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EffectiveBlackCat
|
2021-05-18 05:59:05
| 1,621,317,545 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
nf2qmo
| true | null | 31 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/nf2qmo/what_does_a_man_need_to_look_like_to_get_dates/
| 0 |
I work in organic food warehouse and internet orders so I often see couples together day to day visiting the organic farm shop where I work. If I look at the trend, pretty much every guy I have seen walking around with a slim average woman is either insanely massive (6ft1+ and 90kg+) or white and very handsome. Last one was 5'9", Italian, and looked like Christiano Ronaldo. I'm not attracted to overweight women and I'm neither massive nor super handsome. I'm only rated 4.2 on photofeeler after 41 votes, despite my best photo and being relatively lean. Is that game over? I want a girl who is slim and regular or average like me. I only get likes and messages from fat obese women on online dating, so I pass/ignore them. Do I have to look like a marvel comic action hero or hunk to get to date slim AVG women?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
What does a man need to look like to get dates with slim, regular looking average women?
| null | 0.42 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nf2qmo/what_does_a_man_need_to_look_like_to_get_dates/
|
throwaway31271801
|
2014-08-02 20:24:07
| 1,407,011,047 | 0 |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
2cg5ji
| null | null | 2 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2cg5ji/dont_want_to_see_her_again_but_kind_of_messed_up/
| 1 |
Went on a date with someone I met on OKcupid. We had a lot to talk about and there were rarely any lapses in the conversation, but she looked considerably different than how she represented herself on her profile. Very different. I could maybe see myself hanging out with her as a friend so I told her it would be cool to get together again sometime, but to be honest, I have zero interest in her in any other way. That and my schedule is pretty tight so I really don't see myself being able to see her again anytime soon just to shoot the shit. Should I just not call her back, or should I break it to her someway?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Don't want to see her again but kind of messed up.
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2cg5ji/dont_want_to_see_her_again_but_kind_of_messed_up/
|
rhz10
|
2019-10-23 20:31:32
| 1,571,862,692 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
dm58ro
| true | null | 14 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/dm58ro/dating_a_separated_woman/
| 4 |
This is something I’ve generally avoided. If I were to make an exception, when is the earliest polite time to inquire about the separation (has she filed, is she living apart from her husband, lenh of separation, etc)? In initial OLD messages? In person?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Dating a separated woman
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/dm58ro/dating_a_separated_woman/
|
fairytrailapp
|
2020-05-29 15:33:55
| 1,590,766,435 | null | null | 0 |
gsv4qa
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/gsv4qa/after_matching_with_someone_do_you_want_to/
| 1 | null |
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
After matching with someone, do you want to....
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/gsv4qa/after_matching_with_someone_do_you_want_to/
|
D0vahKiin2001
|
2019-07-07 15:04:17
| 1,562,511,857 | null |
['matches', 'online dating']
| 0 |
ca7ro5
| true | null | 21 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/ca7ro5/online_dating_is_not_easier_than_going_to_the_bars/
| 7 |
Sure.. if you look really good you will definitely have success. I've been online dating for three months now and it's fucking hard as a solid 6 or 7 I've gotten only a few matches most of them lead nowhere and if i get the numbers most girls don't text back after a few days even if we had good conversations. If i get a girl to a date they say only a few hours before it that they have something to do and if i ask them when they got time they don't respond or they say nothing and don't come to the date. I only got one girl to a date and then she told me she was not interested and doesn't want to hurt me. Like what am i doing wrong?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Online Dating is not easier than going to the bars
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ca7ro5/online_dating_is_not_easier_than_going_to_the_bars/
|
Sea_Contribution7821
|
2021-05-28 12:27:14
| 1,622,204,834 | null |
['matched', 'swiping', 'dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0 |
nmwqxg
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/nmwqxg/should_i_or_should_i_not_give_the_girl_ive_been/
| 1 |
Matched with her on tinder a little over a month and half ago. She’s more interested in video chatting then texting which is a first for me but really allows for better conversation. She’s always the one to initiate the calls too. The first night she told me she liked having company to fall asleep to so we stayed on call until we were both asleep. I thought it was a little weird at first but we started doing it almost every night and I’m used to it now. We don’t talk much during the day which is also different then what I’m used to but it’s nice not having to come up with replies to texts while at work. She seems really into me and I’m definitely crazy about her. Now for strike one: after talking for about a week and a half we made plans to hang out. I showed up early and parked. She texted me she was sleepy and wanted to sleep in a bit more. Which made no sense because I literally watched her fall asleep over video call at a reasonable hour the night prior. She was already at 12hrs of sleep. But I waited around paying parking meters for about 3hrs until I said fuck this I’m going home. Driving was terrible on the way in and out of the city she was in. On the ride home she finally texted me that she was too tired to come out after I spent time and money to wait around like an idiot for 3hrs. She calls me later and confesses the reason that she stood me up was because she heard me yelling at my dog the night prior and got scared. Apparently one of her ex-boyfriend‘s was verbally abusive toward her and she was afraid I was going to be the same. Which would’ve been a perfectly reasonable excuse had she done it beforehand and not after making me waste time and money. She gives me a dozen “I’m sorry’s” with puppy eyes and we didn’t talk for about a week. A week after strike one we both started talking again due to the fact that neither one of us wanted to stop. This was a moment where I chose emotion over pride and self-respect. Something I do too often. Even my friends and some trusted family members all gave me the exact same advice to cut and run. But either way we pressed on as normal and kept talking. At the same time I moved two hours away for work and she kept me company through my quarantine as well as my first two weeks in my new apartment which has yet to receive any of my furniture. Things were going very well and I had completely forgotten about strike one until now. A few things worth consideration. Although I live two hours away, all my family and friends also lived in the same area as her and I planned to visit her as well as my friends and family every weekend I got off work. She made two comments over the last month that she was in fact talking to other people. Which I wasn’t too worried about because I was pretty convinced she was interested in me not them. I hadn’t deleted any of my dating apps yet but the amount of time I spent swiping on them pretty much stopped altogether. She would ask if I was OK with that which I didn’t understand because why do you care what I think if you want to talk to other men in the first place. I had no right to ask her to stop talking to other people because I had yet to establish or even attempt to establish any sort of relationship. Now for strike two: over the last week through FaceTime she gets less talkative and spends more time staring at her phone. I can hear the dings and typing. She even complains to me that one of the people she’s texting is a guy that won’t leave her alone. To which I was just confused why she was still talking to him at all. She doesn’t call me for about two days and then on the third she calls to ask if I would be ok with just remaining friends due to the fact that there was too great of a distance and that she was talking to other people. One of which was starting to get serious. I told her straight up that if that’s how she felt then I probably wasn’t going to keep talking to someone I had feelings for that I knew wasn’t going to want anything more. Credits to her for the most polite and kind hearted rejection I’ve ever gotten. That’s the one part I really can’t be upset about. What really pissed me off is that it falls in line with what I have experience with women which sums up to when they find something better or get bored they move on. And I’m stuck feeling like an idiot for having feelings toward someone that was just using me for a brief bit of entertainment. About three days go by after she kicks me to the curb. I’m out with some friends when I get a phone call from her telling me how much she missed talking to me. How much she missed what we had going. asking if I would be ok with going back to what we had before she rejected me. Immediately I was confused as fuck because I have no idea why She’s having this change of heart. She kept calling herself dumb for doing it. I assumed maybe one or two of the guys she wanted to talk to didn’t work out so I Aster what happened and she only replied yeah I’m still talking to other people but I want to talk with you too. She basically explained that she wanted to keep what we have going as we have it now but not progress any further than that. She asked again if I wanted her to stop talking to other people which also confused the crap out of me as usual. I told her the part about not having a right to ask that of her. I could be wrong but my understanding at this point is that she wants to be more than friends but not commit to a relationship. My biggest fear and prediction for allowing her to stay in my life is that she’s going to pull the same crap in a week or a month when she finds something else and decides she’s bored of me and moves on and I kind of want to just save myself any more hurt or humiliation. For some reason I can’t just make the logical decision on my own. Somethings just keeping me from easily saying no. She really is a needle in a haystack kind of girl that I obviously don’t want to lose. I obviously want to establish a relationship with this person but if they’re not open to that then why bother putting in anymore effort. Is there any logical reason that I should give her a third shot? Or are my emotions playing tricks on me?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I or should I not give the girl I’ve been talking to for a month a third shot?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nmwqxg/should_i_or_should_i_not_give_the_girl_ive_been/
|
naturally_ares
|
2020-08-25 03:24:07
| 1,598,325,847 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
ig4chd
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ig4chd/time_to_date/
| 1 |
How do you know when its time to start dating? Specially during a pandemic where traditional dating is not a norm anymore. I dont know if I'll ever feel like dating but I want to start dating soon I guess. I am not comfortable on dating apps. More confident in person then I am online. Anyway, do you just...feel like dating and start putting yourself out there? Start an account and see what happens? Or just randomly start talking to people and build from there? Dating is pretty weird to me.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Time to date?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ig4chd/time_to_date/
|
Upeanut
|
2023-09-06 21:44:49
| 1,694,036,689 | 0 |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
16bx45l
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/16bx45l/i_feel_like_my_work_situation_could_be_impacting/
| 1 |
I (27m) have been dating since March in the past I never seemed to have much difficulty finding someone I was a good match with part of that might be because I didn’t spot red flags as easily but I think the other part could be that my life situation has changed a good bit. Back in December I bought a truck and took a huge road trip all with the end goal killing myself, I am still dealing with my mental health and I’m in therapy one to two times a week I’m also in the gym a lot and just generally working on myself and trying my best to move forward with my life. Part of the problem is I’m not working at the moment I have developed a bit of fear about going back to work it’s something I will ultimately get over but I just need some time first. Before my mental health challenges I owned and operated a very successful car and boat detailing service and I still maintain a relationship with a select few clients and still do some work for them. When I go on dates and people ask what I do I just tell them that I own a car and boat detailing business and I actually find that most people don’t ask much about that part of my life beyond that but I’m starting to wonder if people are seeing through that and realizing that I may not be working and that is intern hindering my success when it comes to dating. I have probably been out with 10 different girls since March and have had maybe 10 or so just cancel plans or what not as well. I have also matched with over 220 girls on hinge. Do you think I should be more honest about my situation? It’s not something I want to hide my plan has always been that i would open up to the right person when things are moving in the right direction that way I am not trama dumping on them. I’m actually very emotionally available too so it’s not like I’m doing them a disservice. What do you think thanks
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I feel like my work situation could be impacting my dating life
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/16bx45l/i_feel_like_my_work_situation_could_be_impacting/
|
GauchoSiah
|
2023-09-15 21:14:18
| 1,694,812,458 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
16jp2w8
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/16jp2w8/been_talking_to_this_girl_for_about_a_month_and_a/
| 1 |
I (19m) met this girl(19f) on hinge and we’re both ready to be official (we both playfully joke about it) so I asked her after mashing pissers to be official I said “I wanna be yours, be my girlfriend” and she laughed in my face, and said “That’s ghetto af (inside joke because where I’m from) you can’t ask me after sex, it has to be romantic” she said that in a playful way. Im just a little confused because what gets more romantic then giving someone your body? We both already claim each other claim each other, I introduce her as my gf already, she jokes ALOT like “what are we 🥺👉🏽👈🏽”, we’ve met each other’s friends. It’s like we’re dating without the title, mainly just looking for ideas on what to do that’s romantic
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Been talking to this girl for about a month and a half, we’re both ready to be official but don’t know how to ask her
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/16jp2w8/been_talking_to_this_girl_for_about_a_month_and_a/
|
raaayxox
|
2019-08-23 09:18:54
| 1,566,551,934 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
cubebc
| true | null | 10 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/cubebc/how_could_someone_be_so_mean/
| 1 |
Started speaking to a guy on tinder two years back, wasn't that attracted to him but he was funny so continued to talk. Decided to just talk to him as a friend but dated other guys during this period, he would ask me several times to meet up and I would give excuses because I didn't know how to say I wasn't interested without hurting his feelings. I did agree to meet up one time and then he rudely said don't bother. He would block me then unblock me then he rudely made fun of throwback pics I posted and wouldn't apologize which put me off him some more so I stopped speaking to him. He still was sending me requests to meet which I ignored. I decided to take a break altogether from dating after an abusive ex committed identity theft against me, building up thousands of debt in my name (has now been sorted but took a long time). This incident made me very depressed and put me off men altogether. He then sent me a message a few months back after we had not spoken, saying what has he done to me for me to not want to meet him. I explained that I did not like what he had said about my old pics and how he didn't apologize. He said he was sorry about that and for me to forgive him. I also confided in him what had happened to me, about how my abusive ex had run up thousands of debt leaving me to constantly be harassed by companies and how it drove me into a deep depression where I was having thoughts of ending it. I said that I do not intend to date for a long time because I still need to heal from what had happened. He seemed very supportive and said that he's sorry about what happened to me but that he's a nice guy and to give him a chance. That he was sad about how we had not met up and I felt awful. So we agreed to meet, from the moment I met him he was very hostile, cold and seemed angry. He was horrible after that, saying in a nasty tone how I had lost lots of weight with disgust in his voice. I had lost a bit of weight (20lbs) from the stress of the identity theft. He would be on his phone when I was talking to him and was very snappy and unfriendly. Then he told me that he wanted to go to bed and that I should go, in a very rude way. I was so taken aback. For some weird reason that I don't understand (my mental state hadn't been great) I messaged him the day after, saying "so you couldn't check if I got home safely?" and he replied "you got home didn't you" then I said "what's up?" and he said that he wasn't feeling me like that. I just want to understand why after I told him how broken I was by my situation and how I was not ready to date, why he would guilt trip me into meeting him then treat me so nastily. Why would he treat me like that knowing how fragile I was?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How could someone be so mean?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/cubebc/how_could_someone_be_so_mean/
|
AdditionalBreak9071
|
2023-11-03 19:56:18
| 1,699,041,378 | 0 |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
17n3im7
| true |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/17n3im7/what_is_considered_too_slow/
| 1 |
Hey. I am a (26F) dealing with a (27M). I matched with this guy in July of this year on hinge, but we had a met a few times before that because we frequent the same spaces. I talk to him whenever I see him (after we initially matched in July, but never prior, only just staring on both sides hahaha). My question is, what is considered too slow? He flirts with me. There’s chemistry and common interest, but things have been going very, very slow and I quite enjoy that aspect but would like some thoughts. Last month, we shared our first kiss in a space where we both frequent - since I only see him out and we don’t text outside of that / communicate outside of those spaces (as of yet) he added me on Instagram but both of us barely use it , what should I be thinking at this point? I feel he likes me but just is a slow mover in general. I also frequent these spaces within a group of 2-3 additional people and would like to know what your thoughts would be on approaching a person within a group? Would you be more deterred? Even if you liked the person. Just want to hear thoughts. Not overthinking this one.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What is considered too slow?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17n3im7/what_is_considered_too_slow/
|
Legitimate_Bison3756
|
2023-10-08 16:38:18
| 1,696,783,098 | 0 | null | 0 |
1733lsg
| true | null | 37 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1733lsg/is_it_common_to_see_many_female_profiles/
| 1 |
I see many profiles with pictures of them at Taylor Swift concerts, prompts asking what your favorite Taylor Swift song is, telling you to not go out with them if you don’t like Taylor Swift. I believe at least 15% of profiles I see mention Taylor Swift in some way. I never see any other musical artist mentioned. Why do people do this and how does Taylor Swift hold such control over people?
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Is it common to see many female profiles dedicated to Taylor Swift and do you auto-swipe left on them?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1733lsg/is_it_common_to_see_many_female_profiles/
|
flamingle22
|
2018-09-30 23:34:37
| 1,538,350,477 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
9kb5la
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/9kb5la/do_i_tell_him_the_truth_or_nah/
| 1 |
So Ive been on a couple of dates with this guy from tinder and Im really into him. Just after our second date, I got a message from a girl I had a threesome with 3 weeks earlier advising that she has chlamydia and there is a chance I might have it. I've booked in an appointment to get checked next week. Me and this guy haven't had sex yet, but he has been round and we hung out in my bed, but I was on my period so there was no fun to be had that night. Though now I feel like he is probably expecting it sometime soon and I don't want him to think I've lost interest in him or that I'm using him. Also don't want him to freak out about the possible Chlamydia. What do you think I should do?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Do I tell him the truth or nah?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/9kb5la/do_i_tell_him_the_truth_or_nah/
|
Yodatwin
|
2018-09-23 02:03:16
| 1,537,668,196 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
9i514c
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/9i514c/how_do_i_deal_with_this_situation/
| 1 |
So there's this girl that I've been texting consistently for about a week after matching on tinder. Shes also the one doing most of the talking. We decided to meet up and grab some sushi for a lunch date(if you could call it that). We seemed to get along pretty well through the phone, but immediately after the date, she just kind of ghosts me, no more texts or calls. Now I'm pretty sure there were some things that I said that may have caused this reaction, but how do I know for sure and what do I do about it?? She says she avoids drama for her life, so I don't wanna seem too hard up about it, but it's bugging me a lot. Even if I can't see her again, I want to get this off my mind.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How do I deal with this situation?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/9i514c/how_do_i_deal_with_this_situation/
|
Less_Cake_5957
|
2024-06-21 18:55:06
| 1,718,996,106 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1dlbmkd
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1dlbmkd/let_me_know/
| 1 |
So, I (30F) am debating dipping my toes back into the water after my LTR ended, but my plan was to create a tinder and simultaneously complete some home projects. I know most people don't want to do manual labor when on a date, but there are just some things that I can't do alone. So date 1 could be helping me put wallpaper(peel&stick) up in my laundry room and possibly help me hang a chandelier. I will provide dinner and good company, and if we hit it off from there, we can take things to another level and potentially go on a "real" first date. My plan is to make my profile completely transparent, I am just a DIY girly who can't do electrical. I figured if we could get through a home project together then it would speak highly of our ability to be able to successfully communicate. So does this have legs or am I being just a little bit delusional?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Let Me Know
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1dlbmkd/let_me_know/
|
DaChizz44
|
2024-05-25 21:13:55
| 1,716,671,635 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1d0lqd9
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1d0lqd9/help_me_help_you/
| 1 |
So here is the thing, I'm designing a new product as a dating coach. I'm not trying to sell anything, just get the input of young guys that want to improve their dating life and get a girlfriend. Getting someone to care for and that cares for you, while being yourself, is very fullfiling and EVERYONE is entitled to that experience, so help me to figure out the best way to transfer my knowledge to you. Lets craft the perfect service for you: Would you like online one on one daily advice, online group advise with Q&A, or life time access to an online course? Would you like a gamified experience? Does a community with like-minded people sharing advice iterest you? Do you prefer to get good at dating apps or approaching real women? If you have a different idea of what the perfet program would look like for you, let me know. Feel free to DM me as well.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Help me help you
| 1 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1d0lqd9/help_me_help_you/
|
catchmeifyoucan_1994
|
2021-05-02 05:51:55
| 1,619,934,715 | null |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
n306i8
| true | null | 20 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/n306i8/whats_an_ugly_girl_to_do_these_days/
| 5 |
So I just turned 27. Here I am. I need advice on how to meet a man! No dating experience at all. I downloaded deleted and redownloaded many many dating apps. I literally get close to no matches or noone wants to answer back. Today I was at the dog park and I saw the most amazing guy. But I did nothing. I feel like every guy I even slightly like is out of my league. What's an ugly girl to do these days ? Do I approach the handsome man anyway and embarrass myself ? Do I vist as many clubs as I can when covid is over? Do i wear taller heels?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Whats an ugly girl to do these days?
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/n306i8/whats_an_ugly_girl_to_do_these_days/
|
Consistent_Form1798
|
2023-03-30 21:57:27
| 1,680,213,447 | null |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
1270krm
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1270krm/frustrated_and_confused_after_this_shit/
| 1 |
So I (24F) met this guy (31M) on OkCupid, who I was interested in pursuing mainly romantically but was still interested in platonically. We seemed to share a lot in common and had similar outlooks... However, he is in the process of a divorce from his HS sweetheart (33F) and knew he didn't want a LTR for the time being so we agreed to be friends. From what it sounded like, he had left her after years of dealing with her BPD and I sympathized as I grew up with a BPD mother. He had his own stuff too and was dealing with alcoholism but seemed to be on a good path and making active steps to address his trauma and what led him to drink. Overall, I felt like both of us could be friends and were open to taking things slow and discussing whatever happened if it led to more. The first and second time we hung out, we talked to each other for a while and had lots of fun. During these times, he initiated physical contact by rubbing my thighs and butt so I felt this was a sign of sexual attraction. I was open to having sex and attempted to ask about his feelings on physical intimacy but he described talking about it as "awkward" and we just ended up having sex a couple of times and afterwards he asked me to stay and cuddle. We hung out a couple more times where I mostly initiated the hangout but our conversations felt good and honest which was rare in my 5-6 years meeting/hooking up with people from apps so I was interested in keeping him around and having a friendship with some benefits. In general, I wanted to have more friendships and also to learn how to navigate having sex without confusing that with automatic romantic compatibility. I tried not to feel weird about wanting to hang out with him more because I had previously asked his boundary on this and he told me that he would tell me before it got bad, I also I felt comfortable knowing that I wasn't fantasizing constantly about what could be with him and was being more realistic than I had in the past. I decided to take him out a couple days after his birthday as a present, and we had a really good time. In some ways, I feel like it was too good of a time but I just brushed it off because I knew it ultimately didn't mean we were going to start a relationship. After that, he didn't talk to me for like a week but I don't really like texting so it wasn't a red flag. I reached out to check in and it sounded like he was just busy. I reached out again to hang out like a week after that and that's when I started to feel like he was either getting annoyed or taking my invites as a push for him to start a romantic relationship. I wanted to give it the benefit of the doubt and he agreed to hang so I ended up going over to his place. This night, I would find out that his ex was actually the one who asked for the divorce, he was just doing the paperwork because he normally took on that role in their relationship. I also found out that she was quite abusive and disrespectful towards him because she didn't respect him as a man. Interestingly enough, a short time after this he initiated a massage and sex. But, he could not get hard and started explaining how he needed to separate his romantic feelings from sexual ones. This led to me saying that I could see a romantic relationship with him, and although I wasn't waiting around for him and I thought we were both open to taking about things if it felt like more. I explained further that even if things weren't romantic I would still expect a friend to make time to see me as his lack of initiation made me wonder if he even wanted the friendship. I left the conversation feeling okay and like he agreed but kept playing it over in my mind for a couple of weeks before we briefly saw each other again. When we spoke this time, he said that I "put all my cards on the table" and I was confused but thought he mostly understood that I just wanted to at least maintain the friendship and that I felt like he could put in more effort if that's what he wanted. After two weeks, he reached out to me to give a music suggestion so I felt okay to ask him to hang and also felt like we should talk about things. It had been like a month since we actually hung out so I asked if he wanted to go on a hike that week or next to which he simply stated "I'm tied up this weekend". So no reschedule and still no initiation on his part. I finally got tired and decided to text him and clarify that I wasn't hanging out with him because I thought it could turn into a romance, and that I thought we would be able to talk about things if it made us feel weird/intense. I offered to take sex off the table as well. And this is where shit kinda got weird.... He responded and agreed that we probably shouldn't have had sex that early and felt like things were moving too fast/he wasn't comfortable with what dynamic seemed to be forming between us. But then told me that even though he felt we could be platonic, he was uncomfortable revisiting a friendship, even one without sex, because I reminded him of his best friend's little sister who he grew up with and it made him feel like the sex was inappropriate. He said we didn't look alike and that his dynamic with me wasn't similar to theirs but my interests/mannerisms/personality seemed similar to her. He said my age was a big factor, and that he confused the sense of familiarity and comfort he felt with me for chemistry at the time. I was very confused by the explanation and decided to stop talking to him completely. It was just a weird comparison especially given the sex we had and I don't understand why it all of a sudden became a big deal and would make it hard for us to just be friends. Thoughts??
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Frustrated and confused after this shit 🤔
| null | 0.99 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1270krm/frustrated_and_confused_after_this_shit/
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spacemonkey1988
|
2017-09-14 01:52:01
| 1,505,353,921 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
6zz933
| false | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6zz933/unmatching_with_exs/
| 2 |
Recently matched with my ex. She said hello and wished me well. I said thank you, and wished her well. How long should I keep the match? Forever? Or wait a little and then unmatch? More importantly, what message does that send to unmatch her? PS I want to get back together with her, but through advice from friends was told to keep the ball in her court and see if she reaches out to meet up.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
Unmatching with Ex's
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6zz933/unmatching_with_exs/
|
Top_Elephant_19004
|
2023-01-11 16:42:10
| 1,673,455,330 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
10997f7
| true | null | 74 | 0 |
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/10997f7/dating_with_teens/
| 16 |
I split with my ex last year and am now in the early stages of dating someone. We met on Bumble and are now on the third date. I have two teens. I told them last night that I was going to be out tonight because I am going on a date. Teen 1’s response was “mmm…ok.” Teen 2 is pissed. I am being very careful and have told them that already that I will date but that of course they will not view this person as a replacement dad and that is not what I expect. I would not introduce them to anyone I date until months (4?) into a relationship. Can you all on here with teens tell me how it’s gone for you? How much do you share? Where did you go wrong on reflection?
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datingoverfifty
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t5_12ieog
|
Dating with teens
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/10997f7/dating_with_teens/
|
Kingofthe925
|
2024-04-30 07:30:43
| 1,714,462,243 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
1cgmz2p
| true | null | 25 | 0 |
/r/AskMen/comments/1cgmz2p/how_do_guys_just_be_confident/
| 7 |
I’ve been told over and over the key to happiness and to attracting a partner is to “be confident.” But I don’t know how one does this. I think I’m a good enough person, and I think I’m about average in most categories including appearance. Yet when it comes to girls, it’s so hard to have confidence. Every girl I’ve interacted with has made either a joke or serious comment about my appearance and how I’m ugly. I’ve been ghosted or straight up rejected literally 1000 times (just checked my hinge stats). No girl I’ve introduced myself to has ever given me the time of day. Yet when I go to my friends or therapist for advice, they all say “be confident.” How do you guys stay confident through all the bullshit men deal with? Is it fake?
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AskMen
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t5_2s30g
|
How do guys just “be confident”
| 6 | 0.8 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1cgmz2p/how_do_guys_just_be_confident/
|
helpcatxmas2018
|
2019-02-15 19:50:10
| 1,550,260,210 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
ar0h15
| true | null | 18 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/ar0h15/hes_constantly_doubting_me_and_we_just_started/
| 2 |
This guy I’m dating made plans to hang out at his house last night when I got in the car he asked me if I had my bag. Then otw after dinner he just randomly says he’s gonna take me home. Then I got upset bc I told him after dinner it was his choice and he said no it’s up to you and I chose to go over. He seemed to be upset I was mindlessly scrolling Instagram. He gets upset telling me I talk too much about all of my problems and what about how he feels but I ask him about his day and he’s often reserved. I thought I was entertaining him but he criticized me for being too chatty but the cognitive dissonance really gets me. He’s constantly expressing how he’s unsure of how I feel and that he wanted to take me home bc he didn’t think I really cared but I go out of my way to text him I miss you and what’s up kind of texts all day bc I genuinely like him. But he’s randomly going into ruts of not believing me and wanting me to prove it and texting me things like you ended this it could’ve worked out. I want to leave him alone but I like him. Idk if there’s something I can do to make him see that. He told me it’s not all about you all the time and that he’s being really nice to me as nice as he ever gets for a woman but that I don’t seem to appreciate it. But I say thank you all the time. He was touching on my waist and I didn’t reciprocate in his opinion but I’m shy and we’re new. Also he kept saying yesterday we can hang out if I want but it’s nbd but then he chose a nicer restaurant for Valentine’s Day. then at dinner he kept saying he didn’t care if I came out or not I didn’t have to etc. which sounded like projection like he thought I didn’t want to be there but I did. I told him I felt bad I was sick all day and didn’t get him anything and he laughed and said I didnt get you anything i don’t care. Not sure if he’s overly insecure or bc I usuallly date friends who are sure I like them that my style of dating may be too boring or shy? Idk what to do if I should just be more attentive or leave him be. But I really like him obviously. Ohh and we met on bumble and I made a throwaway account to lurk and he’s still on there??? I feel like he wants me to profess undying love for him but that he just wants to have the final say and bc it’s mutually viable and mutually being decided at this point he keeps harassing me about how true my feelings are. It’s just really bizarre bc I’m shy and Witt him I really go out of my way to tell him how I feel bc I want us to be closer. But it’s somehow not enough. I think he’s just older and gets so offended at me looking at my phone and doesn’t understand I’m just passing the time. I only did it each time he went to the bathroom twice and otw to his house in the car. At the restaurant I felt like he wanted me to just sit there and idly wait for his return. It’s really heartbreaking to like someone so rigidly insecure.
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
He’s constantly doubting me and we just started dating
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ar0h15/hes_constantly_doubting_me_and_we_just_started/
|
[deleted]
|
2022-01-24 03:35:32
| 1,642,995,332 | null | null | 0 |
sbc926
| true | null | 42 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/sbc926/online_dating_and_bringing_up_conversations_on/
| 18 |
I get put in the celibate box, when actually I'm more in the "will need to get to know someone before having sex" basket. For me this means say 2-3 months before sex happens or at least when I feel ready to on my timeline and theirs. This comes up in conversation a lot with men saying that waiting for sex before marriage is non-negotional for them. Because of stranger danger, and me generally not wanting to be raped or used as a sex toy, is this a red flag? In saying this, they're matching with me knowing this is an issue for me and seeing if I will agree to have sex with them before marriage. And this topic is coming up as more important than my personality or anything. Is there any way to filter whose just looking for sex or whose actually serious? It just seems like too much sexual talk very early for me to think they're serious.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Online dating and bringing up conversations on first sexual encounters.
| null | 0.8 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/sbc926/online_dating_and_bringing_up_conversations_on/
|
uncleji_SAM
|
2023-11-07 16:06:59
| 1,699,373,219 | 0 |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
17pxnnq
| true |
Question ❓
| 20 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/17pxnnq/double_standards_i_have_noticed_when_dating/
| 1 |
NOTE: This is completely my experience and doesn’t define all women and all men! Something I have noticed when using dating apps is that when I am talking to multiple girls on a dating app and seeing multiple girls(hookup,date etc) multiple people(reddit,discord, and irl) have told me this is bad practice. However many girls I know(through dating and friends same exact people) talk to multiple men and choose between them sometimes even lead men on. In addition to this a girl I once dated even said that she wanted something serious and I agreed to it then she ghosted me and came back to me to tell me she and I weren’t serious yet and she wanted to work towards something like that. Can someone explain to me why I am taking the hit for dating multiple women, not leading them on and being honest but when girls do this it isn’t a problem?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Double standards I have noticed when dating
| 1 | 0.53 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/17pxnnq/double_standards_i_have_noticed_when_dating/
|
emilyvogt
|
2024-08-16 21:15:44
| 1,723,842,944 | 0 |
['tinder', 'badoo']
| 0 |
1eu06lp
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1eu06lp/need_help_discover_that_he_has_a_girlfriend_do_i/
| 1 |
Hello, Im new here and Im not a native speaker but Im going to try to explain. Sorry for the big text, giving context. So it all began 6 years ago, i (30F) met him (26M) on Badoo. We met in person, i slept in his house a few times, i started getting feelings and he was very distant and cold. Example: he never answered my messages and he only texted me to schedule meetings on his house. Things wasnt working for me and i asked him if he wanted to get together in a coffee, he Said yes, but didn't show up. I ended things and started a relationship little time later. I was in the relationship for 3 years, had a baby, and in that time he was constantly texting me, Saw all my posts on social media (so he knew i was in a relationship and pregnant) but he was always saying that he dindt want to loose me, he wanted to be a part of my life as friends but i never answered. My relationship ended on the beggining of 2021, and on One of the Times he reached out i answered. We started seeing each other again. He dindt change at all, same behaviour. To clarify i was not looking to start a new relationship, i was an emocional wreck, but he didnt show up to meet, texted me a lot of time later and didnt even justify, it was worse for me this second time because i was a mother and it was very hard to get the time and arrange things so for me he was very disrespectful. In this second time i was getting stalked by a girl on Instagram, and i Saw in her bio his name linked and a ❤️💍 so i asked him about it, he said it was his last girlfriend that they broke up but she was not dealing with it very well and was stalking everyone on his insta. I didn't put more thaught into it and believed him. E ended things because of same behaviour in 2022. I moved out of the city short time later with my Daughter, started a relationship, and again, text after text from him, same conversation. Things didnt work out and i moved back on early 2024. Again he reached out and i answered, but this time i was not Open for the same behaviour so i Said that i Will agree with a coffee first and then we could be friends with benefits (like he sugested exactly with this sentence) Months went by and we didn't meet or because i couldnt or him. And the problem begins now, Last week he invited me to go to the beach the day after, i agreed, it was school day, i texted him two hours before we agreed, he didnt reply. I went alone but i got angry because i was done, it was not the first time he have done this to me this third time so i caught an uber and went to his house to confront him. I was on the door for almost 30 minutes thinking if this was the right thing to do, i didn't Saw him in two years at this point, and he lives with older siblings (boys and girl), but i knock.. A girl opened the door, i just Said that i was a long time friend of him, i was out of town for a while, came back and decided to come say hello. Well, She was his girlfriend... (Reminder: he wanted to BE friends with benefits and already asked me to go to a motel) I dindt say anything, i was in shock. So i just Said: oh, Nice, Im happy for you both, don't worry we were just friends. She asked me if i wanted to give a message i Said no need and that was it. I started to walk, and i Saw him, right in front of me, i make him a signal (pissed) to come talk. Well, i discovered that She is the girl that was stalking me on social media 2 years prier and they were dating all this time For Eleven years We didn't had more time to clarify things because She was calling him non stop (as She should) and i left. Later that day i Discover he is not only talking with me but he is on Tinder. So i just Rage texted him, called him everything on the book, the conversation ended with us saying that it was best to have a conversation face to face. A week went by and nothing, he doesnt reply, just vanished, and Im pissed. So, i was waiting for a conversation that is not happening. Should i go tell her? I have prints of everything, of his Tinder too. What should i do? I don't want to make this decision based on my rejected feelings, all this time i thaught he had feelings for me because of all of the texts for years! Thank you and sorry again for all this text. Ps: and yes i know, i was stupid all this time.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Need help. Discover that he has a girlfriend. Do i tell her?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1eu06lp/need_help_discover_that_he_has_a_girlfriend_do_i/
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LessCrab4853
|
2024-08-31 03:18:09
| 1,725,074,289 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
1f5dsza
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1f5dsza/long_distance_situationship/
| 1 |
okay I (21F) have been talking to this guy that I met on a dating app 5 months ago. We have become super close to the point that we have the Super BFF on snap and a 150 day snapstreak. Morning to night we are always in contact. The only issue is he is in a different country (we originally met cuz I was messing around and placed my location in the states when I’m really in Canada and that’s how we ended up matching). We differ on absolutely everything politically and the distance most certainly does not help. There is also the religion aspect. He is a die hard Christian and I am an atheist. I know realistically we won’t end up together but I am genuinely so attached to him it’s bad. And it’s so strange because I have never felt this way for someone irl. I think it’s because he knows absolutely everything about me and vice versa. It’s hard to articulate how much he means to me because it sounds so dumb and childish “this guy from Snapchat”. But he knows me better than anyone else. I just really want him to come visit me in person because I think a lot would straighten out on its own when seeing each other irl. But he recently decided to end things because he thinks the longer we drag it out the more it’ll hurt. I definitely see where he is coming from but I just can’t seem to let him go. The thought of going no contact makes me ill. I really would be willing to put so much effort in to make it work. I even told him I’d convert to Christianity for him. He tells me that I shouldn’t convert for him but because I actually want a relationship with God. It just blows my mind that the fact that I would convert for him is not enough. He says he doesn’t want to end it but he thinks it’s for the best. Idk has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Am I just being super delusional in thinking that there is any hope? Let me know!
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
long distance situationship
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1f5dsza/long_distance_situationship/
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ZoeToidtheOmniscient
|
2024-05-25 16:32:38
| 1,716,654,758 | 0 |
['OLD']
| 0 |
1d0ft7m
| true | null | 24 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1d0ft7m/stop_dating_and_make_more_friends_or_keep_doing/
| 9 |
At the the moment (M47 single no kids) I have 2 lonime friends that care about me, but only see a few times a year (at my initiative often), more often rarely happens. my older friends have kids now and ignore me. So I don't have friends to hang with regularly and I'm hiding this loneliness from my peers and family to not make them worry about me, on top of being single and often not feeling confident enough to ask someone out (OLD is a timesuck and doesn't work for me, been there done that... I have to try my luck in IRL) Got some no's from women recently, so I wonder, would she be more interested if I felt more secure and less desperate for company because I could talk to someone at home about this encounter? I feel like the cards are stacked against me in the dating and mating game at my age. I don't look my age, reasonably fit, content in my job, got some ambition left in me... but I still hold back, because of that voice 'when she finds out you don't have many friends then she's gonna leave you anyway so why even bother her? Is my thinking wrong or overthinking it ? I join at least one social activity (local Meetups) a week just for this reason, to connect, to maybe make friends (no dating). Most of the ppl I've met already have their friendcircle. You see my previous ex gf made a huge deal out of me spending all of our time with her and not looking up my friends. So I forced a live meeting with 3 good friends, only to painfully realize that I had just 2 left. As an Artist (not by vocation) and introvert I'm all about alonetime, to have the quiet and solitude to make Art, I need this time by myself. But I feel the anxiety growing when I want to share something but have no one around or available. So uilding friendships takes time effort with a uncertain outcome. What am I to do in the meantime ? not date and ignore potential romantic prospects ?
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
Stop dating and make more friends or keep doing both ?
| 9 | 0.8 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1d0ft7m/stop_dating_and_make_more_friends_or_keep_doing/
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Dry_Champion_4650
|
2021-01-26 21:50:00
| 1,611,697,800 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
l5omzl
| true | null | 181 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/l5omzl/tinder_bio_has_a_picture_that_i_took_of_him_on_a/
| 281 |
We aren't exclusive and haven't had any discussion about where we are going. Been dating over a month, been on 6 dates. But I just noticed he has updated his tinder bio pictures and there is one I took of him on our second date. I'm kind of pissed and I want to bring it up. Am I overreacting?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Tinder bio has a picture that I took of him on a date.
| null | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/l5omzl/tinder_bio_has_a_picture_that_i_took_of_him_on_a/
|
TheGreyBearded
|
2022-10-18 21:18:04
| 1,666,127,884 | null | null | 0 |
y7j71l
| true | null | 18 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/y7j71l/have_apps_completely_canceled_free_users/
| 2 |
I've had about 12 likes on my OKcupid profile for about 2-3 weeks. I swipe probably \20 mins every other day or so (I actually look at the profiles and don't just swipe right on everyone) and I only get a match/missed match on about 1 out of every 80-100 swipes. That means I'm not even presented the profiles that swiped right on me. They're just trying to force me to upgrade my account... Similar situation on Tinder and Bumble. I know all those apps are owned by the same company. Have they practically removed the option not to pay to get matches? I used to have a premium account on all those apps at various times if. Maybe that affects the algorithm?
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Have apps completely canceled free users?
| null | 0.63 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/y7j71l/have_apps_completely_canceled_free_users/
|
CecilPalad
|
2020-01-06 15:36:25
| 1,578,324,985 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
ekvock
| true | null | 216 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ekvock/someone_please_help_me_on_this_question_why_wait/
| 54 |
Please someone help me out on this topic, I’m really struggling to understand. I keep seeing on DOT that a good portion (70%+?) of all early relationship issues arise because people are not seeing each other exclusively. This could be a few weeks, a month, a few months, and I’ve even read about people who have been seeing someone for 6 months but have never had the exclusive talk. WHY?? Are people just truly afraid to bring up the topic? Is being exclusive such a taboo topic? I mean really, what’s the deal? Setting up exclusivity between you and someone you are seeing does not mean you’re getting married to them. To some it doesn’t even mean boyfriend and girlfriend. Not being exclusive means people are free to date whomever they want still. Some people stop seeing new people, stops talking to new people as well, and they even go as far as deleting their OLD profile, but for some reason never have the exclusive talk with their partner. What gives? I really don’t understand why people don’t seek this sooner? As soon as I’m interested in someone and that I see LTR potential, I bring up the exclusivity talk. I would like to fully concentrate on this one person to see where it goes, while ignoring other new people that might pop up. If it doesn’t work out after a few months, you break up, that’s all there is to it. But it allows peace of mind that you and your new potential partner are dedicated to seeing where the relationship goes, without distractions from other people. Is this such a huge commitment for some, that they are afraid to bring it up too early? Again, someone please help me understand why you WOULDN’T want to seek to be exclusive with someone early on.
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Someone please help me on this question, why wait to determine exclusivity?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ekvock/someone_please_help_me_on_this_question_why_wait/
|
robby_g23
|
2023-06-03 09:14:14
| 1,685,783,654 | 0 | null | 0 |
13z6xsp
| true | null | 12 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/13z6xsp/49_m_talking_about_how_is_your_old_going_with_a/
| 2 |
I feel so clueless on this 😬 It’s probably not because I feel like I can always say or be my authentic self. Now, with perhaps a factor of (generationally-former) vestigial Catholic-guilt issues, what I struggle with being honest with myself is: am I here for hookups or here for LTR? I have a hard time separating this these notions. And then I don’t know how to explain that, and maybe thus feeling guilty. does any of this make sense?
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
49 M. Talking about “how is your OLD going?” with a first or second date.
| 2 | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/13z6xsp/49_m_talking_about_how_is_your_old_going_with_a/
|
malachai926
|
2020-06-22 20:36:28
| 1,592,858,188 | null |
['tinder', 'hinge', 'match.com']
| 0 |
he0a2j
| true | null | 74 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/he0a2j/do_you_ever_legitimately_wonder_if_you_should/
| 57 |
I don't even necessarily mean something like "throwing in the towel" or "giving up". I mean it more like maybe being totally honest with one's self about the trajectory of one's life, all you want to achieve and strive for, and whether it ever occurs to you that maybe the married life just isn't for you? I've been giving this some serious thought. For one thing, it is actually very UNcommon for single adults to want a relationship. About 80% of single Americans are no longer looking for a spouse... They've made this decision, that marriage just isn't for them. With every relationship failure I have, I lose more and more interest in dating. Every time I meet someone and it goes nowhere, I start to wonder, what the hell am I doing here? Last year I decided to take a break from dating entirely. No match.com, tinder, hinge, said no to every potential set-up... I'm 35 now but I've been either "on the prowl" or actually in a long-term relationship for most of that. And to be honest it was one of the better years of my adult life. I just have a hard time convincing myself to really be vulnerable to others when that vulnerability repeatedly gets me hurt. How many times have I opened up to someone completely and just got fucked over for it? Is it even worth it? If it takes me until I'm in my 50s or 60s to find "my person", is the massive amount of shit I've dealt with for 30-40 years really going to feel like it was "worth it"? But really, on a more fundamental level, I do wonder if marriage just isn't for me, as I admit I'm often RELIEVED when a lot of potential mates vanish from my life. Not to mention it's very rare for me to develop "feelings" for anyone... I am friendly and have good friendships with people, but to really "reveal" myself to someone else takes a level of comfort with someone that I have very rarely achieved with anyone, maybe not even with my closer friends. "It will work out" they say, but I've been at this for nearly 2 decades and it has yet to do so. Maybe I'm just not meant for that kind of life? Maybe you aren't either?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Do you ever legitimately wonder if you should give this up for good?
| null | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/he0a2j/do_you_ever_legitimately_wonder_if_you_should/
|
wulolo
|
2014-10-15 17:47:26
| 1,413,395,246 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
2jc51y
| null | null | 14 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/2jc51y/women_just_looking_to_get_laid_who_are_you_and/
| 0 |
(By the way geez what is with everyone downvoting this to hell 0_0) I've only ever had sex in a relationship, and for a few reasons I'm not interested in hiring a prostitute. My experience in real life (and I'm in college right now, in the U.S.) has led me to believe that very, VERY few women are interested in casual sex, but are instead interested in having sex only in a serious relationship. There just doesn't seem to be the same burning, frustrating urge for women. Then on reddit, I hear many women saying that they are looking/have looked for just casual sex before. My question to you is: how do I possibly find any such women and have sex with them? I'm using Tinder and OKC, and have talked to a few women in real life, but I feel extremely awkward doing this in real life because of the high social pressure to not be "creepy." (And, well, it's never worked for me.) I'm not fat, I shave everyday, I shower everyday, I work out so I have decent muscle mass just not huge, I wear well-fitting button-down shirts with the sleeves rolled up to the elbows. I'm just really seeing this huge disconnect between what I see in real life and what I see on reddit; I do believe that such amazing women exist, I'd just appreciate any help in actually finding and succeeding with them. Thank you
|
AskWomen
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t5_2rxrw
|
Women "just looking to get laid": who are "you," and how do I find "you"? (Broadly speaking.)
| 0 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/2jc51y/women_just_looking_to_get_laid_who_are_you_and/
|
akemp595
|
2021-12-16 19:58:28
| 1,639,684,708 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
rhyr71
| true |
I Need Advice
| 32 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/rhyr71/advice_required_asap/
| 0 |
I have been texting a guy for a ages (after matching on a dating app) on Monday we started to talking about when we were both free and then he stopped replying, he reply’s today saying he forgot to reply as he read the message early in the morning on Tuesday - does this sound like an excuse? There was no apology for not replying, just said “only just realised I didn’t reply as I read this in the morning” Before him not replying things were good and we were (well I thought we were) clicking! I hate giving guys second chances as I always think if they wanted to see or text they would. Surely he would have thought I haven’t heard from her back for a few days considering we text everyday. Overthinking?
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Advice required ASAP!
| null | 0.17 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/rhyr71/advice_required_asap/
|
rinn2k19
|
2019-08-26 17:22:48
| 1,566,840,168 | null |
['dating site', 'badoo']
| 0 |
cvr44u
| true |
I Need Advice
| 20 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/cvr44u/my_date_refuses_to_talk_to_me_after_a_week/
| 2 |
TLDR: I smothered my date with texts to solve small issues. We had a really nice nearly perfect IRL experience, but she stopped replying to me and leaves me on read. What to do or think? Hello, I'm 27 and she is 22. I never had a girlfriend before, so I will explain how I met her and how it (possibly ended). I was scrolling throught a dating site (badoo) then I saw her profile. I didn't click it to like her because I thought she was too good for me. A day or two later, while scrolling throught my facebook, her picture appeared in my suggested contacts list. I instantly thought it was some sort of sign, luck whatsover. So I decided to text her on facebook. We got along pretty well and talked for couple hours. I even made her install whatsapp because I prefered it there. I found out she lived nearby, 15mins away with bus. For a whole weekend we would text constantly, we would call eachother cute names like ''my love'' ''my angel'' and even ''you're perfect for me''. She then decided to meet me at my bus stop just before work. This day was probably the most stressful day I ever had. I got out of the bus and we hugged (first time i hug a girl...) and it felt amazing! She offered me a sip of her drink, but i spit it out accidently like i didn't know how to drink (i was too nervous and shaking). We repeated the meetings for a whole week, every day before work. We hugged alot everytime and I could see she wanted to kiss me on the lips but I was not ready. She then had to move out because of issues with her old job. She invited me to help her, asking if I was strong and all to move furnitures, so I accepted it. I was extremely nervous to meet her mum although I knew she worked at my job (she has cancer), but we all got along very well. At the end of the moving I had to leave. We talked a lot more that time and eventually i decided to kiss her on the lips. It felt like heaven, literally. I will never forget that day. Later at night, she texted me saying she wanted to visit her male best friend that lives pretty far. I was fine with it and I decided to ask her if she wanted me to go along with her to keep her company. Unfortunally she took it wrong and said I was being jealous and wanted to control her...She has a bad past with her ex's which were all control freaks that cheated and abused her. I can understand it, but I feel like she sees me as one of them. Later on, she went on a call with him on facebook. I didn't know, so I kept messaging her wanting to solve the issue. She then left to bed without replying to me, just before work (night shift). So i was angered, stressed and sad and lost control. I pretty much spammed her trying to convince her that I'm not like her ex's, controlling, jealous, etc. So after 8 hours she eventually woke up and read it all, telling me that I was smothering her with the spam. She even said ''wow why talk about your emotions, it's only been a week''. She was letting me know that our kisses and hugs weren't like ''embrassing and marrying''. I feel like all of that meant nothing to her, that it was just a friend thing. But to me, since i'm new to actual relationships, it's like gold, magic and very precious :(. During the same day, she wanted to go out with her sister to carnival (or so). She told me to not text her, that she wanted time alone with her sis and didn't wanna be bothered. So I didn't text her (whatsapp) until I had to leave for bed. I only said good night and that I hope to see her at my bus stop again tonight. She only said ''good night''. No sweet words, names, emojis. Everything was just so different. So I again lost control. I texted her couple mins later and told her that I feel like I ruined what we had. She again replied with ''you're smothering me, let me breath''. She said that it's not going to work etc. I obviously replied trying to \solve\ the issue. After that she changed our cute names we had set on facebook to default ones. I only said ''Lol'' and she instantly blocked me there. I just gave up for the day and tried to sleep. When I woke up, I texted her like i always do before leaving for work. She replied ''stop texting me''. I never felt such pain before. She hasn't texted me ever since then. She wen't to bed obviously but I decided to send her a voice chat on whatsapp since she didn't block me there. My voice chat was only about how I'm sorry for everything, that I have the habit to fall for ppl easily, that her hugs n kisses were really special to me and that I would do everything for it to work. She woke up, listened/read it and hasnt replied, still. It's been nearly 24 hours since no message from her. I know it's short for something that is not official nor looking good, but I feel truly destroyed. I haven't slept or ate anything and I am so damn scared to lose her. I left her a ''have a good day message'' in the morning, she read it but as expected no reply. I dunno what to do nor think. She is the one, she is perfect to me. I felt magic every day of the week and when I helped her move out. But sadly I guess it meant nothing to her :(. I know i shouldnt have spammed her like that and let her breath like she wanted..it was my mistake and I can admit it truly...but do you guys think that she's done with me? Should I give her time? Stop texting her? The silence is just so painful :( and how she says it's not going to work...after all the good times we had together even if it was short.... And btw all the drama happened via texting, IRL was literally PERFECT. That is why I am confused. It was like a dream to me and it's all taken away within a day. I freak and worry that she's not going to text me ever again...
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
My date refuses to talk to me after a week. Feeling destroyed.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/cvr44u/my_date_refuses_to_talk_to_me_after_a_week/
|
thrown_copper
|
2022-04-19 15:23:05
| 1,650,381,785 | null |
['matches', 'swiping']
| 0 |
u77pav
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/u77pav/reasonable_smart_dating_goals_38m/
| 3 |
"What are some reasonable dating goals to set for myself?" Alright, it's that time of the year for many working professionals, to write out goals for the rest of the year. One of the more common models is "SMART" - specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, timely. I'm all about goal-setting (and process-following) when I can, and that includes setting personal goals. I sat down the other evening with my pen and got slightly stumped on dating goals. I'm in that camp who's looking for a partner and the white picket fence. I'm swiping regularly. I'm doing the things I enjoy and advertising to Instagram. But what counts as a measurable and achievable goals for my dating life? I can't make the matches happen or get the right kind of person to go to the same events that I am. I can keep swiping, keep getting to the haunts, keep going to events. Reddit hive-mind, what are other reasonable dating goals for guys? (if this is one of those "generalized situations" per the sidebar, please recommend a more appropriate spot for this question!)
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Reasonable SMART dating goals? [38M]
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/u77pav/reasonable_smart_dating_goals_38m/
|
xiangangmer
|
2023-01-04 18:11:08
| 1,672,855,868 | null | null | 0 |
103ahkd
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/103ahkd/old_for_marriage_gay_edition/
| 1 |
I am struggling to find likeminded men who want to get married. I'm 27 now, yet it's honestly just as bad as when I was 22. Anyways, does anyone know where I should look or which apps are actually better? I'm desperate enough to spend money on apps or subscriptions if it will make a meaningful difference
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
OLD for Marriage (Gay Edition)
| null | 0.6 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/103ahkd/old_for_marriage_gay_edition/
|
latdaddy420
|
2020-08-09 13:02:06
| 1,596,978,126 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
i6iynm
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/i6iynm/how_to_handle_people_who_constantly_reschedule/
| 0 |
M (26) got out of a 5 year relationship. I’m trying to get dates, I’m told I’m good looking and a good talker, I did okay in the dating and hook up scene in university. But now whenever I try to set up a date the girl agrees to it and then when the date comes they reschedule or “something came up”. This has happened to me 4 times in a row now. The last one invited me over to her house and was chasing me, the one before that was constantly snapping me and doing all of the chasing. I’m busy so I don’t have all day to text you and get to know you through text. I know women need some level of comfort before meeting a stranger in person but I can’t be bothered to send you 20 texts a day I feel it would just dry the conversation topics up for an in person meet up. I’m really not sure what to do here because I refuse to give up but with covid, dating apps are all that you can use, since bars don’t allow you to meet new people and house parties aren’t really happening. Any advice other than “just keep on trying it’s a numbers game”?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
How to handle people who constantly reschedule
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/i6iynm/how_to_handle_people_who_constantly_reschedule/
|
Relative_Trifle7499
|
2023-04-13 14:15:16
| 1,681,395,316 | 0 |
['matches', 'dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
12kqov2
| true | null | 0 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/12kqov2/is_how_im_feeling_normal/
| 0 |
I (f23) recently met someone (m25) on a dating app and so far things have been going well but I've not been able to fully enjoy it. I've been feeling pretty burnt out from dating recently, I don't have an issue with getting matches but I have been having a hard time finding someone I really connect with. Usually first dates go pretty well, I enjoy the conversations but I rarely feel a spark. With this particular guy I wasn't even that excited going into it and almost cancelled because we were having bad weather on the day of our first date. It went extremely well and we ended up talking for hours. He just seems like such a genuine guy who was also incredibly intelligent, kind, and funny. We've been on a handful of dates since and while it's always been great, I can't shake this feeling that it's going to end before I'm ready for it. I know for a fact that he's still active on the apps because he's been changing his profile (he's fully allowed to be, we're not exclusive) and it hurts a bit because I have a hard time entertaining other people when I'm excited about someone. I'm fully aware this is how things are with dating apps but it's starting to really affect me because it feels like he's just with me until a better option comes along. I feel like it's too soon to ask for exclusivity and I don't even know if I'm fully ready for a relationship at this time so it's all been really confusing. Usually our dates go on for pretty long but our last date was just a casual lunch because we were both quite busy. At the end I couldn't help but feel this deep sadness for some reason. I know this is such a terrible and illogical way of going about things and that I should be enjoying the experience but I can't help the way I feel. I've had some rough experiences in the past with dating and i'm sure this is just me preparing for the worst but any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is How I'm Feeling Normal?
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/12kqov2/is_how_im_feeling_normal/
|
sammyjamez
|
2020-07-30 07:14:02
| 1,596,093,242 | null |
['dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0 |
i0hmbb
| true |
Venting
| 0 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/i0hmbb/trying_to_connect_with_other_people_through/
| 1 |
I do not know where to begin, honestly because I am aware that this is a super complicated issue. I'll start with the basics. I struggle with loneliness and had struggled with it for a very long time. I also struggle with mental issues but I luckily have a psychology degree and go through therapy and I have pretty much whatever strategy I can think of to keep myself afloat. But I will say that it is not easy to deal with them because I can be very mentally taxing sometimes. But my heart is there when it comes to taking care of myself so that part, as much as it feel like a constant care, I have my resources and strategies to go through them I do admit that I am not very adept when it comes to social skills. Mostly because of poor upbringing and trauma. I have been learning slowly on the know-how bit by bit about interacting with other human beings and most of the time, I had to learn them the hard way - heartbreaks, rejections, ghosting, you name it. At first, I thought that the fault was me because I had been rejected, neglected and bullied and abused all my life that the only reasoning that I could think of is that I am the problem. Truth to be told, there is some truth to that because I know that I am always sure how to approach another person, let alone not knowing the millions of ways that the person might react. But I kept on pushing through and realised that the problem was not me but the other person because they do not have the stomach to be open or geniune. Yet, I persist and persist and persist. But .... it hurts. A lot. And this is where I really want to rant I feel that people have no gratitude or dignity at all and I feel that the social media that we rely on today makes it too easy. Funny how we are supposed to connect with the technology of today but in reality, it pushes us away and alienates us. Too many times, I have tried and tried and tried again to approach other people on social media. I use Instagram to post photos (i like photography) and approach others whenever i see a good photo and 80% of the time, they give only a seen or simply a like and a gentle thank you which I know that it means that they do not want to talk. I have used dating apps (mostly Tinder) and no matter what approach I use, whether the conventional and genuine hello or the creative approach, 70% of the time we get no reply at all. Or the worst part is when you think you are going so well, the communication feels genuine and real and all of a sudden ... the other person disappears. It hurts so bad when that happens and it makes me paranoid and scared of what to say next. Sometimes I ended up double texting just to see if everything is ok. Sometimes I simply give an honest message (yes, I am that kind of person. I'm sorry but I refuse to simply walk away from something without being deserved an explanation or at least speaking from the heart about how I feel or to genuinely ask if everything is all right). This is the part where I mostly get blocked or still get a seen and no reply. Sometimes I ended up cancelling my Tinder account but ended up restarting it, hoping for another try. And again, again and again. This perpetual cycle of me trying to best that I can to have a decent human connection is tiring and is seriously impacting on my entire soul, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Too many times I felt less than human because of this when I try to approach myself in the most genuine way possible and treat the other person as an equal. Interacting with another human being has become the same as walking on eggshells or a complicated game of chess where every move feels paranoid because you do not want to risk a bad outcome. Most days, when I feel continuously alone, depressed and hopeless, as much as I have my own strategies to counter these, I feel tempted to look on my phone, aimlessly scrolling or waiting, hoping to get a notification or something. Too many times I feel like I am being the instigator of a conversation and not the other way around. I do the best I can to not appear needy or desperate yet in these situations where things feel so bad, that I have every compulsion to be needy and desperate which I know pushes people away. So this is where I stand most of the time. In many cases, it feels like I am going around in circles or stuck in a complicated maze where every path is an elaborate puzzle that needs to be solved. If I approach myself in a non-genuine way, I might risk being rejected for it If I approach myself as honest and genuine (which is the approach that I use), people can still potentially reject me because not everyone has the courage to do the same. Be funny. Be genuine. Be open-minded. Be whatever ... you still get rejected, ghosted or blocked for whatever reason that the other person can think of but never have the stomach to tell you why. It feels a lot like I am being bullied yet I keep coming back, hoping to try again and hoping to achieve a decent and genuine human connection. It is exhausting really. It is laughable too on how we are in this position and we are the ones who put ourselves in this situation. I keep doing my best to avoid doing the same thing or fall the same trap. I don't want to ghost others if I do not feel a connection but I aim to walk away or walk our own paths in good terms. I aim to be honest, genuine and sincere. Still, for some reason, people can reject you for it. It makes you feel petty, little, embarrassed, voiceless and really frustrated but you do not know why to whom you want to be frustrated to. It is a heavy burden to carry and a big toll for the sake of genuinely wanting a decent human connection, whether friendship or possibly a relationship of whatever kind. I can potentially rant about a hundred of other things that I had to endure over the years all because I do not want to feel invisible (and yes, I am aware that loneliness is also in my head. I try to keep that in mind). I feel that most people are not appreciative of how much effort it takes to just feel like you are treated like a human being, no matter how geniune you try to be. It feels like you are being treated like a toy or a device that a person can simply manipulate and use and throw away when you dont need it anymore instead of a thing that actually has a soul. I know that chances are that I could be doing the same to others and probably am not aware of it but I try to keep an open mind to avoid doing the same even though the rest of the world probably does this a lot. Shame that people complain how distant we are and I do what I can to cross that bridge or have the courage to take that leap of faith when other people walk away when they are given the chance
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Trying to connect with other people through social media has serious repercussions on my health
| null | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/i0hmbb/trying_to_connect_with_other_people_through/
|
descreetfu
|
2024-09-13 13:36:32
| 1,726,234,592 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1ffux3x
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ffux3x/questions_for_the_ladies_30_to_50_years_old/
| 2 |
What dating apps are you using? What gets your attention? What are instant turn offs? I'm a good looking guy, with my shit together. If I can get to the first date, things tend to go really well for me. My problem is that the women I'm most attracted to, with similar interests, and lifestyle, either don't match with me, or they stop responding before we get a chance to meet in person.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Questions for the ladies 30 to 50 years old
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ffux3x/questions_for_the_ladies_30_to_50_years_old/
|
LiaMargaridaSilva
|
2015-10-11 22:10:15
| 1,444,601,415 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
3odovb
| null | null | 4 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/3odovb/first_date_at_theme_park_advice_please/
| 1 |
Hi, i found a really nice and cute guy on tinder (i know) and he actually seems normal. We have been talking for a while, moved on to texts and calls and i really enjoy our conversations, we have a lot in common. The thing is we havent met, but he asked me out, particularly to go with him to an amusement park. I loved the idea but now i'm thinking maybe we should meet first under different circunstances, just so that on the day i dont end up "stuck" with him. I need advice, and cause the date is just on the 29th we still have time to meet.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
First date at theme park advice please!
| 1 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3odovb/first_date_at_theme_park_advice_please/
|
AquaRoze
|
2021-04-05 23:05:15
| 1,617,663,915 | null |
['dating site']
| 0 |
mkxfpo
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/mkxfpo/decent_dating_site_out_there/
| 2 |
Tried 3 so far. Meet me took the damn cake. Nothing but creeps so far. Had one guy talk to me like an normal human being. I think I'm going to return being an happy hermit
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Decent dating site out there?
| null | 0.76 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/mkxfpo/decent_dating_site_out_there/
|
[deleted]
|
2014-03-08 04:37:50
| 1,394,253,470 | 0 |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
1zval5
| null | null | 27 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/1zval5/anything_i_should_be_aware_of_before_going_on/
| 1 |
I'm just wondering if there's anything to keep in mind before I go on a first date with a feminist. For example should I not offer to pay for the meal(s)? I know from her OkCupid profile that things such as "holding door open for a women, pulling out her seat for her" she finds sexist. I don't have anything against feminist but it would really suck if I accidentally upset her cause it seems like we really "click" from our online conversations.
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
Anything I should be aware of before going on first date with a feminist?
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/1zval5/anything_i_should_be_aware_of_before_going_on/
|
Cautious-Ad-6349
|
2021-07-19 21:22:58
| 1,626,729,778 | null |
['matches', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
onnkxh
| true |
I Need Advice
| 98 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/onnkxh/30f_and_running_out_of_hope/
| 42 |
Hi all \IMPORTANT EDIT: To all the men messaging me trying to pick me up, please stop lol. I came on here for advice, please don't treat my post as a dating profile, I am not here to be picked up thanks. Please have more class, you're literally proving my whole point in this post\ \Another Edit: To all the people saying I contradicted myself saying I don't care about looks but then say that my friends set me up with men I don't find attractive, let me clarify; by unattractive I usually mean lack of hygiene. Most of the guys my friends have tried to set me up with look and smell like they shower once a month. Another thing. I have tried dating men I do not find attractive. I dated a lovely man for 6 months and tried to fall in love with him as a person and wait for the attraction to come later. This ultimately did not happen and we ended up breaking it off. We are still good friends and he found a lovely lady who finds him hot af and I'm happy for him. It is simply UNREALISTIC to try to date someone you personally don't find attractive. Also, the men I find attractive, are not objectively attractive. I usually find awkward looking dudes or dudes who are a bit chubby to be hot af. I am not trying to date fuckin Ryan Reynolds lol my type is not objectively attractive. 30-year-old single woman here who is tired of watching everyone around her get married, have babies, buy houses together, and live the life I’ve always wanted. And depressingly, I know I’m not the only one. When I was a kid (I wanna say around 12 years old) and was made aware of what love was, I dreamed about it. Even to this day I dream about finding my person. You can have opinions about how toxic the idea of ‘the one’ is and I respect that opinion (and have done a lot of reading on it), but it is not the opinion I hold. I do believe in some kind of magic when it comes to love, sue me. I have had some of the worst luck dating. I have yet to reach longer than 9 months in a relationship; not for lack of trying either, I just have no experience in dating someone who doesn’t suck. I’ve been cheated on, dated lazy unmotivated guys, dated neglectful men who, even though I’ve basically begged for them to just acknowledge my existence, just never tried, men who are great for the first few months and then ultimately show me their true colours, and men who try to emotionally manipulate me. I have tried VERY HARD to give all of them the benefit of the doubt and given many of them multiple chances (because I know no man will ever be perfect and I don’t even want perfect) but all of these relationships ended because they just didn’t fuckin work out.The good thing though is that I’m very good at cutting it off when I know it isn’t going anywhere. I don’t waste my time. I give a certain amount of chances and once those run out, I end it. I have tried dating apps. ALL OF THEM. I went on tons of dates. Unremarkable ones, creepy ones, ones that made me uncomfortable, ones that got a second and third date until I realized they were either already in a relationship or just fizzled out because they, not me, stopped trying.Eventually I gave up on all dating apps when I read more articles and watched more video essays about how destructive dating apps can be and I’ve made the decision to just never go on one ever again. I hate the idea of love being an ‘algorithm’ and I hate the vapid way they are designed, it’s basically online shopping for a human and I hate it. I don’t base my opinion on looks or ‘scientific matches’ and even the ones that were apparently my perfect matches ended up being awful experiences. I just hate the idea of love being treated like a chess game. My friends have also tried to set me up with multiple people, but they’re all either unattractive (in MY opinion), have nothing in common with me, just want to have sex, are deadbeats with no drive or desire to be a better person, or other things that factored into them not ever working out. It’s almost becoming insulting at this point when my friends say things like ‘so you might like this guy I know, he has a kid and there’s a bit of bad blood between the baby momma and him because he was in jail for a bit, but he’s single and looking’ That was an actual thing one of my friends said to me.I’m not desperate, and I will not drop my bare-minimum standards just to not be alone. I’m pretty strong in that regard. I’m not picky either. I give a STUPID amount of chances and let a lot of things slide. I’m not looking for perfect. I’m just looking for the person I can wake up to every morning who I know loves and cares about me, and who I love and care about too and maybe has their life together. That’s it. So why do I have such a terrible track record with this shit? Why does it feel like the universe has a sick sense of humour with me? I feel like it’s constantly shoved in my face that everyone around me is happy and making future plans with their partners except me. I’m in a family of 5. My parents have been happily married for 35 years, my middle brother has been with his (now fiancé) for 7 years, and my youngest brother just got married to the love of his life last year.I am ALWAYS the 7th wheel at family dinners. I’m not ugly. I’m cheerful, happy, funny, I have a dark sense of humour, I don’t take myself too seriously, I have hobbies and interests and tons of cool life experiences, I’m laid back and understanding, I’m reasonable, I’m loving and dote on every one of my partners, and even though I have a bit of body dysmorphia (who doesn’t), objectively, I’m a pretty good catch. But I know love isn’t supposed to be what you are on paper. I (more than anyone) know that. On paper I’m great, yes, but that’s not really how love works. So, what the hell is it then? How am I supposed to do to find my person? It doesn’t help that the pandemic has everyone not socializing like normal, but even before covid I’d always put myself out there in hopes of meeting someone organically. Did it ever happen? Not really. And if I did meet someone organically, they were just a part of that list of duds I mentioned earlier. The other thing I ABSOLUTELY HATE HEARING is the whole ‘just focus on yourself, it’ll come when you least expect it.’ People who repeat this lazy statement to me will be punched in the throat lol (jk). 1. I’m never not working on myself. I’m always working on being a better version of yesterday’s me. That won’t change or stop when I meet my person. 2. I am NEVER not expecting it. It’s literally the only thing I’ve ever wanted since I was 12, so I can’t exactly just shut that part of my brain off. And 3. I have been working on being successful in my career and life always. I’m not just moping around wishing for it to happen while not getting on with my life. I still have goals and plans that I work on despite being sad about not finding my person yet. So this phrase just makes me want to commit a hate crime when I hear it. Lol I just don’t know what else to do. I don’t even think I’m looking for answers by posting this either. My dream has always been to find my companion, start a family, and be a mom. I’ve always wanted that. So what the fuck lol. My biological clock is ticking (and no, I don’t JUST want the babies part, I want the whole package companion and all) and I’m just losing more and more hope every day. Thoughts??
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
30F and running out of hope
| null | 0.79 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/onnkxh/30f_and_running_out_of_hope/
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wellbloom
|
2024-08-02 13:35:37
| 1,722,605,737 | 0 |
['matched', 'bumble']
| 0 |
1eia85z
| true | null | 98 | 0 |
/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1eia85z/not_sure_if_i_should_hangout_with_this_new_guy/
| 21 |
We matched on Bumble and met last Sunday. We had planned a day hike but were rained out so grabbed lunch and then hung out at his place afterwards to smoke some weed and chit chat. He didn’t make a move at all and it was a lovely afternoon. He asked if I wanted to hangout again so we decided on this evening. But here’s the thing…I’ve already noticed a few oddities and I’m feeling pretty apprehensive about hanging out at his place tonight. We matched on Bumble so I can see his location…he’s 8miles from my house. He’s working a construction job about 1.5h south and claimed to leave for work at 6:00am every day…but his Bumble location literally never changes. The only time I saw it fluctuating was when I was waiting on him at the mountain on Sunday…I could see how close he was, etc. Then last night I asked what I could bring and he said alcohol…scotch or whiskey. I’m not sure why I found this odd…maybe more off putting? So I called him and while we were sorting out the details I heard his “other” phone blowing up. I asked why he had a 2nd phone and he said for work. Lastly, he lives in CA but is here in GA for a few months to manage this job…but the tag on his car is from Louisiana! I feel like something is amiss so I’m reaching out here for opinions.
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datingoverfifty
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t5_12ieog
|
Not sure if I should hangout with this new guy tonight. Opinions needed!
| 21 | 0.76 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/comments/1eia85z/not_sure_if_i_should_hangout_with_this_new_guy/
|
throfdfway22
|
2017-11-19 01:57:19
| 1,511,056,639 | null |
['tinder', 'badoo']
| 0 |
7dxipe
| false | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/7dxipe/is_my_girlfriend_active_on_badoo_20m_20f/
| 3 |
This girl and I got exclusive two weeks ago after meeting on Tinder. I deleted my Tinder account when we did this, and so did she, but while I clearing out my other apps, I realised I still had Badoo - an app I hadn't logged into for ages. I decide to open it up - mainly to delete my account on that too. However, in the meantime, I decide to look at the "people nearby" section - where my girlfriend featured on the fifth page of people. Now, I checked the "last online time", which was "7+ days ago", so I wasn't overly concerned. Then, next to her name, I noticed a green arrow that points upwards, so I hovered over that too, where it says "raised profile yesterday". Now, sadly, I assume this means she has superpowers activated, boosted her profile to the top of the list, and decides to appear offline to people while actually being online - hence her "7+ days" offline status. Would I be right in my assumption? I'm not 100% sure on how Badoo works, and wondered if Badoo boosts profiles themselves or something. I thought I'd ask here before approaching her over it, but it doesn't seem like it'll be good news for me. --- tl;dr: Girlfriend was 'online' 7+ days ago on Badoo, but her profile was raised just yesterday. Is this Badoo raising her account, or her using superpowers?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Is my girlfriend active on Badoo? [20/M] [20/F]
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/7dxipe/is_my_girlfriend_active_on_badoo_20m_20f/
|
Propaganda_Box
|
2017-06-17 14:58:19
| 1,497,711,499 | null |
['online dating', 'pof']
| 0 |
6httiq
| null | null | 1 | null |
/r/dating/comments/6httiq/kinda_miffed_but_also_kinda_amused/
| 1 |
So last year I started exchanging messages with a girl on POF. I thought we had hit it off well. After a week or two I get her number and we set up a first date. Well come the night before she calls it off saying she thinks I'm too old for her (I was 26 at the time, she was 20. So right at the cusp of my acceptable age range). After checking she didn't want to at least try a first date, since we did have it all planned out already. She said she was sure. I'm pretty chapped at this as I hadn't had much success at all with online dating up to this point so this was quite the let down. Also this was my first time being turned down for being too old. Ouch, but I respected her decision. Fast forward to this week. I'm beyond over it. She sends me a message on OKC. It seems to me like a generic opener but could also be referencing back to a previous conversation. I'm not sure. So I respond to her message and add in "long time no chat, what's new in your world?" I would be open to seeing her as like I had said, we hit it off before. No response in two days, and she has definitely been online. so I guess my first hunch was right. She didn't know it was me. The kicker? Her upper age limit listed on OKC is 29.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Kinda miffed, but also kinda amused
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/6httiq/kinda_miffed_but_also_kinda_amused/
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BigMark97
|
2020-07-29 02:41:27
| 1,595,990,487 | null |
['matched', 'tinder', 'bumble']
| 0 |
hzslec
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/hzslec/dating_in_covid_what_to_do/
| 2 |
So back in March when everything shutdown due to coivd and since there wasn't much to do I hoped back on tinder/bumble, anyways I matched with this girl and we hit it off and we texted back and forth for about a couple of months, and when things started to open up again we meet in person and went on a couple of dates and it was fun but there wasn't really any "sparks"and I feel like I'm dragging things on which isn't fair to her. Honestly I'm not sure what to do, I feel like I should let her know how I feel and where I stand.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Dating in Covid what to do?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/hzslec/dating_in_covid_what_to_do/
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Nervous_Pass_5492
|
2024-04-18 16:57:53
| 1,713,459,473 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1c78duj
| true | null | 28 | 0 |
/r/AskMen/comments/1c78duj/how_to_approachpursue_bigger_guys/
| 1 |
I 25f have a very specific attraction to bearded guys that are on the slightly heavier side but just don’t see them on dating apps. I often feel as if I see these types of men with curvier or more plus size women rather than women built like me, 5’9 with a slim/lean build. So my confidence in approaching these men in public is very low
|
AskMen
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t5_2s30g
|
How to approach/pursue bigger guys
| 1 | 0.3 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1c78duj/how_to_approachpursue_bigger_guys/
|
ThoughtCrafty6154
|
2023-08-13 04:07:29
| 1,691,899,649 | 0 |
['matches']
| 0 |
15pov6s
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/15pov6s/what_are_some_things_that_makes_you_unmatch_that/
| 1 |
I've unmatched with 3 women in the past week. I don't feel as if there was much intrest being shown. If I don't get hardly any questions or days go by without a response I just unmatch. Noone did anything wrong, and one had even agreed to meet, but no texts first or not hardly any questions asked and I'm out. I do see a markedly big difference when I see someone intrested. Text firsts, good morning text, and some long texting back and forth during about a 7 day time frame is some things I've seen. Believe it or not, I break off a match more than women do with me. Not to say I get that many matches though.
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
What are some things that makes you unmatch that are lesser reasons but you just aren't feeling it?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/15pov6s/what_are_some_things_that_makes_you_unmatch_that/
|
peepeepoopoogyal
|
2024-07-18 01:38:22
| 1,721,266,702 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
1e5zhub
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1e5zhub/ive_been_talking_to_a_guy_for_almost_a_month_but/
| 1 |
I (24F) met a guy (25M) on bumble over a month ago. We talked for a bit, then he got my socials and we took our conversation there. We clicked almost instantly, good connection and things got a little spicy too quickly. we planned to meet twice but he cancelled on me on those two times probably because he was nervous (often brings up that I make him nervous and that I’m too pretty, or hot suggests that I’m “too pretty to kiss him”). But since I really like him, and didn’t mind texting we just continued with our daily conversations. He normally replies fairly quickly but a week ago hes been taking longer to reply (17 hours+) which left me confused and worried. I shoot him a text and he replied that he has been having a shitty week that’s why he hasnt been online and has been distracting himself. Not sure how I should go from here..
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
I’ve been talking to a guy for almost a month, but suddenly he’s pulling away
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1e5zhub/ive_been_talking_to_a_guy_for_almost_a_month_but/
|
mothchu
|
2023-05-31 05:07:37
| 1,685,509,657 | 0 | null | 0 |
13wczee
| true | null | 30 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/13wczee/being_safe_going_on_dates_as_a_woman_who_cant/
| 11 |
there isn’t any public transportation in my area so I rely mostly on my mom or my sister to get me places but obviously they aren’t available all of the time. I’m very new to the online dating scene (and to dating in general) and it’s just now dawning on me how crazy and a bit dangerous it is asking guys to pick me up at my HOUSE and drive me somewhere well, I’m planning to meet a guy tomorrow and told him (before I had my revelation obvi) he could do just that We’ve been talking for the last few days he seems pretty chill and sweet but you can’t be too careful… I don’t know if it’s too late to change plans or cancel. another guy I’m talking to brought up the idea of a drive in movie theater for a first date, which is fun expect the nearest one is a 40 minute drive. I don’t expect my mom to make that kind of trip… so would I meet him somewhere else and then he drives me? idk, I’d have to get in his car either way. like I said I’m very new to online dating. I’m trying to find the best way to navigate all of this while still being safe.
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
being safe going on dates as a woman who can’t drive?
| 11 | 0.87 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/13wczee/being_safe_going_on_dates_as_a_woman_who_cant/
|
[deleted]
|
2015-05-01 18:16:03
| 1,430,504,163 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
34jjpd
| null | null | 12 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/34jjpd/do_women_typically_swipe_left_on_guys_they_know/
| 2 |
On dating apps, what do you do if you run into someone you know? Do you like their profile, or ignore them, or what?
|
AskWomen
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t5_2rxrw
|
Do women typically swipe left on guys they know in real life on dating apps?
| 2 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/34jjpd/do_women_typically_swipe_left_on_guys_they_know/
|
MaleficentBoat9663
|
2024-08-14 05:45:04
| 1,723,614,304 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1ertvfr
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1ertvfr/guy_im_talking_to_tells_me_im_the_only_on_but_is/
| 2 |
Okay so I need some help, I was traveling 2 months ago abroad and met this guy and we ended up going out together a few times and really hitting it off. Essentially I REALLY like him but I had to go back home about a month ago and he’s actually moving nearby soon ( not for me, just was already planned). We’ve been texting everyday since I left, not constantly but just keeping up with each other and he casually calls me “my love “ and things like that when asking how my day was etc… We’re not exclusive obviously he’s in a different country and we only went on 2-3 dates but the talking everyday has led me to develop real feelings. Anyway he has randomly told me sometimes that he can’t wait to see me and there’s no one else he’s interested in. BUT long story short… I came upon his tinder profile and it was also recently updated with pictures from a few days ago clearly very much in use . It definitely bothered me but I’m not sure if it’s something even worth mentioning to him? I really don’t even need the exclusively right now I can wait until he gets here for a relationship but the texting everyday and him telling me nice things is getting to me … what should I do keep it up and just ignore it or tell him that I’d really rather not talk like we’re dating if we’re not and that we can just find each other when he moves here ?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Guy I’m talking to tells me I’m the only on but is recently on tinder..
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1ertvfr/guy_im_talking_to_tells_me_im_the_only_on_but_is/
|
Zealousideal-Set3058
|
2023-10-24 03:00:31
| 1,698,116,431 | 0 |
['matched']
| 0 |
17f2tdp
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/17f2tdp/anyone_been_in_this_situation_im_worried_i_pushed/
| 1 |
I matched with his guy 2 months ago now and we met up a few days after chatting on the app. We’ve been in touch consistently and have phone calls, we connect well and I really like his personality a lot. Also he’s handsome and kind. Overall we click well and enjoy each others company. He messaged me saying that we could have a fun relationship but he doesn’t necessarily see anything long term past ‘dating’ due to differences in religious views. It only would bother him long term because a deeper understanding wouldn’t be there as his past relationships, he didn’t feel the depth of connection. Which is valid and I agreed. we had a call and talked about it. after a few days I’m starting to feel otherwise about it cause I just want to see where things could go- he then mentioned we can still hangout and do fun stuff like go places, movies, enjoy each others company as really good platonic friends. It seemed okay to me at first, but then I started feeling him being distant the last couple of days and he didn’t respond to something I messaged from Friday and only responded to the part about meeting up. We’re planning to meet up soon and I’m feeling a little bummed like I think I made a really bad mistake here…😩 I realized I really like him and I enjoy talking with him. I’d like to see him more often and I’m not sure how to bring it up without it feeling awkward. He hasn’t answered my last 2 texts asking about his weekend? I feel like I pushed him away and I feel worse for agreeing to our decision 🤦♀️
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Anyone been in this situation? I’m worried I pushed him away
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/17f2tdp/anyone_been_in_this_situation_im_worried_i_pushed/
|
WorldWarITrenchBoi
|
2021-02-20 09:23:18
| 1,613,812,998 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
lo3jqi
| true | null | 14 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/lo3jqi/how_dangerous_is_it_to_go_on_a_date_and_kiss_a/
| 4 |
Okay, so basically I have not dated at this point for the entire duration of this pandemic. I haven’t really met anyone, haven’t spoken to anyone either, no kisses or sex obviously, and as stated, no dates. Recently downloaded tinder again, quickly matched with a relatively cute girl and just last night she asked me if I want to meet up with her. Now, I haven’t gotten back since the message was sent so early in the morning (honestly never respond to anything sent before at least 8 AM so I don’t look like a weirdo), but I know my answer will be yes. She lives pretty close, just about in my neighborhood, so I’ll probably ask if she wants to walk around the local park. Now my real problem is, I don’t live alone, I live with my mother; now, I ain’t worried she’ll think I’m a loser or anything (I can easily spin it to say I lost my job and home due to the pandemic, which is at least half-way true) I am worried however about kissing or getting more intimate with this girl. Honestly I’m confident enough in my ability to carry a date and flirt that I know I can at least get a kiss on this date, it’s just, my mother is so paranoid about the pandemic, she is constantly terrified of me catching it and passing it to her so I’m pretty hamstrung; like physical intimacy is more or less out of the question until I get vaccinated or something, hell if I even kissed a woman my mother would blow a gasket (which is fucking awful considering I’m a grown ass man, I truly hate how my life has been reverted to that of a 12 year old’s). I will admit however, my mother’s paranoia has passed onto me, I’m also worried that if I kiss this girl I really might get sick; thing is however I just...I don’t want to pass this up? I’m actually pretty damn lonely at this point and furthermore am at an age when I want a real relationship instead of just hookups and flings; this girl is the same age as I am (23) which I’m thankful for as there’s more of a chance for a real relationship with a girl my age or slightly older. Anyone got advice?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
How dangerous is it to go on a date and kiss a girl in NYC, during this pandemic?
| null | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/lo3jqi/how_dangerous_is_it_to_go_on_a_date_and_kiss_a/
|
Beginning_Tell_8817
|
2023-02-15 21:50:48
| 1,676,497,848 | null | null | 0 |
1139knf
| true | null | 82 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1139knf/frustrating/
| 21 |
We match i say “hello” they disconnect. Lol what do u want and why did u match if hello is enough to turn you off
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Frustrating
| null | 0.76 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1139knf/frustrating/
|
TheMoniker
|
2023-09-12 03:09:34
| 1,694,488,174 | 0 | null | 0 |
16gg1fu
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/16gg1fu/how_do_you_get_support_from_an_actual_human_at/
| 1 |
I have sent in a few support tickets to Tinder regarding a feature that is not working and it seems pretty clear from the responses from their support that it's just a bot, even though they are signed with names. I had saved up about 60 boosts over several years back when I was using Tinder Plus. This year I subscribed to Tinder Platinum. After the first week with Platinum, my boosts were reset to zero. I reached out to Tinder support, but the responses seem to be a bot. I would send in a ticket explaining, "I didn't purchase these boosts separately; I saved them up over years, from back when I had Tinder Plus," asking them to confirm that a large number of boosts evaporated without being used, and I'll receive a message like, "I am happy to help, what is the purchase information for these boosts?" I'll then respond to the mail explaining again that they were accrued and not separately purchased, offer to provide the purchase details for Tinder Plus and simply get no response. There have been several variations on this and I can't seem to get in touch with an actual human who can read the ticket. Has anyone had luck doing so?
|
OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
How do you get support from an actual human at Tinder?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/16gg1fu/how_do_you_get_support_from_an_actual_human_at/
|
LibertyState
|
2018-04-03 22:47:41
| 1,522,795,661 | 0 | null | 0 |
89jlb2
| false | null | 19 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/89jlb2/what_are_some_ideas_for_a_second_date_from_online/
| 3 |
Went out on a first date for coffee, nothing happened, just talked and walked. Just felt like talking to a friend (unfortunately?). Now she agreed for a second date, but expects me to plan it. What are some ideas for second date? I learned from her that she likes to travel and go out with friends. Like these are her hobbies. So what can I plan that she would enjoy based on those interested? Is there anything other than dinner? I could get awkward when sitting in front of people for some reason. Its less stressful when we're walking/focusing on other things. But open to suggestions.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
What are some ideas for a second date from online dating?
| 3 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/89jlb2/what_are_some_ideas_for_a_second_date_from_online/
|
peach_34
|
2022-12-21 19:43:26
| 1,671,651,806 | null |
['matches', 'swipe', 'swiped', 'bumble']
| 0 |
zryntl
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/zryntl/am_i_female_to_ugly_to_date_other_women/
| 1 |
Hey guys, I (female, 22 y/o) tried out bumble cause I heard some good stuff about it. And I liked the idea cause maybe I would have the oppurtunity to also meet women( I am bisexual) Before, I only had relationsships with men and after those it was hard to find a woman in reallife to me. So I installed it and decided to swipe both genders. When it comes to men, I got a lot matches and also much likes( I got the pro version). I actually met three guys but there was not so much attraction. But back to the topic now: I swiped so much women, at some point I even have swiped all women no matter If they are my type or not. I really can't count anymore how many I swiped(I have bumble now fir around a month) and I got 7 matches with women.(And only those one liked me). One of them deleted me after matching and me contacting her (so I guess the match was by mistake) four of them ignored me, one wrote a little bit with me but then ignored me and with one I am writing pretty rarely. It really makes me question my looks cause I thought I am looking average and also my profile doesn't look weird or something like that(I showed it to friends and my roommates before posting). Is it possible that this is because of my looks? I feel really bad, cause I really wanted to met women but I feel like I am the most unwanted female person to other women. I would love to hear your advice. PS. I am sorry for any spelling mistakes, english ist not my first language
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Am I (female) to ugly to date other women?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/zryntl/am_i_female_to_ugly_to_date_other_women/
|
Candlehoarder615
|
2023-11-08 23:13:42
| 1,699,485,222 | 0 |
['OLD']
| 0 |
17qyn8o
| true |
Seeking Advice
| 56 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/17qyn8o/too_soon_to_start_dating_need_real_opinions_please/
| 7 |
I'm (45F) newly separated, my husband (60M) and I were married for 21 years. He left 3 weeks ago after confessing that he's been having an affair since mid Aug. We basically lived like roommates since last September when he took a new job working 3rd shift. I didn't want to admit it but our marriage ended long before he had his affair. I'm at peace with it and have been working through it at therapy. I would love to try and meet someone. I am not divorced yet but there will be no reconciliation. Neither of us want it. Is that a deal breaker for most guys? I downloaded meet me and was bombarded with message requests and several were just straight up sexual. I'm not looking for someone in my bed just yet. I want to take my time and talk or text with someone a bit first. Did I just choose a bad app? Is this what it's like OLD? Am I just naive to think there are people out there not looking for hook ups?
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
Too soon to start dating? Need real opinions please
| 7 | 0.64 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/17qyn8o/too_soon_to_start_dating_need_real_opinions_please/
|
Extreme-Arugula-5320
|
2022-09-26 10:25:59
| 1,664,187,959 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
xoferg
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/xoferg/dating_going_well/
| 1 |
So I matched with a girl on tinder just over a month ago. We talked for a couple of weeks, have since been on 3 dates and it seems to be going quite well. I really do like her and we've both said we want to meet again. We were texting about a 4th date but it's now been 24hrs without a reply despite her having told me she's not at work, isn't really doing anything else and she's been active on instagram. In my last message I told her when I would be available this week. Now I don't know whether I should text her again and if so what should I say? Should I just leave it and wait until she responds but then how long do I wait? Is this some kind of test she's doing on me? I know that some people are bad at replying, they become busy or just simply forget and tbf sometimes she does respond quite quickly but it's just difficult for me to plan things when she hasn't replied for so long. It also makes me wonder how interested she actually is. Any advice?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Dating going well?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xoferg/dating_going_well/
|
Royal-Calendar9860
|
2021-10-23 20:17:08
| 1,635,020,228 | null | null | 0 |
qecmc9
| true | null | 58 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/qecmc9/has_anyone_ever_succeeded_on_tinder_or_bumble_or/
| 0 |
Just to see how many guys have gotten something from it!
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Has anyone ever succeeded on Tinder or Bumble or Badoo or Hinge or Happn?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/qecmc9/has_anyone_ever_succeeded_on_tinder_or_bumble_or/
|
GEMHOEBBY
|
2021-03-28 07:41:27
| 1,616,917,287 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
meww4r
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/meww4r/most_confusing_man_ever_help/
| 0 |
I (23F) got divorced in July and have been trying to "date". After being out of the game for the past 6 years, I did what anyone my age does and downloaded tinder. I know I shouldn't have high expectations from it but worth a shot right? I ended up matching with the what I have come to find out is the most confusing man ever (23M). We had talked a couple days through tinder and exchanged snapchats. He ended up getting COVID so we couldn't meet for at least another couple of weeks. He was super surprised that I continued talking to him since we would have to wait to meet up, saying multiple times "I am really surprised you're not ghosting me" or "I figured you'd ghost me, you're way too cute to be waiting". After he finally tested negative we went on a date and had a really good time, clicked right off the bat. \\I really don't know when the right time to bring up the fact that I am 23 and divorced is, so we did not discuss that during the first date\\ This was around Christmas/New Years and a couple of days after our first date, he flew back home to North Carolina to visit his family for 2 1/2 weeks. We continued to talk every day, getting to the point that we had a 40+ day snapchat streak. Here is where things get weird.. The whole time he is away, we are talking everyday and he is saying how he's excited to get back so we can hangout again. The day he gets back from NC he follows me on Instagram, I'm thinking this is a good sign. Well the next coming days he stops replying as quickly to my snaps and we end up losing our streak. We plan to watch a movie over the weekend and he cancels, only to plan for sometime during the week, still not responding that fast. When we do hang out he keeps making "future plans" (example: I say my roommates and I were thinking of going tubing soon and he says something like "Oh that would be fun, we should do that"). So I'm thinking this is going well, obviously he wants to see me again etc. After we see each other for the 3rd time, I send him a "thank you for a great time tonight" snap and he doesn't open it.. for a full day and when he does open it, he doesn't respond. At this point our communication over snapchat had dwindled but I began thinking maybe he wasn't the type to feel the need to talk everyday, which is totally fine. Another couple days goes by with no response, at this point I think he's ghosting me, which is ironic considering he did not want me to ghost him when we first started talking. Eventually, a week goes by, and I get a snapchat from him, all it says is "Hey (:". I respond like everything is normal and we actually plan to hang out, when I get to his house he's going on about how busy he was during the past week and how he was sorry that he hadn't responded or hadn't been in contact. ONCE AGAIN we have a really good time, he keeps saying we should do this and that in the future, I leave, send another "had a great time" and get left on read... for a week. So this pattern has continued to the point where now I know this man is going to hit me up on either Wednesday or Thursday and ask to hangout for the night. The whole "I was super busy" spiel has ended. When we are together he is super cuddly, kisses me at random times, compliments me, has passively invited me to a weekend getaway with his friends, says I should meet so and so, told me he feels comfortable having me stay over and sleep in even if he has to leave early in the morning, and overall acts in a way that I would assume means he wants more? BUT he turns around and says things like "alright, see ya next week then" when I leave (which means he is aware this is like a once a week deal) and obviously is just shit at communicating any other time. If I snap him, he takes forever to respond and ultimately I get left on read.. until Wednesday or Thursday rolls around and he contacts me. Honestly, after we hang out, I am left confused. So here are some of my thoughts: a few things have led me to believe he isn't seeing anyone else seriously, but I don't know for sure. I still haven't told him that I was married before and I'm scared he might have seen old tagged posts from my wedding on Instagram, got freaked out, and pulled back? I don't understand how we go from talking everyday to this once a week thing. We haven't gone on another proper date since the first time we met. He has been to my house a couple times to make dinner, but for the most part this is a "my roommates are going to bed you should come watch a movie" type hangout/hook up situation. I am kind of in the mindset of showing the same amount of effort as he has shown me, but my roommate thinks maybe I should try to contact him more to show explicit interest. We've never had a conversation about what either of us wants but now I'm a little scared of asking because (and this is probably dumb) I like hanging out/hooking up with him and don't want to potentially mess anything up, even if I do leave confused. With that being said, I think I am starting to get to a point where I want a relationship with someone, regardless if it is with him. I just don't know how I should bring that up, without seeming clingy or weird or ruining things.. What should I do? Any advice would be welcomed Help me understand this man better because I am at a loss. Thanks
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Most Confusing Man EVER... Help??
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/meww4r/most_confusing_man_ever_help/
|
samrat_31
|
2022-09-03 08:07:12
| 1,662,192,432 | null |
['dating apps', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
x4p230
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/x4p230/kinky_berliners/
| 0 |
I was able to handle my high libido before thanks to my ex who is a nymphomanic. We had good rough sex. After her tragedic death, I had to handle the shock, loneliness and libido. Gym, sports and running become my best friends. I never used dating apps before, I created account in okcupid recently and when I wrote good rough sex as my interests, I get responses like I am an anti-feminist, etc., They say Berlin is the kinkiest city in Europe but I find it bit difficult to find women who are really into it. Kinky Berliners, could you please share some knowledge on how to find women who love rough-sex in Berlin. Thank you in advance
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Kinky Berliners
| null | 0.25 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/x4p230/kinky_berliners/
|
MoistArtichoke316
|
2023-04-17 21:49:36
| 1,681,768,176 | 0 |
['matched', 'swiped', 'bumble']
| 0 |
12py9ko
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 12 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/12py9ko/she_thinks_im_not_interested_in_her/
| 2 |
About a month ago I came across the profile of a really cute girl on Bumble and I couldn't believe how similar our profiles were. It honestly seemed like it was the profile of the female version of myself that I was looking at. I obviously swiped right, and it was a match. We started texting and things were going great, we were both busy at the time, but we were writing multiple paragraph texts to each other everyday for literally 2 weeks. We both couldn't believe how much we had in common. She soon asked what my intentions were with us talking, and I was already pretty skeptical why she was asking this, as to me it seemed very obvious that I just wanted to get to know her a bit before asking her out on a date. I told her exactly this, I said I like to take things a little slow and not rush into meeting someone. We sent a couple more texts back and forth, and in my last message I specifically asked her if I could call her whenever we were both free with the implication that I was going to ask her on a date. Long story short, she never replied back and I spent the next month without having any idea why she just seemed to ghost me. I finally decided that I was going to text her again yesterday and ask what happened. She texted me back giving me a whole spiel about how she thought I was an amazing guy, but she thought that I wasn't interested in her, which is why she stopped talking to me. This just completely blew my mind and seemed completely devoid of any logic lol. Why would I waste my time texting a girl everyday for 2 weeks straight if I wasn't VERY interested in her? I understand that maybe I should've asked her out sooner, but I explained to her that I wanted to get to know her more and in the last message I said I wanted to call her to obviously try and set something up. I guess I'm just venting at this point, but how can two people have great and engaging conversations (even if it's through text) and spend as long as we did getting to know each other and one person comes out of it as thinking the other is "not interested". I'm thinking about texting her back and explaining my logic, but I'm not even sure it's worth it at this point. TLDR: Matched with a girl and had bunch in common, spent 2 weeks having great conversations through text, she asks what my intentions are with us talking, I tell her that I like to take things a little slow and I ask if can call her in my last message to her. She ghosts me. A month later I text her and ask what happened? She says that I'm a great guy, but she felt that I wasn't interested in her, despite spending 14 straight days texting her and getting to know her. My mind is blown and I fail to understand her logic. Debating if I should even try to text her back explaining my side.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
She thinks I'm not interested in her?
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/12py9ko/she_thinks_im_not_interested_in_her/
|
slothereen-94
|
2023-10-02 10:35:17
| 1,696,242,917 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
16xt5mh
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/16xt5mh/breaking_heart_of_someone_you_love/
| 1 |
I (30F) dated a guy (32M) for four months. We grew close very quickly and he loved the hell out of me. I am the second girl he’s ever been with. He is loyal, loving, kind and I felt good around him. But we live in different cities. I have been desperately looking for someone for past few years and the dating apps and the whole dating scene had really exhausted me. Now that we both are in different cities , there is no certainty of when we would see each other next. He was ready to move but finding a job in my city is a bit tough as the market is very competitive. I was not sure if I really really wanted it. I felt confused and all over the place and decided to call it off. Every time I think of him I feel guilty to have broken his heart and he kept suggesting ways to make it work. I didn’t deserve him. I don’t know what am I even looking for and couldn’t let him be stuck with me.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Breaking heart of someone you love
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/16xt5mh/breaking_heart_of_someone_you_love/
|
Brokebrokeboii
|
2024-01-09 00:57:06
| 1,704,761,826 | 0 |
['tinder', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1921kse
| true | null | 18 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1921kse/girl_told_me_i_look_better_in_my_pics_than_real/
| 1 |
I have always had hard time converting first hinge dates into second. I do way better with tinder dates for whatever reason I once posted a thread on Reddit and everyone said it’s my personality But my last date was was very blunt and told me I’m not as good looking my pictures and that’s why she’s not interested Usually my “dates” go good (we spend hours together) this date left after 10 mins . Tbh I wasn’t even into this date so I’m glad she did lol (she looked better in pics too haha) Thing is I’m using front camera iPhone 14 selfies in good natural lighting outside (main pic is in golden light) . Here’s what I believe iPhone selfies make my skin texture look better than it does irl it’s like a makeup Lol what should I do ? Just downgrade to iPhone 8 ? I’ve even FaceTimed lots of my hinge dates before meeting and still ghosted And if I’m catfisuing then I’m not doing a good job lol bcz I usually don’t match with attractive girls on hinge . (All my exes are more attractive than 90% of girls I go on dates with)
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Girl told me I look better in my pics than real life
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1921kse/girl_told_me_i_look_better_in_my_pics_than_real/
|
toiletthedestroyer
|
2020-07-31 14:38:30
| 1,596,206,310 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
i18m1d
| true |
I Need Advice
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/i18m1d/how_do_you_say_lets_just_be_friends_without/
| 3 |
I (28yo male) went on a date with a girl from Hinge. She’s really cool, we got along great. Went back to her place, hung out, made out (I initiated), and then I left. After some reflection, I’m not that attracted to her. But I do want to be friends. What’s the best way to say this? What have you done in the past?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How do you say “Let’s just be friends” without saying “Let’s just be friends”?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/i18m1d/how_do_you_say_lets_just_be_friends_without/
|
SouthImpression3577
|
2024-04-10 03:28:16
| 1,712,719,696 | 0 |
['tinder', 'hinge', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
1c0bsov
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1c0bsov/is_it_me_or_is_the_dating_market_just_crazy/
| 1 |
This is a bit of a vent from me trying to re-re-break into dating. Been doing my masters and the girls in my classes tend to be super chill with me, same with the ones I volunteer with, just that I found very few of them to be attractive or they're already in relationships. I go online for dating and despite "10s of millions of users", there's maybe 20-30 girls in a 25 mile radius in my age range, like for MATCH. I used Tinder and I guess that's where most of them are but they are all clearly there for hookups and not long term dating as per they're bios. Similar situation with Hinge or Okcupid, there seemingly aren't too many women in my area interested in using them. And I'm not really into hookups. It just feels impossible to find just a normal girl these days. I go to the gym, library, shops, and it just feels nasty and rude to interrupt ladies doing their thing, as seemingly everyone just doesn't want to talk. My gym can be as quiet as a library, for both men and women, cause everyone is using their own headphones to listen to music, it's weird. It feels like people should be way more talkative but they're not. Like, what do I do? Is it really normal to randomly ask for a girl's number in public these days? I feel like that's a massive taboo now.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is it me or is the dating market just crazy?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1c0bsov/is_it_me_or_is_the_dating_market_just_crazy/
|
Icysepto02
|
2024-07-18 14:31:59
| 1,721,313,119 | 0 |
['matches']
| 0 |
1e6cw4m
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1e6cw4m/should_i_make_my_instagramsocial_medias_apps/
| 0 |
So I’m a 32(F) widow with 2 kids. Have not dated for 5 years. One guy was interested 2 years ago but I did not want to long distance. Now I am ready to try dating again. Apps have failed me in the past. I mostly get matches that don’t initiate a conversation or will lead me on and never ask to go on a date. So Ive had a few friends say that men will reach out to women on social media. Some of my friends have met their boyfriends through Instagram specifically. This is a question to the men, “Do you guys DM women you’re interested in”? If so, is just for a quick hookup or would take this person more seriously?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I make my Instagram/social medias apps public? Do guys approach women on these platforms for a serious relationship or just hookup?
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1e6cw4m/should_i_make_my_instagramsocial_medias_apps/
|
OkayTitu
|
2024-03-07 20:00:47
| 1,709,841,647 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
1b93qem
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1b93qem/need_urgent_opinions_and_help/
| 1 |
Ive recently come to terms with my lying and pretentiousness with my girlfriend for 4 months i have been in love with my girlfriend for 4 months now, and with my past where I had been in and out of a lot of casual relationships and situationships, I was always overwhelmed with how much I was attached and attracted to her from the get-go. When I then felt love around her, I got more vigilant and scared of myself and how I'll be perceived around her, and started acting pretentious to show myself in a sage or someone who had never done some things before light. I told her I'd never said 'I love you' to anyone, I had never kissed anyone, and that I had never been attracted emotionally before. I just was scared of how I was judged by people on the basis of that information from the past, and I lied about it. Recently, while I was screen-sharing my Instagram chats with her for fun, she came across some chats and then investigated more where she figured out my pretentiousness and lies. She has always been very sensitive about lying, and I have been extremely vigilant of my lying when this episode happened a few months ago, but because this had happened just a while ago, being caught in another lie got her really mad to the point she even considered using Bumble but didn't match or talk with anyone and deleted it. She told me she was pissed and mad at me for breaking her deal-breakers over and over. I love her a lot and cried for a whole day after she called me out and was rude to me. She's forgiven me, but her words have given me a lot of anxiety, and she's somewhat acting a little different now because she's hurt. She's told me she still loves me and wants to be with me. I have promised myself to not repeat any of this in the future and took time to explain to her every single thing I lied about in the beginning. I want to instill change and want tips to continue with honesty at the same time. What should I do to regain her trust and maintain myself the way I want to be honest?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
need urgent opinions and help
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1b93qem/need_urgent_opinions_and_help/
|
tryin_not2_confuse
|
2021-01-08 19:31:59
| 1,610,134,319 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
kt9sz6
| true |
Question
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/kt9sz6/separate_ig_account_for_dic_pic/
| 4 |
Added someone from dating app on ig. Conversation was very innocent and not flirty AT ALL, and the guy looks cheerful and happy and not creepy. Received a DM request with the guy’s name, I thought it might be the messages with images before I accept his following request(he added me to send me some photos). Opened it, is a dic pic. Now, it’s not the uncommon for guys to send it. Usually I just delete it just you know, don’t want genital on my Instagram, where I watch cute kittens and puppies. I asked the guy himself, he said is not him. But is it really not him? Is it someone using his name to send private pictures? Or is it a really smart way to have an empty random account, to do all the dirty works? Now I really don’t care but I AM SO CURIOUS lol. Bc I know people got scammed by friend’s fake ig account with same names all the time, but to send dic pic? Looool Kinda funny. Guys and gals with more experience, please, let me know what you think. ltdr: received dic pic from a ig account with same name as a guy I just added from dating app. Is it the guy himself or is it a fake account using his name? Update: asked him through his first “real” account and he said it might be his ex. Just stalking which girls he just newly followed and send random harassment to them. Lol whichever is not a good look.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Separate ig account for dic pic??
| null | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/kt9sz6/separate_ig_account_for_dic_pic/
|
Ok_Presentation_8874
|
2022-12-23 22:15:13
| 1,671,833,713 | null | null | 0 |
ztu7wj
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/ztu7wj/thoughts_on_tinder_follow_ups/
| 1 |
So after a few messages I sent a weak ass response, not my first time sending messages or datings on the apps. Mind you I sent this message 3 hours ago, but I know I screwed up already. But….. what do we think about sending follow up messages and when should I send it….. I was thinking of something really cheesy on Christmas, but as most intelligent people do they come to reddit to ask advice. For context we talked a little today and sent 2 messages each.
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Thoughts on tinder follow ups
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/ztu7wj/thoughts_on_tinder_follow_ups/
|
rose-cake
|
2024-01-10 20:41:51
| 1,704,919,311 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
193ikkk
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/193ikkk/how_do_i_24f_let_the_person_im_seeing_23m_know_im/
| 1 |
I(24F) am in a fling/situationship with a man (23M) I met on tinder a few months ago. I never said at any point that I wanted a relationship, and to me its been pretty clear from the beginning that we were both looking for a fling. For some reason, he is under the impression I want a relationship and has been acting accordingly. It's really rubbing me the wrong way and I'm not sure how to bring it up with him or if I even should. Like, he'll say he likes me (even though he obviously doesn't), treat me to dinner, and do other relationship type things on occasion. I had kind of just been going along with it, but it's becoming clear he thinks he's tricking me or something and that he believes I actually have romantic interest in him. Sleeping with someone that would manipulate a woman like that is starting to give me the ick. The more I get to know him the more it creeps me out. He's fun to talk to and I enjoy the sex, although he isn't able to make me finish. If we could talk it out I would like to keep seeing him. I'm just not sure how to bring up or address the issue. I'm also considering maybe just ending things. I've never had something casual before, and I'm just not sure how to navigate this type of relationship. TLDR; I (24F) am seeing a man (23M) who is pretending to want a relationship with me. I can tell we are both just looking for a fling, and it's been weirding me out that he's pretending to want something more. I'm not sure how to bring it up to him, or if I should just end things.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do I (24F) let the person I'm seeing (23M) know I'm just looking for a fling or fwb?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/193ikkk/how_do_i_24f_let_the_person_im_seeing_23m_know_im/
|
Nayko214
|
2021-03-13 01:01:18
| 1,615,597,278 | null |
['swipe', 'swiping', 'OLD']
| 0 |
m3vp64
| true |
Venting
| 52 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/m3vp64/multiple_weeks_of_swiping_right_and_not_a_single/
| 8 |
Got back into the OLD game due to well... gestures vaguely to the state of the world .... and despite taking every piece of advice, working on every little detail, and even contacting the support from the places themselves (I basically have gotten from everywhere 'everything looks good!') I still can't get a single conversation. I seriously gotta ask, what the hell am I supposed to do at this point? I know not to take it too seriously but its like, what's even the point of OLD at this point if you can do everything you're supposed to and despite thousands of swipe rights and the app resorting to showing me people on the other side of the country, I still can't get anything. I'm so beyond frustrated....
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Multiple weeks of swiping right and not a single conversation
| null | 0.7 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/m3vp64/multiple_weeks_of_swiping_right_and_not_a_single/
|
Similar-Fig8586
|
2023-11-30 05:11:51
| 1,701,321,111 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
187ak90
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/187ak90/talked_to_a_guy_for_so_long_and_when_it_came_to/
| 1 |
I added a guy from tinder on Snapchat and by phone number. He lived in another city that was like 2 hours away plus a 2hr ferry ride but he would visit in my city because he would go see his dad once in a while. On his profile he was looking for short-term but open to long-term. We would have great conversations getting to know each other, messaging each other everyday, and then we ended up getting that gold heart on Snapchat (being each other’s 1 best friend). He would send me videos of him talking and showing me what he was doing and I would do the same thing back. There was a time he even let me rant about something stupid even though I felt bad for doing it but he listened and talked to me about it. We would send each other spicy photos here and there which indicated we wanted to hook up but we never had the conversation about us leading to an actual relationship. Over a month goes by and he ends up planning to visit his dad in my city and tells me he’s excited to finally see me. He also kept me updated on the whole trip over. We planned to meet on a Saturday and maybe see each other again on Sunday. On the Friday before, I asked him what time should we meet and stuff and he told me “we’ll figure it out tomorrow” and I brushed it off since he’s visiting his dad and it was whatever because we were planning to just hook up at the time. The day of, I ask him again and he said he had plans with his dad when he got home from work so after that he would let me know. Then hours go by and no answer, it was getting late so I messaged him again saying “hey idk how late you planned to meet but if you didn’t want to today at least let me know”. With Snapchat’s new update you can see them being active on the app when look at their name and I saw his name blink and he never opened my message. I got together with a friend because I didn’t want to think about it too much and we posted something on my story so he could see I don’t wait for guys. The next morning I wake up early and see that he still hasn’t replied or opened the message, 30 minutes go by and he never opened it still but deleted me and blocked my number. So idk if it was something I did, I know I shouldn’t think about it so much since I never met him in person but it still hurts a lot that he did that especially since we got to know each other a lot and I let myself get excited about him. Was he just scared to meet me? It doesn’t make sense that he keeps talking to me for so long and tells me he’s coming to my city and updates me on his trip over to just ghost me.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Talked to a guy for so long and when it came to meeting him, he ghosted me
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/187ak90/talked_to_a_guy_for_so_long_and_when_it_came_to/
|
Less-Bison-4959
|
2024-03-01 09:14:32
| 1,709,284,472 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
1b3q1c8
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1b3q1c8/just_a_girl_with_a_crush_on_cute_curly_head_man/
| 1 |
I met this guy on hinge (steve) he had been texting me wanting to hang out in person. eventually i gave in and we went on a cute little date to a local owned pizza place. we talked a bit, sat in his car and ate pizza. it was nice. couple days later steve takes me out on two more dates at (nice) restaurants and then our most previous was at a fun arcade bar. during the previous date we had sat in his car before going to the bar and just talked then after the bar we drove a couple towns over to meet some of his friends (who were very nice and cool people). we were out till 5am and then went to his house to sleep (we did nothing btw we’ve never kissed or been close to having sex just for the tmi) next morning he takes me to get coffee before dropping me off home. he likes to hang out and plans on going to the beach together. I guess i don’t really know what to ask about this situationship but i’ve really grown to like him and i fear he may only like me as a friend bc he doesn’t text me every day but he does send me music randomly and acknowledged to his friend in front of me we’re dating (casual). maybe im insane anyways i like him a lot like i said , i fear he only may like me as a friend though bc he hasn’t tried to make any advancements (not saying he has to jump my bones or anything but like he hasn’t done any other advancements for me to know for sure he’s feeling the same way i do thank you for listening i just had to talk about this 😊😆😆if you have any opinions/advice please do tell and should i tell him im interested in him after date 5? or keep it going as is
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
just a girl with a crush on cute curly head man
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1b3q1c8/just_a_girl_with_a_crush_on_cute_curly_head_man/
|
Admirable_Payment503
|
2020-12-27 05:39:04
| 1,609,047,544 | null |
['matches', 'tinder']
| 0 |
kky6bq
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/kky6bq/how_does_a_match_with_a_sex_worker_on_tinder_work/
| 2 |
I’m a 28 year old guy and just moved to an old folks community and live with my parents. So I try to use social media to meet people but all I meet are sex workers. How do those matches work, and could I meet a girlfriend eventually? I’d buy her dinner and go to a movie with her like a one night stand but I’m not doing that then also paying her $200 when I get to a hotel or apartment.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How does a match with a sex worker on tinder work?
| null | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/kky6bq/how_does_a_match_with_a_sex_worker_on_tinder_work/
|
throwaway9261904
|
2023-07-23 12:58:39
| 1,690,117,119 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
157e8lk
| false | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/157e8lk/how_to_tell_if_someone_is_a_bad_texter_or_just/
| 1 |
I (30f) met a guy (30m) on Tinder, we've been out on several dates, and i've stayed overnight at his place a couple times. When we're together, he is great! He's making engaging conversation, affectionate, funny, basically all the things I would want him to be. When we're apart, I don't hear much from him. We're connected on Snapchat and we have each other's phone numbers. He will text or snap me a little bit each day, usually just asking how my day was, or wanting to make plans to see each other again. We have had a few VERY brief conversations outside of that. Usually at some point he just stops replying and then I don't hear from him again until a "how are you?" text the next afternoon. We're also friends on Facebook and I can see that he is active on Facebook several times a day. Are there actually people these days who are just bad texters? Is he just not that interested in me? Is something else going on? I tend to be a big time texter and get excited about getting to know someone, so I find it a bit frustrating that he doesn't seem to be that way.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to tell if someone is a bad texter, or just nor interested?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/157e8lk/how_to_tell_if_someone_is_a_bad_texter_or_just/
|
MrGuard1
|
2018-06-29 22:24:37
| 1,530,311,077 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
8ux921
| true | null | 12 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/8ux921/girl_i_met_online_used_old_photos_how_to_cancel/
| 0 |
Asked a girl out online, she said yes. But I looked her up on social media, and realized that her online dating photos are all 4-5 years old, and do not represent her today. I haven't set the date yet, but how do I cancel it now? Or should I go through with the first date anyways?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Girl I met online used old photos... how to cancel date?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/8ux921/girl_i_met_online_used_old_photos_how_to_cancel/
|
an_exhausted_soul
|
2019-12-14 18:47:08
| 1,576,349,228 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
eanjgw
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/eanjgw/inexperienced_at_dating/
| 2 |
Hi folks. Im a (M26) After a lot of struggle and anticipation in dating for almost my whole life, I might finally have a chance to go out with a girl I have been talking on Tinder. This is the first time I'll ever go out with a girl (no, I'm not Gay or Bi). My question is if thing go well and its goes beyond the first hug later on in the night, should I tell her I am still a virgin and have never been with a girl before. I am afraid bc she might know it sooner even before if we even kiss bc she'll possibly be the first girl I'll ever kiss. I dont have an experience even with kissinga girl and its nerve wrecking. I don't want to be a disappointment. If things progress, should I tell her about my inexperience?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Inexperienced at Dating
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/eanjgw/inexperienced_at_dating/
|
EnthusiasmMental1299
|
2023-09-13 22:32:01
| 1,694,644,321 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
16i12x2
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/16i12x2/how_to_not_feel_hopeless_if_you_are_single_in/
| 1 |
I'm singe at 31. I recently broke up with a boyfriend who just didn't feel right - he checked a lot of my boxes but at the end of the day it felt like we didn't have a lot in common and I definitely wouldn't consider him my "best friend" which is what I want from a relationship. How do I keep up the hope? My friends are happily married or in long term relationships with great guys, but when I go on dating apps, there are almost no men who seem suitable. I wanted kids too, and it feels like I would have to make huge compromises in order to start a relationship in time to have them. I feel like I will never find a life partner or experience that kind of love and stability. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Did you find a great partner or just give up? What advice do you have?
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
How to not feel hopeless if you are single in your 30s?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/16i12x2/how_to_not_feel_hopeless_if_you_are_single_in/
|
dave_greenberg
|
2018-10-04 12:49:38
| 1,538,657,378 | null |
['matches', 'dating platforms', 'dating sites']
| 0 |
9lbla5
| true | null | 0 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/9lbla5/the_best_dating_sites_for_those_who_want_to_get/
| 0 |
World Wide Web has already given us a lot of great possibilities to improve our lives. One of those definitely is the chance to find your significant other, no matter where he or she lives. Dating sites and apps are there for us to connect the loving hearts regardless the distance. If you think that searching for the one online can't be serious, don't judge too fast: there are thousands of couples, who have started their relationship online. Creating a family with the person you first meet on the site is absolutely real, the only thing you need to do is to find the source which is right for you LoveSwans Although the name might get you a little confused, don't be. It is the source which can truly help you find your soul mate. On the site, you can find a confirmation that it is a platform for founding serious and strong relations. You can read true stories of happy customers, see their pictures and get inspired yourself The important thing is that for ladies all of the services are free. Gentleman can register for no money, but later on, they will have to contribute to prove that their intentions are sincere. This policy lets the site sort out those who may have some inappropriate intentions. Victoria Brides What can be more pleasant than knowing that your partner is seriously oriented in a relationship? If you are eager to find someone who would truly want to live a life with you, search here. Moreover, the base proposes a wide range of high-quality profiles. Over 80% of its users have at least bachelor's degree, which is pretty impressive as for dating websites. It guarantees interesting communication and gives you the chance to get a relationship with a really serious, smart and decent person. According to their statistics, every 8 minutes a single finds love through Victoria Brides services, which is an amazing result. Asia Charm According to the research, this site is among the highest rated dating platforms on the Asian market. No wonder it has excellent reviews and almost 100 000 users online every moment. One of the main benefits of this source is that it's free. Above-and-beyond, it is super easy to find there someone who shares your passions and interests. Why is that so? Asia Charm provides plenty of surveys, and by reading the other's answers, you can decide who matches you the best. Any kind of relationship is free to have a start at Asia Charm.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
The Best Dating Sites For Those Who Want To Get Married
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/9lbla5/the_best_dating_sites_for_those_who_want_to_get/
|
MrTerrificPants
|
2016-05-17 13:06:12
| 1,463,490,372 | 0 |
['pof']
| 0 |
4jqsqk
| null |
Story/Report
| 21 | null |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/4jqsqk/what_were_the_biggest_lies_told_to_you_before_an/
| 9 |
That thread from yesterday got me thinking. I remember I went on a date with a woman who, midway through our date, remarked that she was relieved that I was what I said I was. I asked her why, and she said her last online date was from POF and was with a guy who misrepresented himself A LOT. She arrived at the restaurant and looked for him, but couldn't find him. That's when he tapped her on the shoulder and revealed himself. He was at least THREE DECADES older than he presented himself online. I can't remember if the pics he used (that made him look late-30s/early-40s) were completely fabricated or just really old. I'm forgetting the details, but he either had a walker or an oxygen tank, to give you an idea of how elderly this guy was. Surprisingly, she never walked out on him. She said she was more shocked than angry. Being stunned, she just sat down with the guy and had a beer. The date ended shortly after that, of course. She said he actually was a nice guy, but she didn't understand how he expected to get away with telling that whopper of a lie. What were some lies told to you?
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
What were the biggest lies told to you before an online date?
| 9 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/4jqsqk/what_were_the_biggest_lies_told_to_you_before_an/
|
newtoonline
|
2012-09-27 16:57:44
| 1,348,765,064 | 0 |
['online dating', 'dating site', 'pof', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
10kjw6
| null | null | 5 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/10kjw6/new_to_online_dating_am_i_over_reading_these/
| 2 |
27 male. Im not posting this on okcupid, because I dont like that site and the people that use match and POF much more closely fit what im looking for. 1) Two girls have deleted their profiles prior to meeting. within a day or two. i talked to both multiple times prior to meeting for hours at a time on the phone. Had first date with one last night, she went in for kiss on me, and texted me how great a time it was. first date with other girl tomorrw, asked her why she deleted her profile. unsmooth, i know. but i thought it was something worth bringing up. and she goes "i dont know... it was just... i dont know... it was just.. " and awkwardly and painfully stumbled for literally 30 seconds ont he phone untill i topic changed. are these girls stage 5 clingers already? or just a coincedence? her not being able to explain why she deleted her account was sketch. 2) Girls that are ALWAYS online. I sort by latest activity normally. And i see the same girls always at the top. I end up avoiding these girls because i feel like they are likely serial daters who just love attention. Am i reading too much into the fact that they are ALWAYS online? i guess they could just be bored. But, using a dating site to cure boredom is a red flag in itself.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
new to online dating. Am i over reading these things?
| 2 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/10kjw6/new_to_online_dating_am_i_over_reading_these/
|
sultrylust
|
2019-07-20 16:10:05
| 1,563,639,005 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
cfnhnd
| true |
Requesting Advice
| 43 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/cfnhnd/i_40f_tried_breaking_up_with_my_guy_42m_but_feel/
| 20 |
I'm going to be completely honest here. I don't have a great track record with my exes. My last relationship was a doozie. I trusted him to a fault and found our entire relationship was a lie 5 years in. His exterior was one of a loyal, trustworthy man. He hid a parade of women from me. I never checked his phone until he had me upgrade his iPhone for him one day, and that's when the pictures and videos and texts and emails he kept with other women all showed up. He was actively pursuing a married woman while in bed next to me at the end of our relationship. That end was 5 years ago. I hadn't dated in between. Fast forward to now. My guy and I have been dating about 2 years and everything was going okay until I asked for more out of our relationship. I thought it was a natural time to progress to a title. I'm not going to lie, I had a fake account for the site we met on, and I would log in to check on him. It was the same account I used to check on my ex with, which isn't healthy but I had my unfortunately valid suspicions with my ex. My guy isn't exactly forthcoming with information, but because we didn't have an official title outside of exclusively dating I let things slide. As soon as I got that title I wanted for us a switch flipped in my head and everything I let slide for nearly two years bubbled to the surface. Instead of talking about my issues like a normal person I logged onto the site and noticed his profile disappeared from searches. I flipped. I enabled the account we met on and noticed he still didn't appear in search but because we were matched I could still see his profile. That was all the information I needed to end things. It really looked like he paid to hide his profile from searches and was looking for something else. I told him to go pursue something else and he immediately called, asking me why I wanted to end something we put so much time into. Suddenly all of this information started pouring out of him and he said he is so afraid of losing me. Now it feels like he's pretending to put everything back to normal. I am not okay. I really feel like he convinced me to stay in this because he really enjoys my company, but I feel like he's being untruthful about the site. He had logged onto it a few months earlier and I asked him about it then, but got some excuse that he got an email from the site that someone messaged him but he didn't have one. He really wasn't on the site until that time and until now when he wasn't showing in searches. Everything is telling me to move on. I don't know why he's trying to hold on to me. I figured he'd see how insane I am and move on. Why does he want to make this work? He says it's because he really likes me and doesn't want to be so closed off. I really like him, but now I feel like I've broken the seal and won't ever trust him. I'm lost and am unsure what to do.
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
I (40F) tried breaking up with my guy (42M) but feel he talked me into staying.
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/cfnhnd/i_40f_tried_breaking_up_with_my_guy_42m_but_feel/
|
royaltype111
|
2018-08-24 05:22:02
| 1,535,088,122 | null |
['dating site']
| 0 |
99uqkx
| true |
Question
| 18 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/99uqkx/she_flaked_and_i_waisted_my_gas/
| 2 |
I have a question and I'm 100% confused I was talking to this girl shes a single mom and really cute and we texted for a couple of days and weve have amazing funny and serious conversations and I thought we were vibing really. And so i decide to ask Sunday for her to meet up with me Thursday (today) and to make sure she had time. She said she had a "Doctors Appointment" that day and I said thats fine I'll wait. She said she wanted to meet but we had to face time first and at that point I felt that she might be nervous that im not who i said i was (we met on a dating site.) So skip a couple of days and its the night before and remi der her that ill be head I g over tomorrow and i ask her if she still wants to face time she says yes, tomorrow at eleven am. It's the day of our date and I drop my bro off at school and I head over to start a "ONE HOUR" drive to meet her. I had to put $15 in my gas to get there. And so I finally drive out to her city and text her her im here and I can video chat her and im super excited to talk to her via face time. AND then the BS starts... She texts me all ecstatic and shocked saying "Are you for real 😱 I'm so sorry it completely slipped my mind till you asked I can reimburse you for gas I feel so bad " (thats copy and paste) "Oh shit my bad no I can't I have to be back to take my little brother to meet his teAchers" (thats copy and paste) Where the hell did her little brother come about for a week i had this planned with her and she never told me about her little brother. She said she had a doctor's appointment and so it makes me so upset and i dont understand why she decides to flake on me and honstley the sent me text after that and I ghosted her because i was busy driving home trying to keep my anger from driving me off the road. (Preferablly a girl) Can someone help me I understand why people flake? If I talk to her shes just gonna come up with a BS excuse or just not reply like she did with something else (a-whole-nother bad story)
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
She Flaked and I waisted my gas
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/99uqkx/she_flaked_and_i_waisted_my_gas/
|
rootScythe
|
2024-08-05 01:39:17
| 1,722,821,957 | 0 |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1ekbryc
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1ekbryc/gave_my_phone_to_a_woman_i_like_but_shes_not/
| 0 |
Matched with an amazing person on Hinge, and we hit it off on our first date. I decided to give her my number because the app doesn't always send me notifications of when she messages me. We're already planning our second and third date so I thought it was a good time to get off the app. She said she saved my number in her phone, but she's still only messaging me through the app itself. The only reason I can think of is she's unsure if she likes me, or maybe its still a trust thing, so she wants to stick to just app texting. Is that the cause, or am I missing something?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Gave my phone to a woman I like, but she's not using it
| 0 | 0.33 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1ekbryc/gave_my_phone_to_a_woman_i_like_but_shes_not/
|
that_nonbinary_vamp
|
2023-01-14 07:53:26
| 1,673,682,806 | null |
['matched', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
10biy7b
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/10biy7b/im_scared_of_dating_and_letting_people_in/
| 2 |
i’ve been on dating apps for a while now. never really had something going on for long. mostly because i wouldn’t open up. but recently like 2 weeks ago i wanna say i matched with someone and we started texting and we made plans to go on a date in like a week. however me being me i started to overthink and had a little meltdown in the bathroom the day before the date. they were sending dry texts and using abbreviations. and i just started spiraling. i started thinking this person doesn’t actually like me and they probably wanna use me. or even if they do like me they will leave eventually. i was thinking why would someone like them like me. i mean this person is very attractive and sweet and i just couldn’t believe that they found me attractive me. and i kept telling myself that i don’t deserve this. i don’t deserve to be happy and i would ruin this. i made the decision to leave this situation before i could get hurt. and so i blocked them. without telling them anything. which now that i’ve calmed down i can see it was a dick move on my part. i should have talked to them and explained how i was feeling. but i didn’t instead i bottled it all up inside. i unblocked them a few days ago but i haven’t tried texting them because i don’t know what i would say. i feel so stupid for doing that. i think also that for me it was moving too fast. i need time to get to know someone and then go on a date. i should have been open to them about all of this. but it’s hard for me to open up especially about my feelings and stuff. i have depression i was diagnosed with it like 7 years ago. and i don’t like talking about my mental illness i don’t wanna burden people or tell them about it only for them to leave. and now i’m just going to take a break from dating apps and dating in general. i just need to focus on school and my mental health.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
i’m scared of dating and letting people in
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/10biy7b/im_scared_of_dating_and_letting_people_in/
|
whataboutthatoneguy
|
2018-03-05 02:55:30
| 1,520,218,530 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
822ukj
| false | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/822ukj/when_did_you_know_you_were_ready/
| 3 |
34m - going through divorce after a decade together. It hasn’t been long (little over a month), but I find myself craving the flirting, joking, and friendship. I really don’t want to go the OLD route. I guess what I need right now is something simple, but am aware that it may still be too early for anything at all. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
|
datingoverthirty
|
t5_34cyw
|
When did you know you were ready?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/822ukj/when_did_you_know_you_were_ready/
|
123ilovelaughing123
|
2022-01-07 13:53:48
| 1,641,563,628 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
ry7v7t
| true | null | 362 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ry7v7t/is_my_approach_outdated/
| 149 |
UPDATE: I immediately started practicing some more even communication outreach and it has so far been working even better than my previous approach. It’s helped me be more intentional in who I’m actually getting to know - and it’s in a more effective way. Thank you so much for all of your helpful feedback! I (31F) have always been a “let them come to me” kind of person, and this is true even in relationships with close friends and family. When it comes to dating, I’ve never initiated conversations (by text or calls) with guys, even in relationships spanning years. Whenever I receive messages or invites to chat on a call, I’m responsive and engaged and always straight forward about being interested in them. I have used online dating off and on for many years and honestly have always enjoyed the dating process. I’m back at it now after taking a few months off following a short term relationship I ended and I can’t tell if my communication style comes off as an independent mysterious gal or a disinterested biotch. I’m trying to be more open minded with age and historically dated older, now I’m mostly getting to know guys ranging 28-35, who might be used to more assertive women when it comes to receiving communication. I’m in a big city where women outnumber straight men by a decent amount and my fellow single friends in their 30s tend to be very aggressive in their approach. All that said, is my approach to dating a potential turnoff?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
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Is my approach outdated?
| null | 0.81 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/ry7v7t/is_my_approach_outdated/
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ThisIsMyAlt54327
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2022-12-21 17:45:24
| 1,671,644,724 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
zrvgzj
| true | null | 70 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/zrvgzj/she_told_me_she_didnt_feel_a_spark/
| 14 |
Last night I (22M) went on a date with a girl (20M) I met on tinder. We already had a good chat going online, and the date itself was also going good. At the end I gave her a hug. Now she texts me she had fun but she didn't feel a spark. When I asked why she said I made good conversation but she didn't see it going anywhere romantically. Now I'm pretty good looking, often get this at least. Did I need to be more forward?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
She told me she didn't feel a spark
| null | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/zrvgzj/she_told_me_she_didnt_feel_a_spark/
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a_ne_mo_ne
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2023-03-19 19:03:16
| 1,679,252,596 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
11vuarj
| true |
Question ❓
| 23 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/11vuarj/dating_for_introverted_people/
| 30 |
Not totally an introvert, an ambivert probably. I am selectively social. 99% of the time I am okay and I enjoy being alone but I guess I am at the 1% right now. Dating is hard nowadays especially for people like me who's lifestyle is considered "quarantine" to some. Lol. Are there any subreddit lounge for those who are looking for someone to date really? Or just trying to make new friends and see where it goes? Tried dating apps but there are lot of bots, scammers or fake accounts. How do you organically meet people inorganically?😄
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Dating for introverted people
| null | 0.97 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/11vuarj/dating_for_introverted_people/
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swanceba
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2023-10-14 22:12:35
| 1,697,321,555 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
1780grf
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1780grf/need_help_with_reaching_out_to_an_old_friend/
| 1 |
I recently moved back close to my hometown and have been looking to meet people, mostly on Hinge. I came across the profile of someone I knew fairly well from high school and had a crush on back then. I want to reach out and send a like to her, but I don't know what to say For context, she and I went to college in different states and didn't keep in touch, so it's been a few years since we've spoken. How do you think I could best reintroduce ourselves? Thank you
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Need help with reaching out to an old friend!
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1780grf/need_help_with_reaching_out_to_an_old_friend/
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auroraborelle
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2022-07-01 19:53:20
| 1,656,705,200 | null |
['matches', 'swipes', 'swiping', 'dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
vp9fdk
| true | null | 80 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/vp9fdk/dating_app_photos/
| 23 |
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about dating apps, and how poorly they work for most people—and I realized something. The format hinges entirely on photos. Stay with me here. We all know this, right? But we tend to assume that means it hinges on whether we’re extremely good looking, or least naturally photogenic, which most of us aren’t. I would argue that’s not actually the bottom line, though. I think it comes down to whether you have high-quality photos of yourself that do a great job of advertising. How do scammers get a ton of right swipes? They use photos of an already attractive person, yes, but they dial that shit to 11 with some amazing high-quality shots (usually out-and-about, on location somewhere) that make you imagine yourself in the photo with that person, having fun and living it up. The photo kinda whispers, “Look, this could be you. Your life could be so exciting with this person.” If you take the same person from a scam account and make a profile with a frowning mirror selfie (there’s a toilet in the background), an up-the-nose pic in their car, a blurry bar candid with four other people (everyone’s eyes are sort of glassy and reflecting the flash), a shot cheek-to-cheek with their… parent? ex? bestie from college? can’t tell, it’s scribbled out—and finally, a forced, awkward smile in front of a blank wall, presumably at their house—which way are you swiping now? I don’t think most people on dating apps realize this is really what the game is. Apps are supposed to make it easy. Well, they don’t. They just turn it into a marketing/advertising project, and don’t tell you your results are gonna suck unless you create some decent content. So most of us flip through our phones and upload the best random candids we have, crop or scribble other people out, take a couple selfies and call it a day. For most people this is a terrible approach. Dating apps are just visual media. Unless you’re naturally quite photogenic AND fabulously hot, it just doesn’t work to go with random things from your phone, selfies, or elementary-school-style posed pics in your house. They don’t sell anything. They don’t make other people imagine themselves with you. They’re not supposed to They’re just, you know, regular pics But that also means they don’t get you a lot of matches, you start wondering what’s wrong with you, and the whole thing is a blow to your self-esteem. Well, yeah. No one mentioned it’s an advertising class. It’s work. You have to get a friend or a tripod and figure out where to take pictures outside in good lighting with good angles and practice looking like you’re having fun in front of a camera. It’s sort of frustrating. It feels silly. It takes time and effort without knowing if it’s going to pay off. I feel like maybe this is why dating apps suck and feel so hard. They have nothing to do with your desirability as a partner—but they sure can tell you about your marketing chops.
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
Dating App Photos
| null | 0.9 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/vp9fdk/dating_app_photos/
|
cboone23
|
2020-01-08 17:32:26
| 1,578,504,746 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
elvuyu
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/elvuyu/why_would_he_text_me_and_then_not_respond_after/
| 1 |
Me and this guy met on Hinge about a year ago, sexted a bit, made out in person and things fizzled out. Recently, he reached out telling me he wishes he would have pursued me more. Turns out I'm still really attracted to him and we hooked up. The sex was really really good for me. I think it was for him because he said things during the act like he could have sex with me for hours, etc. After I left, he texted me he had rug burns on his knees (lol) and the next day he sent me a picture of a couch he's putting together. Thing is...when I respond he doesn't say much back. I totally am into him and would love to bang again hahaha. For example, he's in the process of moving, and asked me last night if I wanted to have sex in his bed and the couch next time. When I responded with something flirty about him being a mind reader, he says nothing. Why would he reach out, to just not respond? I haven't been on the casual dating/hook up scene for a long time. I was in a 4 year relationship that ended about a year ago, so I'm rusty. I need all the advice I can get
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Why would he text me and then not respond, after implying we’d hook up again?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/elvuyu/why_would_he_text_me_and_then_not_respond_after/
|
cookiecatmonsterr
|
2020-07-26 15:17:47
| 1,595,776,667 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
hy8mvg
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/hy8mvg/how_not_to_be_depressed/
| 5 |
I had no girlfriend in the last decade and thats worries me. It just not working for me. Im using dating apps but with no luck at all. Few years ago i could go do dates but every time when i go back to those apps its getting worse (now you have to pay for everything and so on). Now i cant even get into normal conversations. Most of the time they are bored and thats it. Sometimes how they decline me i become sad and angry . Im always funny, chatty, try to know them but how time goes those conversation getting worse and even if i do my best they are not active. Now only i do everything. They not even bother to continue the conversation ot to be interested in me. Few years ago it was better. And no, im not picky. I just want a normal, clever girl and chemistry. Im a lonesome person. I dont live nightlife, i dont like alcohol and my hobbies are lonesome too. My self esteem is that low im not even look at them. Not even think about relationship because i know nobody wants me as a men. Im not english, my grammar may be bad.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
How not to be depressed?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/hy8mvg/how_not_to_be_depressed/
|
iSqoozie
|
2020-07-18 04:08:32
| 1,595,045,312 | null |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
htadqq
| true |
I Need Advice
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/htadqq/matched_with_a_new_girl_today/
| 2 |
I matched with a new girl on Hinge today, things are going very well. We ended up moving it over to Snapchat, and she told me that I ask really good questions. Just looking for ways not to fuck it up besides being my self. Also, she lives 2 hours away, not looking to meet in person anytime soon.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Matched with a new girl today
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/htadqq/matched_with_a_new_girl_today/
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