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1manontherun52
|
2018-02-27 18:53:43
| 1,519,757,623 | null |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
80ozth
| false | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/80ozth/snap_chat_filters/
| 1 |
I mean WTF? Maybe girls who are 8 to 20 yes. I’ve recently got myself on to the dating sites and I only chat to girls in my age range (im 36) and it seems that every 3rd girl has a dog ears, bunny rabbit ears, puppy dog eyes or noses? I can just about tolerate random stars on someone’s head, but really? Guys are looking to women, not pitches for a new Disney Pixar movie 😂 Rant over
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Snap chat filters?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/80ozth/snap_chat_filters/
|
Only_Technician_379
|
2024-03-25 14:21:46
| 1,711,376,506 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
1bnew7h
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1bnew7h/is_there_something_i_can_do_better/
| 1 |
I'm a 27M who has been single for 6 years and is honestly over the dating app bs. I just want to meet someone and have a good connection and maybe meet my person who I will marry... idk please give your advice
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Is there something i can do better..
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1bnew7h/is_there_something_i_can_do_better/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-05-28 13:56:09
| 1,401,285,369 | 0 |
['online dating', 'tinder']
| 0 |
26p1fw
| null | null | 6 | null |
/r/dating/comments/26p1fw/18m_i_am_going_on_a_date_with_a_18f_i_met_over/
| 4 |
Hey guys well started talking to this girl and have been for about 3 weeks only just asked her because of exams and everything that's happened atm which she was cool with. It seems to be hitting off pretty well we skype a bit which always lasts into the early hours of the morning, laughing and talking about anything and everything without it being awkward what so ever which I thought was good considering the awks stories I hear. Anyway recently just started receiving the "xx" ";)" and what not, which she never did to start with before talking on skype so pretty sure that's a positive (you guys are probably banging ur heads against a wall thinking I'm hopeless at this but bare with me please haha) But yeah I'm just nervous that I won't meet her expectations in regards to nearly everything (height, build, looks) I mean she has seen me in pictures and all on FB and stuff but I feel that I look totally different to what I look like in a photo. I'm not at all nervous talking to her and all just nervous that I won't meet her expectations so yeah that pretty much sums it up. if u could mention possibly any ways of getting over this nervousness I would like to hear it because it's all I'm thinking about atm. (Reading over it I sound like a psycho but who cares :p ) Thanks guys :)
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
(18M) I am going on a date with a 18F I met over tinder (online dating thing). Overcoming nervousness of appearance?
| 4 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/26p1fw/18m_i_am_going_on_a_date_with_a_18f_i_met_over/
|
askj219
|
2022-08-19 08:01:34
| 1,660,896,094 | null |
['dating app', 'hinge']
| 0 |
ws862x
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ws862x/pulled_back_after_4_dates_but_had_just_said_he/
| 2 |
I (22/F) went on 4 great dates with someone (26/M) I met on Hinge. We’d text nearly daily, but more so in a one or two text a day check-in. Kissed after each date (gradually getting more passionate), easy conversation. He initiated dates 1-3 but I was always very enthusiastic—he just didn’t give me a chance/time to be the one to initiate until date 4 On date 4 he sprinkled throughout how he really enjoys our time together/can’t wait until next time/inquired about my availability the following weekend. At the very end he reiterates he wants to take things slow, but really likes me and definitely wants to get together in the next week (it was RIGHT as we said bye where I didn’t follow up about the slow piece. But I’d have been fine with slow to define the relationship, as I just enjoy our time). So, two days later (Tuesday) I follow up about seeing each other Saturday. He asks a clarifying question but doesn’t agree; on Friday I ask his thoughts and add so I can finish planning my weekend. He immediately replies and apologizes for the delay; had family plans pop up but suggested early the following week. Only Monday would work for me because of travel plans, but I also offer a nebulous “or touch base when I’m back”. He enthusiastically picks Monday and I ask a planning question. Annnnnnnnd then never replied to that planning question about Monday. Did have time to update his dating app though Monday night I say something… how I realize he wanted to go slow but I’m going to assume the lack of communication means he’s no longer interested, that would’ve been good to know, a friendly best of luck. He replies immediately and apologizes, acknowledges his lack of communication, says he’s had too much on his plate, says he hadn’t been looking for anything serious (I was upset he assumed I was without asking… I’m a busy PhD student and don’t want to rush towards a relationships but rather was enjoying the dates and seeing how things would go—was totally fine with going slow and casual. He closes with hopefully we can still be friends. I end with that if he felt any pressure I hope it wasn’t from me, because I’m also unsure of my goals right now. But I enjoyed our time together, and hope to still be friends. 1- I realize my texting approach could’ve been different. Maybe I should’ve checked in first of —“clearly something is up, you ok? I’m sorry to hear that, but communicating what you need (space/time) would’ve been helpful.” BUT—was my approach ok? 2- relating to 1, I regret I might’ve been aggressive. Can I do anything else at this point? I almost get the feeling he scared HIMSELF off.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Pulled back after 4 dates, but had just said he really likes me?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ws862x/pulled_back_after_4_dates_but_had_just_said_he/
|
aceRocknut
|
2013-07-24 04:00:01
| 1,374,638,401 | 0 |
['dating sites', 'pof']
| 0 |
1ixnh8
| null | null | 14 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ixnh8/gotta_start_dating_again_where_do_you_find_the/
| 0 |
I have tried pof and match but I cant find the tattooed and pierced type. I know there are girls who fit the suicide girl description out there, just cant find them on any dating sites. maybe Im missing something but that girl with the dolphin tattoo who is planning another soon isn't going to cut it anymore.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
gotta start dating again, where do you find the suicide girl type?
| 0 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ixnh8/gotta_start_dating_again_where_do_you_find_the/
|
Perlzzy
|
2019-01-07 06:07:07
| 1,546,841,227 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
adeskb
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/adeskb/is_he_not_interested_anymore/
| 3 |
I (F29) Matched with a guy (38) a few days ago and we hit it off really well. He was smart, funny, and a great conversationalist. By the end of our text conversation he asked my availability to meet up. He didn’t respond to my availability text for another 24 hours. He said the days/times didn’t work for him and asked about evenings during the week. Gave him a response, then again the next day he texts apologizing saying he was in a boring meeting all day as an excuse for not texting back and asked if we could figure it out a time to meet over the weekend. I say sure, give me a call and we’ll figure something out. But of course I didn’t hear from him all weekend. Should I just move on? I believe that initiation should be somewhat shared, so should I reach out to him to see if he’d still like to meet? Will it come off as desperate since I’m trying to meet up with someone who doesn’t stick to their word/doesn’t do what they say they’ll do? Is this a glimpse of what it’d be like with him in something more serious, so better to forget about it? Or is this a situation that needs a little nudge? Help!
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is he not interested anymore?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/adeskb/is_he_not_interested_anymore/
|
LostInSales
|
2019-12-29 15:35:38
| 1,577,633,738 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
eh77n7
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/eh77n7/i_25m_caught_feels_for_my_fwb_25f_told_her_id_be/
| 4 |
Some quick background. -Matched on tinder -Said she was looking to actually date, not just hookup which turned out to be true, we didn’t hookup until 4th date -Went on a few dates but she had some sort of breakdown and decided she wasn’t in a good place to date (family related stuff plus going through end stages of divorce with her ex hubby multi year divorce process they’ve been separated for a while -Fast forward like a week we establish to be FWB. -We text each other almost daily for a little more than 3 months. -When she’s drunk she texts me/ calls me wanting to see me -we also actually hangout sometimes without having sex -This goes on a couple months and I decide to just ask if she’s open to try dating again cause I like her and want to see where it goes Below is a copy paste of her response (I’m traveling for vacation couldn’t wait another week to ask her in person) “I really like you too LostInSales. I'm down to keep hanging out and seeing where things go. I really don't want to rush into anything but I really enjoy your company. You make me laugh and we always have a good time. Vamos a ver que pasa 🖤 “ So should I take this as a sign to try to take her on actual dates now or stick to our usual get drunk with our separate friends and meet up later in the night ritual ? My biggest guess right now is she’s gonna keep dating and I may just be in her rotation of guys she’s gonna see. Which I’m not into. But hey can’t blame her, maybe I should do the same ? I happen to see she reactivated her tinder recently (she deleted it after our little fall out) so that gives me some hesitation to take this more serious. Then again I also gave her 0 indication I was interested in anything more than a FWB relationship until today. I guess my issue is I get jealous easily, so I know if I find out she’s seeing other guys I’ll get upset. But again, maybe I should be seeing other people too ? What do ?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I (25M) caught feels for my FWB (25F). Told her I'd be interested to date more seriously, is here response genuine or is she stringing me along?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/eh77n7/i_25m_caught_feels_for_my_fwb_25f_told_her_id_be/
|
cathode_irradiated
|
2016-02-07 08:12:47
| 1,454,832,767 | 0 |
['tinder', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
44kpvb
| null | null | 17 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/44kpvb/really_struggling_to_stay_positive_about_finding/
| 14 |
Hey everyone. I'm 25/m and doing my undergrad at university. I'm really struggling to stay positive about dating. I've been trying to find a partner for the last five and a half years and have had no luck. I don't mean no luck with finding a long term partner, I mean no luck at all - nothing's ever progressed past a hug in terms of intimacy nor am I friends with anybody. I admit I'm pretty shy, so I havn't approached many people in person and the ones I did have all been people that were classmates I would be working with anyway. And by approach I mean simply try to get to know them outside of class, coffee before an exam, a movie during the mid-semester break etc. It wasn't (or at least I wouldn't think) lecherous in any way. I've been using okcupid for years but it occurred to me that I've never even met anybody off the website - those that reply frequently just stop responding. I've tried other dating websites and met with slightly more success in terms of meeting people, but that was before Tinder became popular - the last year has been pretty pointless, to the extent that I completely stopped signing in to some of them to see who was new and interesting. I've also had no luck with Tinder, which doesn't seem to be terribly useful for finding non-flings anyway. It all feels like a giant waste of time and all signs point to me not being even friendship material, let alone boyfriend material. So I don't know what to do anymore. If I was to see somebody try and fail for nearly 6 years in a career I'd probably ask if they'd considered doing something else for a living. I don't even know what kind of advice to ask for here, because I don't really see what else I can do, but I'm beginning to feel sub-human, seeing people around me happily go about their lives - going from partner to partner as if it's completely natural. Thanks for reading.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Really struggling to stay positive about finding a partner.
| 14 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/44kpvb/really_struggling_to_stay_positive_about_finding/
|
BombusPolaris
|
2020-04-10 02:46:14
| 1,586,486,774 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
fy6mou
| true | null | 178 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/fy6mou/has_anyone_ever_felt_like_theyre_just_stuck_in/
| 325 |
I’ve (32F) typically always had a serious boyfriend. My last boyfriend and I broke up just about a year and a half ago, and honestly I can’t quite put a finger on why....except that I think he realized we weren’t compatible before I did. I also think we had extremely different communication styles. Since then, I’ve tried really hard to invest in myself, become the person I want to be but also attract the right kind of person - someone who I’m compatible with. I don’t have a picture of an ideal partner in my head but obviously it aligns with the things I spend doing myself : reading, working out, crafting new skills, staying involved etc etc I don’t do dating apps, I just am not a very patient person haha, but I am extremely outgoing and social and probably considered conventionally attractive. But for some reason no matter what I do I just feel blocked, from being able to either find the person or even potentially put myself out there enough. It feels like, you know when you’re trying to lose weight and you just have that last 10lbs but of course it’s the hardest to lose. Does anyone else feel like this? That you’re just currently stuck in the waiting room? I’m trying to level up but I don’t know how! And yeah I know life’s not a game but I’m a firm believer there’s always something I can be / should be doing. What am I missing - or do I just have to wait.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Has anyone ever felt like they’re just stuck in the waiting room?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/fy6mou/has_anyone_ever_felt_like_theyre_just_stuck_in/
|
Nayshhh
|
2017-09-29 00:40:40
| 1,506,645,640 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
734dqz
| false | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/734dqz/should_i_message_this_girl_again/
| 1 |
I met this girl about 6 weeks ago on tinder. Shes an au pair and only in the country for 8 months. We hit off straight away, got her snapchat, snapped eachother all day everyday. Met her twice, first one went on a date and second time she asked me out to go clubbing with her and her friends. Both time went well, we got very close, made out, held hands etc.. she told me she liked me and hopes us is going somewhere good. a couple days after she got distant and less responsive to my snaps but she always replied though. I asked her what was wrong then we had a full on convo, she said that she didnt know what she wants and initially said we should stop seeing eachother. I stopped talking to her for a week, then i sent her a playful snap which led to a back to back snaps for 3 days. So i thought id asked her out again, she said she was babysitting. Stopped talking to her again for another week. Again sent her another snap, we messaged eachother that whole day. Again i asked her out jokingly thought she would say no. Then she hits me with the " i like you but this is just too much for me. Im leaving the country soon and it will be too hard". I told her that we could try make it work blah blah blah... or if she didnt really want to i asked her to block me from sc cuz ill probably message her again. She didnt reply to that and she didnt block me on sc either Havent talked to her in 5 days. Really want to message her again, i feel like shes just put her guard up to protect herself from getting hurt. Girls advice?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should i message this girl again?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/734dqz/should_i_message_this_girl_again/
|
beegesound
|
2024-07-20 21:09:19
| 1,721,509,759 | 0 | null | 0 |
1e85pgf
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1e85pgf/unmatched_after_steamy_first_date/
| 2 |
35 M feeling quite deflated right now. Went on a first date with a girl off Hinge last night. Date lasted four hours across two different venues. She complimented my appearance at start, there was strong eye contact, smiling, I offered my arm to her between venues but she took my hand. I put my arm over her at second venue, she didn’t appear uncomfortable, eventually went in for a kiss and we made out at different intervals at the venue. I just went for it and asked her if she wanted to come back to mine for a drink but she had an event on today she wanted to feel fresh for (I knew about this event before the date) and I respected it and wasn’t pushy about it. We made out further and then called it a night. Got the same train as each other and briefly made out again before she got off the train at her stop. Messaged her this morning asking how she was and heard nothing all day. Checked Hinge this evening and she was gone…..
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Unmatched After Steamy First Date
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1e85pgf/unmatched_after_steamy_first_date/
|
VoidOfEndlessDark
|
2023-09-19 20:41:21
| 1,695,156,081 | 0 | null | 0 |
16n1spa
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/16n1spa/new_to_dating_online_and_have_some_questions/
| 1 |
Hey everyone sorry if this is against the norm for context I’m a mid 20s male that uses Facebook Dating. 1. I guess my first question is what’s considered a normal response? Like in past relationships my exes demanded that I respond as soon as they message me. If I didn’t they’d start getting upset saying I didn’t care about them. I’m trying to see if I should expect that on dating apps or if I can relax that most won’t do that. 2. On Facebook there’s this thing that pops up when someone reads or sees your message if they don’t reply should I ask a follow up question or is that seen as being needy and desperate for interaction? I feel like there’s another word for it… insecure? 3. If I or the person I match with types out a long message if I can’t or if they can’t respond when they see it is reacting to the message with a 👍 or a ❤️ acceptable and if it is what does it mean? 4. When I run out of things to ask them, how do I continue a good conversation without seeming boring or indecisive on what else to go on a topic about? Thanks for helping if you can, I really am having a good time talking to a certain individual so I don’t want to do anything off putting.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
New to dating online and have some questions.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/16n1spa/new_to_dating_online_and_have_some_questions/
|
winlessplayer
|
2019-05-11 00:12:58
| 1,557,533,578 | null |
['swipe', 'swiped']
| 0 |
bn5szf
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/bn5szf/how_aware_is_everybody_of_the_prerelationship/
| 1 |
Like you know, a woman wants to be treated like she matters like she is someone, not just a number, not just a good probable shag, someone you spend life with. She probably wants her partner to treat her good, and maybe consider her as a part of his life. Surely if she learns that the guy is using the same lines, the same "tricks", the same conversations with three girls at once she'll stop messaging him, why lose time with a guy that is already seeking something different elsewhere, if he can play that game let him finds whatever he wants... A guy though, what does he want, an answer, he wants to feel like he is charming, like he is interesting. He wants some kind of attraction, as if he was a valious player picked to be the start of this team of two, of this game... But what about the "truth"... how "aware" are people of this little dance. Honey, no ones answer, no one sleeps easily, no ones go on a date, no one wants a second date... you get the gist, how likely do you think tha this guy has never said any of these bollocks to any one else, that he has never shared anything like this, that he isn't just trying to hide his flaws and shows hist best... how likely do you think it is that he has carefully crafter a personnalised message to you and that he never does for anyone that isn't special... how likely is it that he has swiped right only on a handful of girls thinking "she is the one", as soone as there is a "second" swipe, a "second" message, things get automated, and no, you aren't the first, nor the last, it's the game, stop acting like you are so god damn important, you are just another one unti proven otherwise, else the poor guy gets the infatuation takes all over his life and he gets and heartache... Boy, sorry lad, you aren't the "best" or the "one", that girl you swiped on, you messaged, you are chatting with, she could pick in a sea of men, not all of them are good, but are you the most attractive, the funnier, the richer, the whatever, better try to be very good at something, but don't neglect the rest, and being average at all is a failure... she knows you want sex, she knows you want to find someone, any one most likely... until a few years, and then any one again... the window of "wife" material is very close. Receiving one word answer, she got asked the same question three times this week, all to find out that the guy is already a crazy in love weirdo, or just want to lead to sex rapidly, or isn't that smart, isn't that interesting, isnt that nice, that subtle about the sea of other women he has been trying to seduce... People, don't give everyone a chance, but don't forget that we are all pretty much disposable... so the game is nice as it is, let's keep it this way, just the vision of it should shift a little, it's a number game for everyone, on one hand it's sending your job offers to a sea of companies, to the others it's trying to set up the good interview, everyone got nothing and everything to lose in both ways... Useless post, but stop acting so mad or entitled, or bitchy... guys are making efforts, but they make them for all... girls are trying to play fair, but they got too many games to play...
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How "aware" is everybody of the "pre-relationship monogamous" aspect of dating?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/bn5szf/how_aware_is_everybody_of_the_prerelationship/
|
PharmerJoeFx
|
2022-03-23 23:34:18
| 1,648,078,458 | null |
['swipe', 'OLD']
| 0 |
tllgxk
| true | null | 57 | 0 |
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/tllgxk/swipe_left_swipe_right_swipe/
| 18 |
Remember those days before OLD was a thing? If you were serious about finding a suitable partner you actually had to leave the house. You had to shower, shave, dress nice, comb your hair, pluck that one stray nose or eyebrow hair, look in the mirror and wink at yourself 🤣. There were organized dances, your Aunt Sally trying to set you up with the ‘perfect girl’, church gatherings, singles events at the bowling alley, karaoke night, clubs, bars, the book club, the chess club (ok, I’m a nerd 🤓), etc. Yet, with so many options, it required a decent amount of work to even meet a potential long term partner. One would think that after all that work and you finally do meet someone you’re interested in, you would definitely work at turning your chance meeting into a budding romance. Now that OLD is so prevalent (yes, many of those activities mentioned above still exist, but attendance has dropped) and a mainstay of the dating scene, has it become too easy to forget the hard work aspect when you know the next man/woman is a click away? This group has the advantage of living the pre and post OLD experience. If your online date was shy/quiet on your first date would you dismiss any possibilities of romance as quickly as you would in your former years? I have the uncomfortable feeling that I just don’t put the work in like I used to and I want to recognize and change that immediately. Do you feel the overall effort between meeting someone and creating romance with that someone has been diminished by OLD? Are we guilty of subconsciously knowing we can just swipe right again tomorrow?
|
datingoverfifty
|
t5_12ieog
|
Swipe Left, Swipe Right, Swipe.....
| null | 0.92 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/tllgxk/swipe_left_swipe_right_swipe/
|
Infinite-Room7096
|
2022-10-02 18:46:51
| 1,664,736,411 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
xtwfj2
| true | null | 31 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/xtwfj2/is_it_shallow_to_only_date_someone_in_the_same/
| 6 |
I’ve matched on tinder for the first time and while we have the same interests shows we like to watch, the similarities ends there. I’m in my last year of college and I want to get out of this town asap. I didn’t realize before I went on the date that this was his hometown and he was not in college, not even community college. I know everyone has their own plan and college is not for everyone, but is it bad that I want to date someone with similar experiences and goals? Not only that, he does not have a car and normally that wouldn’t be a problem if he lived near campus, but he doesn’t. I realize these factors are out of his control and have nothing to do with personality, but I feel bad that these are my reasons to not progress forward. I haven’t responded to his texts after the date yet and I’m building up the courage to say no to a next date. How do I even say no without being an asshole, this is only the second guy I’ve been on a date with and it’s hard to navigate this. Should I even give a second date another shot or just move on?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Is it shallow to only date someone in the same college as you?
| null | 0.65 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/xtwfj2/is_it_shallow_to_only_date_someone_in_the_same/
|
TarzanGurl26
|
2024-05-31 12:24:00
| 1,717,158,240 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1d4uc12
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 14 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1d4uc12/single_trying_to_find_a_bf/
| 5 |
I 26F am trying to find a boyfriend (I’m a date to marry person not short term). I’ve been single for about 3 years now. Had crushes and talking phases but nothing that turned into a boyfriend these past 3 years. I’m a pretty social person but I find guys don’t really approach women and I don’t like dating apps. Any advice? I frequent the gym, walks outside around parks, I have friend groups but they don’t have anyone to set me up with
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Single trying to find a bf
| 5 | 0.86 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1d4uc12/single_trying_to_find_a_bf/
|
SharpBeyond8
|
2022-10-20 21:26:50
| 1,666,301,210 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
y9ahtj
| true | null | 149 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/y9ahtj/wants_kids_in_her_profile/
| 0 |
I'm 40/M and even when I set a wide age range on the apps, the bulk of my matches are in the 38-42 year old range. Many of them have the option 'want kids' selected. I've dated a decent amount but never had an LTR and while I'm open to kids, I'd like to have a bit of a 'honeymoon period' when I finally start dating someone without pressure to rush to have kids. Thus, I'd prefer someone a bit younger (like early 30s) ideally.. Given the age of these women, and my situation, is it best not to try and date them? I don't want to waste their time, if they're late 30s/early 40s and still hoping to have kids...
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
"Wants kids" in her profile
| null | 0.36 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/y9ahtj/wants_kids_in_her_profile/
|
Silly-Ad9002
|
2024-09-22 16:45:45
| 1,727,023,545 | 0 |
['matches', 'OLD']
| 0 |
1fmxo3z
| true |
Question ❓
| 14 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1fmxo3z/how_many_matches_do_you_get_from_old/
| 2 |
Just started my account and wondering what it can be like
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How many matches do you get from OLD?
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1fmxo3z/how_many_matches_do_you_get_from_old/
|
doonerbl
|
2023-06-29 18:18:49
| 1,688,062,729 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
14mc9c8
| true | null | 21 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/14mc9c8/online_dating_advice/
| 3 |
So I live in Central Illinois and the pickings are pretty slim. I’ve got a graduate degree and am by any measure pretty active, so two of my key requirements are 1) be somewhat intellectual curious and 2) do things. These seem to be insurmountable barriers. I idly set up a match account and, with expectations low, put almost no effort into my profile. Then low and behold someone I am interested in pops up. I did something stupid. I sent a quick message having forgotten that my profile had all the appeal of a place holder. No response. In fairness, I would not have replied. Is sending a second message cringe? Is it worth it? What would you all do? Again in my 50 mile radius I’m not exactly presented with multitudes.
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datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Online dating advice
| 3 | 0.72 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/14mc9c8/online_dating_advice/
|
HieiYouki
|
2019-04-19 09:28:05
| 1,555,666,085 | null |
['matched', 'dating app', 'tinder']
| 0 |
bex6xv
| true | null | 85 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/bex6xv/want_to_vent_my_23m_last_date_with_a_girl_22f/
| 326 |
So actually I'm not mad at all, I found it all kinda funny but I still want to write about it. Edit: Regarding the purpose of this post, is simply for me to write about my experience and talk about it with someone. I'm not trying to shame her, although I realize this post MAY put her in a bad light, but it's anonymous it's not like anyone knows who I or she is and I'm simply telling what happened as it is. Anyway, I have never been in a relation ship. And I've barely been on any dates at all in my life. So I tried Tinder and matched with a girl who is 22 who was looking for a serious relationship. I'm looking for a relationship too, so I thought what the heck and she was kinda pretty. I kinda knew from the start that it probably won't work out (due to reasons I'll list below). But I basically went in just to get a bit more dating experience, and kinda get over my fear step by step by talking to girls. The warning signs were huge, first of all even on Tinder she'd say stuff like "If you really want to meet me, then make an effort to come to ME", on the same day we matched she wanted me to come over and when I said I can't today, she'd start questioning me as if I owe her something. Not that bad, but you know considering we just met in a DATING APP and there's already tension, that's a really bad sign. Anyhow, we chatted a bit more and agreed to meet a few days later (after some back and fourth). On the day we were supposed to meet, I messaged her, just to make sure she's ready and will be on time. I was supposed to go meet her somewhere close to where she lives. So I arrive there on time, and after half an hour she doesn't come and I message her. And it goes like this: Me: Earth to Rachel (her name) Her: Sorry I'll be late, I'll be there in 6:30 (we were supposed to meet at 5) Me: Sorry I'm leaving, we both agreed on a specific hour and I even asked you if you can make it TODAY. Her: What if I'll leave the house and get ready now, will you wait for me? So I thought what the heck I already came there, and waited for her another hour like an idiot. She was late in the end by 2 HOURS. Completely disrespecting me and my time. The date itself was fine, she was pretty and even said I look better than in the pictures. So there was some mutual attraction. Personality and hobby wise we were different. But her personality was a bit better and kinder than I thought and she at least apologized for being late, so for a while I actually thought I'd give her a try. Fast forward, we talk on whatsapp after the date. She was interested in getting to know me more and said that we must meet at least 1 time during the week to make it to a serious relation ship and meet 2 times each weekend. So that makes it 3 times in total each week. Now currently in my case I just can't commit that amount of time, I have a full time job and I study part time in a University. So I told her kindly if it's possible to only meet 2 time a week,once during the week and once in the weekend. And I'd be grateful if she can understand. And from there everything exploded and it went something like this: Her: I just don't know what to say... Stop being so hard, you have a car in the weekend and it's not like you have other things to do. You need to put in EFFORT. Me: I'd really appreciate it if you understand, we live somewhat far and driving two times in a row each weekend will be hard for me and I have other responsibilities too. Me: I'm willing to put in effort but I need some understanding from you too. So now it's up to you if you're okay with this. Her: I don't like that you're constantly putting the responsibility on me. If I'm fine with it then great if not then not. Her: I want you to fight over me. I like guys that fight over me. At this point when I heard this voice message, I kinda giggled and decided it's defiantly not going to work. Basically she just outright said she expects me to FIGHT over her. I have SOME self respect and thus I'm not willing to put up with that bull crap. After that I told her I'm not willing to fight over any girl, and that a relationship should be mutual and that we're not at the stone age or a Disney movie. She was pretty dumb founded... Probably she's not used to guys refusing that. She went on some rant on how I'm not capable of loving, and blablabla and it ended in us disagreeing. And she said she couldn't see this work If I'm this way. We both wished each other luck and that was the end of it. But I found that experience kinda funny that she explicitly told me she expected me to chase her or fight over her... Really? Nonetheless, I guess what I gained from that interaction is some more slight confidence talking to girls so it wasn't for nothing.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Want to vent my (23M) last date with a girl (22F) from tinder
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/bex6xv/want_to_vent_my_23m_last_date_with_a_girl_22f/
|
beetle_birch22
|
2024-05-30 22:15:21
| 1,717,107,321 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1d4fwqw
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1d4fwqw/should_i_try_dating_apps_at_18/
| 1 |
So I've never been in a relationship. I always felt like something was wrong with me cause I never dated anyone in high school, not because I didn't want to, I just never really felt that type of way with anyone at my school. I do understand that most high school relationships don't last which has brought me some closure, but I still can't help but feel that I won't find someone. Not soon atleast. I can't drive yet, and I graduated like 5 days ago so I don't have a job either. So should I bother with dating apps?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I try dating apps at 18?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1d4fwqw/should_i_try_dating_apps_at_18/
|
itreallyismyfriend
|
2014-03-17 14:21:55
| 1,395,066,115 | 0 |
['online dating', 'dating sites', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
20mp17
| null | null | 15 | null |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/20mp17/online_dating_and_herpes/
| 9 |
My friend is very hesitant to join okcupid because she has herpes and will only stick to herpes dating sites. However, I find it hard to believe that the okcupid crowd is 100% clean and she shouldn't limit herself, she isn't a leper! lots of people have it. so my question is, has anyone figured out a way to be comfortable with having herpes and online dating? How do you start conversations with guys (/girls) about it? At what point do you have that conversation? Would okcupid be a bad idea?
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
Online Dating and Herpes?
| 9 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/20mp17/online_dating_and_herpes/
|
Nabriales
|
2023-04-05 15:42:58
| 1,680,709,378 | 0 | null | 0 |
12cof52
| true | null | 27 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/12cof52/is_this_a_red_flag_or_am_i_just_an_ahole_for/
| 2 |
ok so I'm a guy and the person I'm talking about is a girl. We matched and within a few days she wanted to exchange phone numbers so we did. After texting for about a week, she said she considers this to be exclusive already. We chatted on the phone, we exchanged social media and her profile looks pretty normal, no nudes or revealing photos with little clothing. As we texted more to learn about each other she shared something that is deeply, deeply private with me which is definitely not something you should share with a guy you just met online. No she did not share nude photos or anything lewd like that. I am also a normal guy who doesn't send weird stuff like that. Her texting style is kinda clingy, as in if I don't reply in a few hours she will ask why I'm slow in replying. And here is the shocking aspect about all this; we have NOT met in person yet which I'm planning to make happen soon. Now I'm just questioning if I wanna go through with this and meet up with her in person at all. Is this normal behaviour or am I just overthinking? I mean, I can imagine a young guy pumped with testosterone who falls in love so fast and behaves like this with a girl he just met online. But is this something that girls do too?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Is this a red flag or am I just an a-hole for thinking so?
| 2 | 0.58 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/12cof52/is_this_a_red_flag_or_am_i_just_an_ahole_for/
|
Lawrence0fALabia
|
2024-02-11 16:47:44
| 1,707,670,064 | 0 |
['matches', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1aocd14
| false |
I Need Advice 😩
| 6 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1aocd14/moral_obligations_as_it_relates_to_dating/
| 3 |
Hello all, I’ve (39M) recently ventured back out into the dating world after taking a long break. It’s been pretty good so far. I decided to pay for Hinge premium because I want to filter women who don’t have/ want kids. I’ve had some great conversations and getting some really quality matches. In the last three days I’ve had three dates with three different women. Today will be four of four. I’ve liked all of them so far for different reasons and would definitely like to see all of them again, and the feeling from all definitely seems mutual. My question is what do you think my moral obligation is in terms of getting physical without having any kind of exclusivity? I’ve never experienced anything like this before and I certainly don’t want to hurt any of these women and hoping you could give me some advice and guidance. Would it be best to continue to date and figure out who might be the one you want to take things further with before sex? Thanks to all who respond, I greatly appreciate your help and wisdom.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Moral obligations as it relates to dating multiple women with no exclusivity
| 3 | 0.81 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1aocd14/moral_obligations_as_it_relates_to_dating/
|
nimo032
|
2024-08-27 17:22:13
| 1,724,779,333 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1f2mq4y
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1f2mq4y/just_venting_a_32yearold_virgin_man_in_spain/
| 1 |
Hey everyone, I wanted to share my situation, not to seek solutions, but simply to express myself and hopefully feel a bit better by getting this off my chest. I'm a 32-year-old virgin man living in Spain. For the past 12 years, I've dedicated my life to work and study, focusing on my career and academic goals. I recently completed my PhD, and while I’ve had opportunities to meet people, I’ve struggled to connect on a deeper level. I’ve always found it difficult to meet new people. I don’t enjoy dating apps, alcohol, or parties, which makes it even harder. When I do find someone I like, they often have a partner. In my adult life, I’ve only confessed my feelings once, and while I was rejected, I still view that experience positively. It taught me that the desire for more positive experiences can sometimes lead to negative feelings, but accepting those negative experiences can be a positive step forward. Turning 30 was a turning point for me. That rejection helped me understand myself better and open up emotionally. I leaned on my friends for support and realized that I need very little to be content. Just a few encouraging words from them can make a big difference. I believe it’s important to accept life as it is, rather than wishing it were different. There are countless sad lives out there, but I know I have the power to shape my own path. I’ve been focusing on constructive activities that I genuinely enjoy, like learning, reading, and exercising. Over the past two years, I’ve transformed my health and fitness, gaining weight through strenh training and proper nutrition. As I enter this new phase of my life, I see endless possibilities. I have savings to explore life in a different country and meet new people. I’m not antisocial; I get along with everyone. I’m confident in myself, my abilities, and my intelligence. I’ve learned to embrace challenges and use anxiety and pressure to my advantage. There’s a certain toxicity surrounding virginity, especially for men. I remember a joke from a stand-up show about a girl who said, “He got his PhD and is still a virgin.” It wasn’t funny to me or my friends, but it reflects the societal pressure on men to have sex, often leading to toxic behaviors. I may be a joke, but every piece I put in my life is significant and serves as a foundation for what is to come next, over time I have developed the discipline of a monster and I am not afraid of long term plans. I’m not anyone special. I’m just an average guy who learned discipline soon enough. I’ve achieved my goals through hard work, but I’ve also needed a bit of luck along the way. I know that sex is often overvalued, and while it’s nice, it’s not everything. Sometimes I think about just going to a sex worker, but I want my first experience to be meaningful. I want to fall in love, share silly moments, and build a lasting connection. As the years go by and I achieve more, I find myself becoming more selective. I don’t want a one-night stand; I want something real and lasting. These feelings have become more pronounced in recent years, especially when I like someone. But I also believe that these moments of struggle fuel my drive to move forward. My journey may be different, but it’s still valuable. I have plenty of time for my passions, and I see life as a game where I level up without wasting time on pointless tasks. I don’t have any serious problems, and I genuinely believe I’m in the best phase of my life. Sometimes I think that if I had been in a relationship earlier, I might not have reached this point, as it can be a significant distraction. I don't want to become like one of those who hate women for having too much sex, we would all do the same. When I was finishing my PhD with all the work, I wasn't thinking about these things; I was thinking that I would use the next vacation to read and learn about certain topics, which is ultimately what I enjoy doing the most. TL;DR I just wanted to vent about how, despite putting in the effort, some things remain out of reach. Take care of your partners. they’re likely doing their best to make you happy. Life isn’t easy, and finding a good companion is truly special. Finally I think this is a letter to life apologising for not having been able to do what I was supposed to do, sad. Thanks for reading
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Just Venting: A 32-Year-Old Virgin man in Spain Reflects on Life and Relationships
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1f2mq4y/just_venting_a_32yearold_virgin_man_in_spain/
|
tablemanners21
|
2021-05-06 19:47:25
| 1,620,330,445 | null | null | 0 |
n6ftr4
| true | null | 71 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/n6ftr4/i_prefer_hinge_over_bumble_these_days/
| 42 |
Bumble recently(ish) updated the app so that you can’t undo your left swipe, and I HATE that! What used to be a convenient feature is now something you have to pay for and I just find that ridiculous. Also, having been on bumble for 3 years, the 24-hour expiration has become extremely annoying. I feel like Hinge generally has a better selection of swipees, though sometimes I do see the same people on both apps which of course is inevitable. So not only does Hinge have better prompts IMO, but you can also undo your swipe for free, AND the ball is not entirely in the woman’s court. I know Bumble’s whole shtick is of course to have the woman make the power move, but it’s honestly exhausting having to be the first one to reach out every single time. I like the fluidity with Hinge having the man being able to start the conversation as well. I would say most of the successful dates I’ve had have actually come from Hinge. I do miss the feature where you’d see what mutual friends you had, way back when that was also their whole selling point. I feel like that’s a great conversation starter, or it was at least. Just some observations I’ve noticed lately. Anyone else feel similarly? Or do you view both apps generally with the same perspective?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
I prefer Hinge over Bumble these days
| null | 0.9 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/n6ftr4/i_prefer_hinge_over_bumble_these_days/
|
RainbowSyth80
|
2023-05-20 14:05:28
| 1,684,591,528 | 0 | null | 0 |
13mtpcw
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/13mtpcw/end_the_first_date/
| 0 |
Hi all, As a backstory, i've been chatting to this chick on Hinge, got her number and spoke to her over the phone 2 weeks ago for two hours. Went well but it was difficult to arrange a first date so I decided to unmatch her and wished her all the best because I thought she wasn't serious enough. She responded that she was and apologised that she was too busy to arrange a schedule for us (although she accommodated her friends instead :/) Regrettably (and more so now thinking back), I then sent her another message after her response (2 days later) that we ought to give it a try at least by meeting face to face. Miraculously she responded and set up a first date this coming Thursday but throughout this time the conversation we have over text are mono-syllables and the conversation has lost its spark. For example, she use to send me paragraph responses and random pics. But no more. Should I still go ahead with the first date? My instincts tells me to end it and quit it before any more time is lost. Thoughts? Edit: First Date is over dinner
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
End the First Date?
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/13mtpcw/end_the_first_date/
|
NewBang
|
2024-06-20 05:24:02
| 1,718,861,042 | 0 | null | 0 |
1dk3yqm
| true | null | 36 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1dk3yqm/girls_talking_about_previous_experiences_dates/
| 44 |
Does this stuff bother you? I can’t lie if I said it doesn’t bother me. Like I’m at an age where most girls have had past experiences. As do I. But like, if I’m seeing a girl, I wouldn’t bring it up unless it came up naturally. I’ve been seeing this girl for a bit now. And I really like her. But on the first few dates she was talking a bit about her ex and also about some bad first date stories. I was like, ok… After we had sex once. She offhandedly brought up some incident where the condom broke once. Like, I can tell she’s not trying to brag or make me jealous. But it’s like… I don’t really wanna hear about that stuff. Even though we’re in the casual stages, I like her and it bothers me a little
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Girls talking about previous experiences (dates, relationships, sex, etc.)
| 44 | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1dk3yqm/girls_talking_about_previous_experiences_dates/
|
MosesProffitt
|
2015-01-27 10:05:10
| 1,422,353,110 | 0 |
['online dating', 'dating site', 'dating sites']
| 0 |
2ttskd
| null | null | 0 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2ttskd/benefit_of_online_dating/
| 1 |
People are using more interest not only to communicate with their loved ones or doing research but also to find ideal date. Many people are open to idea of online dating so. It is no surprise that men and women both are hooked on this latest dating craze. So why do people love online dating when their can date personally outside? That’s because there are numerous benefits which no regular dates can provide. Date Internationally. You can find an international date without travelling aboard just to find some of unique culture and race. Online dating site provide an option to date with anyone of different nationalities like American, Asian, European etc. People from all over the world join the dating sites so, you can surly find one of different cultural background than yours. Date in private In regular date don’t you hate people when their looking at you and your date when you’re dating? Before you knew it you will be in talk of the town. Online dating site provide privacy option to people without any risk. All you have to do is turn on your webcam and put on your headphone and you’re good to go. You can also ask their date to do the same so that you can see and talk with each other at same time. Some online couple are so creative their plan their date on top of Eiffel tower or in the luxurious beaches of the Caribbean. They will just imagine there are together and do date like normal. Cash not needed In online dating sites you need not spend any money on your date as you will not go out. You can have fun talking and looking at your date through the internet without worrying about restaurant bills or movie tickets. It’s enough that you can see each other on cam, hear voice and get to know each other better. Find true love. You know many couple found their love on internet? You have a big chance of finding your love online dating site. If you conscious about the way you look you can find the person who appreciate your character more. People in dating sites first their simply exchanging conversations in the chat room. Once there are comfortable with each other than their share their pictures or invite their date to video chat. There are many other sites that are feature photos of members so you don’t have to worry about dating someone who don’t find you physically attractive in the first place. Whether you just want to have a friend or in the look of partner in your life. Datersearch.com an online dating is definitely worth to try.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
BENEFIT OF ONLINE DATING
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2ttskd/benefit_of_online_dating/
|
veetown
|
2018-12-20 02:25:19
| 1,545,272,719 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
a7tdom
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/a7tdom/how_did_you_meet_your_significant_other/
| 3 |
I’m 30. I’ve had one relationship that was a complete anomaly due to the extreme circumstances (he found he had cancer after our second date - big bonding moment haha). I don’t have much luck with dating. I’ve had nice dates. But I find things either fizzle out after about 3 dates, at least on their side, they seem to sort of lose interest of just fade away. Or they get super invested in me and we have no chemistry. I have tried online dating. It’s pretty much the only way I’ve dated. I know I’m desirable. I’m cute. I’m fun. I’m interesting. I’ve got stuff going on. But damn if dating doesn’t fill me with questioning. I’d like to meet people more genuinely. Unfortunately I’m new to my city. All my friends are from work. I am an introvert. I guess I’m just curious how to meet people or maybe how to make online dating feel like such a crapshoot. I think I’ve got a lot to offer and it’s just tiring to feel like a discardable fun couple of dates. Thanks for any helps ladies. The holidays really increase the feelings of missing out.
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
How did you meet your significant other?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/a7tdom/how_did_you_meet_your_significant_other/
|
NibblesMcGiblet
|
2024-09-21 02:25:28
| 1,726,885,528 | 0 |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
1flswj5
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1flswj5/i_just_have_to_vent_to_someone_and_i_dont_really/
| 0 |
I was best friends with my boyfriend (well, now ex I guess) for ten years before we finally got together. It was hard to convince him to give us a shot because we have an age gap (I'm older) and I've been married before and have kids (adult now). He always said his family would never accept me due to devout religious beliefs and whatnot, so he never told them about me the seven years we were together (which ended tonight). He also didn't tell his friends because he was afraid it would get back to his parents. We were long distance the entire time, me flying to visit several times a year and us both perfectly content with the setup, as we are both pretty much loners and set in our routines and past an age where we want to be out constantly or having sex constantly etc. I told him when we got together seven years ago that I knew he wanted to get married and have a family someday and that I'd understand if he met someone and that I wouldn't be mad, just sad, but would step back and let him do his thing because I already had the opportunity in my life to get married and have kids and all that, and I knew he wanted the same. I guess over the course of so many years of happiness and growing closer and closer, I got it into my head that he probably wasn't going to end up leaving me to try to find a wife. We are both middle aged or approaching it now, and set in our lives and I thought in our relationship. I did tell him a few times that i'd be happy to marry him and have kids with him, even if I needed IVF since I"ve had my tubes tied after my last child, but there was that whole "his parents wouldn't understand" thing. I would sigh and accept it, because my parents are dead now and I understand he wants to make his happy and didn't want to make a big deal of it. I don't need a certificate for our relationship to be valid. I kept letting it go and trying not to let my self esteem take too much of a dive from feeling like a dirty little secret for seven long years, because I knew that he was seeing a therapist and trying to get his shit together in regards to his overbearing mother and stuff. I "knew" he would eventually grow out of that mindset. I was wrong. He just recently finally decided that he wants to start looking for a wife to have kids with, and after me repeatedly asking for clarity on if this was his hope, or his plan, or if he was wanting to stay together while he kept an eye out, or if he was saying he was going to start like joining dating sites, or WHAT, I was able to force out of him that he cannot look for a wife if he's with me, so he needs to not be with me now. So I guess now after seven years we're not together anymore, just like that. Because he needs to suddenly go find someone to race to the finish line with, who isn't me, who he doesn't even know yet, but who will somehow be someone acceptable to his family. I had always told him I'd be supportive and wouldn't be mad but right now all I can think is I hate him, and how fucking dare he?? We are BEST FRIENDS, we have everything in common and we've seen each other through thick and thin for 18 years, talking daily, we know each other better than anyone else, and neither of us has ever done anything hurtful to the other that wasn't easily resolved with healthy conversation. As much as I"m trying to stay logical and calm, I just keep thinking, What did I ever do to him?? Why can he not see what is so clear to me - we are PERFECT for one another. We have the same core interests, political beliefs, moral beliefs, we like and dislike most of the same foods, tv shows, activities, I mean you name it and we have it in common. I've always known how incredibly rare it is because I've had relationships and a long marriage, and have that perspective. I know he doesn't but God, I can't wait twenty years for him to meet some young lady and marry her, have kids with her, get divorced, and come find me again. I'll be 70! I know I always said I would support him and I will, and have outwardly, but inside I'm just so hurt and upset with him. I told him straight up, he's never going to find someone who has this much in common and who will love him like I have, and who will be willing to accept all of the quirks that I've always accepted. His limited time out of work, his gaming, his trips for concerts, his extremely overbearing family. I hope he does but it's going to be hard. I just don't know how to even process this. I always told him that I would understand if it happened but now that it has, I am seeing him so differently. I don't understand how I"m supposed to respect and like him when he hid me from his family and friends for seven years and then told me that he wants a wife and kids (which I said I'd be happy to be/do) and he, for all intents and purposes, said no, I have to find someone better than you because I have had to hide you from my family and friends all this time because you're not good enough. That's how it feels anyway. I just can't believe I spent half my life married to one man, then almost 20 years best friends with this man, and 7 with him, and now AGAIN I have to start my whole life over again. I don't know how to do it. I don't want to do it. How do I stand back and watch him waste all our time just to eventually discover what I already know? It is so rare to find a best friend who you also love, who has so much in common with you. That is the person who you will be best with. Your parents' acceptance isn't what is most important. He's ruined something in pursuit of that from them, and I fear he will never have it no matter who he ends up with. I am so sad. Anyway. I just needed to say it out loud somewhere. This sucks.
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TwoXChromosomes
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t5_2r2jt
|
I just have to vent to someone and I don't really have friends to talk to. Best friend of 18 years, bf of 7, broke up to find someone (else) to marry...???
| 0 | 0.38 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1flswj5/i_just_have_to_vent_to_someone_and_i_dont_really/
|
JefuMusic
|
2020-12-31 16:51:12
| 1,609,433,472 | null |
['matches', 'dating apps', 'tinder', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
kntfgf
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/kntfgf/what_is_wrong_with_women_on_tinder/
| 0 |
Hey, Clickbaited you I’ve been using dating apps on and off for the past few months (bumble, tinder, and hinge). I’m 18 and 5’10, I have a full time job and actually have a life. I would say I’m probably a 6 or 7 out of 10 and I’m very fashionable, fashion design is my hobby I am very easy to talk to and love conversing with people, I talk to cashiers, workers, anybody... I used to be rlly nervous but honestly conversation is easy now. The only issue is I never get an opportunity to talk to women on dating apps. I’ve literally gotten 0 matches on tinder and bumble and I pick what in my mind are 3s and 4s and up . I genuinely am confused. Irl I have dated really attractive girls, like 7s 8’s and 9s. I am very caring and passionate and never clingy Bc ew that’s gross. But yeah idk maybe you guys are better at this... I don’t know if it’s my profile Bc I have pictures and I think I look fine, I’ve tried countless bios and picture combos. Still nothing, it’s honestly depressing and has had me down bad. I still find self worth and I mediate to stay healthy but idk man. It’s so demotivating make me not want to pursue women at all. Hope y’all have an amazing day, much love ❤️
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
What is wrong with women on tinder?!
| null | 0.22 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/kntfgf/what_is_wrong_with_women_on_tinder/
|
Nineteenfoxes
|
2014-03-04 23:34:36
| 1,393,976,076 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1zkr3c
| null | null | 8 | null |
/r/AskMen/comments/1zkr3c/tinder_experiences/
| 9 |
Been thinking about getting Tinder, but slightly nervous about it. What are your experiences with Tinder from male perspectives and female perspectives?
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
Tinder Experiences
| 9 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1zkr3c/tinder_experiences/
|
lec0701
|
2024-02-15 16:50:18
| 1,708,015,818 | 0 |
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1arjy7f
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1arjy7f/turning_30_and_still_never_been_in_a_relationship/
| 1 |
So I'm turning 30 this year and I've reached the point in my life where I do feel like I am ready to commit to a relationship. I have wanted relationships in the past but I definitely wasn't ready for one. At this age I feel like if I were to meet someone and it lead to marriage and children I would feel comfortable and excited, if this were 5 years ago I would have been scared out of my mind. I have never been in a relationship. I was asked out on a date once in high school but the guy who asked me was a good friend and I didn't have the same feelings for him so I declined. I have never been kissed, I'm still a virgin and I really don't have much to go on. There are men in my life who are dating or married to my friends that are good people and give me hope that not all men are the way I think they are as in, I think I'm going to be judged hardcore for not knowing what I'm doing and they'll make me feel embarrassed. I know that this is my perception and I might not meet any men that will make me feel this way, but I could. I don't know what to do. I would really like to try dating and meet someone but theres also the whole aspect of dating which is online and I am someone who has a hard time with online dating apps because I can't always understand tone of voice and personality. I would appreciate any advice on things others have done to get out of their comfort zone or maybe what they did to meet someone when they were anxious about dating. Any advice for a 30 year old female who has no experience dating. I'd appreciate anything at this point.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Turning 30 and still never been in a relationship.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1arjy7f/turning_30_and_still_never_been_in_a_relationship/
|
[deleted]
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2015-04-19 19:07:30
| 1,429,470,450 | 0 |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
335ho7
| null | null | 6 | null |
/r/dating/comments/335ho7/girl_i_matched_with_on_tinder_seems_interested/
| 3 |
So I matched with this girl on Tinder and we started messaging right away. I asked if she wanted to get coffee and she responded with "Sounds nice. But I'm not really interested in hooking up with people through Tinder." I told her I'm not into the hookup culture and I was just wanted to meet her, and she said "Okay!" Here's the text convo: http://imgur.com/a/pr7pt She hasn't responded to that last text. I really want to meet up with her because she seems pretty cool and she has all of the physical traits that I go crazy for, but I'm getting real strong mixed signals. She responded in a flirty way in the beginning of the convo and even offered to get coffee on Saturday afternoon(this led me to believe she was interested). Then when I asked if Starbucks was cool, she didn't respond. I don't know if she's just busy or doesn't want to tell me no or what. So I need advice on what I can text her now. She still hasn't responded but I basically just wanna say something like "I really wanna meet up, you seem cool. If you don't want to, just let me know and I'll stop texting you." But I want it to be playful or funny and also get my point across. Also, I know I sound a bit clingy because I keep wanting to text her, but it's only because I haven't met her in person yet. I am definitely not the clingy type and am unattracted to clingy girls. I just feel like I haven't met this girl yet, so if I can just get her to go out for some coffee, we can get to know each other and see what happens from there. tl;dr: Girl I matched with on Tinder is giving mixed signals, need advice on how to deal with it
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Girl I matched with on Tinder seems interested, but is giving me mixed signals. I need advice.
| 3 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/335ho7/girl_i_matched_with_on_tinder_seems_interested/
|
OpalCortland
|
2024-03-10 19:26:15
| 1,710,098,775 | 0 |
['matched', 'OLD', 'bumble']
| 0 |
1bbim5v
| true |
Question
| 1 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1bbim5v/is_it_cultural_or_something_casual/
| 1 |
Hey DOF gang! I’m traveling from TX to Tokyo, and I went on Bumble after being off OLD for a while. I wrote on my profile that I’m only here a few days and am seeking dates for a drink or to go dancing. I put “something casual,” under what I am seeking. 53 F. I look good and my photos are fun and not “too sexy.” I have matched and been messaging 11 guys, 38-55, who are handsome, successful, interesting, athletic, etc. They’re from Japan, Canada, Djibouti, Kurdistan, South Africa, and UK. ALL of them are excellent at replying and made plans for really good dates, and I’m too tired to meet any of them, due to very active days, and they’re persistent about trying to meet. None are being sexual (I had matched a couple who were, and I deleted them). I would totally sleep with these guys if we had good dates, but that hasn’t been hinted at. Here’s my question: Back home when I’m on OLD, I always select that I want an LTR. The guys I matched and have met have mostly been not so responsive, not great about making plans for dates, and not persistent about meeting. They’re often not nearly as sophisticated or interesting as these guys. Is the reason the guys in Japan are acting so much more favorably than the Texans due to their culture as non-Americans, or because they think I’m just seeking a hook up? Are Americans just more flaky on apps?
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
Is it cultural, or “something casual”?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1bbim5v/is_it_cultural_or_something_casual/
|
dontmindme2340
|
2023-12-13 19:27:25
| 1,702,495,645 | 0 |
['bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
18how8q
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/18how8q/is_a_super_boost_worth_the_money_on_hinge/
| 1 |
I made a new account a few months ago and it seems like I get way less likes than my old profile for some reason. I feel like I never get likes from anyone I’m interested or compatible with. Is a super boost worth the money? I’ve paid for bumble premium before and would say it wasn’t really since I just sifted through all the people who have liked me. Would it work to get more exposure?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is a super boost worth the money on hinge?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18how8q/is_a_super_boost_worth_the_money_on_hinge/
|
platinum_collective
|
2018-07-23 15:02:10
| 1,532,358,130 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
917sk1
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/917sk1/help_me_address_this_situation/
| 1 |
Here's a rundown of the background on this story. I've known this guy for about a year now and he has been my spin instructor. That's his side job, our full time jobs are actually both academic and we don't work in the same field, but have similar interests. He's a poor communicator and texter even when we were just friends (or just trying to be friends). Many times it felt as though he would respond just to keep the line open so that I wouldn't think he was a dick. But he would also tell me personal things and talk to me like we were friends. About a year ago before I really knew him we matched on Tinder and I said "fancy meeting you here" but he didn't reply for about three days so I unmatched him. I didn't want things to be awkward. About a couple weeks later we are drunk texting and he asks me if we had matched on Tinder. I said yes and he says like his friends have a clone of his phone so he didn't see it but they told him I said hi. And then he tells me he's never flirted or dated a client ever and has a no client rule. I'm sad but I let it go and just try to be friends with him from then on. In the past couple of months he has been more flirty and drunk messaged me things that made me think he has feelings for me. But nothing completely overt so I am really unsure and also know he has a no client rule still. The situation now is that two weekends ago was my birthday party. He came on the later side (legit excuse, he had a work party) and was immediately flirty and touchy with me. I tried to like push it off a bit because if it wasn't going anywhere I couldn't do that to myself as I've had feelings for him for a year. But he says all these very nice and not canned things to me (like personal things) and we sleep together. And then again in the morning. He tells me he cares about me immensely. He has to leave though because he is teaching a class (he does stay until the last possible second and I think he was probably late). I'm hungover and in a daze and it seemed to have gone really well and we had talked about some things, but I was drunk and I don't remember everything. Two days later I text him and tell him I had a good time. No reply. A day later I text him and say something like hey, even if you didn't have a good time I still deserve to hear that from you and that I'd like to have an honest in person conversation about what happened. And he replies and says like something happened with his friend's wife (which isn't a lie) and he's been caught up but had a great time and honest conversations are worth having. I ask him if he would meet me for a drink this past weekend or something to if nothing else, clear the air. He doesn't reply. I tell him I'm frustrated and just trying to talk to him about this and I'm not sure why I'm being stonewalled. And he apologies and says we can meet this weekend and some other crap about enjoying being with me but that he's a bad texter and person at times. I'm just like I just need to talk to you, it doesn't have to be long. Even at this point it seems stupid and over complicated when I just need to ask him some questions and talk about this whether or not it moves forward or not, I am just looking for honesty. So then we talk the next day (of course I initiated this text) because we haven't planned when we are meeting on the weekend and it's Friday night. We plan to meet Sunday night, but no plan in place and I tell him to tell me when and where. He tells me I'm amazing and insanely awesome. He tells me he will see me Sunday night to talk more about why I'm an incredible attractive friend. He's been using the word friend a lot. Come last night and I've heard nothing. We are now confirmed to meet on Tuesday night, but I really don't know what is coming. I need him to know this hurt me (the non-communication) and I don't understand why he decided to change our relationship now when it was more at a point for us to be friends. Now it seems like everything is ruined. Was his no client rule a lie? I've known this guy for a year and he is not one to lie like that, he is a genuine guy. Is he oblivious? I want to tell him I'm hurt and mad but I also want to keep the door open for, if nothing else, friendship. What would you recommend I say?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Help me address this situation.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/917sk1/help_me_address_this_situation/
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[deleted]
|
2010-09-15 18:14:51
| 1,284,574,491 | null |
['online dating', 'dating sites']
| 0 |
deans
| true | null | 39 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/deans/how_the_heck_does_one_date_i_only_know_married/
| 11 |
Apologies if this is the wrong place to post this. I need advice... This is obviously a throwaway account; what I have to admit is kind of embarrassing (at least to me). I'm 26. I've had a grand total of one relationship, when I was 18/19, that lasted for about seven months. Since I broke up with that person, I've basically been single...for about seven years as of this month. Part of this is due to confidence. I'm fully aware I suck at socialization, even though I want it, and though I do my best to work through it, I'm hyper-aware of how awkward I am. Needless to say, it's a never-ending cycle, and I can't seem to get out of this mindset. Another part: I blame college. My parents couldn't afford to send me, so I was sending myself. I put a lot of pressure on myself to excel and do well the first time around (and quickly) so that I could get started with my career and at least feel more stable financially. I was in school year-round, taking more than just bare-minimum to be full-time, and I had a part-time job on top of it. My schedule was full, so I just plain didn't date in college. I was, at least, lucky enough to land a job immediately after graduation. In this economy, I was definitely thankful, took them up on the offer, and moved 2300 miles to start. I figured, at the very least, this could be a new start for me in so many ways. What I didn't realize, though, was how lonely this would be. I'm having a bit of a crisis in that I left everything I know behind - my family, my friends, the place I'd lived in all of my life. I feel comfortable out here, but I didn't realize that pretty much everyone I meet would be married. All but two of my friends are married, and as far as I know, their friends are also married. I love these people, but there are times I get caught up in my own mind and resenting their happiness, which is a terrible way to be. I vacillate between being perfectly content being alone and hating myself for it. I'd like to date, but I have abso-freaking-lutely no idea how. I'm starting to think I royally shafted myself by focusing too much on college and not dating. Now I'm at the point where I'm throwing myself more and more into my job, and I'm feeling more and more depressed for longer periods of time...which leads me to throwing myself into work to stop thinking about it, which makes me feel worse, and... :/ How the hell does someone go about dating? I have tried online dating sites, and all that's led me to believe is I have a giant pool of weirdos (and not the good kind that I can get along with) to choose from. I do realize that being too desperate can be detrimental, but after seven years, I guess I have no idea how the hell else to feel, especially when I'm here essentially by myself. I miss physical affection, I miss feeling close to someone... I realize the grass is always greener on the other side, but I wish I'd actually get to stand on the other side for a little while. TL;DR - I want someone to hold my hand, but I only know married people, and I have no idea how to get started.
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TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
How the heck does one "date"? I only know married people.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/deans/how_the_heck_does_one_date_i_only_know_married/
|
itsathrowawaydudee
|
2022-01-29 16:17:52
| 1,643,473,072 | null |
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
sfleus
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/sfleus/alright_someone_help_this_neurodivergent_mofo/
| 1 |
Alright ladies and gentleman. It's your boy here. Mister I got stuck in isolation after losing 2 best friends for dating related issues then stalked by my last ex. Needless to say it ain't been an easy few years. I got ADHD ASF, mildly depressed and I'm borderline cynical. But here is my introverted ass getting lonely in a new small town. So off to online dating I go. Thing is, I'm bloody demisexual and a busy man. So I want to build some rapport before I drop money on someone who's even worse at social interactions than me. (Shout out to the chick who took 30 seconds to respond to anything on a phone call!) I usually just stick to the normal shit, ask about a photo, what you do for work/ hobbies, how do you feel about the socialistic uprising in America. You know the usual stuff. But I cannot seem to vibe with no one, and my balls are starting get bluer than my eyes. So what the hell do I do? Can't really meet people when my only options are single moms, bigger women (not my cup of tea I'm getting my ass back in shape) or uneducated and unemployed chicks. (Good old Appalachia). The few good ones I just can't seem to compete for attention nor do I wanna be a clown for their validation(a catch 22 I guess but if I hear another person say they're looking for a texting buddy its gonna be my 13th reason.) How the hell can I improve my game ? Any good books or something? Or should I just keep shooting my darts at a brick wall hoping for it to get stuck in a crack.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Alright someone help this neurodivergent mofo learn how to talk to people on dating apps.
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/sfleus/alright_someone_help_this_neurodivergent_mofo/
|
JaredsDarkPast
|
2021-07-06 02:46:40
| 1,625,539,600 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
oem4fo
| true | null | 24 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/oem4fo/trying_to_make_an_impression_over_text/
| 20 |
Hey everyone! Long time lurker, first time poster on this forum. I’ve been single for quite a while and just recently had an ex bartender from a place I go to every now and then message me asking if I’d be interested in a friend of hers. I asked what her name was and then said I would be interested so she gave me her number to initiate a conversation with her. I looked her up on Facebook and found her to be very attractive so of course I was very excited, but also nervous/anxious to start talking to her. She was described to me by her friend as being smart, quiet, and laid back with a big heart. Initially, when I tried texting her telling her who I was and saying that I know our mutual friend and asking her how she is doing I got no response. A few days go by and the mutual friend texts me asking if I texted her friends and I tell her what happened so she tells me her friend just told her that she thinks she may have deleted my text by accident thinking it was one of those automated texts that you sometimes get where they call you by name. So I say that’s alright I’ll text her again and our mutual friend will give her my number so that she knows not to assume a text from this number is some solicitor. We talk for a little bit, but I quickly realize I’m the one having to initiate all the conversation and she doesn’t really ask anything about me or try to bring up anything as a conversation starter. I’m decent at holding conversations, but it’s really hard when you get little back to keep it going. The next day I text her later after I’m done work and we talk for a bit and the conversation goes a little late so she tells me she’s exhausted and that it was a particularly long day, but tells me to please text her back tomorrow. So I assure her it’s no problem and that I completely understand because I’m used to staying up later and she works a job that starts earlier than mine. So I text her the next day seeing how she’s doing and it’s a pretty light conversation and I get the feeling like she might still be tired because she isn’t really adding anything to the conversation and I ask her where she’s going for the Fourth of July break which she doesn’t respond to till early Friday morning. I ask her what she likes to do when she’s there maybe an hour or so later and I haven’t heard anything back since that text. Should I just assume the worst that this is dead in the water already or should I come back and ask how the weekend was or something to that extent. The pessimist in me wants to say she’s clearly not interested in me, but the optimist wants to believe there was a good reason why I haven’t heard anything since Friday. What do you all think? Also, this is kinda why I hate not meeting someone face to face and instead having to rely on texting or a dating app to talk to somebody. I’m way better at conversation face to face than trying to come up with something over text. I swear dating was so much easier 20 years ago. EDIT: I'm not sure it's on me exactly in this scenario because our texting has been very light, I guess you can say, but through the messages I realize maybe I'm waiting too long to set up a face to face.
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datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Trying to make an impression over text
| null | 0.99 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/oem4fo/trying_to_make_an_impression_over_text/
|
justanotherempath
|
2023-10-25 19:44:54
| 1,698,263,094 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
17gd93q
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/17gd93q/i_dont_want_to_be_tied_down/
| 1 |
Hi everyone! I was in a long term relationship, well long-term for me. 1.2 years that ended in June. I don't do casual hookup's. This relationship was my second person that I had sexual relations with. I am 25 keep in mind. We broke up, I slept with someone at a bar and realized I cannot do hook up culture as it makes me feel gross after. Nothing about the men or those who do it, I just attach emotion to sex. I met a guy on Tinder, we went on a date. He was super kind. He is from Ireland but living in America now. The movie ended late so he wanted me to spend the night. I told him no funny business, I don't like to have sex with random people and he respected that. That weekend I hung out with him and he immediately like initiated sex. After having a conversation with him about how I don't like to rush into sex... RED FLAG. I know. I kept trying to dodge kisses and like was like fuck it whatever. I liked him but the physical attraction had to grow anyways because that's just the kind of person I am. I didn't think he was cute at first LOL hence not even wanting to smooch. It lasted like not even one minute. He had been in Chicago for 5 weeks and kept saying how 5 weeks without sex was a crazy amount of time. I suppose that was red flag two. I can go months without it, but he acted like I was crazy. He told me he hadn't had sex with any other girls in the 5 weeks since he's gotten to Chicago. I ignored the red flag as I was like okay he lasted one minute usually men who are experienced can last longer (I would assume?????). Keep in mind after hanging out and spending nights with him I had asked what this was going to be, not saying I expected a label, but I did only want to talk to each other and sleep with each other then. He had given me the impression he wouldn't mind a relationship at the time that we met. He reassured me that I wasn't wasting my time, that he wasn't going to hurt me, that this wasn't just for sex, that he liked me, liked spending time with me, and didn't want to rush into anything "just yet." So, I took that as okay we are taking things slow and I was okay with that. One morning he took me out to breakfast and he knew the waitress. She literally only talked to him, I felt uncomfortable as I am a waitress and it felt just weird to me. When we were leaving, he mentioned her grabbing drinks with him and their friend someone since they all knew each other... INFRONT OF ME. I was like okay kind of a red flag but whatever. We aren't dating. I was kind of adamant on asking what this was going to grow into, as I was visiting him an hour each time I would drive and we were hooking up. I just didn't believe he was only sleeping and only talking to me. Just because he would hardly talk to me when I wasn't with him, texts were long in replies but he would be on all social medias. I just felt as if I was wasting my time. He was considering leaving the state for the winter months and would say "Maybe I won't leave" and when I would ask why, he would say "because of you.' So it was a lot of mixed signals, without much clarity. Flash forward to now, he was not replying to my texts and I flat out asked him. Every time I asked he would reassure me I am the only one he was sleeping with etc. In summary, he finally told me, "I just don't want to get into a relationship, I just arrived here and don't want to be tied down because ill be traveling and want to have fun myself." I did really enjoy his company and we got along well so I was agreeable to even just a situationship. I suggested us just hanging out and sleeping with just each other, ya know like we like each other why not just talk to each other until you leave since that was his main concern- him moving. He replied, "Yeah I do like hanging out with you too but I do kind of want to talk to other people here too and don't want to be tied down over here yet yank but I don't want to upset you either." I kind of confronted him about his dishonesty from the beginning and how it appeared he was just using me for sex. He was like "I didn't really know what I wanted at the start but it wasn't just for sex I was enjoying meeting and hanging out but I've had some time to think that after my last relationship I'm not ready for a relationship and I don't want to be tied down again straight away over here and I want to go out and explore yanno." I kind of stated that in America, "what you're explaining is the whole trick you tell someone when you don't like them enough to be in a relationship." To that he replied, "well that's not a trick ive heard anyone use in Ireland but no I don't want to be in a relationship at the moment." Therefore, I feel a little stupid. I am attempting at dating, and I had asked what he wanted from this and I feel as if he deceived me. Do you think this man really doesn't want to be "tied down" or does he just not want a relationship (with me)? I suppose is the "with you" may be silent with this one. It shouldn't matter, but I am kind of taking the possible rejection hard. &x200B; &x200B;
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
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"I don't want to be tied down."
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17gd93q/i_dont_want_to_be_tied_down/
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blueyez_81
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2019-01-14 21:35:36
| 1,547,501,736 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
ag0phz
| true | null | 30 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ag0phz/trying_to_keep_my_chill/
| 5 |
Matched with a guy online and after about 5 days of light back and forth decided to have lunch yesterday. It went really well. He was very attractive, held a conversation, and was a gentlemen. We had lunch and then went for coffee after (his idea). The first date was 5 hours of chatting We made plans for next Friday and he did mention I should “meet his cat” which I got the vibe meant more than that. The thing is, he is very recently divorced (3 months) and is open on his profile that he is”recently divorced, and not looking for long term BUT I guess you never know?” Which is honest yet leaves it open. He told me later he is not looking for a hook up would love someone to go out and do things with. I get it. I am sure he wants/needs to have some fun but probably not looking to get right into something else. I just have to try to keep things in prospective. More often than not I am the one who is rather indifferent but I am pretty into him so far I know I have to at least go into this with a chill mindset (not my strong point) in this situation. Anyone have any advice or similar situation from either side?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
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Trying to keep my chill..::
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ag0phz/trying_to_keep_my_chill/
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Spirited-Strike-8396
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2023-08-05 19:56:41
| 1,691,265,401 | 0 | null | 0 |
15j51lc
| true | null | 23 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/15j51lc/mature/
| 1 |
I’m a 62 year old reasonably attractive and not overweight female. I’m well educated and in the medical profession. I’m an RN. I’ve been off and on eharmony for 3 years with no luck. Met some interesting people but no relationships . What am I doing wrong? Any pointers? I’m getting discouraged.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Mature
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/15j51lc/mature/
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abcdefg123455678
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2024-08-10 21:04:37
| 1,723,323,877 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
1ep3cha
| true |
Question ❓
| 10 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1ep3cha/is_it_worth_contacting_her_again_or_shall_i_just/
| 1 |
So i had been suffering from psoriasis when i decided to download hinge where i got chatting with this female doctor, we hit off and she was eager to meet, i eventually told her i had psoriasis and she wasn't bothered at all by this. However i dont think she knew the about Psychological toll having such a conditon inevitably has on someone after so many years. Anyway we went on the date and it didnt go well as i was still not comfortable with the idea of dating with psoriasis and wasnt able to be myself and open up, the date lasted a few hours and she was trying to make it work but eventually just gave up and it ended there really. I have now managed clear my psoriasis naturally and become alot happier since then using some of the advice she gave me to make some lifestyle changes. This was 7/8 months ago So my question is should i contact her and tell her and see if shed like to go out again or just move on
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Is it worth contacting her again or shall i just move on.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1ep3cha/is_it_worth_contacting_her_again_or_shall_i_just/
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ViolentChevy
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2020-12-31 08:35:41
| 1,609,403,741 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
knmdwd
| true |
I Need Advice
| 23 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/knmdwd/what_should_i_do_should_i_contact_her_boyfriend/
| 11 |
Back ground info: I met a girl on bumble exchanged numbers and gone out on multiple dates everything seemed great. She said to me that she’s looking for a serious relationship Anyway the girl I’ve been going out I’ve found out that she has a boyfriend and they have been dating for over 3 years. I found out that she has a secret Instagram account where she post her relationship with guy she’s with. The Instagram account where me and the girl follow each other is completely different from other one. And she post on how she wants to be in a relationship and “loved” . I immediately stop contacting her and blocked her on social media. She found out that I blocked her and started texting and calling me but I did not reply to her. I feel I should contact her boyfriend and warn him about her but I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do because I’m the guy she has been secretly going out with. Seriously like what the fck!? if you don’t like being in a relationship with someone then BREAK UP with them for fck sakes instead of cheating on them
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
What should I do, should I contact her boyfriend
| null | 0.93 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/knmdwd/what_should_i_do_should_i_contact_her_boyfriend/
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squirrel8296
|
2022-05-12 00:09:10
| 1,652,314,150 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
unnt6l
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/unnt6l/how_to_meet_other_gay_men/
| 1 |
I (gay 25 M) have tried online dating and it hasn’t worked. I’m also not a huge bar/club goer. Any other ways to meet other gay men?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
How to meet other gay men?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/unnt6l/how_to_meet_other_gay_men/
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SicSemperTyrannis123
|
2018-02-16 07:33:59
| 1,518,766,439 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
7xx7gs
| false | null | 20 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/7xx7gs/so_yesterday_i_posted_about_asking_a_girl_out_i/
| 10 |
Sorry for posting two days in a row about the same girl basically but I’m new to this, I have hella social anxiety in social settings. I’m scared I don’t talk a lot and I’m insecure because I have a speech impediment. I’m scared of being boring. I kinda wanna tell her it’s my first time and I’m nervous but should I avoid that? Lol in my life I think I’m confident in some areas if I’m told to give a speech, or if I’m talking business but when it comes to dating, romance, etc I am lost. where I overthink and have major anxiety to the point I wanna just leave. Also should I ask the advice of some girls I know in my college organization? I’m not super close to many, a lot I’ve barely had long convos with and guys included. But I know they’d know some stuff
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
So yesterday I posted about asking a girl out I met on bumble. She said yes but now how can I be less nervous on this date
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/7xx7gs/so_yesterday_i_posted_about_asking_a_girl_out_i/
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AdMoney6965
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2023-09-21 15:50:17
| 1,695,311,417 | 0 | null | 0 |
16ojeb7
| true | null | 12 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/16ojeb7/he_came_back_but_confused_me_more/
| 1 |
Related to where I went on a couple of dates with a guy who went MIA for 2 months. He recently randomly messaged me asking about how I'm doing. We chat for a while in a friendly manner pulling each others' legs and I tell him I'm out with my friends. He just says have fun and well, disappears. He didn't even ask me out or explain what happened, and it's getting me confused all over again. What was the point of this interaction? Why even text.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
He came back but confused me more
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/16ojeb7/he_came_back_but_confused_me_more/
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Soupdude27
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2020-05-16 16:07:20
| 1,589,645,240 | null | null | 0 |
gkx4rd
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/gkx4rd/i_faked_being_rich_on_bumble/
| 0 |
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zpe8u-ctHRQandt=220s The results were surprising.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
I Faked Being Rich on Bumble
| null | 0.38 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/gkx4rd/i_faked_being_rich_on_bumble/
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totheseatothesea
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2022-11-30 22:03:11
| 1,669,845,791 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
z94t69
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/z94t69/should_i_reach_out_to_her/
| 1 |
Hi everyone I [m/31] was going out with a girl [f/28] for about a month and i feel like we hit it off after matching on hinge. We have similar personalities and the same interests, which i feel is quite rare for me because i dont pursue very 'mainstream' hobbies. My only issue was that I broke up with my ex about 2 months before and i still felt a heavy heartedness. Its not that i wanted to get back with my ex, but i was still saddened by the experience and was low on confidence by the whole ordeal and subsequently afraid of rejection. Upon reflection, i think this all made it harder for me to express how i truly felt or respond properly to the affections of this girl i was dating. I sort of would freeze up a little and go rigid. Anyway she eventually said she didnt see this going anywhere romantically and we went our separate ways. It could have been for any number of reasons and not necessarily the above, but i feel like the last time we spent time together, she had tried to get closer and the rigidity i mention came about me. I still remember a number of dumb and distant and aloof responses i gave her when she tried to raise deep topics, and i can now think of so many better, more genuine things i could have said instead that would have reflected the truth more and helped build a bond. Furthermore, it was only once she turned me down that i allowed myself to believe that she had wanted something serious, but alas it was too late Its now been several weeks and i am having trouble forgiving myself for passing such an opportunity. I feel quite bad for disappointing her. I know its not that deep since we didnt date for that long, and there may not have been a future even if i hadnt been (still am) going through a breakup. Its just so frustrating when the biggest obstacle to it going well was myself and my own insecurities I really would like to get in touch with her and explain these things, so that we can hopefully give it another go. Do you think that would be a good idea or worth it? I feel like i dont have anything to lose and she might respond well. What would be the best way to approach this? Would it reasonate well if someone you had dated got back in touch and said these things to you or would it just come off cringe? In need of some advice pleaseee Thanks!
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Should i reach out to her?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/z94t69/should_i_reach_out_to_her/
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anon1102
|
2011-08-17 14:33:33
| 1,313,591,613 | 7 |
['okcupid']
| null |
jlmc4
| null | null | 10 | null |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/jlmc4/i_feel_pressured_to_have_sex_in_totally/
| 3 |
When I do feel like having sex, it's not a problem. And I do feel like having sex relatively frequently. But it varies with my menstrual cycle, energy levels, etc. When my boyfriend wants to have sex and I don't, I feel compelled to act like I'm more into it than I am. Or if I get bored during sex I try to mimic the way I act when I'm actually enjoying myself. It's not him pressuring me. It was that way with my last boyfriend, and with two of the three hook-ups that I had in between. The worst incident was the latter of the two hookups. I met him on OKCupid, and I was interested in the idea of trying casual sex. While I thought he was cute and nice, I wasn't really interested in sex by the end of the date, but I began to feel it was expected of me. By the time we got to his place I was had pretty much decided that I would prefer to leave, but rather than telling him that, I sort of went along with it and played the part of being into it. (We didn't have sex sex, to clarify, just oral.) We didn't speak again. I tend to be conflict-avoiding in general, and I have trouble saying No to things other than sex. But it is the sex thing that's bothering me the most now. I know it's a thing that women joke about sometimes. Shitty sex? Moan more so he comes faster. But it really bothers me that I'm doing this, especially with my boyfriend, when honesty is generally a really important thing to me. Does anyone else do this? Any advice? Edit: I intended to mention that I do realize talking to my partner is probably the most important thing, and I do plan on doing that.
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TwoXChromosomes
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t5_2r2jt
|
I feel pressured to have sex in totally non-pressuring situations.
| 10 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/jlmc4/i_feel_pressured_to_have_sex_in_totally/
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[deleted]
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2014-07-24 01:28:23
| 1,406,165,303 | 0 |
['pof']
| 0 |
2bjxwh
| null | null | 2 | null |
/r/dating/comments/2bjxwh/good_dating_websites_for_nerds/
| 0 |
I know this is kind of a random request, but every time use POF or Match I just end up with the wrong time of girls. Since I spend most of my time on the internet I might as well find a girl who shares the same past time as well. Thank you!
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
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Good dating websites for "nerds"?
| 0 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/2bjxwh/good_dating_websites_for_nerds/
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hrpt-f100
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2023-09-16 13:31:04
| 1,694,871,064 | 0 |
['dating app', 'hinge']
| 0 |
16k7nx9
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/16k7nx9/my_34m_gf_37f_still_talks_to_men_she_met_on_a/
| 1 |
Like the title says, my gf of 9 months is talking to 2-3 guys she went on dates with when she was on hinge. She talks to them exclusively on snapchat and it's every day. When we first started dating i caught her sending one of them a sexy pic of her in a towel and called her out on it. She profusy apologized and said it was stupid of her. She swears now they only message her after she posts a story and I don't have anything to worry about. Am I wrong to hate this? I truly believe she loves me, but it makes me feel insecure because of the times I've been cheated on in the past. I don't know why she'd want options if she claims to be in a happy relationship with me. A few things to note, she's definitely not cheating on me She keeps her phone on silent all the time. She posts lots of pictures of her and I all over social media including her snap story. I really love this woman and want a solid relationship with her.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
My (34m) GF (37f) still talks to men she met on a dating app.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/16k7nx9/my_34m_gf_37f_still_talks_to_men_she_met_on_a/
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boredandconfused80
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2020-11-28 15:48:36
| 1,606,578,516 | null |
['dating site']
| 0 |
k2puaj
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/k2puaj/first_time_postingwhat_does_this_mean/
| 0 |
So I met a guy on a dating site. We talked for a while and he finally told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. So we decided to be just friends. So fast forward about a month and he tells me that I shouldn’t count myself out of potentially having a relationship with him. But then a couple days later he tells me that he friend zoned me. I have no idea what to make of him as he seems to be sending mixed messages to me. I should also add that he is still currently going through a divorce so I know that’s a big reason why he said he wasn’t ready for anything right now.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
First time posting...what does this mean?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/k2puaj/first_time_postingwhat_does_this_mean/
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felicitydesign
|
2024-07-13 20:08:59
| 1,720,901,339 | 0 |
['swiped', 'bumble']
| 0 |
1e2jj4s
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1e2jj4s/advice_for_reconnecting_with_someone/
| 1 |
I saw a guy on bumble who I know IRL. I saw him in my likes so I know he swiped right on me. But I swiped left because I thought it would be awkward to message him and now I’m kind of regretting it. We’re Facebook friends but we haven’t talked in years, would it be weird to message him on there? Or would it be better to follow request him on instagram and then DM him on there if he accepts?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Advice for reconnecting with someone
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1e2jj4s/advice_for_reconnecting_with_someone/
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soentwinedsofree
|
2017-07-01 19:45:05
| 1,498,938,305 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
6kp0uu
| null | null | 64 | null |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6kp0uu/where_exactly_do_you_guys_go_what_do_you_do_on_a/
| 16 |
I asked my colleagues this question for fun a while back and had a variety of replies. This would apply to both people you already know or first time meeting the person from OLD though I suspect the answer will differ accordingly. These were their replies: - Go for a walk and just talk - Drinks (as in the alcoholic variety. And not dinner and drinks but just drinks). This didn't seem to go well with the women colleagues. I wouldn't really want to go for drinks myself coz I don't drink much and it's usually loud where they serve drinks. - Jogging - Cooking class
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Where exactly do you guys go/ what do you do on a first date?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6kp0uu/where_exactly_do_you_guys_go_what_do_you_do_on_a/
|
Naive_Minimum_9884
|
2024-08-04 08:56:06
| 1,722,761,766 | 0 |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
1ejquf3
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ejquf3/might_have_a_date_for_the_first_time_in_10yrs/
| 3 |
Long story short, I was in a relationship (Only one in my life) that lasted around 9yrs. We broke up and these last 4yrs I have had my ups and downs in life. Arrest,Alcohol poisining, rehab, staying clean for 1 1/2, lost 25lbs, now inherited my parents house, etc. So I matched with someone on a dating app. Not sure if this will lead to anything since we barely started talking like a few hours ago. But if we do go out for a cup of coffee or tea, what advice would you give a guy who hasn't been in a date in 13.? I was 22 when I went on my first date. Now im 35. I'm in good shape, got a good job. My car is old and has dents so I feel like that will hurt my chances. And having been in rehab might make them cautios of me. Idk a lot of negative stuff I feel they might see in me. I know to mention positive things and whatever negative thing pops up, to turn in around and say ' I made mistakes and now I'm doing much better. I have made changes and continue to be a better version.' So if I do go out with her, should I bring a small gift? Or maybe pick her up? What's the best way to present myself and make her see that i' m a catch. Thanks. Sorry tl;dr.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Might have a date for the first time in 10+yrs Need advise.
| 3 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ejquf3/might_have_a_date_for_the_first_time_in_10yrs/
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blackflowerx3
|
2024-03-18 18:53:38
| 1,710,788,018 | 0 |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
1bhykuq
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bhykuq/flirting_but_it_goes_nowhere/
| 1 |
I'm sure something like this has been posted before, but I'd like to share my situation and get advice. I've (30 F) been single since last spring and have dated a bit (mostly from online dates), haven't found anything long-term again, but would like to. There's a couple of guys (mid 30s) I've met in person (through a sports league and at a friend's house) who are single and cute and I was interested in. There was a bit of flirting, but nothing happened after that. And guys who want to talk online forever, but don't move things towards a date. The one I met through the sports league came up to me at the bar before cornhole started one night and just said hey how are you. We small talked a bit, but I ended the conversation as I'd been having a pretty awful day beforehand with some family issues and didn't feel in the mood to keep talking. We are mutuals on social media and there's been some "likes" on things, but that's it. He's on dating apps and I've seen his profile. I told a friend about the night at the bar and she said he was trying to flirt with me - I thought he was just being nice and making small talk. I thought he was cute, but haven't seen any signs of interest beyond what I just mentioned. The other one I met at a friend's karaoke party. We chatted a bit, sang a lot, he (and others) were drinking a good amount. He gave me a huge hug before we left and gave me a pack of stout beers he had in his car (beer and wine sales guy) after I said stouts are my favorite. I told my friend he was cute and she said he was single, wink wink nudge nudge. Nothing happened after that, so I assumed it was just him being extra friendly while drinking. Just saw him on a dating app too. Then there's guys I meet on the apps where we message a lot and there seems to be chemistry, but then they get flaky and weird when it comes to actually asking me out. One said he's been "sick," but has sent selfies looking fine and his location changes on the app, so I unmatched. I am old fashioned and truly prefer when a man pursues me. I know some are going to say "just ask them out!" - I've done that before, and it just ends up being an ego boost for the guy. I have started to believe that if a guy isn't pursuing me, he isn't interested, and if I have to pursue him, I'm just going to get hurt. My friend's husband also told me that guys could be intimidated by me, but that just feels like him trying to be nice and make me feel better. So what can I do differently in these situations? I might not be as flirty/direct as I think I am, so any tips for being more overt with showing interest?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Flirting, but it goes nowhere
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bhykuq/flirting_but_it_goes_nowhere/
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Lunas_87
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2023-01-23 10:29:51
| 1,674,469,791 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
10j9epx
| true |
Support Needed 🫂
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/10j9epx/ive_always_had_a_negative_opinion_about_online/
| 1 |
What the title says. I have dated previously though I’m finding I am becoming more socially distant- I often find it difficult to relate to people nowadays. I don’t think I have controversial beliefs compared to other college students or anything but I think I’ve become much more cynical over time. I’m still flirted with at times but never by people who I think would like me if they actually got to know me. I’ve always looked down on online dating but it’s only just now occurring to me that such a view is probably pointlessly arrogant. Basically, I think it could help me but I don’t know if I can get over this negative perception of it that has somehow instilled within me. Has anyone felt this before? Did you get past it? Anyway, I’m sure all college students can relate to this type of isolation so I appreciate any responses. It’s incredible how potent isolation can come even when surrounded by others all day.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
I’ve always had a negative opinion about online dating despite never giving it a try even though I think it could help me. Can anyone relate to this?
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/10j9epx/ive_always_had_a_negative_opinion_about_online/
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Status_Assistant_905
|
2023-03-05 09:29:06
| 1,678,008,546 | null |
['online dating', 'dating app']
| 0 |
11isv5s
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/11isv5s/hi_im_a_m20_i_never_really_dated_anyone_before_i/
| 0 |
I find it quite difficult to just wait for someone to come into my life just out of nowhere. And as i never dated anyone before i’m confused how to start. I dislike the idea of using online dating somehow i want it to be natural but idk,any take on this and advice please?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Hi, i’m a m(20), i never really dated anyone before. I never really try looking for one. Besides using online dating app, i dont know where to start looking for one
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/11isv5s/hi_im_a_m20_i_never_really_dated_anyone_before_i/
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eipic
|
2022-08-18 22:31:42
| 1,660,861,902 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
wrwxdb
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/wrwxdb/do_i_m22_tell_her_f21_how_i_feel_over_text_or/
| 2 |
So I matched with this girl on Tinder at the end of January, we talked for a good bit and eventually met at the end of April, got food, went back to mine and watched some movies. I moved to America at the end of May and she knew that, and I told her “Of course I met my dream girl right before I move!” We talked on and off while I was away. I had the idea to ask her out before I moved but I didn’t want to do that and then not see her for 3 months. I arrived home last Sunday, asked if she’d meet me at the airport for breakfast, to which she said she had a family lunch organised. Since Sunday, she’s been on my mind pretty much constantly. Last night was the worst, where I couldn’t sleep just due to overthinking what to do and how to tell her. She said she’d like to see me again, but I don’t when “again” is. It could be 3 weeks or 3 months.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Do I (M22) tell her (F21) how I feel over text or wait until we meet in person?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/wrwxdb/do_i_m22_tell_her_f21_how_i_feel_over_text_or/
|
SupaDufus
|
2024-01-25 20:32:29
| 1,706,214,749 | 0 |
['matches', 'online dating']
| 0 |
19fj2gr
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/19fj2gr/wheres_an_appropriate_place_to_hit_on_women_and/
| 1 |
So I 25M for various reasons didn't learn to make friends until I was 21(I had some friends never by my own iniative). I was extremely socially awkward due to spending most of my teen years raising a child(brother) so I never really learned to actively socialise. This also transferred to my interactions with women, so I never learned to flirt, pick up ques or any of that and to this day have limited experience. Currently I am really outgoing and people at least don't believe me when I say I am socially awkward lol, and I have made a lot of friends and aquitainces over the past 4 years. That said however picking up girls is a skill I have no idea what is lol. I know some people go clubbing for "hunting" but that's absolutely not my thing. When I go clubbing I just wanna have fun with friends, the idea of One night stand has never been appealing to me and after doing that twice, I definitely can say it's not for me. I suck at pictures and texting so online dating is absolutely a horrible scene, because I rarely get any matches and when I do I have no idea how to talk to someone over text lol. I just want to meet someone who I can vibe and chill with, someone I can love and be loved by lol. So where do I even meet someone like this? Bars? Libraries? Walks? How do I strike up a conversation without bothering them and being a creep? 😅 The few times I do manage to talk with someone though, I either steer the conversation straight into friend territory because it feels like they are not interested and when I do feel like they might be interested I freeze up and act like socially awkward teen me again 😂 I have asked some of my friends(guys and girls) for help but most of them kind of laugh and don't believe me when I say I struggle with hitting on girls and say I am cute and am a great guy, I should have no problems with it and just talk to someone. Due to me making friends and talking with people so easily, I rarely get believed when I say I have that socially awkward part of me, so I kind of stopped sharing that detail because it's always so embarrassing to hear "you, you shouldn't have any problems blah blah be yourself blah" I have a couple of friends who do believe me and have made me open up to why, but they can only bear a conversation for so long until its up to me. I freeze up a lot earlier when I get introduced to a friends friend or aquitaince for some reason. I think the fear of making them uncomfortable is bigger in this scenario for some reason, also it's super awkward being introduced to someone with this high set up and then needing to deliver on it. Anyways my babling is over. Outside of the few times I get set up, what other places can I actually meet women and not be seen like a total creep, and how do I hold a conversation for longer than 3 minutes and flirt in a non uncomfortable way
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Where's an appropriate place to hit on women? And how do you hold a conversation?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/19fj2gr/wheres_an_appropriate_place_to_hit_on_women_and/
|
TheKingOfTutTutSound
|
2023-08-04 19:42:56
| 1,691,178,176 | 0 |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
15i9pcm
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/15i9pcm/am_i_not_meant_for_a_relationship/
| 1 |
Not looking for emotional support with this post, i just want some honest objective thoughts on whats going on in my head, whether or not its warrented or if im just overthinking things. I'm a 25m single guy and ive been off and on dating for the last 7 years. My longest relationship was 2.5 years with my first girlfriend in highschool, it ended poorly (we argued all the time, we broke up and she started dating a friend of mine), and after that i set it in my mind that i wasnt going to be in a relationship. I just wanted to mess around and have fun. I didnt go crazy but i had some fun in college and remained single. While this was a good time, its left me feeling very empty. Long term i want to marry my best friend, have a couple kids, and settle down like my parents did. For the last couple years, ive taken up improv, joined clubs in college, and looked on dating apps to find my person. Every girl that i have met on a dating app just doesnt give me the spark of chemistry that im looking for and i usually end things. Every girl ive met in real life situations, i tend to like them more but they usually end things with me. I dont even know how to put into words the dread this makes me feel, im getting older and i dont want life to pass me by while im single and misserable. I want the happiness of a fulfilling relationship, and i just cant seem to find it anywhere. Sometimes i feel like i spend way too much energy on finding a relationship, and i need to focus more on myself. But i just get so lonely, and i cant seem to shake the dread of being single. I want to be comfortable and secure with someone that is compatible with me. Has anyone reading this been in a similar situation before? How did you overcome this anxiety of realtionships?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Am i not meant for a relationship?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/15i9pcm/am_i_not_meant_for_a_relationship/
|
Proper-Visit9522
|
2023-11-12 23:12:27
| 1,699,830,747 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
17twmzl
| true |
Question ❓
| 51 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/17twmzl/is_it_normal_to_be_turned_off_when_someone_doesnt/
| 1 |
I was asked out on a date by a bumble date, where he chose the place and where we went, we ended up going to a coffee shop, it was really cheap only $4 each for 1 hot chocolate, I figured since his the one that chose place, and asked me out he’d pay for mine, but he ends up saying separate when asked, so I had to go back in and pay for my $4 hot chocolate. Which I wasn’t fussed about since it was nothing, but it was the principle that turned me off idk. I’m so use to dates, where the guy pays for everything. I don’t mind paying separately, helll I’ll even treat him on occasions and pay for him. But that’s 3rd/4th date. I’ve always viewed it as, if a guy asks you out, and ur getting along well (which we were at that moment), it’s a basic nice gesture ? Idk I felt so turned off by that , that when he kissed me I low-key backed away, and wasn’t really feeling it. Am I being reasonable for being turned off by that?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Is it normal to be turned off when someone doesn’t pay on the 1st date?
| 1 | 0.25 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17twmzl/is_it_normal_to_be_turned_off_when_someone_doesnt/
|
724_dood
|
2024-04-28 02:36:59
| 1,714,271,819 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1cevuh7
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 10 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1cevuh7/dating_is_changing_me_as_a_person/
| 7 |
I have had so many bad dating experiences in the last 10 years and I could honestly write a book about it. I am honestly starting to resent women and not want to approach them or talk on dating apps. I don’t have fear of rejection but fear of a woman ripping my heart out for the 100th time. Most of the girls I have dated lasted long enough to develop feelings, some haven’t and those are just the ones with the even crazier story. It’s definitely affected my mood in general and I’m always a guy who is extroverted and funny and treats everyone well. If I am with a girl she’s treated like a queen in all ways and it doesn’t seem like it’s appreciated anymore.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Dating is changing me as a person
| 7 | 0.82 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1cevuh7/dating_is_changing_me_as_a_person/
|
Spiritual-Educator-7
|
2021-03-20 08:14:11
| 1,616,228,051 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
m92mey
| true |
Seeking Advice
| 63 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/m92mey/when_the_background_check_throws_up_a_yellow_flag/
| 15 |
Met someone via OLD, have an in person date scheduled soon. He freely gave me his last name so I could look him up online to see if there was anything nefarious. Well, I ran a background check and there is an unarmed burglary charge that was dismissed 10 years ago. I verified it’s real via the county court site. It’s his name and his age. Should I bring it up to him and see what he says before meeting him or is that going to come across way too intrusive at this stage?
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
When the background check throws up a yellow flag
| null | 0.89 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/m92mey/when_the_background_check_throws_up_a_yellow_flag/
|
candacewall25
|
2019-01-04 05:42:38
| 1,546,580,558 | null |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
acf1uh
| true |
I Need Advice
| 0 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/acf1uh/dating_confusion/
| 1 |
A quick rundown of my dating life for the last 2 years (I am a 28 yr old female) Guy 1 (Fall-Winter2016-17); Had a 6 month fling/dating. Had insane chemistry. 8 yr age difference. Fell in love with him, everyone said we were perfect for each other. When we had the relationship talk he said he loved me but could not have a relationship due to work commitments. Ran into each other frequently in 2017 post breakup, only saw him a few times in 2018. This past spring he had a girlfriend but broke up quickly. I am still haunted by him saying he loved me but did not want a relationship with me. Guy 2 (June 2018) A short dating period The first dude since Guy 1 I felt something for. He said he wanted me to be his girlfriend then retracted and wanted to be just friends. Led me on. Recently apologized and asked for a second chance and I told him no. Guy 3 (Recent) Went on several dates in the fall. Have a ton in common and great chemistry. However he may be moving and has always been open about that. We used to text frequently but that has died down. When I do text him he replies right away and is always one of the first people to view my Instagram stories. Have not seen him in a little over a month. When we were on a date he indicated strong interest in me and said he deleted all his dating apps. When we were intimate it was average. Since I have not seen Guy 3 in a while is he no longer interested or does he want space because the possibility of moving is on the table? He knows how hurt I was by Guy 1 and appreciate him for not leading me on if he could me relocating. Although some of his isntagram stories in the last few weeks have led me to believe hes on dates with other women. I have other men pursuing me and I am open to dating them. I made a new dating app account with recent photos so Guy 3 would know I am how there trying to meet other dudes. It stinks because I do like him, but also don't want him to reject me if I asked what happened. I have made the decision I will not reach out to him. Is this the way to go? This is terrible, but a part of me still misses Guy 1 as we had such a great connection. Is it bad that Guy 1 still impacts me so much? Is missing Guy 1 karma for why I can't get a guy to commit.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Dating Confusion
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/acf1uh/dating_confusion/
|
the_entertainer1
|
2020-06-09 07:17:44
| 1,591,687,064 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
gzi5se
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/gzi5se/5th_date_dinner_at_his_place/
| 1 |
I've been on 4 dates with a guy I met through Hinge (he's 32, I'm 31, F). We had a great day of lunch and wine-tasting on the weekend, and he ended up coming into my place when he dropped me home and we made out for a while on the sofa. Later that night he asked if I wanted to go over to his place for dinner one night this week (not specifying a night). He said he wanted to cook for me and introduce me to his dog (lol). In the same message, he said it's ok if I didn't want to commit to a particular night if I was too tired after work or if I just wanted to play it by ear. So ... coming over for dinner is usually a euphemism for sex, right? I want things to become more intimate soon but also want to wait a little longer to get to know him a bit better. Especially due to coronavirus, I suppose I want some sort of exclusivity, though I don't think he's seeing anyone else. I'm confident enough that if I DO go to his house and he expects sex, I could tell him I want to wait a bit longer; I think that he'd be understanding about that. But why tell me it's ok if I don't want to commit to a night or I'm too tired after work? Is he just playing it safe? We pretty much have the same job and take it pretty seriously; would going to his on a 'work night' be an excuse to keep things less intimate?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
5th date dinner at his place
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gzi5se/5th_date_dinner_at_his_place/
|
Danish_Traveler
|
2018-09-07 08:28:27
| 1,536,308,907 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
9ds9yt
| true |
Question
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/9ds9yt/how_many_perfect_matches_are_out_there/
| 7 |
I just need some encouragement. I scared a guy away by going too fast and we really clicked well... well, before that happened lol. And I haven't had that kind of experience in... well ages now. So I was just wondering - how many ''perfect matches'' are there for you?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
How many ''perfect matches'' are out there?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/9ds9yt/how_many_perfect_matches_are_out_there/
|
Aliceozwalker
|
2022-06-26 16:04:40
| 1,656,259,480 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
vl7yz6
| true | null | 12 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/vl7yz6/should_i_28f_tell_my_date_33m_that_im_a_virgin/
| 2 |
Hello everyone, I'm just looking for thoughts about my current situation. Even though I'm 28, I've never had a romantic partner and am a virgin. I have a full-time job, take care of my health, am a huge saver, etc. There honestly are no major "red flags". However, back when I was in high school my crush committed suicide and it honestly messed me up for a while. I did therapy for a long time and have felt ready to have a partner for the last few years but never really sealed the deal so to speak. Recently I started seeing this guy. We have a ton in common, and I could see things progressing between us long term. He is a good guy, has a stable career and we both want the same things out of life. He is definitely into me and has also made it clear he is looking for a long-term relationship/marriage. The only issue is my inexperience versus how quickly he wants to progress things. We met on online dating about two weeks ago and have been on three dates. For our fourth date, he asked me to come over to his house so we could "watch Netflix and order a pizza." For me, this is code that he wants me to sleep with him. There is 100% nothing wrong with this, we're both adults and I am not shocked he asked. The issue is that I honestly don't feel ready but don't want to scare him off. He does know that I have never been in a relationship as he asked me during our second date. (Which would surprise me, yet three other people I have also been on dates with have also asked...maybe they can tell I'm inexperienced?) I haven't however told him about my virginity or my crush who committed suicide. I am considering telling him that I am a virgin and need more time to feel comfortable and with that in mind going to his place then. However, one of my friends thinks that is a bad idea and says I should instead tell him I'm not comfortable sleeping with him quite yet (it has only been 2 weeks) instead of telling him I'm a virgin. On another note, he also told me during our third date that he is the last of his friends to get married and his little brother (3 years younger) is getting married this fall. I do think that he feels pressure to find someone and lock things down quickly based on several things he's said, and I'm a bit worried about that as well. Should I tell my date that I'm a virgin? And secondly, how should I navigate this type of situation in the future where he wants to progress faster than me? Any support is much appreciated. :)
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Should I (28F) tell my date (33M) that I'm a virgin since he invited me to his house?
| null | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/vl7yz6/should_i_28f_tell_my_date_33m_that_im_a_virgin/
|
TiredEnthusiast
|
2024-01-19 01:56:20
| 1,705,629,380 | 0 |
['matched', 'swipe', 'swiped']
| 0 |
19a7i8a
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/19a7i8a/matched_with_a_guy_across_the_country_but_i_like/
| 1 |
About a month ago I signed up for FB dating after getting sick of seeing the same people on the usual apps in my area. I’m in my mid 30s, never married, no kids, but have been more career minded than interested in dating until quite recently. I’m not sure how the FB dating algorithm works, I thought I would just see local men, but I swiped on someone about a thousand miles away. I did at one point live within a hundred miles of him, that was several years ago, maybe that affected it? Regardless, this afternoon I saw we matched and he sent me a message right away saying something along the lines of, “You’re perfect If only you were closer, I’d take you out this weekend” I’m pretty sure that on other apps you have to pay to swipe a good distance away so I was shocked then when I looked at his profile. I replied, “Oh my Didn’t even notice. Definitely a bummer.” To which he said, “I’d say an extreme bummer.” Thinking I’d let the conversation die, I just reacted with a sad face. However now that I’m home from work, I gave his profile another look and think I want to get to know him anyway. If he would be interested. As of now, it would just be fun to get to know the guy but I have been in a few long distance relationships and I’m someone that can handle it since I’m pretty independent. I also have a great career where I can afford to travel. I feel pretty silly as I’ve never been in this predicament before but how would I go about raising this conversation from the dead and seeing if he’d be interested in talking further despite the distance?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Matched with a guy across the country but I like his profile and maybe want to pursue getting to know him anyway?
| 1 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/19a7i8a/matched_with_a_guy_across_the_country_but_i_like/
|
sappy-cappy
|
2024-05-27 03:39:48
| 1,716,781,188 | 0 |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
1d1ikji
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1d1ikji/recently_walked_away_from_a_35_year_relationship/
| 2 |
i (25f) met my ex (32m) and when i was in college. i was 21 finishing college when we matched on tinder, started dating when i was 22, he was 29 at the time. when our relationship started things were great. he was extremely compassionate and lovely and a joy to be around. when we hit the one year mark in our relationship i felt like something changed. we were barely sleeping with each other anymore (which like wasnt a HUGE deal, but it made me feel super self conscious and super un-sexy) i suggested maybe we both go to therapy together just for the health and longevity of our relationship because i was feeling VERY unloved. we never went because he didnt like the idea then he got sick. like seriously sick. which was not his fault, but i essentially became his care taker. (he is not very good at maintaining friendships because of his mental health, another reason why i suggested therapy) so i felt like everything was falling on me. he also wasnt going to doctor appointments that i suggested he should go to because he was ALWAYS having a bad time, i kept pushing my emotional/mental health away in a little box to better care for him. and when i would have a bad day, it made his days worse. i was exhausted. around this time last year, i lost someone EXTREMELY close to me and i was extremely hurt because he didnt come to my hometown with me to any of the services. this should have been the last straw for me, but i think i was feeling really guilty if i walked away. i decided to give it time since his health was improving to see if he would give more to me emotionally/physically. (he didnt) from the time that i had to attend that funeral to about a month ago i slept on my couch. in OUR apartment. we had sex once in the past year and i cried afterwards because i felt so disconnected from him. i should have mentioned when we decided to live together i moved to HIS hometown where i knew absolutely no one. about 3.5 hrs from my hometown. i guess im just dealing with sadness/guilt because i still love him. but i feel like i have completely lost myself to this relationship. i also kind of feel like a bad person for walking away from someone i was taking care of. hes not a bad person, hes a lovely human being, which i think makes me feel even worse. yeah i dont know. i just needed to vent thanks for reading if you did
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
recently walked away from a 3.5 year relationship
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1d1ikji/recently_walked_away_from_a_35_year_relationship/
|
ratsinapersonsuit
|
2023-04-14 08:13:47
| 1,681,460,027 | 0 |
['swiped']
| 0 |
12lpca7
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/12lpca7/how_to_do_i_flirt/
| 6 |
I apologize if my wording is a little bit off, I'm trying my best to articulate a problem I've never had to describe before. I'm 25 and I haven't been in what I'd call a "relationship". I've had some romantic interactions with men but they have been initiated by friends (ie: they introduced us, we both voiced at least a little bit of interest and they've put us together on a date or two but they never went any where). I do want romantic connection and I've gotten on the apps. The issue, though, is that I have no idea how to flirt. I don't pick up on flirting either unless it's OBVIOUS or it makes me uncomfortable. Normally, I only know I've been "flirted with" when it's pointed out. I've also never consciously flirted. I can be overly courteous/nice and some people have claimed that is "flirting" but that doesn't really count (?). I know the fact that we're on the app and we've swiped on each other means we're mutually interested in seeing where things go in a romantic context but isn't flirting sort of an expectation? Like, it's supposed to be some sort of social signal that someone wants a romantic relationship instead of a platonic one? If it is some sort of social signal than it is one I have no understanding of. My app settings are set to only women right now in case that affects anyone's general advice. Any advise would be appreciated Thank you
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
How to do I flirt?
| 6 | 0.88 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/12lpca7/how_to_do_i_flirt/
|
[deleted]
|
2020-12-24 00:23:38
| 1,608,769,418 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
kj4uxk
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/kj4uxk/is_online_worth_trying/
| 1 |
I've been single for 5years. I've tried asking out some of the girls from work, but they all were already seeing someone. I thought about trying online dating but not really sure about it.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is online worth trying?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/kj4uxk/is_online_worth_trying/
|
Term1984
|
2020-08-24 20:00:17
| 1,598,299,217 | null | null | 0 |
ifwjs1
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/ifwjs1/well_thats_depressing/
| 9 |
Gotta love when they add you on snap and ask what you look like, you show them and then they instantly block you. Fuck those types of people
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Well that's depressing
| null | 0.72 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/ifwjs1/well_thats_depressing/
|
skippy5953
|
2018-11-29 08:34:12
| 1,543,480,452 | null |
['matched', 'online dating']
| 0 |
a1flho
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/a1flho/night_shift_worker_needs_help_meeting_people/
| 1 |
Hey everyone, so I've got myself into a predicament, I work 12 hours shifts at night, (6:45pm-7:15am) and I've been single for four years and it never really bothered me untill lately. I'm having a hard time meeting new people, bars suck. online dating is a joke I rarely get matched, I'm an average looking guy with a dad bod. So any ideas on meeting someone worth my time? Plus I'm rather shy so approaching women is rather hard for me to do.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Night shift worker needs help meeting people
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/a1flho/night_shift_worker_needs_help_meeting_people/
|
meh_shesalright
|
2021-05-17 23:12:32
| 1,621,293,152 | null | null | 0 |
neut4s
| true | null | 73 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/neut4s/whats_my_age_again/
| 38 |
Men who lie about their age, what do you expect to happen when you meet in person?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
What’s my age again?
| null | 0.84 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/neut4s/whats_my_age_again/
|
Dsg1116
|
2018-12-26 16:26:41
| 1,545,841,601 | null |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
a9pwfq
| true | null | 82 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/a9pwfq/how_are_some_people_able_to_find_a_partner/
| 39 |
I’m. So. Fed. Up. Of people that are able to move onto new relationships and find partners without trouble. While people like myself are literally ALWAYS single. It hurts my self esteem and it has really changed my personality. I’ve lost over 80 lbs and I really hoped it would’ve changed my dating situation. Nope. I still never get approached by guys and only get messaged by thirsty guys on dating apps. People say being single is a choice and these are generally the people that have no trouble dating or are happily taken. I’ve been complimented on my physical appearance and typically told I’m either pretty/cute by others. Yet, I’m 24 and only ever been in one short term relationship my entire life. Sadly, I don’t even consider it one because it was less than 3 months and he’s happily moved on to someone else. I’ve literally given up and only have a dating app open to get attention because I’m clearly overlooked in person. I’ve tried taking psychiatric medication to reduce my anxiety and it didn’t really help. People say I’m “picky” and “unapproachable” but the fact that a good guy hasn’t come into my life really hasn’t given me the motivation to change my mentality. I get jealous, frustrated and insecure. Hence, I try to ensure I don’t give off this bitter vibe to others.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How are some people able to find a partner without ease while others are always single?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/a9pwfq/how_are_some_people_able_to_find_a_partner/
|
Fun_Resource7033
|
2023-07-15 22:29:54
| 1,689,460,194 | 0 | null | 0 |
150p2cy
| false | null | 60 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/150p2cy/do_22post_college29_year_old_women_have_crazy/
| 1 |
I’m 24 almost 25 I’ve been on lots of dates in last 8 months Only girls who who wanted to see me again or were into me physically were either 18-21/22 (still a student) or 30-35 Most dates I’ve been on were 23-28 and absolutely all of them …, literally 100% of them ghosted or rejected me after a date Even tho they were extremely interested before meeting me. Texting me non stop, FaceTiming etc It’s like they have crazzzzzyyyy expectations ? That I can’t fulfill (prob most men can’t) or they expect me to look a certain archetype in person that I don’t . Funny thing is these girls actually seem more interested than college aged girls and 30-35 Me being almost 25 and only getting older now is gonna dating so hard lol because most girls open to dating me will be 23-29
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Do 22(post college)-29 year old women have crazy high standards and want a man who’s 10/10 every way
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/150p2cy/do_22post_college29_year_old_women_have_crazy/
|
Boomer98k
|
2019-06-04 15:23:37
| 1,559,661,817 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
bwpykc
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/bwpykc/post_date_anxiety/
| 1 |
Hey (m24) I went on a date last Saturday with a girl that I met on tinder and we went for sushi and ice cream then saw a movie together. I pulled the ol movie theater move and we cuddled in the recliner chairs. After she dropped me off and I said hey do you think we could get together again and she said ya I'd like that and we kissed twice and parted ways. I think it went well we've been texting slowly and it's gotten slower since then. we both have full time jobs and she had graduation monday. I said I had fun tn and I'm glad you wanna get together again and she replied with me to Thanks for making the drive I can't help but feeling like I won't end up seeing her again or she didn't dig me. So now I'm overthinking the whole situation and can't shake the anxiety about the what ifs
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Post date anxiety
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/bwpykc/post_date_anxiety/
|
mynameizham
|
2023-07-12 05:59:51
| 1,689,141,591 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
14xfm8x
| false |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/14xfm8x/feeling_depressed_jaded_and_just_over_it_i_dont/
| 1 |
Hi all, Apologies if this post gets pretty long. So, I am a 25 year old guy. I’m a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I keep in decent shape, am extremely conscious about hygiene and clothing and how it compliments my body, and am confident in my appearance. I started therapy back in December and have also been trying to get out and do new things. One is acting, and I actually got a part in a play next month. I wasn’t the best socially at first, but over the years through keeping at it and research I feel I’ve gotten a lot better at it. But at this point, I really don’t know what to do anymore. I feel that dating after the pandemic is a whole different animal, not that I was successful in dating before it. Online dating has been a complete waste of time. If it’s not a bot or scammer, it’s one match every couple of months. If it’s one match, no contact ever happens on their end. If it does, maybe one to two messages are exchanged before it fizzles out. These past 5 months I’ve tried in person have been absolutely demoralizing. I’ll explain. I started grad school back in January at the college I got my bachelors at. I went into the semester feeling very positive and hopeful. By the end I felt completely demoralized and mildly depressed. Many of the leads I got lead to absolutely nothing. There were also cold and even hostile interactions I had with some women there. Two instances take the cake for the worst though. The first was when I was emailed by the president of a club I was apart of about harassment. I asked two women out who were in the club, and they both happened months apart. The interaction ended amicably when they both said no. I also had to leave a play I was apart of because I was unjustly accused of being a pervert. Also, another harassment accusation was made, this time by a woman who had agreed to meet up. It really seems my school is riding that anti men wave, given what I’ve experienced and what I see on my schools yik yak. On top of that, the program I’m in really lacks in quality. The whole experience really left me depressed and I recently had a sort of epiphany because of it. I realized that most if not all my experiences with women in a romantic sense have been negative. There’ve been maybe one or two momentary bright spots these past 10 years, but honestly what does that matter? I realized I never really had a good time with them, no matter what I did. All I’ve really felt is confusion, pain and pissed off. I even cried a few nights these past five months. At its worst it’s anger and at its best it’s scornful indifference. As of now I just decided to not bother with it and do me. I’m pretty short and somewhat cold with women now and don’t try to flirt or talk to them like I used to. I don’t really show emotion anymore and am pretty stonefaced now. It still doesn’t feel good but it feels like I’m at the end of my rope. I’m just so tired of whatever I do never being good enough and made to feel like every single bit of it is my fault, despite trying to be a better person. It’s lonely, it sucks and it fucking hurts. It also feels like I’m missing out on a key part of the human experience. It just shouldn’t be this fucking difficult you know? What the fuck is it gonna take? Thank you
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Feeling depressed, jaded and just over it. I don’t know what to do anymore.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/14xfm8x/feeling_depressed_jaded_and_just_over_it_i_dont/
|
HaileyQuinnzel
|
2023-08-26 15:20:24
| 1,693,063,224 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
161xzl8
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/161xzl8/guys_dont_approach_me_and_dont_want_to_look/
| 1 |
24F here— Guys don’t approach me & I’m having a hard time knowing why. I worked at a restaraunt, and no guy ever approached me. Well, one tried to hook up with me when we were drunk, but I felt like he was lying about finding me attractive just to get laid. Especially cause the days following, he acted like he was always mad at & annoyed with me, while treating everyone else normal. One thing he said when we were drunk, though, was, “I’ve been wanting to hang out with you, but I didn’t want you to be offended. I wasn’t sure if you did anything.” And, like, I guess… but usually you ask people & get to know them right? I was always friendly at work so I don’t understand his reasoning of me being offended, especially when he hunts out with other coworkers. I guess I’ve been told I come off as standoffish, but I deliberately try to curb that with conversation & jokes. Funnily enough, after I left the job, I saw that someone from that job liked me on Bumble. (I didn’t match with them, they gave me a compliment & I accidentally deleted it so I don’t know who it was.) but no guy there ever showed any kinda interest in me, except one a little bit, but he had a gf, and I never thought he was being genuine anyways. Just someone who’s kinda extra outgoing. I’ve also gone on first dates with guys that seemed to go well, and it usually ends with a “if your ever wanna hang out again, lmk” only for me to never hear back from them again. One did end up contacting me again later & he said he didn’t wanna come off as desperate. I met another guy who my guy friend tried to set me up with. We talked for a bit & he was super boring over text. He also never complimented me. The only opinion he gave about me was that I “wasn’t bad looking”. (Wtf…) I told my friend about this guy & how boring he was, and he reported back to me that his friend “didn’t want to come off as desperate by doing too much.” Personally, I think it’s a load of bs. I feel like if a guy really likes you he wouldn’t have an issue approaching or complimenting you. But I’m the single & lonely one lol so what do I know. What do you guys think? Did it seem like they just weren’t interested? And/or is “not trying to look desperate” something guys actually do, so they don’t put forth effort?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Guys Don’t Approach Me and Don’t Want to Look Desperate
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/161xzl8/guys_dont_approach_me_and_dont_want_to_look/
|
[deleted]
|
2023-05-29 09:28:24
| 1,685,352,504 | 0 |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
13upwxq
| true | null | 15 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/13upwxq/is_this_what_i_think_it_is/
| 3 |
Also posted this in another sub but figured no harm in putting it here as well. This may sound really obvious, but I just want some unbiased opinions from you lovely people to see what the likelihood of me potentially making a fool of myself is. In January, I (23m) matched on tinder with an ex of mine (23f). When I say “ex”, I mean we dated for a few months in year 11. For my American friends, I don’t know the correct school year term but we were 16 at the time. Anyway it wasn’t a match like that. But it was immediately friendly and we had a general catch up, made some plans for “some point” but I never really thought anything of it. We’d go through times having those catch-ups again and chatting on and off for a week-ish but then not speak for a few days again. Friendly/friends but nothing more. Then about a week ago she offered for us to go and smoke some weed and we drove around and went to 1 or 2 different spots. Spent a good couple of hours together. Made plans to do it again. So on Saturday, while we didn’t go and smoke, she drove us further out of town and we went to a beer garden had some drinks and food, again spent a few hours. Both times were really nice. Then last night she asked if I wanted to go for a walk (there’s a nature park behind/near my house). I said yeah so we did, had a good chat while walking, once again was nice. Then when she got home she said one day I should go over to her house and we should order food and watch some horror films (both big horror fans). Now at this point I’d already considered on where us hanging out and both being eager to hang out more was potentially leading. But understandably when she suggested this, my mind really started to wonder whether she was maybe starting to see us as something more than friends (again 😂). So with keeping mind that there’s still lots of time for things to become clearer, anybody got any thoughts? Thanks everyone!
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is this what I think it is?
| 3 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/13upwxq/is_this_what_i_think_it_is/
|
[deleted]
|
2021-07-25 14:44:14
| 1,627,224,254 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
orctmu
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/orctmu/how_to_get_into_the_game/
| 0 |
After enough listening to friends progress in the game of relationships and love. So I’m (20M) looking to parley with this game and I have very little idea how to get into it. I’ve remarked online dating though it has not progressed well as conversation over text is not good for me and my personality doesn’t mix well with texting. Also covid took its toll with me no longer being in person at college and my work field is not in the line of women nor women my age. Any advice ?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to get into the game?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/orctmu/how_to_get_into_the_game/
|
Free_Sherbert10
|
2024-05-03 03:39:02
| 1,714,707,542 | 0 |
['matches', 'swipe', 'swiping', 'tinder']
| 0 |
1ciz20n
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ciz20n/how_to_start_dating_as_an_older_virgin_22m/
| 1 |
I spent most of college ignoring dating and partying. Sophomore year I had a few girls come over from tinder but I was too nervous and couldn’t get it up and it took me a long time to be able to land a date through tinder. I got a date for maybe every 8 or so marches. I had a girl come over one time and then come over again the next day and I couldn’t get it up both times because I was so nervous. Don’t really have problems like that when I’m alone but that really damaged my self esteem because I was so close. Junior and senior year my classes got a lot harder and I just decided to stop focusing on girls in general so I could work on getting a job. I have now graduated and luckily found job in San Jose CA. I’ve been swiping on tinder everyday but for some reason the pictures I used when I was 20 aren’t working at all now that I’m 22. I think girls have higher standards for older guys. After a month of tinder platinum, I received 3 or so matches and no likes (because I swipe on everyone anyways). I also don’t think I’m naturally built for tinder. My face isn’t ugly but I’m only 5’7 so I can’t really post group pictures and I don’t really have a toned body. I go to the gym and have muscle but it’s not enough to really show off and I have a decent amount of body fat. I’m not fat but I have a little bit of a belly if you look close. I’ve been trying to lose weight to no avail. At this rate I think it’s going to be a while before I ever date or have sex if ever. I’m very happy to be working in SJ but I know it’s a more suburban city without much nightlife which is discouraging. I have no idea what I’m doing trying to get girls in real life and at this point I’m not any good at tinder either. I have about a month before I have to start grinding at my new job. If anyone has any advice about how to get into dating after an extremely long dry spell I’d really appreciate it.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to start dating as an older virgin [22M]
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ciz20n/how_to_start_dating_as_an_older_virgin_22m/
|
tiny-daggers
|
2019-01-14 19:55:26
| 1,547,495,726 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
afzmqh
| true | null | 14 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/afzmqh/chubby_girls_cant_be_loved/
| 2 |
So, from the title I guess you can see my dilemma. I’m a 22 year old woman, with some extra junk in the trunk. At 1.70m I look pretty proportional and I have a pretty cute face... but I’ve still had such a hard time finding anyone that wants to date me. I’ve fallen in love, and tried pursuing those feelings but to no avail. To be honest it hurts so bad. I’m so full of love and I almost feel ashamed that no one has ever wanted to date me. I’ve never even had sex, which feels almost weird at my age. I’ve tried tinder, and tried flirting with boys. But now I’m just to scared and nervous to do it because I’m like 10000% sure I’ll be rejected. Anyone been in a similar situation like me? Does it get better? What should I do? Losing weight is hard at the moment because of medication I’m taking.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Chubby girls can’t be loved?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/afzmqh/chubby_girls_cant_be_loved/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-01-03 01:57:39
| 1,388,714,259 | 0 |
['match.com']
| 0 |
1u9zpd
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1u9zpd/how_to_tell_a_woman_on_matchcom_that_im_not/
| 1 |
I started a conversation with a woman on match before she posted a picture. I sent her a short message, then she sent back a rather lenghty reply. We're a good match on paper, but upon seeing the photos, I'm not at all attracted to her. I need help with words to tell her, with compassion, that I'm not interested. No matter how I say it, its going to be pretty obvious why. Help!
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to tell a woman on match.com that I'm not interested.
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1u9zpd/how_to_tell_a_woman_on_matchcom_that_im_not/
|
salbbegi
|
2021-10-21 15:50:25
| 1,634,831,425 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
qcutfu
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/qcutfu/i_had_my_first_date_and_kiss_through_old_but_im/
| 1 |
Ive had my ups and downs since starting OLD 3-4 months ago. But this guy who I had talked the longest to about a month, with video calls and watch parties in between asked me out last friday for a movie I really wanted to watch. I was nervous (23F) first date and all and I knew he (25M) was too bc on the car ride to the theatre he was sweating bc he was running late. Anyway 10 minutes into the movie I could feel him rubbing my hand, I opened it and we held hands, I didn’t know how I felt, it was exhilarating but did I like it? Idk I had honestly thought of friendzoning him on our first date bc he was my height (not taller), not really my type (not that I really have a type), broke up with his gf a year ago and felt I might be his rebound, but basically movie was followed by dinner and dessert and then a ride home where he kept holding my hand at every red light or moment where we could. And finally in the car parked at my place, he gave me a peck on the cheek which I returned and then we were kissing, lip locking and a bit of tongue and teeth too. I just came back from a second date which was also fun, we talked about his ex and my body insecurities. I really like how comfortable he makes me feel. He had mentioned before the second date, that for a first timer I was a good kisser, and with that in mind at the end of the date we made out longer and harder, we then basically masturbated together in the back seat with some oral included too. I could taste his sweat and wasn’t a huge fan of the oral although it was a nice attempt for the both of us. What I’m struggling with as a newbie to the dating scene is my guilt hiding this part of my life from my family (who are super conservative christians) and the fact that although I do like this guy to some extent… I don’t see it turning into a relationship where I’d proudly introduce him to my friends and family… am I dating too casually or am I still not ready for a relationship? Basically… am I doing this right?
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
I had my first date and kiss through OLD but I’m having doubts
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/qcutfu/i_had_my_first_date_and_kiss_through_old_but_im/
|
rosesandhoneyyyyyyyy
|
2018-03-31 03:18:07
| 1,522,466,287 | null |
['online dating', 'dating app', 'dating site']
| 0 |
88g0eu
| false | null | 17 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/88g0eu/need_opinions_on_a_new_online_dating_app_concept/
| 1 |
Online dating exists for reasons, but we are all familiar with its flaws. My main problem is the concept of writing an autobiography to attract a match which can lead to disappointment. See I think about when humans can be at their most authentic and find it's when random groups form. In jobs, classes, neighborhoods, etc we are thrown in with groups of strangers without knowing them first, but have at least one similar interest with them. In order to gain approval with the group, you treat each other like humans since you have to deal with them for long periods of time. Where else do you do this? Yay, serious relationships! I wonder if there is a way for a dating site to exist made up of a bunch of subreddit-like groups based on location and at least one interest. The profiles would of course contain pictures and RL profile. This way you'd see how folks interact with one another without the anxiety of single meet-up groups. And unlike work, classes, and neighborhoods, everyone would be looking to date, theoretically. Discuss. What do you all think?
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datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Need opinions on a new online dating app concept
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/88g0eu/need_opinions_on_a_new_online_dating_app_concept/
|
Curlyyaz
|
2021-01-28 05:48:36
| 1,611,812,916 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
l6pd1p
| true |
Venting
| 32 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/l6pd1p/ghosted/
| 73 |
Well, after talking for about a week and a half through FaceTime and text and flaking on two dates I got ghosted. Honestly, it was bound to happen I guess. I’m not going to lie and call me sensitive but my heart kind of hurts, my feelings are kind of hurt too. I don’t know I guess even though it was a short period of time I really was excited to talk to this person... I looked over the texts to see if there was anything I did or said to scare them away but no, we had the same energy with each other. Ghosting is way too common with online dating, it’s the worst... I’m tired of starting over. I’ve been single 3 years but every time I think I’m ready to get back out there I’m exhausted after about a week. Again with the dramatics but sometimes I feel like there isn’t someone out there for me even with all the people on planet earth. sigh
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Ghosted.
| null | 0.97 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/l6pd1p/ghosted/
|
alyce_in_wonderland
|
2021-08-22 21:33:32
| 1,629,668,012 | null | null | 0 |
p9lh21
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/p9lh21/how_to_meet_someone_in_person_for_the_first_time/
| 3 |
So i met this guy on match and things are going amazingly. We have really hit it off and have been talking everyday for a month and hanging out over Kast at least once a week. We live about six hours away from each other and have decided we want to meet in person and see how it goes because we both feel like this could be something real. Now i've never met up like this before, so i'm not exactly sure how to go about it so i thought i would reach out and see if anyone had any helpful hints or ideas to make it safe/fun/potentially less awkward. all help is appreciated!
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
How to meet someone in person for the first time after online dating
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/p9lh21/how_to_meet_someone_in_person_for_the_first_time/
|
leahyogini
|
2021-10-04 01:45:02
| 1,633,311,902 | null | null | 0 |
q0vpmh
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/q0vpmh/which_old_app_is_the_best_to_go_premium/
| 4 |
If you were going to upgrade on one app, which would you say reaps the most benefit. I’m on tinder, bumble and hinge for free at the moment. Met someone from Tinder and dated for a month and that didn’t work out. Getting back to the apps but thinking maybe I need to go premium to get more decent matches.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Which OLD app is the best to go premium?
| null | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/q0vpmh/which_old_app_is_the_best_to_go_premium/
|
superkam41
|
2022-04-19 19:50:38
| 1,650,397,838 | null | null | 0 |
u7dtk0
| true | null | 24 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/u7dtk0/does_the_average_cis_woman_care_if_a_guy_is_trans/
| 5 |
It's my biggest anxiety with dating.. should I put that I am trans in my profile? I'm tall at 6'4 and post top surgery so the only thing my being trans indicates is that I do not have a dick.. well I do but I keep it in a box in my room..
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Does the average cis woman care if a guy is trans?
| null | 0.62 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/u7dtk0/does_the_average_cis_woman_care_if_a_guy_is_trans/
|
HauntedSinkMummy
|
2019-07-20 18:43:04
| 1,563,648,184 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
cfp9ca
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/cfp9ca/shy_and_terrible_at_continuing_convos/
| 1 |
Im 19f and i havent dated a whole lot, partly bc i wasnt allowed to and partly bc im really shy. So im trying to try online dating since i work alot and im talking to this really cool and nice guy that i have alot in common with but i feel like i keep making the conversation boring and annoying him? I just dont know how to keep the convo interesting. Ig i kinda need some help
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Shy and terrible at continuing convos?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/cfp9ca/shy_and_terrible_at_continuing_convos/
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CasualMrClean
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2024-05-31 15:55:50
| 1,717,170,950 | 0 | null | 0 |
1d4yyw0
| true | null | 95 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1d4yyw0/ladies_how_many_likes_are_you_sorting_through/
| 16 |
I’m trying to figure how long of a line I’m waiting on.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Ladies, how many likes are you sorting through?
| 16 | 0.81 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1d4yyw0/ladies_how_many_likes_are_you_sorting_through/
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Bkri84
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2020-01-06 03:28:43
| 1,578,281,323 | null |
['swiped', 'swiping']
| 0 |
eko3bs
| true | null | 34 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/eko3bs/please_try_to_help_35m/
| 3 |
Edit: I hope this is a step In the right I Direction. Not perfect but better I hope. Let me know When I posted this I not only got great ideas, but someone who swiped left read the post and told me when she chose to do so. Thanks https://intowin90.tumblr.com/post/190113267471 As stated I am a 35 year old male. Single dad. I was divorced 3 years ago after 10 years. A few women have come and gone but never a relationship. One date gone. 3 days of “good” chatting. Gone. Anytime my friends try to introduce me, the response is no thanks. I am a bigger guy, but handsome. I just can’t get any traction. Lots of people make dating seem a little easier than the time I am having. Mostly online to this point, sometimes I go 3 months without a match. I am clearly doing something wrong, but short of losing about 30 pounds. Losing weight is I’m process but that’s for me I’m not sure what route to take. Please give me ideas on what steps I should be taking. I am finally ready to get serious, but I am tired of swiping into no where. Is it really this hard? It may be my area too. I just want to go on a real date where I can bring flowers and plan a second one that we actually go on. Thanks.....let me have it. Shoot me straight!
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Please try to help. 35m
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/eko3bs/please_try_to_help_35m/
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kaybobi
|
2020-04-30 19:05:38
| 1,588,273,538 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
gb1zvn
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/gb1zvn/22f_going_on_23_and_never_had_a_bf_any_advice_to/
| 1 |
Ok I'm an introvert, shy, socially arkward and pretty damn fugly. My family (not trolling btw) thinks I'm lesbian, and like a couple of weeks ago my sister asked me if I was trans, literally. They think there's something wrong with me since my older siblings have dated tons of people. During the lock down I have started to feel crappy being single, and I'm not sure how I would react to being in a relationship since I've been on my own for so long. Im a bit of a loner since ive finished uni, so it's much difficult to meet men now. And finding dates through tinder etc I always feel like I'm a catfish, like I look worse irl, and I've heard horror stories from friends where the men they've had dates with have treated them badly, and said awful things. I have had male interest don't get me wrong, there was one at uni who showed interest and we went on one date which I found arkward. I couldn't act myself around him at all and ended up looking clingy. We had no chemistry whatsoever, but I kept trying cause he was the first to ever show an interest in me, but then I found out he would flirt with anybody so, didn't end well. Then a guy i met in college (I'm from UK) showed interest but, I didn't find him attractive at all, hes been talking to me for 4 years now and we went to see a movie last year and I think he's finally losing interest after I turned down many of his attempts to hang out. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have no self esteem. Can't act myself around men, and like my alone time. How am I going to even get a bf. I get really anxious around men especially groups of men, and usually avoid talking to them. I'm pretty sensitive so I'm not good at taking insults at all. Ive had people bully me for my looks before and even take pictures behind my back. I'm hoping to get surgery to get rid of what I hate, so I'm going to wait until I've had surgery to start dating, which is hopefully after this lockdown. I think my self esteem will be better for it, and I don't mean lots of surgeries just one. Other than that I do have an average face and I'm slim, healthy and 5'5. But with all the other factors, I'm scared I'll be lonely for the rest of my life. :( Any advice. And sorry it sounds like I'm whinging, but I am stressed out and just feel like a freak tbh. Other people my age have already dated 5 or more people, getting married and even having kids!
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
22F going on 23 and never had a bf? Any advice to lose my single virginity. 😅
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gb1zvn/22f_going_on_23_and_never_had_a_bf_any_advice_to/
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fullygripping
|
2023-10-07 20:06:51
| 1,696,709,211 | 0 |
['matches', 'swipe', 'swiping', 'dating app']
| 0 |
172fiw7
| true |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/172fiw7/do_men_swipe_right_on_everyone/
| 1 |
I'm new to the whole dating app thing. I'm in my 30s and have been divorced for a while. Got married before I needed to use apps 😬 I have a few kids and I feel like I'm getting way more "matches" than expected. Are men out here swiping on everyone? Do they actually look at bios (Do they know I have kids)? Or just my pictures. I'm not down to waste time talking to all these matches if they aren't actually interested in me.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Do men swipe right on everyone?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/172fiw7/do_men_swipe_right_on_everyone/
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squishedpancake98
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2021-02-22 20:42:12
| 1,614,026,532 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
lpzae5
| true |
Venting
| 21 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/lpzae5/why_cant_i_ever_get_ahead_23m/
| 1 |
I'm a 23M, I'm not spectacular, though I'm told apparently I am, but I can't see it. I play in a band, I try to keep healthy, and I'm constantly trying to improve negative aspects of myself to the best of my ability. This weekend however just destroyed me. For context, I'm not really a dating person, I'm either in a relationship or getting ghosted, and Covid really accelerated the latter. However, I matched with a girl and we hit it off really well. She was gorgeous, shared a lot of my interests, was relatively close to home, and was overall an interesting person. Most importantly, she showed genuine interest in me. We immediately scheduled a date and everything was kosher. The date comes and it's awesome. We're laughing, being super flirty, we even made out in my car, and eventually made it back to my place. However this is when things turned just awful. While we were having sex, I randomly got a super hot flash, like I just started sweating and felt like I was gonna pass out. I told her I'd be right back and ran to the bathroom to splash some cold water on myself and come back to earth a bit, instead I threw up hardcore. I must've gotten food poisoning or something because I just couldn't stop. Obviously that killed her mood, and I'm not blaming her for any of this, but we got to talking in between my death spouts, and she told me we probably weren't going to see each other again and that killed me. I went and cried on my bathroom floor because I was so hurt. I just can't understand how or why I'm always floundering, I really try hard to be better than most men my age, but I'm always getting screwed by something in life that takes me out of the game. This hurt differently though. This was someone who 30 minutes before was all over me and was telling me all about her life and everything, to never wanting to see me again. Maybe I'm being a bit much with this whole thing, but I just feel like no matter what I do, I'm never going to be in a healthy, happy relationship like I want. I know I'm not owed anything, but at some point I should be allowed a shred of happiness that lasts more than 24 hours
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Why can't I ever get ahead (23M)
| null | 0.6 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/lpzae5/why_cant_i_ever_get_ahead_23m/
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