and witty and collected for one evening as it is. That was because I prepared myself. Is there any advice for how I should prepare next? TL;DR: Had a great evening with a girl I worry is out of my league, FB friended, closed the night with kisses, both our birthdays up soon. Not sure what the right step is to take next.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Nailed my first date in years... And clueless on where to go next.
| 3 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ky4v2/nailed_my_first_date_in_years_and_clueless_on/
|
tmbgenjoyer
|
2023-12-16 03:05:45
| 1,702,695,945 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
18jhnz3
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/18jhnz3/how_to_make_sure_youre_not_annoying_them/
| 1 |
Met someone I really click with on a dating app a few weeks ago and were texting every day up until this week because they're busy with finals and we havent been talking as frequently, I don't wanna annoy them or come off as clingy but i really enjoy talking to them and sometimes they'll send me a how are you or good morning text but I definitely wanna try to stay in contact and not let this slip away because I really like them and they seem to be into me too, maybe I'm just overthinking it bcoz I've been out of the dating game for seven years and don't know how you're supposed to come off 💀 I guess what I'm asking is how do I make sure the conversations don't die out and sustain the weird flirty situation we have going without annoying them with hellos every few days, even though they do the same.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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How to make sure you're not annoying them
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18jhnz3/how_to_make_sure_youre_not_annoying_them/
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Jacob_obo
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2017-04-05 04:16:57
| 1,491,365,817 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
63jd95
| null | null | 2 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/63jd95/help_me_figure_this_girl_out/
| 1 |
I met a beautiful girl on tinder (don't judge). I asked her out to coffee and she said yes. Right before we were supposed to meet she postponed and suggested just meeting at her place instead. This was surprising to me since her bio said she wasn't looking for hookups but I went with it. I went to her place and we talked for about an hour, watched a movie, and made out for an hour and a half of so. We didn't have sex but we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. She said she wanted me to stay all night but she had to get up early for work so I left. I text her the next day saying I had fun and wanted to see her again. She suggests a time for two days later but cancels at the last minute. I was bummed but the next day she says "im looking forward to seeing you." I suggest meeting up again that week but she cancels at the last minute again and reschedules for the weekend. She doesn't respond to any of my messages that day when I ask what time she wanted to meet up. She finally responds at 10 at night saying that she had a stressful day and had to leave town. She said she was very sorry for canceling again. 2 am rolls by and she texts me saying "I wish I could have seen you tonight." The whole time I'm thinking to myself....WTF?? I tell her to text me when she wants to hang out again. Heard nothing since for 3 days. What is going on??? She cancelled 3 times but rescheduled each one but the last. She tells me how she wants to see me and wishes I was with her. How am I supposed to interpret this and what should I do? I really want to see her again. Constructive advice is appreciated.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Help me figure this girl out
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/63jd95/help_me_figure_this_girl_out/
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aguywithtattoos
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2020-04-08 10:33:17
| 1,586,341,997 | null |
['swipe', 'dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0 |
fx46io
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/fx46io/i23m_am_having_trouble_with_flirting_and_dating/
| 2 |
Hi, I’m(23M) having trouble with flirting with women in person and on dating apps. A few things about me. I have roughly 20% of my body tattooed, beard, facial piercings and have my ears stretched past an inch and a half so my dating options aren’t exactly as broad as most. Other than that I’m told I’m relatively good looking(7/10). I have low self confidence that stems back to being regularly bullied and sexually assaulted as a teen, which resulted in me having anxiety, depression. All I’ve ever wanted even as a child is someone to love and love me back. I’ve been using dating apps for about 3 years. After about a year of using tinder I had the misfortune of finding out an ex of mine had died, possibly murdered. I completely shut down for a few weeks. Took months to get to a productive level of doing really anything. To this fucking day I am not over it. When I got to the point where I started doing things again I got back into the dating apps and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. Like I was so disconnected that I forgot how to flirt or even hold a conversation. Anyways, I’m currently stuck in quarantine due to COVID19 so I’ve been using it more often. Honestly I swipe on everyone. I’m extremely lonely so even if I’m not attracted to them I still talk to them because I long for conversation. I’ve got maybe 4 or 5 women on my Snapchat that I’m interested in but I have no idea if they’re interested in me or even want to talk to me anymore. I’m really looking for any advice when it comes to flirting and talking on dating apps. How should I message them first? How do I know she’s into me? If she leaves me on read, should I message her again/ how long should I wait before I message her again? Any help is appreciated. Thank you.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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I(23M) am having trouble with flirting and dating apps
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/fx46io/i23m_am_having_trouble_with_flirting_and_dating/
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Exotic_Broccoli9327
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2023-11-30 06:48:17
| 1,701,326,897 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
187c93o
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/187c93o/should_i_propose_when_we_meet_for_the_first_time/
| 1 |
Hi everybody So recently I have found success in on online dating. I'm from California and I met a girl from New York. After about 2 months of chatting we've started get fairly serious about being together. Due to funds and some personal family issues with her, we have scheduled a trip to New York for myself in February. Another solid 3 months tops away. She is very serious about marriage in general, as am I. We are also form too different worlds. I'm a store manager and she is farmer. I have told her though that I am widely open to going into farming woth her if we were to get married. She reacted as of she was super relieved and very happy with the idea of us farming together after marriage. So I ask you guys this, does she want me to propose before I go home the first time we meet? Should I. I personally have thought, that if things go well, I'll go back to New York a month or two after and propose. Is that the better option. Or do you think she will be disappointed if I don't propose at our first meeting? Thank you guys for reading and answering
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Should I propose when we meet for the first time or should I wait til the second time?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/187c93o/should_i_propose_when_we_meet_for_the_first_time/
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throwaway37472737367
|
2020-05-04 15:50:55
| 1,588,607,455 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
gde1ir
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/gde1ir/help_with_this_girl/
| 1 |
So we matched two days ago but didn't really have time to talk. Last night we did and we had a great text conversation I think we vibed really well. She's pretty religious and I'm trying to find god still but she says that's okay but we did talk about God and some of our life goals last night but everything just felt so good and so efforless. No one sided conversations like I'm used to. I want to tell her I'm interested in seeing how things go with us but I feel it might be too early as I'm always told to be friends first before I try and date. So should I bring up that I'm interested to see how things go and if I should how should I do it?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Help with this girl?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gde1ir/help_with_this_girl/
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