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ImaginaryAI
|
2014-11-17 15:00:12
| 1,416,236,412 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
2mk9s1
| null | null | 17 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2mk9s1/after_a_few_dates_i_almost_feel_like_trying_is/
| 18 |
I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong. I've met two girls that have pretty much the same interests as me, with potential for good chemistry. I'd meet a lot of them off tinder, and get their number and plan a few dates. The first girl showed up, except it was kind of a bad date since the line to get to the event was almost 2 hours long (we wanted to go to this haunted house tour thing cause we loved horror movies). But regardless we had fun, and she told me she had a lot of fun going. But when I planned the second date, she completely flaked out. The second girl I liked a lot. We had a ton in common and she's really pretty. But the first date she texted me an hour before saying she couldn't make it, I wasn't really surprised. She texted later that day and asked if we could skype instead. So we skyped for about an hour. She was really fun to talk to, we ended up arguing about who would beat each other in Tekken, or talk about our past, and we started talking about things we should do as second dates. But I didn't plan for a second date cause im busy this week. A couple days later she stopped replying to my texts, so she probably found a better guy. The thing is, when I'm out with these girls I do my best to be myself, and act comfortable. And it turns less of like a job interview and more of just having fun. Idk if that's the wrong way to approach it, if I'm too friendly or open. But I really feel like I'm not getting anywhere.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
After a few dates, I almost feel like trying is futile at this point.
| 18 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2mk9s1/after_a_few_dates_i_almost_feel_like_trying_is/
|
Realistic0ptimist
|
2016-08-17 05:02:32
| 1,471,410,152 | 0 |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
4y3v95
| null | null | 94 | null |
/r/AskMen/comments/4y3v95/men_of_color_how_do_you_feel_when_you_see_on/
| 0 |
I've noticed this a lot more than I would like to believe is acceptable or appropriate in 2016. While I understand everyone is free to have their preferences I do think it's a shame that entire races are getting excluded over preconceived stereotypes or rooted beliefs on what is attractive. I will say though that this doesn't make me half as mad as the fact that sex industry workers (escorts) will place no AA or HA on their ads. Not that I want to get an escort but I could have sworn segregation ended decades ago. How is the sex industry on the black market so discriminatory? SMH
|
AskMen
|
t5_2s30g
|
Men of color, how do you feel when you see on dating sites women putting Caucasian only as their preference whether or not they themselves are Caucasian?
| 0 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/4y3v95/men_of_color_how_do_you_feel_when_you_see_on/
|
Sunlitstream264
|
2020-09-20 14:07:28
| 1,600,610,848 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
iwegmt
| true |
Other
| 25 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/iwegmt/they_arent_real_until_you_meet_them_physically/
| 51 |
I’m changing my perspective of seeing people I meet online as not real until we meet. Doesn’t just apply to dating apps, also applying it to a girl I met on a groupchat and have been talking to. I think everyone should do this for a few reasons. 1) It prevents attachment until there’s something really there 2) If they ghost it’s easier to move on from as they were pretty much a figment of your imagination if you haven’t met up. Thoughts? I might be late to learning this but I used to view them as just as real as people I know in real life
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
They aren’t real until you meet them physically
| null | 0.96 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/iwegmt/they_arent_real_until_you_meet_them_physically/
|
Kagamine154
|
2022-01-25 07:27:59
| 1,643,095,679 | null |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
sc82c2
| true |
Question
| 5 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/sc82c2/go_to_dating_apps/
| 1 |
What is the top preferred dating app that is used now?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Go to dating apps
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/sc82c2/go_to_dating_apps/
|
morpheuslurks
|
2020-04-19 14:47:05
| 1,587,307,625 | null | null | 0 |
g48u5b
| true | null | 15 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/g48u5b/i_29f_am_always_initiating_the_chat_with_him_29m/
| 2 |
We matched on Tinder because of Tinder Passport since quarantine and lockdown happened in a lot of countries. He initiated the initial conversation and he seems like a pretty cool dude I am becoming attracted to. Aside from the physical distance, since we are 8,000 km apart, I think it’s going pretty well. I’ve read on here that, generally, men appreciate it when a girl initiates conversations or sends good morning and good night messages and I’ve done that. The conversations don’t really go that deep since sometimes, I feel like it’s me trying to keep pushing the chat along but at the same time, he’s very forthcoming with his answers, albeit being shallow. However, I noticed that it’s always me initiating and also me who always sends the last message. We do flirt a lot and have done more intimate online stuff. I understand if you’re in the middle of something and don’t reply back fast and that’s alright. I want to keep the conversation going but I’m not sure he’s into this as I am (plus we are thousands of miles apart anyway) given the way things are going. Your insights will help me because it’s so noisy in my head and I really like this person! TL;DR here are my questions: - Could it be that he’s just being polite and answering me whenever the greetings turn into small talk? - Could it just be the impersonal nature of sexting, sending nudes that he’s in for? - Should I stop texting first to see if he would initiate? (Testing people like this sucks, IMO)
|
OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
I (29F) am always initiating the chat with him (29M), is that a good thing or bad thing?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/g48u5b/i_29f_am_always_initiating_the_chat_with_him_29m/
|
AdDry7951
|
2023-05-20 10:11:28
| 1,684,577,488 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
13mnybb
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/13mnybb/what_should_i_do_on_a_date_if_i_mostly_get_friend/
| 2 |
I am 29/M. I am really into online dating. We meet, and like each other's look in most cases, but in the end of the date, in most of the cases, nothing happens, there is no chemistry. I know this is something I should not force, but I am not looking for something serious. What I usually do on a first date: keep eye contact, ask a lot about the girl (therefore don't tell much about myself) don't flirt that much, I should improve that I try to touch her in a way, like a shoulder, or hand. Maybe these dates a bit dry. I want to show her my intentions more, instead of be a niceguy, and listens and ask a lot of questions. Unfortunately, these things don't create attraction
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
What should I do on a date, if I mostly get friend vibes, instead of attraction?
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/13mnybb/what_should_i_do_on_a_date_if_i_mostly_get_friend/
|
helpsheeks
|
2021-07-27 01:39:10
| 1,627,349,950 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
osd7uy
| true |
I Need Advice
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/osd7uy/where_do_people_find_people/
| 5 |
I just moved across the country a few months ago and I have no idea how people meet people other than online dating. It burns me out just going out and meeting person after person and having nothing substantial come out of it. I feel like time is passing and nothing is really changing. Does anyone have any advice? Do I just give up and just live life alone or lol I'm pretty tired of everything right now. It probably also doesn't help that I'm sick right now and can't even get to the gym. What do you do when you're just... tired of dating?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Where do people find people?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/osd7uy/where_do_people_find_people/
|
ThrowRA_6784
|
2024-08-25 21:48:18
| 1,724,622,498 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
1f17vau
| true |
Question ❓
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1f17vau/whats_a_normal_dating_range_for_2526m/
| 1 |
Had my ranges set to 23-up. I went on a date recently with a 22F and I felt she was too young. Now I’m running out of options since I’m getting older, about to be 26, and I’m horny as hell and lonely. I’m in a college town, so as soon as I set the age range to 22 on dating apps, I get lots more options. What do you all think should be the ages I date?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What’s a normal dating range for 25-26M?
| 1 | 0.67 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1f17vau/whats_a_normal_dating_range_for_2526m/
|
throwawayRA_c0nfused
|
2023-01-17 13:50:19
| 1,673,963,419 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
10ecqix
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/10ecqix/how_to_be_nonchalant/
| 0 |
Hello fellow daters! I (30 something F) have an issue where by, when I like someone we are instantly married in my head. For context I am dating men. So yeah, its always been like this and I get hurt way too early. When it comes to online dating, ghosting is a norm, time wasters is a norm and generally I feel like its a place where you have to not have your heart on your sleeve. Any advise for a hopeless romantic to not get too invested emotionally before anything materialises when out in the jungle? Thanks x
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to be nonchalant?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/10ecqix/how_to_be_nonchalant/
|
bM177j
|
2020-01-08 13:49:16
| 1,578,491,356 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
elsxrz
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/elsxrz/should_i_stop_or_try_to_restart_it/
| 1 |
Met a girl on tinder and to put it simply I'm a terrible texter I really struggle to keep a convo interesting. Long story short she sent me her snap texted back and forth for a day or two, I basically just threw it out there that I'm terrible at this texting shit and I left it there. A few days later and here I am, she posts a story I reply to the story and she gets back. Should i drop it and move on or might there be a chance. I should asked her out before I ran out texting convo but I've learned so its start. So drop it move to the next or can this be salvaged.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I stop or try to restart it
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/elsxrz/should_i_stop_or_try_to_restart_it/
|
Ok-Plastic-62
|
2021-04-13 05:32:23
| 1,618,291,943 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
mpvy02
| true | null | 23 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/mpvy02/im_tired_of_the_invisible_labour/
| 57 |
Rant time: I'm a little all over the place but please bear with me. I'm absolutely tired of doing all this invisible labour to keep the house running. Now, with two COVID patients in the house, both who are above 60, the workload has only doubled for my mum and I. And my brother, man, where do I even begin? I'm tired of seeing his entitlement and witnessing my mum bend down to the misogyny he throws at her. I'm tired of being the only child in the house who gets all the work down, while the elder child, A 29 YEAR OLD MAN FUCKING CHILD waltzes in as he pleases and DOES ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BUT EXPECT WOMEN IN THE HOUSE TO CLEAN UP AFTER HIS TRAIL OF SHIT This is a primary cause of tensions between my brother and I, and honestly, I wouldn't want to associate myself with him. I've never tried confronting him about it because, I can't even look him in the eye and have a decent conversation after all the misogyny he knowingly or unknowingly throws at the women in the house. This has led to a rising resentment in me which may blow up any day now. This rage, this rage of being a woman is weighting down on me and I've no one to look to. It's 11 a.m now, and all I've had since morning is a glass of milk and I've been doing the house chores since the last 4 hours and I might drop dead at any moment. I honestly don't know what to do. Sorry if I'm all over the place. I had to get this out. PS: I'm not really looking for any kinda advice. Just wanted to get this out.
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
I'M TIRED OF THE INVISIBLE LABOUR
| null | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/mpvy02/im_tired_of_the_invisible_labour/
|
James1579
|
2024-08-18 18:15:32
| 1,724,004,932 | 0 |
['matched', 'hinge']
| 0 |
1evfwlo
| true |
Question ❓
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1evfwlo/supposed_to_have_a_first_date_and_i_didnt_go/
| 1 |
So for context I matched with an older woman than me on Hinge which i'm not used to but i'm all for it. I initially asked her out on Tuesday (on hinge) but it wasn't a concrete plan I just suggested the day. Then as the week went on we were talking on whatsapp and I wanted to plan something more definitive so I said Thursday. Thursday came and I was busy so I apologized and asked to reschedule. She understandably didn't take kindly to this and sort of had a go at me and asked if I was wasting her time because this was the second instance now. I told her we could meet on Sunday and that i'd make it up to her which she initially accepted my apology for. She then proceeded to ghost me for 2 days and leave me on read before coming back on Friday to say "she had been really busy". On Saturday I said we can meet at \_\_\_\_\_ on Sunday at 7pm and she gave a heart emoji as a reaction instead of replying with words so effectively I had been left on read again. Now today (Sunday) I hadn't heard from her all of today so I assumed the date was off since I value my time and if you can't text me back instead of leaving me on read then I won't bother. She texted me at 6:55 to say she was here and to let her know when I was there. Obviously I didn't show up as I presumed the date was off considering I had been left on read for 24 hours and hadn't heard a thing. I know it's not a one way street and I could've confirmed back too but I just feel like the person that ends / doesn't respond to the chat is the person that should initiate. So I basically just told her that this won't work out because I don't like being ignored and her not confirming the meet up and not hearing from her all day until last second. Am I wrong for my actions or justified?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Supposed to have a first date and I didn't go because I didn't hear from her until last minute. Am I an asshole or justified?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1evfwlo/supposed_to_have_a_first_date_and_i_didnt_go/
|
frombrianna2briemode
|
2022-11-22 23:44:51
| 1,669,160,691 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
z295kf
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/z295kf/how_do_you_have_indepth_conversations_with/
| 1 |
I’ve been talking to a guy I met on an app for a few weeks and we decided to finally meet up after the holiday. So far we’ve had quite a few in-depth and deep conversations. But I’ve gotten to a point where I feel like we either won’t have anything to talk about once we meet up (as in no physical chemistry) or my mind goes blank and I don’t know what to ask him/can’t build a new creative question off the current conversations. Admittedly it’s my first time actively trying to date and irl I don’t do super well with small talk. Not to mention a lot of anxieties I currently have. How do people do it?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How do you have in-depth conversations with someone on a dating app before you meet them?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/z295kf/how_do_you_have_indepth_conversations_with/
|
ulpt-throwaway62
|
2020-01-03 18:38:10
| 1,578,076,690 | null |
['swiping', 'tinder']
| 0 |
ejjl9x
| true |
I Need Advice
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/ejjl9x/i_23f_definitely_messed_up_with_this_tinder_crush/
| 1 |
So I was recently broken up with and ended up on a road trip and decided to reactivate my tinder. After swiping a few times I match with this cute guy in the army who was staying with his grandparents on vacation around the area I was visiting. We immediately hit it off and texted/sexted furiously for a week before I was back in his area. We ended up having to cut the road trip short because of someone having a work emergency so I never ended up meeting with him, but he was originally from around my area so we tepidly agreed to keep talking because of our sexual chemistry. He was very adamant about keeping the whole thing casual though, I agreed although I’m generally not a causal kind of person. But he would always say things about how it would piss him off if I was talking to other people and how he thought he could go long term with me and how he could be with me forever. He agreed to skype me at some point too although he never really made concrete plans. Mind you, this was only over a week but we texted and snapped back and forth all day. When I get back home we keep texting snapping back and forth, we also play video games and chat and the sexual tension was still there and he says he was glad to match with me. That he really wanted to meet me etc.. Then something happened where he got a video from some random Facebook account of his ex doing it with another guy and deletes all his social media. He tells me he wants to be alone that day so I don’t bother him but hit him back up the next day but he says the same thing. The third day he doesn’t message me at all. This is so jarring compared to how we messaged before it made me a little insecure and I felt like I couldn’t bother him because he must be going through something. The fourth day I send a tepid snap and he replies normally and ask him if he’s ok. He says yeah he got over it just spending his last day at home and I just felt annoyed. Is it so hard to send a text after how hot and heavy we were just a few days ago? The texting was short and awkward and he eventually leaves me on read. I know I’m probably way too intense for a two week long tinder thing, but he’s the first thing that distracted me from my breakup and the first guy I was into after that. Not to mention our chemistry was off the charts, I was planning on being in his area in February and I was looking forward to it. I felt petty today so I just messaged him that he doesn’t seem to be into me and that it doesn’t seem to be leading anywhere so I’m deleting him and good luck with everything and he messaged back ok. Maybe it was all talk to him before, but I really thought he was into me and it’s so weird how it ended up and I sort of regret how childish I was and how into this guy I had never met. I don’t know, was I really wrong here? Did I play this wrong? I don’t know, I’m not used to shopping around on apps, and it’s rare someone I’m into isn’t into me. It’s really fucking with me.
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I (23F) definitely messed up with this Tinder crush and I need a post-mortem
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/ejjl9x/i_23f_definitely_messed_up_with_this_tinder_crush/
|
cruelpain
|
2020-04-20 10:38:58
| 1,587,379,138 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
g4qhmc
| true |
Venting
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/g4qhmc/any_guys_on_here_struggle_finding_datebale_women/
| 0 |
It seems very easy for women but any other guys on here struggle a bit i meet girls off dating apps but out of all the girls i met there was 1 i seemed to hit it off with. We had similar interests (gym) and i liked her personality . But other than that i haven't had much success. There are lot of girls i just sleep with or date but feel nothing for. Sucks. How rare is it to find a girl who you actually like being with?
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
Any guys on here struggle finding datebale women?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/g4qhmc/any_guys_on_here_struggle_finding_datebale_women/
|
Sanatani_Hitl3r
|
2021-04-23 10:58:48
| 1,619,175,528 | null |
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
mwsowd
| true |
Giving Advice
| 16 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/mwsowd/a_few_pieces_of_enlightenment/
| 13 |
Its been a few weeks since I joined this sub. As far as I have seen, most of the questions revolve around same things. Some are exhausted of trying on online dating apps, or not finding a good partner, or having a bad dating experience in general. Here are a few pieces of enlightenment: Why so desperate?: I have seen many posts of 16-20 yr old school/college kids fed up or their dating life. There's enough time for all of you to find a partner. Life has just started. So relax. Don't go hunting for your partner. Good girls/boys aren't going to finish. It's not a limited sale Go Slow: Most of the bad experiences are because of non-compatibility. And then I see posts asking for advice for a person you like but have met only once/twice. Slow down Let things grow naturally. It takes time to know a person - what's their goal, their outlook for various things. Once you know a person, then you love a person And lesser the chance of having a bad experience. Friend-circle: Sometimes you don't need a relationship, but a person to talk to. So, have a group of friends (not just social media connections) who know you and you can talk to them about anything. They'll know what's good for you if you are ever confused. When you have friends to share things, most of the negatives in life go away. Cheers
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
A few pieces of Enlightenment!
| null | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/mwsowd/a_few_pieces_of_enlightenment/
|
Bi-times-2
|
2017-06-19 08:40:55
| 1,497,861,655 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
6i565w
| null | null | 158 | null |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/6i565w/am_i_his_cash_cow_need_advice_please/
| 90 |
Hi ladies. I met the love of my life recently. It was one of those moments that you hear about where you know you love someone when you first meet. The issue I have found is that everyone is telling me he is just using me. After a week he asked me if he can move in... I said I'd think about it but he kept dropping hints and saying it's the best way we can spend time together. I agreed with that because it felt right. However now I'm finding it difficult. He hasn't paid rent, utilities or food but buys other things that he wants (we fought over $200 shoes because I felt that money may have been more use with our bills.) We just had a 3 day holiday out of town (he pressured me into) and I paid for everything. He said he will pay me back but when I bring up the money/interest it will cause on credit card he makes me feel really bad because he's on a low wage, he's a foreigner, he's angry or sad about some thing. I have many more examples so feel free to ask.... though my question is.... are my family and friends right? Am I being sucked in? update Mum asked me to check if he's still using tinder. I download the app and lo and behold he's there. Even updated his profile pics with ones we took while we have been together. I'm devastated. I'm currently sitting waiting while he packs his shit to live in his car. He tried everything to explain it away but I'm done. The money is one thing.... intention of cheating is another. I told him if he tries to argue or stay I will call the police or immigration. That settled him down enough to start packing. Update 2 He's gone. He tried really hard to make me feel bad but he's gone. Feeling pretty sad so my mum is conning over to stay. Thanks for the the messages guys....appreciate it a lot
|
TwoXChromosomes
|
t5_2r2jt
|
Am I his "cash cow"? Need advice please
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/6i565w/am_i_his_cash_cow_need_advice_please/
|
unnaturalcauses24
|
2021-06-23 13:39:20
| 1,624,455,560 | null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
o6d0i1
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/o6d0i1/i_am_literally_so_confused/
| 3 |
So for some backstory, I (26F) matched with a guy (24M) a few weeks back on a dating app. We hit it off straight away, have loads in common and have just generally been getting on really well. We had our first date a little over a week ago and it was great He said he'd never clicked with anyone like this before, talked about his friends and our future plans etc. and said he couldn't wait to see me again. I briefly saw him again on Monday and again this went well but now he's been acting super off the past few days and not talking to me as he usually would/with the same frequency. I just feel honestly so confused and a bit fed-up with it all, is it something I've done? Has he changed his mind?! Any advice would be greatly welcomed.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I am literally so confused...
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/o6d0i1/i_am_literally_so_confused/
|
Spectralpoetess
|
2019-08-27 21:38:57
| 1,566,941,937 | null |
['online dating', 'tinder']
| 0 |
cwb0ad
| true |
Frequently Asked
| 20 | 0 |
/r/AskMen/comments/cwb0ad/guys_of_reddit_whats_your_worst_tinderonline/
| 1 |
We all hear women's stories of bad guys they meet online/on tinder, but I want to hear some stories from men as well on this subject.
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AskMen
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t5_2s30g
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Guys of Reddit, what's YOUR worst tinder/online dating experience?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/cwb0ad/guys_of_reddit_whats_your_worst_tinderonline/
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Master_Cheesecakez
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2021-12-06 23:42:41
| 1,638,834,161 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
ral5vs
| true | null | 18 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ral5vs/why_some_men_can_be_hypocritical/
| 0 |
After more than a year of my breakup, I finally decided to return to the dating scene. So far all my dates have been horrible to a point where I want to delete all my dating apps and I had a burnout a couple days ago. I keep encountering men that are either seeing me as a sexual object, they think I’m a foreigner in their country so not worth building up with me, or simply they don’t know what they want and would judge me for my decision. Today I met a guy who was interested in me and I was talking to for some time now, of course he knew I was looking for a relationship, and later during the night I started being a little bit flirty with him… which was my way to sext him. He got very angry at me, and shamed me for having desires… and told me that I don’t appear to be relationship material. Why do women still need to justify their human needs in 2021 ? Another guy was very blunt and told me that I wouldn’t be the girl he takes to his parents but he would be happy to wake up next to me in bed everyday What does that even mean With all what we have achieved as a feminist movement, I think we are not there yet. I’m just tired, upset, and I feel used and not valued.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Why some men can be hypocritical?
| null | 0.4 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ral5vs/why_some_men_can_be_hypocritical/
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Whale_Tune
|
2019-05-23 23:43:22
| 1,558,655,002 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
bs9yhe
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/bs9yhe/does_gen_z_know_how_to_break_up/
| 5 |
I'm a 20 yo woman. I've dated two guys in my life. One was freshly 20, all over me, super enthusiastic and we connected over a month. Then I went home for break, and he just dropped off the face of the Earth-- ghosted after two months. The second one really hurts. He's also 20, sweet, intelligent, attractive. He was always respectful and considerate when we went out. He bought me jewelry and listened to me, always said the right thing. We opened up and dated for about 5 months. We said I love you to each other. Then his car gets broken for a month. Then his family's taking him to Pakistan. He tells me that if I can "find someone who does a better job at taking care" of me then I "should consider" dating them. I finally log back onto Tinder after weeks of him curving me and find that lo and behold, he's been there for a week and is nowhere near Pakistan. 😑 With my last boyfriend, I'm just in shock that he'd lie to me. I have no idea what happened or when he decided that he didn't want to see me anymore. I figured that if he wanted to end the relationship, he'd explain to me why because he actually cared about my feelings. Then we'd know that we both respected each other and where to go from there. Instead I just got radio static from both of them. And I've heard that this isn't unusual; young people nowadays are horrible at breaking up with each other. They don't say what they mean, lie, and ghost their SOs, even SOs they've had for months. Neither guy ever indicated that there was a problem in our relationship. I keep wondering if it's me, if there's something wrong with me that my exes don't just tell me when we're breaking up. Do they do it this way because they don't want to hurt your feelings, or because they never cared to begin with? My boyfriend that I had for five months, at least, seemed like he cared about me and loved me. Then he just stopped out of the blue, and I don't know if he thought he was letting me down easy or if he just didn't care. :( I'm a bit afraid to start dating again. Is this normal behavior for gen z guys? I just don't know.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
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Does gen z know how to break up?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/bs9yhe/does_gen_z_know_how_to_break_up/
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[deleted]
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2013-03-06 00:18:05
| 1,362,529,085 | 0 |
['dating sites', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
19qpzi
| null | null | 42 | null |
/r/AskMen/comments/19qpzi/why_do_men_pose_as_women_on_dating_sites/
| 7 |
As a woman, I don't get it. I've had several other "women" message me on OKCupid, only to find out that they are actually guys. Seriously, why?!
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AskMen
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t5_2s30g
|
Why do men pose as women on dating sites?
| 7 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/19qpzi/why_do_men_pose_as_women_on_dating_sites/
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mrmoorer32
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2021-02-26 20:25:25
| 1,614,371,125 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
lt6y7q
| true |
Giving Advice
| 14 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/lt6y7q/a_little_piece_of_advice/
| 14 |
I just thought I would share my strategy/advice. Last year I deleted my dating apps and have been much happier overall, my self esteem is better, I have better confidence, and I’m not checking my phone every two minutes. Also, I found someone to date naturally, and we had a great connection, but it ended up fizzling out after a few dates. So my new strategy is... to date, myself. I will still go out once a week and have a nice meal and a drink or two, but I will enjoy the company of myself. The goal is to find inner peace and end up being more attractive, but ultimately just being generally happier with who I am, and not worrying about someone else to make me happy. Also, maybe stay off social media as much, as this is a contributing factor to improved mental health. That is all, this is just my strategy to be a better, happier person. If I find someone, I know it will be a better connection, because I will be less desperate, and have stronger boundaries. I hope you all find happiness, and don’t rely on screen time to find yourself. Date yourself for a while!
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
A little piece of advice
| null | 0.82 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/lt6y7q/a_little_piece_of_advice/
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Nuarmstrongjetcannon
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2019-04-02 08:39:18
| 1,554,194,358 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
b8gjba
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/b8gjba/i_35m_went_out_on_a_date_after_two_weeks_of/
| 1 |
Long story short, I hit it up with someone on Bumble and met up with them after two weeks of texting for an incredibly short 'date'. There are certain things she has said that have confused me and I wanted some second opinions on whether this is a waste of time or is just people being awkward. During texts: She said that she had gotten out of a long-ish relationship in the beginning of the year owing to differences in opinion between her and her ex. She didn't badmouth him or say anything negative so it seems like an amicable split. She mentioned that she didn't want to define anything, take it slow and wasn't comfortable with 'intense' feelings and thoughts (what?). I insisted that I was happy to take it slow and get to know her at her pace. She works a fairly important and time intensive job, so she said she wasn't good at responding to texts - perhaps even days at a time. I don't have an issue with this as I'm not a big text person. After a week or so of texting, she offered to meet up for coffee on the weekend. Eventually, she cancelled owing to prior engagements she forgot (which were real, she was caught up with things). I told her that we could reschedule for next week and it wasn't a problem. The meeting: She asked me if I wanted to meet on the following weekend, a couple of hours before her yoga class. I agreed and she picked a place close to her yoga class. In my opinion, it went great. There was no break in the conversation, plenty of laughs were had. She was a bit nervous but then so was I. I had fun and eventually I walked her to her class that was across the road. On parting, I mentioned that I would love dinner next time and I'll pick the place. so far, so good. Afterwards: Other than asking her how her class went and if she made it in time, i texted her the next day asking her if she'd like to have dinner on the next weekend. Initially she was up for it, but after an hour of agreeing, she said she would be happy to continue things as friends that just kinda sorta meet up now and then. She didn't see anything meaningful coming from us hanging out. she was happy to be pals, but didn't want to lead me on. on asking for a reason, I got the response that she had 'a gut feeling'. Since she had this gut feeling and we were not on the same page, i would respect her decision but i didn't want to be the friend that is called on when others are busy. She texted me saying that maybe i 'felt' like she had decided. I was fine until she said that and haven't responded since. I felt like anything I said would come out as annoyed and possibly taken badly. I did genuinely have fun with her for the brief period of time that we met and texted. Is this normal? Do people do this now? I understand that she could be indecisive or not ready for a relationship but why do something like this?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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I [35M] went out on a 'date' after two weeks of texting. Am I barking up the wrong tree?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/b8gjba/i_35m_went_out_on_a_date_after_two_weeks_of/
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SgnSyndicate
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2022-08-01 17:10:07
| 1,659,373,807 | null |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
wdmq8t
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/wdmq8t/dating_in_this_day_in_age/
| 0 |
I'm a 20 year old straight male. I've been out of school since I was 15, I dropped out after a lot happen in life. During that time in school it felt like the only way to meet anyone was obviously in school. With me being out and about working 45hour weeks how do people meet anymore. Sure I'm on dating sites but it doesn't feel real anymore, you get ghosted 60% of the time or the "person" is a bot trying to sell you explicit stuff. It also doesn't help that I've grow self conscious of asking anyone out or trying harder to meet anyone bc of past relationships. How do I get myself out there and be more appealing in the dating world.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Dating in this day in age.
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/wdmq8t/dating_in_this_day_in_age/
|
No-Vacation797
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2021-05-22 02:27:51
| 1,621,650,471 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
ni8qv3
| true |
Casual Conversation
| 39 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/ni8qv3/excited_about_my_first_date_with_the_overtexting/
| 314 |
So I posted the other day about being overwhelmed by the frequency and lack of substance with texting from a man I met OLD. I got so many different perspectives and suggestions that truly helped my attitude and responses to him. I wound up asking him to dial back his enthusiasm and frequency a bit, and made sure I followed through with communication by phone and initiating texting with more “substance” myself. As some people suggested, he said he wanted me to be sure I knew he was genuinely interested and was happy I “reeled him in”. I told him it was truly about me and my overall dislike of texting, and that I appreciated knowing his intention was to be considerate and show interest. Every phone call has been stellar, and our conversations are easy and fun. I find him incredibly attractive in personality and looks. Wish me luck, y’all I think I met a great guy. And thank you so much for all the comments and help
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datingoverforty
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t5_su6ij
|
Excited about my first date with the “overtexting” guy. Thanks to everyone in this subreddit who gave me advice!
| null | 0.98 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/ni8qv3/excited_about_my_first_date_with_the_overtexting/
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feedmepussy1
|
2024-01-04 05:39:05
| 1,704,346,745 | 0 |
['dating app', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
18y5jby
| true |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/18y5jby/what_dating_app_has_had_the_best_results_for_you/
| 1 |
I'm in Colorado and looking for a woman to have some fun with. There are plenty of dating apps, I just prefer a larger woman that is confident and comfortable with her body but struggle to find any interested. Is there an app that caters to this group?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
What dating app has had the best results for you?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/18y5jby/what_dating_app_has_had_the_best_results_for_you/
|
dudeab1des
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2021-03-14 19:59:31
| 1,615,751,971 | null | null | 0 |
m52tpb
| true | null | 8 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/m52tpb/distance_settings/
| 0 |
What is your current OLD distance setting, and if you'd like, leave a comment why
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Distance settings
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/m52tpb/distance_settings/
|
Garyfisherrigenjoyer
|
2024-03-31 15:47:30
| 1,711,900,050 | 0 |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
1bsdhjx
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1bsdhjx/mixed_signals/
| 1 |
I matched with someone on a dating app. She was super flirty, and immediately initiated plans. The next day, she barely responds and I’m trying to figure out what we are doing for our plans and I’ve been on delivered since early yesterday evening. I’m having a hard time dealing with these mixed signals, is this person interested? I’ve never been so confused/unsure about something in the dating world. My gut instinct is to just block this person but that may be a bit rash. Trying to be more understanding and give people a chance. What do y’all think, should I just cut my losses, or should I wait and see what happens? This kind of thing brings a lot of anxiety to my otherwise peaceful single existence.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Mixed signals.
| 1 | 0.66 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1bsdhjx/mixed_signals/
|
Ok_Elephant1053
|
2024-09-29 07:17:57
| 1,727,594,277 | 0 |
['dating app', 'tinder']
| 0 |
1fryt61
| true | null | 0 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1fryt61/bpd_and_the_cycle_of_abuse/
| 5 |
When I was 18, I ran away from home and started my own life away from my family. My older brother, eight years older than me, who had been in run-ins with police constantly, used me as a punching bag for years. I would go to school with bruises and eventually reported him. My mother let him back in the house and she and everyone in the family made it clear I had done something terrible in reporting him. It wasn't a question of not being believed, everyone knew, they just thought it was wrong of me to tell. He told me I had gotten him in trouble, and that he didn't want to risk visitation rights with his son so he woulon't touch me again. But he told me he would come and find me one day when I moved out and kill me. When I moved away, I was scared and lonely living in a city by myself, and I went on Tinder and got involved within my first month with a 29 year old man. I say involved because he refused to ever call me his girlfriend, and why would he, when he got everything he wanted from me without needing to. I let him live with me rentfree, I did everything I could to please him. We were together for three years. I was constantly anxious, crying, stressed out, suicidal, paranoid. He would constantly disappear, he'd never introduce me to anyone in his life. One time we were out walking and he saw an aunt of his, and he physically sprinted away from me, then called me to come meet him elsewhere, he didn't want to be seen with me. I would question him nd he would tell me I'm crazy and paranoid. This was during lockdown, my father then died suddenly. Right after I got the news, my boyfriend had sex with me, I'll always remember that. I found BPD online and he pretty enthusiastically started labelling myself with it; he had always told me how crazy and paranoid and insecure I was, so it fit. In the last year of our relationship I found out he was cheating on me, for over a year. I found lots of Instagram messages, to random girls, influencers, and one irl girl, who I messaged and was thankfully really kind to me. She didn't know about me, o course, nobody did. I carried the label with me, BPD, and got involved with anoher older man, 30 to my 20 about to be 21. I had known him platonically since my last relationship. He always encouraged me to leave my first boyfriend, told me that I deserve better, and that not all older men are bad. He never missed my birthday, he was kind and charming to me. So I started to talk to him, right after my breakup, first mistake. As soon as we slept together for the first time, any and all nice treatment stopped, he stopped being the kind and thoughtful guy I'd been friends with, or pretending not to be embarrassed of me, he stopped ever even asking how I was. The entire relationship took place in hotel rooms, that I would pay for. I feel so stupid looking back, but I wanted to be independent and prove to him how much I loved him. He was in his 30's, owned his own property. I was a 21/22 year old student struggling, and paying for everything. My first ex would at least go outside with me, this boyfriend never saw the light of day with me, it was just hotel rooms. I was constantly anxious and paranoid, wondering why he kept me a secret and if I'd ever meet his family and friends, and getting more and more worked up about how unfair everything felt. But he was always so calm, I was the one 'hysterical' (his word) and causing drama. I told him about thinking I had BPD, he was similarly enthusiastic about it, told me it sounded right and would bring it up a lot. He ended it with me. My most recent boyfriend was the same age as me, so I thought it would be better. I met him not on a dating app, but online, on Reddit, so thought it would be better. He would go on actual dates outside with me, but there was a similar pattern of constantly disappearing, going AWOL, not replying, and I would respond in turn by just being crazy, freaking out and sending text after text begging him to tell me what's going on. Same way, I told him I thought I had BPD, he liked the idea of it, would encourage it, told me how I needed help when I would break down. I found out two weeks ago he was cheating the entire time, from the day we met. Every time I would freak out, he would tell me how paranoid and crazy I was, even though he knew all along I was right, that he was cheating. That part was worse than cheating. I feel like I can't trust my own brain anymore. I feel completely stupid for falling for these situations again and again and being so unbelievably easy to manipulate. I presented myself on a silver platter to these men, painted the words 'vulnerable' and 'hysterical' on my forehead and presented my naked body to them. I let them know how I'd been cheated on and abused growing up, and pretty much primed them to know I would accept anything and not leave. I don't hate any of them, I hate myself. I made it so easy for someone to do this. I essentially introduced myself as a girl with no friends or family support or self respect, who you can do anything you want to, cheat on and get out your worst and darkest desires and sexual kinks on, then return back to your regular life and be a normal man. I don't respond to it by leaving, but being so pathetic and embarassing they get sick of me. One time a guy I briefly dated told me "It doesn't matter how bad I treat you, I'm still gonna be fucking you tonight" and it sums me up in a nutshell. I feel like the hopeful version of myself at 18 who was excited to start fresh, and get away from abuse is gone. I'm at an age where I'm seeing things clearly, and understanding how I got myself in these situations, understanding what a 'normal person' would have done, when I should've left, when I should've stood up for myself, but it feels too late to apply it. I'm just tired now. I don't feel happy or excited anymore. I don't see a future, I'm out of any hope or belief in myself. I let this happen My mind doesn't even accept that they're bad people. They all have friends and jobs and relationships, not me. It's like I bring out the worst in them by being so easy to kick. People don't care about the nobody they hurt, so it's like it didn't even happen. I heard a term on Law & Order once, after a prostitute was killed and a detective made a crass comment, 'NHI', meaning no humans involved. That's how I feel, like no wrongdoing has been done, like I'm not really a human.
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TwoXChromosomes
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t5_2r2jt
|
BPD and the cycle of abuse
| 5 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1fryt61/bpd_and_the_cycle_of_abuse/
|
Chinpoko2
|
2021-06-10 07:36:16
| 1,623,310,576 | null |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
nwht4f
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/nwht4f/matched_on_tinder_with_a_high_school_crushish/
| 14 |
I don't know if it's the right sub to ask that quedtion, but here we go. I (26M) matched on Tinder with a girl that I liked in high school, but never really pursued her because of my shyness. We knew each other from kindergarten so we talked few times but that was it. Now that I'm out of my shell, healed from past relationship and have the opportunity, I would like to take that chance, but I don't really know how to start so it won't be awkward or weird. Any advices? 🙂
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Matched on Tinder with a high school crush(ish?)
| null | 0.94 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/nwht4f/matched_on_tinder_with_a_high_school_crushish/
|
SomethingFr0mThePast
|
2019-07-17 23:52:53
| 1,563,407,573 | null |
['online dating', 'dating sites']
| 0 |
cekvk0
| true |
Question
| 2 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/cekvk0/question_how_would_you_date_if_you_had_to_only/
| 0 |
NOTE: Please read and actually give me some real and serious opinions. Hey. I have given up on meeting people in person. It costs too much time, effort, money, and investment ... I have tried 1. Dating In Person and 2. Online Dating Sites [Meant for dating]. This is NOT for those types of dating. IF you HAD to date someone ONLINE ONLY without ever meeting in person [Online Relationship]. Like you met on a Video Game or a Forum or Anywhere Online... What would you do for a date AND how would you keep the relationship alive? I ask to know your thoughts AND because I met someone I wanted to get to know better. Some of my thoughts are playing the Same Game I met this person on, Playing othrr games with them, Watching movies and music on youtube and other sites, Using Voice Chat, Texting on Discord, Buying small virtual games on steam for birthday/valentines gifts, or making a virtual valentine/birthday card online, and stuff like that. What do you all think? Serious Post, Serious Replies Please. Also I don't need to have anyone warn me about online stuff.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Question: How would you date if you HAD to only date ONLINE ONLY!??
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/cekvk0/question_how_would_you_date_if_you_had_to_only/
|
_PowerGurl84_
|
2019-07-08 06:25:10
| 1,562,567,110 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
cahgi5
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/cahgi5/consider_joining_tinder_but_nervous_when_are_you/
| 3 |
I(35f) filed for divorce 5 months ago. My life is busy with work and 2 kids and agonizing divorce. I want grown up company but I’m nervous about dating. When do you consider yourself “ready” to start dating again?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
Consider joining Tinder but nervous. When are you ready?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/cahgi5/consider_joining_tinder_but_nervous_when_are_you/
|
money_do
|
2024-09-12 17:34:04
| 1,726,162,444 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1ff8cv5
| true |
Question ❓
| 23 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1ff8cv5/what_is_worst_red_flag_on_tinder/
| 1 |
People who have been on some dates, what in their profile is the warn you that they can be red flag?
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
What is worst red flag on tinder?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1ff8cv5/what_is_worst_red_flag_on_tinder/
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yrmjy
|
2022-02-12 08:23:13
| 1,644,654,193 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
sqmrnv
| true | null | 23 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/sqmrnv/how_do_you_avoid_repeating_the_same_conversations/
| 4 |
Before meeting someone for a date I'll often have fairly extensive conversations with them beforehand. This isn't my preference, but some women aren't prepared to meet until we've messaged for a while, and sometimes there's also a wait before our schedules line up (mainly on her end). The trouble is that by then I've used up all the obvious conversation starters and because I've never met them and our connection is fickle and could fizzle out at any time, I don't devote the same mental bandwidth to keeping track of everything I've learned about them as I would to a friend or someone I was dating properly, so sometimes when I meet someone after all that it can feel like the conversation is retreading old ground and that can make it feel a bit stale and boring. Does anyone have any tips for avoiding this? Obviously one solution is to read over the old messages, but if there are a lot that can get a bit tiresome. Or you could just stop messaging someone if they're not prepared to meet up within a few days, but that only works if you get enough matches to be picky. When you meet someone, how much would you expect them to remember from your messages? I know sometimes even close friends don't remember everything you've said to them, so maybe I'm overthinking this?
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
|
How do you avoid repeating the same conversations in person you had over messages?
| null | 0.64 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/sqmrnv/how_do_you_avoid_repeating_the_same_conversations/
|
Tiny-Shape-2106
|
2024-09-28 01:35:28
| 1,727,487,328 | 0 |
['dating apps', 'bumble']
| 0 |
1fr3i4l
| true | null | 0 | 0 |
/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1fr3i4l/my_first_and_last_bumble_experience/
| 0 |
Sorry if this is long lol Hi, I´m a 20F who never really had much experience with guys, most of the ones I knew I quickly spotted they were liars or weirdos, I rarely have male friends cause most of them just want to see if I am willing to date them, which honestly, doesn´t make me feel like they see me like a person at all. Anyways, since I was getting older I started to feel worried about the fact that I've never had a boyfriend, a first kiss, god I never had held hands with someone before, it made me feel embarassed to be honest, so I decided to install bumble and see if I was lucky enough to find someone, I downloaded it on a saturday, by accident I swiped right on the guys that I wanted to swipe left lol, so I ran out of likes, I waited for the next day to swipe properly, the next day I opened the app and I saw the profile of a guy I found attractive, however I thought by his pictures that he was a bit of a party boy, a womanizer, as a shy and introverted person myself, I didn't know if I wanted that for me, but I didn't want to be prejudiced so I planned on swiping on him anyways, my likes hadn't restarted yet so I waited, however, I checked the people who liked me since bumble lets you see a blurry picture of the people who have swiped you right if you have the free version and I quickly identified his picture there, the night came and my swipes restarted, I swiped right on him and we matched, we talked for a bit and I liked that he didn't make the conversation overwhelming, we talked for a day and he then asked me for my instagram, we exchanged pictures to let each other know we were real people and started joking firtatiously, he then asked me why I installed the app, I decided to be honest and told him my situation and he proceded to ask me if I was looking for something extra serious, I told him I didn't really like the word "serious" as in the sense that I didn't want a relationship that felt forced, at the moment I admit I wasn't really clear, what I meant to say is I wanted a relationship where we were comprehensive of each other's time, since I'm in college and my schedule is pretty messy, he then proceded to make a list of things he thought I wanted, the list went as follows: 1.-Nothing of a relationship 2.-I'm not expecting it becomes romantic 3.- we were only going to be friends 4.- what are my expectations. When I saw this I thought he was changing my words for his convenience, I was pretty confused so I said: "I don't really know you so I can't really have any expectations right now, If i happen to want to, I'm not going to force you to have a relationship with me if you don't want to" he said ok to that so honestly by now I was extremely confused by his wording, I asked him what he wanted and he said "I installed the app cause I wanted company, frankly, I don't have much time because of college, so idk if I can give my 100% to a relationship, but i'm not closed off to one" I thought it was ok since I also dont have much time, he said he would invite me to his apartment due to him not having much time to go anywhere else but that he didn't want to make me uncomfortable by asking that, I stupidly said it was fine. We kept talking and we were going to meet for the first time on a friday on a cafe, last minute he told me if I wanted to drink at a bar with his friends since one of them had his birthday, I frankly didn't feel too comfortable with that so I declined and said it was better for us to meet up some other day. We ended up meeting because I asked him since he never brought it up, at this point I only wanted to see him to see the type of guy he was, I went to his apartment cause we both had classes so we barely had time to meet anywhere else, we talked for an hour, at first I felt we didn't have much in common but we got along pretty well, I got excited since he made me feel really at ease talking, shortly after we parted ways he told me he had a great time with me and asked when we were going to see each other again, I was very happy. We decided to meet the next day, and he proceeded to cancel me again cause he wanted to see a football game, I got pretty mad but I said it was fine since he at least was honest about it and I understand he has his own hobbies, we planned to then meet the next day after that, this time we went to a park nearby, we spent the time only talking for three hours straight and once again, at first I didn't feel we were really compatible (for context, we study VERY different majors, so we think really differently) but as the conversation progressed we were really enjoying each others time, to make it short heres some things he told me during that are relevant or will be relevant later: 1.-he said he barely checks his phone cause he is most of his time doing homework or at school 2.- he said he barely uses instagram cause he thinks it's quite stupid 3.- He told me he has met girls from bumble 2-3 times 4.- he told me he never opens bumble he just happened to "see my notification" and opened the app (which I thought was weird cause I knew he swiped first but I let it slide) 5.-He told me the people from my faculty (I'm a theater major so i'm in an arts-based campus) are weird since they like anime,k-pop-like stuff 5.- he told me he flirts with girls when he goes out but often the ones from artsy majors are harder to get. 6.- that he sometimes kisses girls when he is drunk 7.-that he doesn't tell his friends when he meets a girl, since he doesn't like to mix his romantic life with his friendships 8.- That he preferred meeting in his apartment since it is his safe space and that in public he felt weird sometimes. 9.- He said he remembered the first thing I texted him and messed up saying something else lol. As I'm writing this god I didn't know how I let it slide. Almost at the end of the conversation I jokingly said how I thought he was a womanizer when I saw his profile, he asked me to elaborate, and I said I thought he was the type of guy to see multiple girls at the same time, and that I thought he kept bringing up meeting at his apartment to watch movies only to take advantage of me, for context I said all this in a light manner cause I honestly thought he wasn't that type of person at all after meeting him, and I clearly said that too when I told him all that. After we parted ways he messaged me and told me he didn't like me saying that, that he didn't think anything of me before meeting me cause he didn't want to be prejudiced, frankly this made me feel really bad, I thought "he's right, I was wrong in thinking that of him, I guess I really fear guys too much" I cried a lot because of this ngl, I felt really guilty, and I said I was genuinely really sorry for saying that, he said it was fine but kept bringing it up from time to time, each time i kept repeating I was sorry, while I understood where he was coming from I was a bit hurt he didn't see my point of view, he knew I don't really trust guys since a lot of the ones I know take advantage of girls, this was my first time using an app and he also knew that, him telling me to go to his apartment on the first date, made me really scared. We couldn't see each other the rest of the week, on friday while we were texting he brought up again the fact that I hurt him and that he wasn't going to bring the sentimental topic again since it made him feel like a womanizer, I apologized once again and said I didn't feel uncomfortable if he wanted something romantic with me, I had to say this btw cause I asked him what he wanted and basically said "it's up to you", I explained myself again what type of relationship I wanted, and this time I knew for certain he knew what I meant, he said he agreed on what I said and made it clear we were going to see if what we had could develop into something more. He went on a trip and told me he bought me a fish necklace, we were going to see each other on a tuesday, but, you guessed it, he cancelled again, cause he had to wait for an amazon package to arrive to his house and his landlord was there, once again, I felt bummed out but I didn't get mad with him since I was comprehensive with his situation. We saw each other the next day, on his apartment, at first I didn't know I was going to see him that day but it ended up happening, I didn't eat so I bought something beforehand to eat there, I arrived and he didn't really make me feel like he wanted me there, I said hi efusively and he barely replied, I entered and he was just playing some game on his phone and not making any effort to talk to me, he gave me the necklace, but it wasn't a fish, it was a palm tree, I asked what happened and he said his mom took the other one, now I don't really know if that's true lol. I started eating and I felt frankly really uncomfortable, i didn't even finish my food only to try and start a conversation since he wasn't saying anything at all, I asked him if he was uncomfortable after what I said of him being a womanizer and he said he wasn't, he started to play justin bieber on his tv, and we were talking, the conversation honestly was really boring and superficial to me the entire time, he talked about getting high with a song that was playing, about this expensive gucci watch he had, idk it never went anywhere, at some point I showed him my arm could twist (idk why i forgot lol) and he grabbed it and pulled me to hug him, after a while I sat again not too close of him, not cause I didn't like hugging him but idk It just felt somewhat unnatural after a while. He suggested we watch something and we ended up seeing the office since he has never seen it. We were both laying in his bed watching it, he asked if he could hug me and I said yes, not cause I wanted to cause frankly i'm not much of a physical contact type of person but because I didn't want him to feel rejected since by this point I liked him. He started caressing my arm, my face, and playing with my waist, I didn't hate it but I also wasn't loving it. He then asked to kiss me, I said yes, for context, this was my first kiss, and he knew it, I honestly thought he was going to go slow but damn he didn´t, from the get go he was really intense and I wasn't really into that, just so you could imagine, after he kissed me I realized my phone had cracked (it was below me), my ring broke and some of my nails also broke. I didn't feel bad but I just didn't feel anything, I felt like a mannequin getting kissed the entire time, and this got me worried, I felt guilty seeing him REALLY enjoying kissing me and grabbing me and me not feeling anything, I nervously said in panic "Sorry it´s just that I've never done this" and it only looked like it turned him on more, he asked me to kiss my neck and idk if i heard wrong because I said yes and he kissed my chest. Seeing he was going there got me worried and I said "We are not going to do anything else are we?" and he said "We are not going to do anything you don't want to, you tell me" i said I felt he was enjoying it more than i was and he got bummed out, I said I felt weird and needed time to figure things out, later I realized 1.- this is normal 2.- it was just all extremely anticlimatic for me, i didn't mind him kissing me like that, but there was no build up to it, I wasn't prepared. Honestly looking back I know he always asked me for my permission but it felt like he just eventually was expecting I was going to say yes to having sex idk, maybe it's just me. After the kiss I asked him if he wanted us to be something later on, not to formalize or anything but because I felt I kept getting mixed signals from him and I'm a person who can't handle an unclear relationship, being it romantic or friendship wise. He said "well, we never clarified that" which made me feel mad cause I thought we talked about it through message, he then proceded to tell me that to him a relationship is seeing each other daily and talking daily, which made me more mad cause he had cancelled me multiple times and sometimes didn't reply in an entire day, things I didn't really care for at first cause I was comprehensive of his time and space. He also said that to his friends if he told them about us they would say I was his "ass", that his family thinks he is a womanizer and that he didn't want his neighbors to think badly of him, all this made me just feel ignored cause all I wanted was to know was where his head was at, and he just kept being confusing. He then said I was uncomfortable over and over again ,and that we weren't going to see each other in his apartment again, that it was better we kept it as friends cause he didn't want to feel rejected by me not wanting to have physical contact with him, I said that wasn't what was happening and that I needed time to process my feelings, he kept denying my feelings and saying he knew I was uncomfortable. I told him it was better for us to talk on friday, that day arrived and I asked him to meet up and talk, he said he was too busy and that he didn't have anything to say, that I should just text him whatever I wanted to say. At first I got mad but I still wanted to express myself, I sent a 15 minute audio explaining what happened and how it all made me feel, all he replied was "Shittt, 15 minutes lol" I felt hurt and still waited the entire day for his response, yeah, he never sent one, he kept seeing all of my instagram stories but never replied. I unfollowed him on social media since I was hurt by his behaviour, I was comprehensive of him and his feelings, and he never was of mine, days went by and I just started to feel weird, I saw the whole picture and thought "I feel that as soon as I wasn't convenient for you, you decided not to make any effort" I felt the whole thing was fishy so I looked in his following and everything made sense. I found this girl, anime profile picture, no posts, just highlight stories of a dog and a heart, and the second one was of him and her, she looked like a shy introverted girl, we both wear glasses and look "quirky and into cute stuff", she looks like she likes k-pop and anime, she uses a lot of eyeliner and does makeup asian-like (Nothing wrong with it, i'm just pointing it out since he said things about people with that type of interests being weirdos), I couldn't believe it, none of his friends followed her, he doesn't have a single post of her, if it weren't for me finding it, I would've never guessed that was his girlfriend, I tried messaging her on instagram to tell her what his boyfriend did and has done, but I was afraid she wouldn't see it since it was a request, I went onto trying to find her on Facebook, and I did, I know it sounds like I was obssesive or something but I just really felt mad for thinking he could be lying to this girl, if he said all that to me in two weeks, what has he told her in months. She replied, I sent her the screenshots of our conversation and told her I could tell her everything that happened, she never replied, but her boyfriend surely was quick to message me, to make it short, he admitted he is a womanizer and thinks he was honest with me for the most part (?) but that It wasn't my business to tell "the person he is seeing" anything, that maybe he did wrong, but at least he didn't put his nose where it ain't his business. I got really mad, and told him everything I felt, I called him a manipulator and that he made me feel bad of thinking something that was true, that he was an unsincere person for dating other girls when he has a girlfriend and that if she gets hurt, it was his fault, not mine. He wanted to reply after that but I blocked him off everywhere, idk, I feel good with myself but sad for the girl, it looks like she believed him, she blocked me off everywhere and still has the stories with him up. I've always been a person that stands up for myself but I know not everyone is like this, I can't help but worry for her thinking she is getting manipulated, I just wanted to say it here just cause I thought it was a good story lol. I feel kinda bad this was my first kiss and all and that this whole experience didn't make me trust guys at all, but I'm glad I didn't let myself get hurt furthermore despite being someone inexperienced, i'm posting this mainly cause idk if there's girls in my situation that install dating apps to meet guys romantically for the first time, you can do it, but it's not the best place, I found a lot of guys I know with girlfriends there too, I'm not saying all men are like this, but a lot i've met have been like this. In the end I could only think he only wanted me cause he thought I was a naive shy girl that wasn't gonna stand up for herself, cause that seems like his type, from his behaviours where I felt like he treated me like a child, he made me feel so small from beginning to end. I know I also didn't do the best, I was prejudiced of thinking that of the guy just from some pictures, in this situation I was in the right, but it's not always like that, i struggled a lot at first to communicate properly what I wanted and maybe that confused the guy idk, regardless I'm still mad he is a liar, girls, remember you're people, not games.
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TwoXChromosomes
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t5_2r2jt
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My first and last Bumble experience
| 0 | 0.33 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1fr3i4l/my_first_and_last_bumble_experience/
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Amirasalam123
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2021-06-07 00:42:48
| 1,623,026,568 | null |
['dating site']
| 0 |
ntzy2v
| true | null | 19 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ntzy2v/dates/
| 4 |
I am on a dating site and these guys want to go out on a date but they come up with bad ideas for dates. This one guy wanted to take me to watch his friend play in a soccer game and I do not like sports. How do I convince a guy to take me out on a nice date without sounding pushy? I am not expecting anything fancy I would like to go to in n out, Dave and busters or maybe go to a science museum.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Dates
| null | 0.84 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ntzy2v/dates/
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mzboj00
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2022-06-08 05:24:09
| 1,654,665,849 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
v7hrv5
| true | null | 11 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/v7hrv5/opinion_on_a_girl_not_going_to_the_gym/
| 0 |
TW: ED This is something that was brought up in my last relationship a lot and I constantly see it with online dating. Nearly every guy I see is looking for a "cute gym buddy" or it will be brought up in the first few conversations, and once I say I don't go it's like they aren't interested?? My ex also consistently pushed for me to go because I got out of breath on long walks... from my asthma. I'd consider myself an average size 20 yr old female, I don't have the "dream" body type but I'm still in decent shape. I have a little bit of a tummy and my butt got a bit smaller... but a lot of it is due to my weight fluctuation from an eating disorder. I'm still trying to recover from it and I have some social anxiety from trauma so I don't feel comfortable going to the gym, and I honestly just prefer being active outdoors (hikes/walks/swimming ect.) I don't really understand why this has become such a thing? I didn't have this problem prior to covid. Maybe it's just an online dating thing but man is it frustrating. Any input/advice on how to navigate this would be appreciated
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Opinion on a girl not going to the gym?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/v7hrv5/opinion_on_a_girl_not_going_to_the_gym/
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Psychoticangel5
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2021-03-16 23:42:18
| 1,615,938,138 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
m6mqkk
| true | null | 44 | 0 |
/r/datingoverthirty/comments/m6mqkk/overwhelmed/
| 12 |
So I matched with this guy on a Monday and we met on Wednesday and again Thursday. We’ve spent no more than 4 hours total together. We just talk about random things, but I feel as though I’m being “lovebombed” through the the words of affirmations and no signs of narcissistic behaviour. Could that be his love language and I’m just not used to the positive compliments? I’ve come from many toxic and abusive relationships. I don’t want to manifest anything but I’m worried it’s too good to be true.
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datingoverthirty
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t5_34cyw
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Overwhelmed
| null | 0.76 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/m6mqkk/overwhelmed/
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Sufficient-Ice6123
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2024-04-12 17:54:18
| 1,712,944,458 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
1c2fn2j
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 10 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1c2fn2j/found_pictures_of_the_guy_ive_been_talking_to/
| 1 |
I've (23F) been talking to one guy (24M) for nine months - I also don't know how I've ended up in this situation for so long - who I met on a dating app but we've barely been able to meet in person due to long-distance (I'll talk about this more later). Until the end of last year, we spoke around once a week. Since January, I've heard from him almost every day. He's become a very steady presence in my life and I notice his absence in the times we aren't talking. We've spoken a lot and, overall, I really like him. However, I have never brought up exclusivity because of our limited in-person interactions. I never wanted to come across as too much or put pressure on him that might drive him away. I also want to mention, I'm really not one to speak to multiple men at once. I have told him previously that he is the only one I talk to. He also definitely knows I like him. He was my first date/first kiss/first NSFW experience (we didn't go all the way). He knows all this. Being this way naturally makes me curious of what his stance is on it all. I've hinted at 'the other girls he is talking to' before and he reacted with a cry-laughing emoji. However, I did have suspicions about his relationship with some people he followed on social media, and it turns out I have good intuition. A couple of weeks ago, one of the girls I was wondering about unprivated their social media profile and I looked because I couldn't beat the curiosity. For context, he knew this girl before he knew me. What I found made me feel really disrespected and upset in that moment. There were pictures of him at a wedding with the girl in October (I assume as her +1) and he has his arm around her. There's also pictures of them together around her birthday with all her friends at a restaurant, as well as a solo excursion both in December. He has got close female friends so that is a possibility, but what makes me feel worse is he lied to me about this. Around the time these events happened, I'd asked him about if he'd had anyone come visit him or gone to visit anyone (since he'd moved to a different place and was feeling unsettled) - he'd told me, other than his parents, no, he had been working on his own stuff by himself in his spare time. That he'd been nowhere other than his hometown (this girl isn't from his hometown, she lives further from him than me). The fact he lied about it to me, and that she felt close enough to him to post him but there has been no trace of her on his social media other than him liking her (often revealing) fitness posts on Instagram, made me feel like I'm being played. As though something is being hidden. Since we're not exclusive, I haven't brought it up but it's been bothering me for the past two weeks. I can't talk to him normally. It's made me question everything because he truly talks to me like he likes me, and he's invested so much time into speaking to me, but now I'm not so sure. The reason we have rarely met is as I live in my small hometown and with my parents, I'm not comfortable bringing him here due to a lack of privacy. He lives alone in a small town yet he hasn't invited me there yet, but hasn't ever provided me with a reason. I'm now wondering what that reason is - could he be just stringing me along? Why would he only meet up if it's me inviting him? He's definitely interested in progressing our 'physical' relationship, and I'm so scared I'm being used. I have previously asked him if he's looking only for that, and he said that's not the case and he would have given up a long time ago if that's all he wanted from me. I don't know though. I hope he wouldn't lie as I've been so open with him about my lack of experience and I'd hope he'd not want to mess me around and use my potential naivety against me. There's so much hidden about him, and there's still a lot he doesn't know about me, and I don't know where to go from here with this strange 'relationship' we have going on. Overall, a really bad scenario would be if that's his girlfriend and I'm the other woman. If it's just another girl he's talking to, I would be upset for myself since I like him but I wouldn't have the right to be angry at him as we aren't exclusive - however, surely it is reasonable for me to want him to make his mind up as it's been nine months at this point? The issue is, I don't even know if it's appropriate of me to bring it up because it's something I came across when I was snooping around. How would you navigate this situation? As I said, this is my first time ever dealing with something like this. I've been trying to just keep on as normal since I saw it but I don't think I can anymore.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
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Found pictures of the guy I've been talking to with another girl... Really don't know what to do from here.
| 1 | 0.25 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1c2fn2j/found_pictures_of_the_guy_ive_been_talking_to/
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Fabzulous
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2021-09-05 20:10:24
| 1,630,872,624 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
pikcbf
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/pikcbf/how_to_get_initial_contact_with_women_online/
| 1 |
Reposted from askwomen because apparently asking women for advice on why men get ignored isn't allowed, ironic huh? Anyway... To be clear, I've got no problems if, when I get talking to a woman and she says no to me for whatever reason, I don't expect anything. All I would like is a chance to put my best foot forward. Although nobody's perfect, I genuinely think I'm a pretty decent guy all round. And good at conversation... The thing that pains me, is being constantly ignored. I don't meet women irl often at all, so I've focused online. l've tried messaging women who say they are single and looking, on various social media platforms, dating apps, even reddit. But the constant silent rejection is getting to me, and its really making me want to give up on dating altogether. So, women of reddit, let's say I know a woman on instagram is single, says she's looking for a guy, same age, lives near me, etc... As a man, how do I get that initial contact?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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How to get initial contact with women online?
| null | 0.57 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/pikcbf/how_to_get_initial_contact_with_women_online/
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yoftn_Aghulas
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2019-07-31 12:18:06
| 1,564,575,486 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
ck7qhu
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ck7qhu/is_appearances_everything_in_a_relationship_or/
| 2 |
I never had luck or matched with anyone, solely for being a little bit overweight....all that stuff about the core of the person is important felt like crap to me because I've seen a pattern, if you weren't hot, you won't get the chance to date anyone.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Is appearances everything in a relationship or before delving into one?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ck7qhu/is_appearances_everything_in_a_relationship_or/
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Mrdream992000
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2018-02-17 09:33:25
| 1,518,860,005 | null |
['dating sites']
| 0 |
7y5rfm
| false | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/7y5rfm/on_dating_sites_to_keep_from_messaging_an_ex/
| 3 |
So, I just had this gem happen. Been talking with beautiful woman, who messaged first, whom I have a lot in common with. It goes days of talking and she drops the bombshell. She says it hopes it doesn’t affect our talks but she’s only on here because it was free and she just got out of a relationship and is trying to occupy her mind to keep from messaging the ex. You mean you couldn’t tell me that on the first day? Anyone else have stories like this?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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On dating sites to keep from messaging an ex
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/7y5rfm/on_dating_sites_to_keep_from_messaging_an_ex/
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memyselfandme582
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2019-08-14 19:57:29
| 1,565,812,649 | null |
['matched', 'dating app', 'dating site']
| 0 |
cqeyua
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/cqeyua/why_did_his_friend_match_me_on_the_dating_app/
| 1 |
2 weeks ago I broke it off with my bf of 2 years. He made Facebook posts about how he is sad he lost the love of his life, but he says he is giving me space since I told him I wanted to be on my own to find myself His friend since childhood made a fb post about breaking up with his gf the same day my bf made his post. So we ran into each other on a dating site. He knows me bc we met a couple times with my ex bf and his ex gf. He matched me so I match him back....He wrote me a message asking how I’m enjoying single life, what should I say? Why would he write me?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Why did his friend match me on the dating app?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/cqeyua/why_did_his_friend_match_me_on_the_dating_app/
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Superb-Pattern-1253
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2023-04-08 23:19:52
| 1,680,995,992 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
12g1soa
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/12g1soa/is_it_time_to_end_my_pursuit_am_i_justified_in/
| 0 |
so there is a girl im interested in. truth be told ive always been interested in her. this is not some girl i met in the gym or on a dating app but someone ive know for i would say ten years now. we both use to have feelings for each other in the past but due to dif circumstances it would have never worked out ie me living in a completely dif state. she knowns i liked her at one point and she knows i know she liked me at some point but we always remained friends and cordial. well i always kind of regret i never tried to make it something more considering how strongly i feel for her. well today i texted her asking if she was up to anything this weekend and if she was was she free this up coming week and if so would she like to do something. my plan was if she said yes was to do something a little more on the more formal side. well when i asked her response to me was how about you order me a pizza lol. my response was order you a pizza or pick one up and come over- once again we have been friends for 10 years so its not as forward as it sounds. her answer to me was can you just drop it off, then youre welcome to come clean my condo tho followed by so yes or no. so my response was guess thats a no on any interest in hanging out to which she replied i can order myself. so i put my phone down to go take my dog out and when i come back i have a text saying request 46 bucks. i open the text and she sent me an apple pay request for money to get food. my response to that was i like how this went from asking to hang out to can you give me 50 bucks for food and clean my place guess thats a no. and then the last text i got was thanks for nothing. now the way im feeling right now is thats extremely f'd up and not only have i lost all interest in pursuing something with her im actually at the point of ending my entire friendship of 10 years with her because what she asked in terms of money and to come clean her place in my mind is so messed up and even suggesting those things says alot about where our friendship is in my mind. my question is am i justified in my thoughts or due to me caring for her and seeing if there was something on another level im taking it more personally or reading into more then i should?
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
is it time to end my pursuit? am i justified in how im feeling or is being to close to the situation making me take things more seriously then they are
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/12g1soa/is_it_time_to_end_my_pursuit_am_i_justified_in/
|
datthrow12
|
2018-05-17 03:59:13
| 1,526,529,553 | 0 |
['matches', 'matched', 'swipes', 'tinder']
| 0 |
8k18r3
| false | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/8k18r3/is_tinder_meant_to_be_this_bad_in_a_small_uk_area/
| 2 |
When I first got Tinder in the US over 3 years ago, I matched at a good rate - often with very attractive girls. Everybody seemed polite and the experience was a bit of a confidence boost. I never tried to meet up with anybody, but maybe I should have. Here in the UK, I get one match a week if I’m lucky. My last match was over 10 days ago now. I have hooked up with two cute-to-very-attractive girls, but that came over 2 whole years. 99% of the time I either get completely ignored, the conversation barely gets going, or they unmatch me after one message. Girls also seem so much ruder here. I had a match two weeks back just be aloof and sarcastic before unmatching me, and I even had a girl message me last year just to say I was ugly. I... don’t think I am. I mean the last girl I hooked up with even said I was hot, and people on Reddit tended to call me handsome, good looking and cute on the rating subreddits when I asked, but the consistent dry spells make me feel very low. I do actually have a date this Friday with a girl. She’s very cute, but I’m going into the date feeling very unconfident. She’s been one of only 2 matches I’ve had in the past 25 days out of 100s of swipes. It just makes me feel like she’ll reject me like those 100s of girls technically have, when I first meet her. I don’t know. I need advice, reassurance, a kick up the backside - something where I can just get my head straight in preparation for this date. Anything is appreciated.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Is Tinder meant to be this bad in a small UK area?
| 2 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/8k18r3/is_tinder_meant_to_be_this_bad_in_a_small_uk_area/
|
Future-Cheesecake594
|
2024-04-29 13:24:45
| 1,714,397,085 | 0 |
['dating apps', 'bumble']
| 0 |
1cfz1ri
| true | null | 9 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1cfz1ri/exclusive_but_no_labels_20f/
| 2 |
Found this guy on bumble, we have been doing exclusive no labels for 15 months now every time i bring up labels he doesn’t wanna do it. But he does everything for me … everything a normal boyfriend does. I m pretty okay with not having labels cause we’re pretty much like bf/gf but here are a few red flags i have noticed so far 1. Still has dating apps on his phone (all logged out doesnt use them at all i m pretty certain about that dk why he keeps it) 2. After 12 months i started calling him my boyfriend but we recently bad an argument wherein he told me that he hates labels and he never asked me to be his gf nothing changed 3. Wants to do long distance with me despite being in this weird situation 4. Hasnt responded to my i love yous even once so basically he has commitment issues he wants me to accept him the way he is and wait as long as he wants to actually commit pls note hes from a diff religion too i dont know whats happening so it will be really helpful if y’all provided your opinions on this
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Exclusive but no labels (20f)
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1cfz1ri/exclusive_but_no_labels_20f/
|
greenarrow118
|
2015-12-23 05:35:45
| 1,450,848,945 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
3xxhr8
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/3xxhr8/tinder_question/
| 1 |
Is it safe to use? I have never used it before and dont really know that much about. Is this a good way to meet girls? I just want to try it and see what its like. Ive tried face to face and would like to try something different
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Tinder question?
| 1 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3xxhr8/tinder_question/
|
astraypolaroid
|
2022-07-04 15:42:42
| 1,656,949,362 | null |
['matched']
| 0 |
vra97l
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/vra97l/should_i_23m_end_6_months_old_relationship_with/
| 2 |
Brief Context - I am going to USA for higher studies in 1 month which would put me and my partner in an inter-contitenental LDR for atleast 2-3 years. I do have genuine feelings for her and I believe its same from her side and we are in a committed relationship with an aim to get married one day. But, Certain actions of my partner in past few months have made me uncomfortable more than twice now and I have started to loose trust in her. I feel this is a case of possible incompatibility or am I just overthinking and have trust issues here? Long Context: So, it all started when we first started talking in January 2022, and it was an instant connection and we started talking daily. Our vibes matched and after we would spend hours late in night talking and facetiming. Soon after one month of us talking, I took her out on date and asked her to become my girlfriend. She said yes and we get in a proper relationship now. This was her first relationship and for me it was the 2nd. I was in a serious long term relationship (again it was LDR majorly) before, where I was cheated on by my partner which marked an end to my 2.5 years old relationship in 2018. I stepped into this current relationship after healing and moving on completely from my past relationship after 4 years. It was all so good, experiencing romantic feelings again with someone who felt the same for me, the sparks, the butterflies, the warmth, and exciting feelings. Everything. It was fresh and promising. Again this was her first time, and she said she'd never felt the same before for any guy before. Time passes and I get to know her more and more each day. And within first 3 months I had understood that she was a kind of person who gets friendly with other people especially with guys very fast. "I bond with guys more than with girls" is what she had told me once. As a result of which she had a lot of male close friends. I had met most of her close male friends by now and it did not bother me at all, since I could sense a positive genuine friendship amongst them. On my side, due to whatever reasons, I do not have any such close female friends whom I interact with "regularly". Now, 4 months into a relationship and we go out on a trip with some of ger friends. And there were couple of friends of friends whom both us were gonna meet for thr first time. There was this guy(fairly good looking) among them, lets name him PK. My girlfriend, again maybe due to her nature, was very friendly with him. But what started bothering me was the way she would talk with him. She would be touchy with him, and give him more attention even when I was standing right there. The guy PK however was maintaining some distance and was following certain what is referred to as Bro Code amongst boys. That is would not get very close physically with her, even while taking pictures etc. Would keep talking about how cute both us(me and my partner) looked etc etc. However, my girlfriend would give him constant attention, and would also take solo pictures with him, like they have known each other for years. This is where I would start getting uncomfortable. I believe in maintaining some physical boundaries with opposite gender when in a commited relationship out of respect. I didn't mind any of her talking with him etc but that she took all of that pics with him when I was not there. So I got to know about those pictures when we were going through all pictures in her phone. I did not raise any concern at that time since I didnt want to spoil our mood that time. I buried it and thought maybe I am overthinking and this is quite normal. Fast forward another 1 month. I had left above incident in the past. Now comes a day where my girlfriend was having a house party at her elder sisters place. I was invited for the party and night stay thereafter. Here, was this another guy (call him AD) who I met for the first time and I didn't really knew what kind of dynamic he and my gf shared. All i knew was he was one of her cousins friend who usually would be a part of their house parties. AD had a gf as well but she was not present at the party that day. Now the party goes on and everyone is having a good time, drinking and dancing. My gf that day had quite a bit of alchohol and got drunk. While drunk my girlfriend who was sitting with me would call out AD saying if he is missing her gf he can come to her. She kept inviting him close to her ( I was very confused as to what she wanted to do. I was not drunk that night). But the guy, would ignore this everytime. This put me off. I was again very uncomfortable. Yes, she was drunk. But hey. Does that mean her behavious was justified? I dont know. The night goes on, and at one point my gf again sitting next to me, leaned her head on the guys(AD) head. And was talking with her in low tone. I didnt care about what she was talking but her getting this close again to him turned me off and all I wanted to do was leave at that time. The guy bdw again told her somethinf that made her move her head from his. I didn't day anything at that time. But she noticed i got upset about something. We didn't discussed about it that night. Since was drunk and I thought, again, there must be something wrong with me only getting upset at such thing. I spent a lot of time thinking about both of the above scenarois. And from one perspective, I think this is a n incompatibility issue between us. Where I clearly want my partner to maintain a certain level of physical and emotional distance with other guys who are not her best friends or brothers. And she clearly is a kind kf girl who would just start vibing with guys, which makes me doubt her, whether she is doing this to keep her options open, or its just her fundamental nature(which obviously I can't do nothing about) and I dont want her to change anything about her for relationship. Because that shit doesnt work. Apart from above two incidents there has been many other small incidents which has triggered my discomfort with her behavior and actions when it comes to other guys.(especially whom she has just met). I care for her and genuinely wanted this relationship to work. And since after all such incidents I would become a but distant and cold to her. I decided to tell about all of my concerns here to her. She listened to them and told me she would take care of this next time. And also that I might be getting triggered due to my past of getting cheated on. Which i am not denying. But again, this doesn't happen to me with every guy. And I catch this weird vibe only after having seeing her actions and behaviour. I dont want to hurt her but at the same time I know this nature of hers is going to stay even in future. And with us getting into a LDR its gonna make it even more worse for me to handle. What do you guys think so far, should I fight for relationship like this or its better to part ways? I do have feelings for her and we both are attached. But given the time of 6 months its not like I cant absolutely live without her kind of scenario. tl;dr : The question is, Is my mistrust justified or is it just me thinking too much, based on my past experiences, which probably can be overcomed with therapy or something?? I don't want to loose a person just because of mere insecurities and at the same time I dont want to fall prey to consequences of ignoring red flags. Hope this helps clarify my post a little bit.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I 23(M) end 6 months old relationship with my 22(F) Girlfriend? Advice Needed.
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/vra97l/should_i_23m_end_6_months_old_relationship_with/
|
Friendly_Sea8570
|
2021-07-07 13:25:49
| 1,625,664,349 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
ofiufr
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/ofiufr/no_luck_with_apps/
| 0 |
Slow to get matches.. and all that. I’m a 25 year old female.. Any tips on how you all navigate it? I kinda just wanna get off it all and just focus on me lol… but given working from home I just get so bored.. can’t wait to go back to office next week 😩
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
No luck with apps
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/ofiufr/no_luck_with_apps/
|
SuperSecretAccount50
|
2023-09-02 11:57:19
| 1,693,655,839 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
1680lp5
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1680lp5/im_looking_for_lifelong_partner_and_idc_if_its/
| 1 |
I’m (21M) a bit of homebody as I don’t like to party, drink, and have never done drugs. I’m a very “Online” person and my main hobbies are playing video games, singing, and playing 2 instruments. I’m not near good enough with the instruments to join a band or ensemble, and all other in-person activities bore me unless i’m with friends (I have no local friends). Are there any good online dating options that narrow down personality’s a lot so you don’t have to waste a bunch of time? For example I’d rather not be paired with someone who is religious since I’m atheist
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
I’m looking for life-long partner and idc if it’s long distance at first, what’s the best way to meet compatible people?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1680lp5/im_looking_for_lifelong_partner_and_idc_if_its/
|
boouwhor3
|
2019-04-30 22:01:11
| 1,556,661,671 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
bj9b8l
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/bj9b8l/should_i_give_him_another_chance/
| 1 |
So I met 2 guys from a dating app. I had planned to go on a date with guy 1 but due to scheduling conflicts, I had went on another date with another guy, guy 2, first. Guy 2 and I had a great first date. We talked each other’s ears off. So naturally, I felt less excited about guy 1 now. The date with guy 1 was fun, but in comparison to guy 2, I wasn’t as into it as I originally was. Guy 2 and I hung out a lot. He ended up leading me on a bit and ended things with me after a month. During this time, guy 1 would talk to me a little here and there but we didn’t meet up again. He began texting me recently after I went on a trip he saw on my social media. We’ve been texting again. But I don’t know if I should give him another chance because I’m afraid I’d be just settling. and that it’s not fair to him to be a “back up” or my second choice.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Should I give him another chance?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/bj9b8l/should_i_give_him_another_chance/
|
InState
|
2013-08-01 09:11:38
| 1,375,348,298 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1jhfd2
| null | null | 0 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/1jhfd2/have_you_ever_bailed_on_a_tinder_date_if_so_what/
| 0 |
I would like to take advantage of the anonymity of the internet to find out the real reasons why you have bailed or would bail on dates you had enthusiastically prearranged via Tinder. What caused the change of heart? Was it something the guy did? Did your personal circumstances change? Mod asked me to explain what Tinder is. It's a phone app like 'hot or not' and it uses photos from your facebook. If you and a potential match both say "like," then you are both informed and can message one another. Otherwise your decision, and whether you've even voted on another person or not, remains anonymous. However, if you have to read this description, the question in this post probably isn't relevant to you. EDIT: why is this post so unliked?
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
Have you ever bailed on a Tinder date? If so, what made you change your mind?
| 0 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/1jhfd2/have_you_ever_bailed_on_a_tinder_date_if_so_what/
|
rkhulinator
|
2019-01-30 19:54:52
| 1,548,878,092 | null |
['dating site']
| 0 |
algozo
| true | null | 7 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/algozo/how_to_maintain_a_relationship_that_has_started/
| 1 |
I met this girl on a dating site a little less than a week ago and since then I feel like we’ve bonded very quickly and I’d say our courting is progressing very quickly. We’ve already covered a gambit of topics from tastes in food to things we’re into sexually. We’ve video chatted and talked on the phone a couple times already. I mean she even felt comfortable enough to share more private revealing pictures with me. She even has started calling me hun and darling and we’ve even discussed meeting soon. So I’d say things have started very quickly and yet I feel completely at ease with her and I feel like we do have a special connection. How do I ensure this relationship doesn’t crash and burn? Is it even possible to have a successful long term relationship when things have progressed like this? She’s a great person even though I might be caught up in getting to know her I want to make sure I’m protecting myself and not missing anything here.
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to maintain a relationship that has started off very quickly
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/algozo/how_to_maintain_a_relationship_that_has_started/
|
DarkFite
|
2023-07-10 23:05:15
| 1,689,030,315 | 0 |
['bumble']
| 0 |
14w9hip
| false | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/14w9hip/how_to_approach_a_very_modest_and_intelligent_girl/
| 1 |
This weekend, I'm(m27) going on my second date with a girl(26f) I met on Bumble. Our first date was pretty simple. We met after work, had dinner at an Asian restaurant, and had a lot of conversations. It went well, but as I mentioned, it was quite basic. After dinner, I walked her to the train station, we hugged, and we've been in contact and texting daily ever since. Now, we're planning to go to the biggest funfair in town, but I'm a bit unsure about where things stand between us. She's a very modest, intelligent, and laid-back girl. She doesn't drink or go to parties, which is different from most of my previous dates where we either hung out at my place or went out partying. In those cases, it was easier to gauge if the girls were open to taking things further. With her, it seems like she wants to maintain contact and spend quality time together, but I'm not sure if it's just a friendship vibe for her. To be honest, I wouldn't be upset if she sees this as more of a friendship, since she's an interesting person and I enjoy talking to her. How can I test the waters and figure out where we stand when most of our time together will be spent outside? We're both in the process of moving, so finding a private space where we can be alone is a challenge. Additionally, I'm fairly certain she'll let me know if she sees this as purely friendly, but since the first date, there haven't been many signs of romantic interest. The only things that come to mind are some light physical touches during our first date, her spontaneously meeting up with me when we coincidentally crossed paths at an exhibition where she was working, and the occasional use of purple hearts in our texts. I tend to be laid-back and only make a move when I'm sure she's open to it. So far, this approach has worked, but I'm aware that I may have missed some opportunities by not picking up on certain signs. How can I best navigate the next date and engage with her?
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
How to approach a very modest and intelligent girl?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/14w9hip/how_to_approach_a_very_modest_and_intelligent_girl/
|
Caesar2013
|
2013-07-27 17:42:11
| 1,374,946,931 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1j6440
| null | null | 2 | null |
/r/AskWomen/comments/1j6440/female_tinder_users_do_you_ever_actually_message/
| 3 |
Saw a friend of mine using tinder and saw her get a match. When I asked her if she was going to send this match a message she said, "No wayy". Why is this? Do you just take it as an ego boost?
|
AskWomen
|
t5_2rxrw
|
Female Tinder Users: Do you ever actually message "matches"?
| 3 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/1j6440/female_tinder_users_do_you_ever_actually_message/
|
Owl1379
|
2020-08-07 21:45:40
| 1,596,836,740 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
i5mu7s
| true | null | 25 | 0 |
/r/datingoverforty/comments/i5mu7s/first_non_old_date/
| 65 |
I posted a week or two ago about dating a younger man. That problem has solved itself as he has gone MIA. That being said, I was asked on my first NON OLD date since I starting dating a year ago. This one is interesting to me and I’m writing this down just in the case that something ends up working out because the circumstances are just interesting. About two weeks ago, I received a Facebook friend request from a man. I knew I knew him from somewhere but couldn’t place him. I checked out our mutual friends and we have a few, but I still couldn’t place him. Since I knew that he was a familiar face, I added him. He never messaged. He and I seem to have a LOT in common. He always liked my camping/campfire/hiking/kayaking/sarcasm memes. I kept liking his. There were no comments made by either of us. Just likes. Last night, I asked my best friend if she knew the name. She said she did. He was in her grade in high school (2 years younger than me) and he was a quiet kid and she didn’t really know him well. That didn’t help me at all in trying to figure out where I knew him from. I decided to message him last night when I saw him come online. I just messaged, “Hi! I know you look so familiar, but I can’t place you.” He responded that he was the Cub Master in my oldest son’s cubscout troop years ago, but when he added me he didn’t realize that. He added me because he knew I looked familiar and felt like he should. Once I accepted his request he saw pics of my son and put it together. Then I remembered. I remember a scout ceremony and seeing this guy and just getting this weird intuitive feeling that I didn’t understand. It was really strong and I know for a fact, I have never actually talked to him before. So he started a conversation which went on for 5 hours. We talked hobbies and how much we have in common based on memes. Then out of nowhere he said, “I’m glad you messaged. I’ve wanted to for over a week.” I asked why he didn’t. He replied, “Fear of rejection, I guess.” Then he asked me to go to a race with him next weekend. I’m going to go. Kind of excited about it. He’s messaged a few times today on breaks from work. 🙂
|
datingoverforty
|
t5_su6ij
|
First NON OLD Date.
| null | 0.95 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/i5mu7s/first_non_old_date/
|
monogramgolden
|
2019-01-23 19:04:21
| 1,548,270,261 | null |
['hinge']
| 0 |
aj35kj
| true |
I Need Advice
| 14 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/aj35kj/i_think_hes_getting_too_invested_too_quickly/
| 3 |
I've been talking to this guy for a couple weeks now (met on Hinge). He lives in a different city but is moving here soon. We talk pretty consistently throughout the day and I'm fairly attracted to him based on his photos/snapchats. We've set up tentative first date plans for after he gets here. My worry is that he's falling too hard, too quickly. He says things sometimes that just kind of make me feel a little weird (example- he mentioned not starting his new diet until after valentines day- with a winky face). He also texts and snapchats me first thing every single morning. I'm not super turned off by it, but I am starting to pull back a little. We haven't even met yet I do have a history of "self-sabotage" in dating/relationships, so I don't know if that's the case here. He seems like a super sweet, nice, and genuine person. I just don't know how to move forward, or if any of this is a red flag. Opinions/advice greatly appreciated!
|
dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
I think he's getting too invested too quickly
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/aj35kj/i_think_hes_getting_too_invested_too_quickly/
|
throwaway80804040
|
2022-03-13 16:23:04
| 1,647,188,584 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
tdae2s
| true | null | 6 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/tdae2s/can_anyone_tell_me_if_i_should_put_out_that_ive/
| 1 |
I'm M27 and I'm trying to get back into online dating after taking some time off from being discouraged. I think I already know the answer and to not put that info out there. Just worried that I'll be 2 or 3 dates in, if I even get that far and that some women wouldn't want to know that. Idk, trying to be transparent and positive lol. I know that some people will suggest to try bars, but I work 50-60 hour weeks so I'm pretty busy
|
dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
Can anyone tell me if I should put out that I've never had any dates or a relationship in my dating profile, or would it be too odd?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/tdae2s/can_anyone_tell_me_if_i_should_put_out_that_ive/
|
cerebral23
|
2016-04-16 17:52:42
| 1,460,829,162 | 0 |
['pof']
| 0 |
4f2xd4
| null | null | 8 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/4f2xd4/dating_profiles_why_do_women_do_this_are_men/
| 1 |
I messaged a girl on pof, and she eventually told me she knows me because I go to her work about 10-12 times a year. I was having a hard time remembering who she was until I had to go there today and recognized the tattoo. The reason I could only recognize her that way was because she gained probably 60 ( 5'2") lbs since the photos on her profile. Why do people put photos that are WAY off on their profiles. You're just catfishing the person, and setting yourself up by promising someone good and giving them coal. No, this isn't because it shows you have a bad personality too: You lie. I even looked her up on facebook to see if its her, and found out the photos are 3 years old. Tl;dr. What is with girls putting photos of them at their skinniest, not their current. Is this a woman only thing? Seems to be over 60% of females.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Dating profiles: Why do women do this? Are men guilty too?
| 1 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/4f2xd4/dating_profiles_why_do_women_do_this_are_men/
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spangleddangle
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2024-03-09 21:13:13
| 1,710,018,793 | 0 | null | 0 |
1basdow
| true | null | 95 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1basdow/do_conservative_politically_dating_sites_actually/
| 1 |
I've googled it and signed up to some. But the demographic always seems to be 60+. I'm a 36F who just moved to a new city. This is tough.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Do conservative (politically) dating sites actually exist?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1basdow/do_conservative_politically_dating_sites_actually/
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bbstar23
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2022-09-03 18:43:25
| 1,662,230,605 | null | null | 0 |
x51mp8
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/x51mp8/question_about_this_girl_im_dating/
| 0 |
I’ve been dating this girl for 2 weeks now. She’s really cool. I like her a lot she likes me too. She told me on the first date after we made out. My question is I really like this girl. I think about her a lot and I’m always eager to see her and I have feelings for her. Can I tell her that or is that needy. I’m currently out of town so won’t be able to see her until next week. This girl makes me really happy even though we didn’t get intimate yet. She told me she doesn’t want a one nightstand and she wanted a relationship and I told her I want the same. On the second date she paid for dinner which was really cool, I wanted to pay but she had cash and Chinese restaurants accept cash so no taxes.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Question about this girl I’m dating
| null | 0.33 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/x51mp8/question_about_this_girl_im_dating/
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Malequanimity
|
2023-05-18 22:19:11
| 1,684,448,351 | 0 |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
13lcpqq
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/13lcpqq/top_10_lessons_in_dating_to_my_younger_self/
| 3 |
After commenting elsewhere and posting on my blog (link in bio), I have been messaged about some advice on dating for men. I thought the best way to express this is through what I would've have taught myself back when I needed guidance on the fairer sex. Admittedly, it's more centred towards men (although some points apply to women) so sorry if it's not useful for you ladies, although I would love to hear your opinions on these points. &x200B; Top 10 Lessons in Dating To My Younger Self Growing up is a challenging game for some guys. We go through a wealth of information, sometimes conflicting, and find it even more confusing to understand women after taking in that information. I was undoubtedly one of those guys who had no idea what I was doing. I couldn’t attract a girl in school to save my life. I was everyone’s best friend and no one's crush. With time I learned to let loose and have a more ‘fuck it’ mentality. With some great role models and mentors, the chains of being unattractive came off and I’ve gone on to have some wild and wonderful experiences with women. I’ve perhaps learned most by coaching other men through their struggles with women. I learned most of these lessons through taking action, so I implore you to get off the phone and go into the wide world full of wonders and practice after reading this. So here are the top 10 pieces of advice I would have given to my younger self who was lost, confused, and somewhat delusional about how to attract women. Now enough about me and into the lessons. It’s written like a blog post because it is an excerpt from my blog (I get down moments while traveling and had many clients ask me about my own experiences so decided to make one). &x200B; You can’t attract women if you’re not around them With most men I advise, the first question I ask is how many women do you meet on a monthly basis? I usually come to find out that they stay at home or work and don’t expose themselves to environments where they can meet women. Modern technology has made meeting women a much easier process, adding digital environments (dating apps) to physical ones. If you want to meet women it’s best to expose yourself as much as possible. Get on dating apps, find socials and meet-ups to go to. Rather than just ‘hang out’ with your friends, go to bars and experience night life together. There are apps such as Meetup where you can expand on your hobbies and interests as well as meeting women (who will likely share more commonalities with you). &x200B; You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take This was made famous by hockey legend Wayne Gretzky. When asked how he comes to score so many goals he said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”, which is absolutely true. This is one of the best pieces of advice I ever received not just for dating, but life in general. Any salesperson will tell you that those who reach out to potential clients the most are usually those who generate the most business, and it’s the same for women. I’ve had multiple one-night stands, a few threesomes, relationships, and business deals which started just by saying hi to someone. When you open any new interaction, you have no idea where it will go. Eventually, some of them will go well even if it’s through sheer persistence and probability. When you start out, it can be a numbers game at times. If you can get past the fear of rejection and just say ‘hello’ you will create new connections which will surprise the most optimistic version of yourself. When I initially got to know some of the classic pick-up artists (through clubbing) who brought me on, I would have to approach 30-50 women to get a good response. As I improved over time, that number came down to 3-4 approaches and eventually 1-2 as I improved. That takes me on to the next point. &x200B; Just say ‘hi’, the rest will work itself out through time Other questions I commonly get asked are ‘What’s the perfect thing to say?’ and ‘What should I do when…’ If you’re just starting out then the only thing on your mind I would recommend is putting yourself out there. Just go and say ‘hi’ and see what happens. The rest of the interaction will initially guide itself, whether positive or negative. By overloading your mind with information it does 2 things. Firstly, it makes you less likely to approach because you become filled with so many questions that you stand there motionless while an opportunity begins to fade. Secondly, it creates an awkward interaction because there are infinite responses she could have, which throws your current plan out the window. With time and experience, you will develop wit which will guide you through any situation. With that being said, you already have certain tools to take interactions forward, you just don’t know it. I’ve worked with guys who have autism, dyslexia, stutters and other mental disorders. With most, it just turned out they weren’t actually exposed to women or approaching them which was the bulk of the problem. &x200B; Your mind will adapt to success and failure As mentioned above, you won’t turn into a casanova overnight. The more interactions you have, the more successes and failures you will overcome. The brain is a wonderful thing in that it hates failure. Sigmund Freud, the granddaddy of modern psychiatry said we do things for two main reasons. For sexual desire and to feel important. Approaching women attacks both aspects. Those emotions of not feeling wanted, being unattractive and hopelessness that arise when you get a negative response is because your brain hates failure. At the same time, while trying to get you to avoid the experience again, it also latches on to negative behaviors (some subconscious) that you won’t repeat when faced with the same situation again. This works on the flipside with success. When you succeed in an interaction (have a good conversation, number, kiss, sex, relationship etc) it fills you with the happy hormone, dopamine. It subconsciously aligns you to repeat those positive behaviors again. With time and enough calibration, those successful behaviors become ingrained. When I go out now I don’t think about how I need to approach any scenario. With all the years of approaching and dating my brain has subconsciously aligned itself to what has succeeded for me. It can’t do this if you don’t go out there and expose it to these experiences which goes back to points 1 and 2. &x200B; You are your environment, surround yourself with like-minded people In this case, it’s surrounding yourself with those who are open to meeting women. A gripe that a lot of men also come to me with is “My friends are also too afraid to approach women” or “They’re boring and don’t want to go out” If you surround yourself with people on the same path as you (in this case meeting women) you’ll find all aspects of attraction much easier. This is because other guys looking to improve their relationships will have the same thoughts, worries, and goals as you. I was lucky enough to meet people at different stages of my life who taught me lessons in attraction and a big part of that was me making the effort to get close to their environments (which also became mine). At a young age, I had a cousin who was fearless in all walks of life. He was the type of guy who just naturally did not give a shit. When we’d hang out I’d watch him shamelessly approach women on the street, sometimes with the worst possible lines and still manage to have a satisfying romantic life. Growing older, I began to hang out with guys who would want to go out to bars and clubs while openly approaching women. Each bad approach was met with a laugh from the group and more encouragement. This is ultimately how I began to improve and eventually randomly get asked by a well-known ‘pick-up artist’ to join his company (as he had the biggest club promoting company as well). I wouldn’t be as happy as I am today with my dating life If I hadn’t exposed and aligned myself with these people who I took aspects of in my own life. &x200B; You improve most through failure much more so than success so learn to enjoy it Initially, when you get out there, failure is the biggest fear. It hits like a sledgehammer. However, without you realizing it becomes your best friend. If we didn’t have failures, we wouldn’t know what to improve on. Once you understand that failure is your best path to success, you treat each interaction as a learning point. Bill Gates famously said “It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” Which is absolutely true for all walks of life. Next time an approach, date or interaction goes badly ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this?’ rather than self-destructive thoughts such as ‘Why am I so bad at this?’ and ‘I will never succeed’. Trust me, with enough practice, you will get there. &x200B; Fake it till you make it but be honest about it This one’s an interesting one. You read the information online, take advice from who you can, and go out into the big bad dating world. You know full well you have limited experience with women but you’re going try anyway. By approaching and interacting with women you’re essentially faking confidence which you don’t initially have and that’s absolutely fine. It’s different from lying. When I first went out and got some small successes, I would open up to women about my lack of inexperience. However, when I began to do this in a more confident manner, as the hit of rejection gets easier with each approach and interaction, my responses started to improve exponentially. With time, that confidence will go from fake to genuine and you will build up enough experience which will show in your energy. I was watching a documentary about one of the biggest Latin stars, J Balvin. He spoke about how he went to Miami and took on a persona of a Reggaeton star despite being completely unknown. They all thought he was crazy. Ultimately, he went on to become just that. &x200B; Express your desires During our younger years, we get taught various social rules, some of which go on to restrict us later in life. One of these is to be respectful and not say anything rude. While true, it has the unintended effect of making us afraid to express our desires to women. We worry how it will come across and how we’ll get shunned by her and society for doing so, while the opposite is true. We then go on to treat women we’re attracted to like friends in the hope that one day they’ll magically realize how attractive we are. The truth is, if you want to attract women, you’ll have to express your desire for them in one way or another. This can be through words and non-verbal (eye contact, body language etc) means. Only then will you create an atmosphere of romantic/sexual tension in your interactions. This can be met in different ways. Once you’re confident enough in your own self-image, it almost always comes across well. Even when it doesn’t get a good response, you can say ‘all good’ and move on with your life. This takes me on to the next point. &x200B; It’s mostly not what you say, it’s how you say it When starting out on my ‘attractive man’ journey, I would wonder what the perfect thing to say is. It definitely does affect interactions, but not half as much as how you say it. By this I mean a few things such as: Body language: Things come across as completely different when you say it slouched, looking down and with folded arms than if you stand straight, looking directly at the recipient with open body language. The latter is better. Eye contact: This can be more nuanced. You want to hold eye contact for longer but not enough to be considered a stare. In general life, we hold minimal eye contact with most people and this is what women are also used to. Hold eye contact for 30-40% more than you would with non-romantic people in your life. Think about how you felt when a girl held eye contact with you for longer. It just created feelings you wouldn’t otherwise have. Tonality: Another lesson from the sales mantra is your tonality makes a difference. When speaking, having a positive and consistent tone makes a big difference. Some guys I work with tend to end all their sentences with a question. Why? Because their subconscious fear of rejection wants to make everything sound more diplomatic. Think about the tonality you use with someone you consider to be on your level (usually friends and family). It comes across as more assured and authoritative, usually coming across better. Pitch: One blessing I have had genetically is a deep voice. It’s the thing I get most complimented on. Generally for men, the deeper the voice, the more attractive it comes across. The best part is you can work on having a deeper pitch. Actors and singers do this all the time. &x200B; Go traveling, it will open your mind to new ways of thinking As much as I learned about attracting women through role models and practice, I have also come to meet some amazing women (and people) while traveling who taught me new ways of thinking. Traveling opens you to different forms of communication and perspectives on dating (and life) across the world. For example, in Brazil, the women openly come up to you and tell you they find you hot, a phenomenon which is rarer in London or San Francisco. It doesn't have to be expensive. When you travel, book a bed or room in a hostel and get involved in social activities. Everyone is there to meet people so it's much easier to mingle. You also make friends for life! Traveling alone can seem daunting until you realize many other people in hostels and world cities are also traveling alone looking to meet new people. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I hadn’t visited over 50 countries, had some once-in-a-lifetime experiences, and dated women from all forms of life. It just makes you a more interesting and complete person. If you don’t know how to plan or book there are endless companies easily found on Google that will book tours for you at reasonable prices. They will remove most of the stress which comes with planning activities and socials. Hope this is useful. Feel free to comment/DM if you have any questions or check out my blog (link in bio) for more advice and stories of my past experiences meeting women. Yours Unfaithfully, YT
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Top 10 Lessons in Dating to My Younger Self
| 3 | 0.81 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/13lcpqq/top_10_lessons_in_dating_to_my_younger_self/
|
Ma_1ik
|
2021-11-12 04:16:29
| 1,636,690,589 | null |
['matches']
| 0 |
qs34v1
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/qs34v1/was_this_weird_to_do/
| 1 |
So me and this girl started talking and we went on one date and both had a great time. We started talking about love languages and she told me to take the test online. So I told her I will and asked her to take the BDSM test if she wanted to. My sister always tells me to take the test but I see no point because I’m a virgin. She also tells me to have my dates take the test because she says it’s great for conversations and has worked well for her matches with women. Do you think it was too soon for that?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Was this weird to do?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/qs34v1/was_this_weird_to_do/
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NotNexus1
|
2023-12-25 05:47:58
| 1,703,483,278 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
18qchp9
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/18qchp9/im_over_my_last_ex_and_i_want_to_start_getting/
| 1 |
So it’s been about 7 months since my last ex and i really wanted to take time and level up my life and focus on myself so got a new job make more money got a promotion lined up soon and yeah. Now my problem is in my line of work it’s mostly men and yeah it was huge mistake at my last job with my ex I had dropped my standards for her too. Anyways enough of that, I NEED ADVICE. Tinder is a joke of an app for “dating” more like for hookups. And I work 4/5 days a week and I go out when I can so yeah idk wtf to do cause it’s not like I go out every week I got college to do as well
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
I’m over my last ex and I want to start getting back out there but it’s complicated
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/18qchp9/im_over_my_last_ex_and_i_want_to_start_getting/
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confusedwitdating
|
2018-02-28 14:47:42
| 1,519,829,262 | null |
['online dating', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
80wjtv
| false | null | 40 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/80wjtv/how_to_not_make_women_uncomfortable_when/
| 21 |
As a dude working full-time post-uni, for whom online dating apps/sites aren't giving the results I want, I think that meeting women in real life is something I gotta focus on. Really need some pointers tho - I'm a 6'4" black dude with sub-par looks who probably intimidates a lot of women. Any pointers as to how to make women feel safe and interact with them normally would be greatly appreciated! https://imgur.com/a/jt7bT
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
How to not make women uncomfortable when approaching them?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/80wjtv/how_to_not_make_women_uncomfortable_when/
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Amberbythesea93
|
2023-07-27 17:03:10
| 1,690,477,390 | 0 | null | 0 |
15b79gm
| false | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/15b79gm/bad_at_hedging_my_bets/
| 1 |
Just wondering if anyone struggles talking to multiple people at once? My head immediately starts panicking that I will end up in a situation where: either I like multiple people the same and can’t make a choice, or that I won’t know how to let one person down. I have attachment issues as well so I don’t know if this has something to do with it and maybe I know on some level that I struggle to set boundaries and am not very open so the idea of having to tell someone I don’t want to keep seeing them is awful to me. Anyone else struggle with the same thing?
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
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Bad at hedging my bets
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/15b79gm/bad_at_hedging_my_bets/
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Rocwal1
|
2021-02-03 08:30:40
| 1,612,341,040 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
lbj5av
| true |
Tinder/Online Dating
| 8 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/lbj5av/guy_is_taking_a_long_time_to_respond_is_he/
| 0 |
So I’ve been been talking to this guy on bumble for a week (we’ve exchanged about 20 messages each) but he takes a really long time to respond. I don’t think I’ve ever really noticed how long it takes a guy to respond, but I do with him. At first it was responding after 4-5 hours, and then today is was 12 hours. In his messages he still seems interested and enthusiastic (asking questions, writing full responses, etc) but what do you guys think? Is he not interested or is he just busy? I don’t want to say anything about it because that just seems too forward and clingy, but I also don’t want to waste my time any further if he’s not really into it. Edit: also we’re both 21 at the same college
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Guy is taking a long time to respond. Is he uninterested?
| null | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/lbj5av/guy_is_taking_a_long_time_to_respond_is_he/
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Acerrebrum
|
2023-10-19 22:18:19
| 1,697,753,899 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
17bvd3u
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/17bvd3u/not_so_much_advice/
| 1 |
So I feel like I’ve had the best conversations on this app. So I’m just wondering if there’s any women in eastern Ontario Canada that are interested in getting to know me. Please go ahead and check out my profile. I’m just kinda tired of the conventional aspect of tinder. Because it’s just not working.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Not so much advice
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/17bvd3u/not_so_much_advice/
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throwmybitchassaway
|
2022-12-01 13:47:32
| 1,669,902,452 | null |
['dating apps', 'bumble', 'hinge']
| 0 |
z9ob4x
| true | null | 15 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/z9ob4x/im_so_tired_of_talking_to_people_on_dating_apps/
| 1 |
I’m so fucking bored. I was on hinge and it just doesn’t seem like there are that many people on there so I am now trying bumble and dear lord men do not really engage in conversation much, do they? I can only think of so many questions to ask when all I have to work with is the shit on your profile. I just feel like I keep having the most dull conversations and I don’t think it’s my fault. I like to talk. I talk to people all day. Are people just lazy now? Getting to know someone takes time and effort. It doesn’t really seem like anyone is willing to put that in anymore. Is anyone else having similar or differing experiences? These are men from 25 to 37 I’m talking about.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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I’m so tired of talking to people on dating apps
| null | 0.56 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/z9ob4x/im_so_tired_of_talking_to_people_on_dating_apps/
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NosoyPuli
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2021-10-01 18:08:16
| 1,633,111,696 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
pzdmji
| true | null | 172 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/pzdmji/it_is_not_your_height_nor_your_wealth_nor_your/
| 95 |
I have had it with this complaints: If I were taller If I were richer If I were buffed Really? You think that's all women care about? You do really see women as nothing but shallow foreign beings that will be swayed as easily by such mere things such as height, money, and muscles? For the complains you guys rant about it would seem that all of you believe that all the women are flocking towards the same guys just because of those things as if they were not rational at all. Ooooh that "Chad" guy got a nice girl, he must be tall, rich, and buff...or maybe, MAYBE, she chose him for reasons beyond looks. We do not live in the middle ages anymore, women can do a lot of stuff now, they can vote, they can work, and they can provide for themselves with the money they make working, so all of those "evolutionary traits" stuff that comes from people who believe we are meere apes in the jungle, if a woman can survive on her own, what makes you think she will seek men for any other reason than actually her own will? If you treated women just like you treat any other person and worked on your personality maybe you would not be so self defeating to believe they do not choose you because of how you look rather than how you are. EDIT: Alright, I have some awards here, I thank you all for them, your kindness indeed. Now I see some misguided answers that are quite assuming, I suppose it's from people in the Northern regions in the world, so, although it is now owed I will clarify some stuff: 1. No, I am not married nor in a relationship, I am single, but not lonely if you catch my meaning...and I suppose you people do not (It means I sleep around). Being in a relationship does not mean I can not give advice to men who are not in one, after all, you want to get your car fixed you get to the guy who fixes cars, not to your angry complaining friend Joe who can't pick up a wrench even if his life depended upon it, am I right? 2. No, I am not a woman, if you have not figured that out then you probably need to spend less time here, and even if I were who's best to give you advice about how to be around women than someone who is a woman? 3. I see your studies, done in the fancy places of the Northern regions in the world where men are bombarded by advertisement about what it is to be a man , none of those studies actually said (Yes I took the time to read them) how was the sample compossed: Was it all about yankee women? Or did it have any other culture? Because here's the thing, you reading an article that took a sample without telling us what was in the sample and taking it as if it were universal law that applies to every single woman around the Earth means you have to stop self convincing yourselves and pretending you are the world, you are not, alright? Your culture stays with you. 4. HOWEVER I will admit something, a bias, there is a bias in me too, and that bias is that I am, for better or worse, a man born, raised, and now trapped, in Córdoba, Argentina, a place were chamuyo is law, and we are a little bit, nah, we are completely free from those adversitement speeches that you men buy that are aimed to sell you perfume and gym memberships. Yes, it is easy for me to approach women in person (dating apps are a sacrilege), it is easy for me to talk, to seduce, it is natural to every men and women born within our borders to be a sweet talker, but that can be learned It is not inherited, it is culturally imposed on us, so if I can learn it then you men of the North can learn it too. And truly the secret is simple, know yourselves, like a sniper knows his rifle, like a painter knows his brush, know your tools, master yourselves, not in the gym, but in your mind, do not reduce yourselves to your height, your wealth, your looks, because you will buy that all you have to sell is that, and PLEASE, learn how to talk to people outside of an app.
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dating_advice
|
t5_2s4kl
|
It is not your height, nor your wealth, nor your body, it's your attitude.
| null | 0.62 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/pzdmji/it_is_not_your_height_nor_your_wealth_nor_your/
|
Inf229
|
2023-08-07 23:28:08
| 1,691,450,888 | 0 | null | 0 |
15l0s9c
| true | null | 10 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/15l0s9c/getting_back_into_old_after_a_long_time_off/
| 1 |
My god. I spent the last 9 months just learning to be happy single again, finally get to the point where I want to start sharing my life with someone and get back on the apps. Match with a handful of girls who seem interesting, have short chats, and ask them out. They all say yes. "This is easy and fun", I think, "why all the complaining?" Well. I have one date. It's a good night out, but feels more like meeting a friend than anything more, and I don't think I'm interested. Oh well, next... Since then, everyone who said yes has either flaked and cancelled on the day, or just gone silent, or revealed they're fresh out of a relationship and aren't ready to see anyone. Urgh. I hate it here.
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
|
Getting back into OLD after a long time off. Remember why I hate it.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/15l0s9c/getting_back_into_old_after_a_long_time_off/
|
Salty-Prompt-5514
|
2023-10-15 19:37:11
| 1,697,398,631 | 0 |
['matches', 'hinge']
| 0 |
178n4tc
| true |
Question ❓
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/178n4tc/how_to_flirt/
| 1 |
So I [m24] recently been taking dating more seriously and joined hinge. I dont get many matches, but atm I went on a date with 2 girls and both said yes to a second date. I seem to make the girls laugh but I dont know how to flirt. How do I flirt? and does anyone have any general flirting lines?
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dating
|
t5_2qhb1
|
How to flirt?
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/178n4tc/how_to_flirt/
|
[deleted]
|
2019-10-28 23:44:08
| 1,572,306,248 | null |
['dating app']
| 0 |
dohlij
| true |
I Need Advice
| 7 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/dohlij/dating_app/
| 1 |
Hello people of the internet. I'll get straight to the point so I don't waste your time. I want to find a dating app that doesn't require a picture or a phone number (I'm a little camera shy and worried about people I know seeing me on there). Any advice? Thanks
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Dating app
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/dohlij/dating_app/
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kevolig2
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2019-11-21 04:54:07
| 1,574,312,047 | null |
['matched', 'dating app']
| 0 |
dze8wz
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/dze8wz/did_she_lose_interest_or_should_i_give_them_the/
| 2 |
Hey all so I (M 27) matched with this girl (F 24) on a dating app a little over a month ago. We went got coffee a few days after we matched, and thought it went really well with some first time meetup awkward silences of course. Fast forward to a week after that where I hadn’t heard from her thinking I was ghosted and didn’t give much thought to it since it’s happened to me before. The thing I’m confused about is that she replied back a week later saying work was hectic and that she’s been under some stress, so I shrugged it off and said “it’s okay”. We then made plans to go on a second date for dinner and drinks after that work week, and she cancelled the day of. Haven’t heard back from her since then and it’s been a week and half since then with no reply back to me asking if she’s free another day. Some side notes just in case I do get some advice... she was a very slow texter and by that I mean she would take hours to text back, but each text was always in paragraphs replying back to our conversations. I don’t know if she just lost interest or she’s just a horrible texter. What do you guys think? Do I reach out to her and try to get that second date?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Did she lose interest or should I give them the benefit of the doubt?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/dze8wz/did_she_lose_interest_or_should_i_give_them_the/
|
Living-Individual-64
|
2022-12-28 23:46:57
| 1,672,271,217 | null |
['dating apps']
| 0 |
zxp4tq
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 9 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/zxp4tq/how_does_an_introvert_find_love_without_dating/
| 3 |
I want to go out and date (but not hookup) but I don't want to use any dating apps, and I also don't have any social media. I also don't really have any hobbies, especially ones that involve a community (at least in real life). My only hobby that may count is hiking, but 1) I heard that's not a great way to meet potential partners, and 2) I don't really feel comfortable going alone (I've only ever done it with my ex) and have no one to come with. I am kind of a hermit, I have one friend who I talk to somewhat regularly but we don't see each other often and we're not very close. The only place I interact with others (beyond small talk) is at work, other than that I mostly sit at home doing whatever. I do however take care of myself and keep things clean, so I am not a slob and I would say I look pretty decent and approachable. Lastly, I am pretty introverted. I don't really enjoy talking with others, even at family gatherings, unless we have a connection and I am truly interested in what they have to say and vice versa. I have always considered myself shy, but it's been improving over the years and I would say I am at least somewhat confident with speaking. Although I am not very humorous and have a pretty poor vocabulary, so it's still a struggle for sure. Anyway, what are some ideas for how someone like me could get out and date, find potential partners? Thanks! P.S. I am 20 years old so anything that involves drinking is out of question. I wouldn't want anything that involves drinking anyway though, I have never liked it even a little bit.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
How does an introvert find love without dating apps/social media?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/zxp4tq/how_does_an_introvert_find_love_without_dating/
|
PatrickStarWarsaw
|
2018-02-04 10:28:27
| 1,517,740,107 | null |
['online dating']
| 0 |
7v61sw
| false | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/7v61sw/everything_about_this_situation_screams_get_out/
| 1 |
I've (M,26) been seeing this girl (F,24) for about 2 months now. We hit it off almost instantly, with a lot of common interests. We both have the same type of silliness and sense of humor. We are pretty sexually compatible, as well. When we first started seeing each other, we both agreed that we don't really have time for a relationship because I'm busy with full timeschool/full time work, and she's a mom with a young kid who is trying to get back on her feet after a rough breakup. However, I've become really attached to her, and I've been able to juggle my responsibilities very well, so I don't think my schedule would make a relationship difficult. I finally broke down a few days ago and told her that I really enjoy her company and would like for it to become serious, while also saying that I understand why she wouldn't be ready for that given her situation. She understood and was appreciative, but told me she really wasn't emotionally ready for that sort of thing yet. She's still recovering from the breakup with her ex (whom I also found out she was engaged to marry prior to him cheating on her...yikes). Obviously understandable since it's only been 5 or 6 months. I really do like this one. We met IRL the old fashioned way, and she's been a breathe of fresh air after having done the online dating thing for 5 years and meeting no one of note. She's pretty much great. And my heart is telling me to stick it out and give her space to heal from that. But my brain is telling me to end the whole thing before I become too attached. Idk wtf to do. Tl:dr: I've been in a casual relationship with a woman for a couple of months and am developing feelings, but she's not emotionally ready to seriously date following a rough breakup from her cheating fiance/father of her child. My heart and brain are fighting each other for my next step. Thanks for whatever advice you may have.
|
dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Everything about this situation screams "Get out!", but...
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/7v61sw/everything_about_this_situation_screams_get_out/
|
[deleted]
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2015-08-02 22:31:41
| 1,438,554,701 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
3fjy1d
| null | null | 21 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/3fjy1d/i_learned_a_valuable_lesson_today_getting_your/
| 12 |
Now I know the title may seem very negative and discouraging but it's in no way intended to mean that. I gave up on online dating. I'd say I'm an average looking guy: ( http://i.imgur.com/vFIpJKs.jpg ) and as a result have gone on a few dates here and there. Some where good, and some were meh but nothing terrible. One day though I wound up going out with a girl who almost seemed too good to be true. We had many common interests and just hit it off well. We had agreed to go out again but today she explained to me how she just wanted to date and not get into anything serious as she just got out of a relationship. Needless to say I was crushed but then I realized that I set myself up for this. I put an expectation that she was looking for the same thing I was. I thought that she was going to come back simply because of how well the date went. So learn from my mistake. This goes for both guys and girls. Don't get awestruck. Just go out, have fun, and take things one step at a time.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
I Learned a valuable lesson today: Getting your hopes up is setting yourself up for some serious heart ache and here's why.
| 12 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3fjy1d/i_learned_a_valuable_lesson_today_getting_your/
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Apprehensive_Fruit24
|
2021-01-15 08:02:13
| 1,610,697,733 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
kxq292
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/kxq292/should_i_bring_up_the_dtr_talk_or_let_it_floooow/
| 4 |
I’ve [22F] been dating this guy [22]since last October. We met on bumble, and both of us were new users and the first person we dated from online. He comes over and we hang out have dinner watch shows, we’ve taken a weekend trip too. He never lets me pay, he definitely spoils me, and we always have a good time! I really like him and I’ve told him this over text and he said that he liked me too but that we should talk about it. But we just have yet to have that conversation in person. We did casually bring up that neither of us are seeing anyone else. He’s met my parents and I’ve met his. The only thing that really gives me doubts about his intentions is that I’m usually the one to text first or makes plans :/. He doesn’t really to seem to be on his phone when we’re together, and he doesn’t really use social media so that kinda justifies not texting. If I do text him he always replies though. So I’m not sure if I should bring up us talking about it, or just be patient or what. It’s been 3 months and I just want to know if It’s okay to let myself have deeper feelings for this person or if I’m wasting my time. Also... how do you even have that conversation ...
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Should I bring up the DTR talk or let it floooow
| null | 0.75 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/kxq292/should_i_bring_up_the_dtr_talk_or_let_it_floooow/
|
clint_watters
|
2024-03-03 12:53:31
| 1,709,470,411 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1b5gia3
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/1b5gia3/met_a_girl_whos_a_bit_fucked_up_she_brings_me_joy/
| 1 |
Hello, Met her in the streets of my hometown on the 18th of February, we had a good eye contact, a good laugh and I felt like she had an incredible sense of humor. It was easy to laugh with her. 1st date: We went for a coffee on our first date set at 1pm and we ended up at 11pm. Time went by so quick it was great. She told me about her two ex boyfriends who were trash, she got pregnant and something went wrong, she lost it. Her ex's reaction was bad and he was manipulative with her. The second ex was also like that so she says. 2nd date: She told me she had a best friend of her's who committed suicide and she felt responsible for not knowing about it soon enough. We spoke about her past sexual life, she told me she had a threesome with a guy and another woman. She somewhat feels traumatisés sexually because of her ex's behaviors. One of them "raped" her while they were together. She didn't want to have sex but he did... So he fucked her disregarding her feelings about it. 3rd date: She wanted me to meet one of her male friend. He came around for a beer and while she went to the bathroom to refresh I asked him how they met. He told me they knew each other for about a year and their relation was for pleasure. (She didn't tell me that prior meeting this guy). I reacted well and politely and "accepted" her sexual past. But part of me couldn't believe I was actually looking at a guy who once fucked her. We went to his apt, it was a shit hole full of donuts, weed, computers. I didn't have a blast but I remained cool throughout the whole night. There are a couple of aspects I don't understand about her. She tells me she wants a long term relationship. She has the opposite behavior of long term. She's very easy with the social contact. She flirted quickly in front of me with a guy and I made sure she didn't do it ever again. If she does it again, she'll lose me instantly ( I was very clear about that) She also tells me that "tinder" installs itself on her cellphone which I find very hard to believe. She says that apps are suggested and somehow appear on her cellphone from time to time. Her situation is messed up. She lives with a guy who's 37, sleeps on his couch. She tells me there's nothing going on with him because he's mature enough to not do it with her... But it's just words coming out of her mouth so in the end what the fuck do I know. She's 27, works a shitty job asking for voting signature's in the streets. She's also epileptic and has seizures every 4 days. I've seen her taking her meds and she has an alarm on her cellphone reminding her. One part of me wants to save her from her own bullshit. She hangs out with unhealthy people. She mentioned her father is a piece of shit and I think she needs the attention from men, which theoretically would explain her behavior. I don't want to get hurt and she tells me she doesn't want to fuck me yet because it would mean opening up to quickly. She wants to take it slow but it doesn't make a lot of sense. I should point out that I do not have a place yet, so we can't fuck unless we go to a hotel (and I sincerely believe she won't agree doing that) I will have an apt in 1 approximately 1 week. I wonder if she's manipulating me because she wants to stay with me in the apt. She clearly said NO about living with me. But that could be a strategy. Am I paranoid? Any piece of advice appreciated, thank you.
|
dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Met a girl who's a bit fucked up... She brings me joy and pain
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1b5gia3/met_a_girl_whos_a_bit_fucked_up_she_brings_me_joy/
|
gorlwithaquestion
|
2024-09-02 00:32:43
| 1,725,237,163 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
1f6tmgq
| true | null | 29 | 0 |
/r/AskMen/comments/1f6tmgq/when_is_it_okay_to_double_text_a_guy/
| 0 |
I had a crush on this guy in my class (25M) when I was in college (25F), who I actually only talked to once. I graduated 3 years ago and recently visited that same city (3 hours away from my home) for the weekend and matched with him on a dating app as he's still doing a masters there. He actually seemed interested and engaged and even suggested we talk out of the app. We talked a few times a day for a couple weeks but eventually he would take longer to respond, though he was still asking a ton of questions and seeming interested. Anyways, one day I answered his questions and asked a couple more but he never responded! I didn't double text because I thought it might be the distance/he found someone new. Anyways its been a month since we talked and I noticed he deleted his dating profile, however, I'm going to be in his city in a couple weeks and wanted to see if he'd want to hang out. Is it ok to double text or should I just leave it TLDR can I double text someone I never met after a month
|
AskMen
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t5_2s30g
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When is it okay to double text a guy
| 0 | 0.31 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1f6tmgq/when_is_it_okay_to_double_text_a_guy/
|
PoorAxelrod
|
2023-06-27 00:21:35
| 1,687,825,295 | 0 |
['swiped', 'dating app']
| 0 |
14jy4bt
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 8 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/14jy4bt/should_i_take_a_shot_or_let_it_go/
| 4 |
I realize that I'm opening myself up to a lot of different commentary by posting on Reddit at all... but I'm curious what to do. I encountered somebody that I know through work on a dating app. We don't work together, but we do work in similar fields. I haven't swiped right on her because I don't think that would be appropriate. However, the fact that she is on the app, and that we are looking for similar things... Would I be justified in going the traditional route and just asking her for coffee or something?
|
dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Should I take a shot or let it go?
| 4 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/14jy4bt/should_i_take_a_shot_or_let_it_go/
|
miftygx_
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2024-07-17 06:02:56
| 1,721,196,176 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
1e5auuv
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 4 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1e5auuv/i_dont_understand_him/
| 0 |
Met a guy on hinge, we hit off and hooked up in first meeting. He told me he was interested in second meeting, since he didnt reach me out for couple days, I texted him 4 days later, asking if he wanna hang out. He said yes and arranged the date which was yesterday. When we met yesterday, I made a joke about how I had to text him first, and he replied he was about to text me later that day, but I texted him first. Everything went well. He dropped me off, and I said I wont text you again, so if u didnt text me, you wont see me again. He said hes gonna text me later, but when he hugged me he said "its getting late, you should go and get some rest, im sorry for keeping you so late, take care of urself". I feel like thats not something you say to someone you want to meet again or am i just overthinking this? Cause its been a whole day and he hasnt texted me anything. The thing is I really like this, but I just dont understand him.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
I dont understand him
| 0 | 0.5 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1e5auuv/i_dont_understand_him/
|
freezer_man24
|
2021-04-28 21:09:34
| 1,619,644,174 | null |
['matches', 'swiped', 'dating apps']
| 0 |
n0ow22
| true | null | 24 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/n0ow22/a_close_female_friend_let_me_know_that_my_ugly/
| 11 |
So I’ve never had much luck in dating. I’ve tried a lot of thing. I even seemingly conquered my fear of rejection and started cold approaching women. They would be all friendly etc but would block me later. These women expressed no fear and always told me that they were comfortable with giving me their number and would say no if they didn’t want to. Then the first few conversations would go well until I got blocked randomly. I tried dating apps but got zero matches except for one sex worker and someone who swiped on me by accident (according to her). I’ve been involved in clubs and societies but the women there aren’t interested in me. They do enjoy talking to and interacting with me though and I even got invited to coffee recently by one (as a friend since she has a bf). I asked a female friend what my problem might be. She said that I took good care of myself and I was hygienic. She also added that I was a good conversationalist and knew how to dress well when the occasion called for it. Also that I was in shape and had a nice body. That I would make woman lucky one day. I asked her why she thought I was still single and she essentially told me in no uncertain terms that my face was really ugly and probably the major thing holding me back. Women enjoy my company but don’t want anything more than platonic from me. I’m not sure what to do at this point. Should I just focus on making money and paying for intimacy? I don’t want to resort to that and a part of me would rather just stay celibate but it’s eating away at me. My female friends don’t see the point of hooking me up with their single friends as they usually aren’t interested in meeting men (hence why they’re single) or I don’t meet their standards anyways. I even stopped using porn (I barely used to) and masturbating. I’m working towards my goals. It’s not the first time someone has implied that I’m ugly but hearing it in such a straightforward manner is something else. I seemingly remember someone once remarking that I looked like an addict. I don’t smoke and barely touch alcohol (almost never). Even now I’m having a glass of water to replenish myself but when people look at me they probably assume I’m dirty or not clean except for those who know me. People probably assume that I don’t look after myself because my face gives the impression of someone dirty.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
A close female friend let me know that my ugly face is probably the reason for my dating struggles. Any advice?
| null | 0.87 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/n0ow22/a_close_female_friend_let_me_know_that_my_ugly/
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myxleanaxxount
|
2023-12-22 00:44:06
| 1,703,205,846 | 0 |
['matched', 'tinder']
| 0 |
18o267h
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/18o267h/2nd_date_rescheduled_then_cancelled_due_to/
| 1 |
I (23f) matched with this girl (22f) on Tinder last Monday. She messaged me first and we were having good conversation. She was initiating a lot of the conversation and eneded up offering me her number. I was supposed to go to a concert Wednesday with a friend but they got sick so I asked her to go with me and she accepted. I felt a little awkward on the date since I have social anxiety but she was still initiating conversation. After the concert (ended around 10) she said she was hungry and we went to a bar for food and ended up staying till 1am even though she had work the next day. At the end of the date I asked if she would want to go out again and she said yes. We didn't text too much after the date other than " lmk if you get home safe" and "this was fun would love to see you again soon" texts. On Saturday I asked her to dinner Monday night and she accepted. On Monday she said she was sick and asked to reschedule so we decided on Thursday. Today, Thursday, she said she was still sick and couldn't do dinner but did not offer to reschedule. After the date last Wednesday. I have been the one initiating conversation, and while she has been responding enthusiastically and we've had some good conversation, I feel like there was a subtle vibe switch since she was the one initiating before the date. I did really like her and really wanted to see her again. I am thinking of waiting a few days and asking her if she is still interested in seeing me when she feels better. I am looking for advice on if this is a good idea and if it seems like she's interested or if she just does not want to see me again and doesn't want to say it.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
2nd date rescheduled then cancelled due to sickness
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18o267h/2nd_date_rescheduled_then_cancelled_due_to/
|
SupremeMystique
|
2018-08-04 04:34:35
| 1,533,357,275 | null |
['matches', 'dating apps', 'tinder']
| 0 |
94ghyf
| true | null | 17 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/94ghyf/how_do_i_break_out_of_being_an_incel/
| 0 |
I'm short (5'6), average looking. I work out often, medium weight. Women don't like me. I get zero matches on tinder and datings apps. My expectations aren't that high. I usually like atleast half of the girls I see on dating apps, yet no girl seems to like me. I try to talk to girls but they usually ignore me or give me a cold shoulder. People say you should be nice, friendly, fun, blah blah but how is that possible if you don't even get a chance in the first place for people to get to know you. The guy who beats women and has a criminal history can still get a chance at girls. What the fuck am I supposed to do?
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
How do I break out of being an incel?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/94ghyf/how_do_i_break_out_of_being_an_incel/
|
[deleted]
|
2015-01-18 14:20:57
| 1,421,590,857 | 0 |
['okcupid']
| 0 |
2stxqm
| null | null | 3 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/2stxqm/choosing_between_falling_in_love_and_my/
| 3 |
Normally have a really hard time meeting people and I'm a skeptic when it comes to love, but I recently met this guy on okcupid and there was immediate chemistry between us. We've only been dating for a couple weeks but I really like him. The problem is I'm trying to get a job in a far away state because I'm not happy with where I work now and want to be closer to my family. I told him this before we got involved, but things still kind of fell apart yesterday because I'm not planning on sticking around this area. Now I don't know what to do. Should I give up or compromise and try to make things work here? I've already started falling for him, but I feel that I'd I try to fix things I'll just end up making them worse. I don't know what to do from here. Update: thanks for the advice. I talked to him for a bit today and he understands that I can't change my plans for one person. We managed to end things on good terms. I've decided to take a dating hiatus for a while until my life is more at stabilized level. It just sucks being lonely in the meantime.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Choosing between falling in love and my career/family.
| 3 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/2stxqm/choosing_between_falling_in_love_and_my/
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Big_Bit_1136
|
2024-02-23 15:24:53
| 1,708,701,893 | 0 | null | 0 |
1ay35g5
| true | null | 2 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/1ay35g5/shaming_people/
| 1 |
Which sub is appropriate to post horrible dating app experiences? Like post the persons profile with text etc hopefully shaming them in the process
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OnlineDating
|
t5_2qpe9
|
Shaming people
| 1 | 0.33 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/1ay35g5/shaming_people/
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WinnieThePooh6
|
2024-04-14 02:25:29
| 1,713,061,529 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
1c3iug9
| true |
Support Needed 🫂
| 3 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1c3iug9/21_m_i_didnt_date_a_girl/
| 2 |
First of all, I live in a country located in North Africa, and dating is a little difficult, but let’s get to the heart of the matter. I have never dated a girl in my life, but I was very in love with a girl and I wanted to share my feelings with her 😕 but she refused without saying anything.But my life did not stop at that point. I downloaded the Tinder application for 3 years, but imagine, I did not find a single match, but... I started to lose passion. All I want is her, so I can share my life with her and achieve my dreams with her, but there is no reason.I'm starting to think about not living...
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
(21 M) I didn't date a girl
| 2 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1c3iug9/21_m_i_didnt_date_a_girl/
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homemade_adult
|
2023-10-16 19:28:24
| 1,697,484,504 | 0 |
['dating app']
| 0 |
179edq5
| true | null | 1 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/179edq5/unsure_about_showing_affection_in_dating_need/
| 1 |
I (F24) have been on three dates with a guy (M27) I met on a dating app. Everything is very nice, we have a lot of fun, feel quite comfortable around each other and we communicate very clearly about how things are going. The one thing we don’t really communicate about is showing affection. I am very inexperienced, haven’t had sex or made out with anyone. On date two we shared a kiss (one of my first ones) at the end. Date three ended with a kiss as well. But apart from those endings there is no affection. We have a lot of eye contact, and I do feel quite a bit of tension. But I just freeze in those moments and he doesn’t make a move either. I told him about the fact that I’m still a virgin and I feel like no he’s holding back with me. Honestly, I just want things to be fun and simple and want to gain some skills in kissing and making out and eventually sex because I think I would really enjoy it once I feel more confident. Any advice on how I can best show or communicate this?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Unsure about showing affection in dating. Need some advice.
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/179edq5/unsure_about_showing_affection_in_dating_need/
|
CulturalSpecial3812
|
2022-08-01 21:23:09
| 1,659,388,989 | null |
['swipe']
| 0 |
wdsxa4
| true | null | 3 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/wdsxa4/wtf_do_i_tell_my_friend_22f_that_i_22m_have/
| 1 |
Hey, I tried posting this on r/relationshipadvice but I barely got any response. So there’s this friend of mine that I’ve known for a few years that I’ve recently developed feelings for. Idk why it didn’t happen for a while, maybe because we just got a lot closer during this time period, but whatever. I feel like I should be honest with her that I have a crush on her because it’d be unfair to both of us if I kept my intentions hidden. Last thing I’d want to come off as is a “nice guy” who pretends to be friends with a girl just to get in her pants. To be clear, she’s fun enough to be around that I don’t mind staying friends with her if that’s what she really wants. “Has she given you hints?” Kinda. Every time she posts a picture of us on her Snapchat story, she’ll tell me how her friends will swipe up and say stuff like “ooh is that your new man? He’s cute.” Like this has happened multiple times, according to her. One of her friends even said “wow you really do have a type LOL.” Since her type is, as she’s said, ginger dudes and guys with beards, both of which apply to me. Another time, she said something to me that I really don’t know what else she could have meant. For context, her boobs are on the larger side. She asked me once if I was a boobs or butt guy, and when I said boobs, she said, and I quote, “I wish you told me that six months ago.” She’d been dating her then-bf for around six months at the time. “Why have you waited this long?” This girl has a long history of guy friends mistaking friendliness from her as romantic affection. Like it happens ALL the time. In fact two guys I know personally have become “friends” with her only to be cut off by her for their constant unwanted advances. I’ve been scared to tell her because I don’t want her to think I’m one of those guys. Also (and the main thing I want this sub’s input for) I don’t really want a serious relationship right now, and neither does she. I was thinking of asking her for something casual, but I wanted to do it in a way that isn’t objectifying and doesn’t make it sound like I’m just friends with her because I want sex. What do I say to her?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Wtf do I tell my friend (22F) that I (22M) have feelings for if neither of us wants a serious relationship right now
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/wdsxa4/wtf_do_i_tell_my_friend_22f_that_i_22m_have/
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ttttt2511
|
2015-09-13 07:30:11
| 1,442,129,411 | 0 |
['online dating', 'okcupid']
| 0 |
3krct4
| null | null | 1 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/3krct4/trouble_with_messaging/
| 2 |
Story: So I've meet this girl via online dating, OkCupid about 2 months ago. It was holiday season so I was away, then she was away, after like 3 weeks we managed to set and go on a date. She also deactivated her OkCupid account before we met. Date went well, I would say (and she said that as well), we talked for like 3 hours at a sweet garden bar then we walked for a bit in the park, talking more, holding hands and me catching her when she almost fall down in the skating park. After that she had to leave home, due to Uni break. It's been like 1 month+ since then, she will come back in about 2-3 weeks. Issue: Messaging on Facebook it's kinda slow with her. We talk at least once per week, mostly weekend but the conversation sometime ends by her not talking back after like 30m of messaging. Talking about her week, my week, pets (we both have cats), the fact that my sister is getting married because my friend proposed to her like 1 week ago, etc... But I'm the only one that initates the conversation each time, tho she is engaging and asks me stuff. Do I feel a bit "needy"? I don't understand, is she interested still or did she lost interest due to the fact that we are away? Or maybe she just waits to get back so we can meet?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Trouble with messaging
| 2 | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3krct4/trouble_with_messaging/
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msssst
|
2020-04-13 13:25:02
| 1,586,784,302 | null |
['tinder']
| 0 |
g0ivxo
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/g0ivxo/why_is_dating_so_hard_for_me_but_not_for_others/
| 1 |
The question I have asked myself for the better part of a decade is why dating is so hard for me but not for others? I have only had short term relationships (less than 6 months) and have not yet had a bf and I’m 30. I’m in shape, attractive, educated to postgraduate level and have a relatively successful career. I am using various methods to meet guys (online and in real life) but seem to only attract fboys or guys who don’t want to commit despite making clear I’m looking for a relationship. Adding to the frustration, I keep hearing stories of other girls meeting great guys seemingly easily - as if I was living in an alternate universe... E.g. a girl I know just got a bf after meeting the guy on tinder and slept with him within 2 dates (something I don’t do). They are now talking about marriage after 3 months of dating. He is a nice guy and attractive. She is below average in looks and a bit chubby. Any advice to deal with these feelings would be appreciated. Thanks in advance 🙏
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Why is dating SO hard for me but not for others?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/g0ivxo/why_is_dating_so_hard_for_me_but_not_for_others/
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ProcedureJunior2597
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2024-03-21 01:01:10
| 1,710,982,870 | 0 |
['online dating']
| 0 |
1bjtzvv
| true |
I Need Advice 😩
| 1 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/1bjtzvv/seeking_stars_embarking_on_a_dating_journey/
| 2 |
Hey Reddit, I’m navigating the dating scene after a life-changing event in June 2020—a car accident that resulted in paralysis. This journey has not just reshaped how I see things and how I do things, but it's also challenged how I approach dating. Despite venturing into online dating for the past three years, I've found myself at somewhat of a standstill—I've not really been on a date at all, having only ever been on one date before my injury. While I'm eager to go out and meet new people, finding accessible venues and making plans that accommodate my needs has been challenging. I’m here seeking advice or insights from anyone who's navigated dating with a disability or under any challenging circumstances. What’s your approach to discussing your disability in online profiles or conversations? Any creative tips for planning dates that are both accessible and enjoyable? I remain positive and open-hearted on this journey, enriched by a newfound fascination with medicine and the incredible resilience of the human spirit post-injury. Would love to hear your thoughts, advice, or any shared experiences. Thanks for being a part of my adventure!
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Seeking Stars: Embarking on a Dating Journey Post-Paralysis
| 1 | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1bjtzvv/seeking_stars_embarking_on_a_dating_journey/
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buddhavt
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2020-02-27 18:15:50
| 1,582,827,350 | null |
['OLD']
| 0 |
fag9fx
| true | null | 5 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/fag9fx/did_the_meaning_of_dating_change/
| 0 |
So this has been bothering me for a few years and I never get a good answer, but did the definition of Dating change? When did people start attaching exclusivity to it? I've seen this more and more over the last decade. I'm 39 and always known it to the non-exclusive phase or type of relationship where you participate in activities, learn about each other, and have fun together. If things click, you discuss your mutual interest in a monogamous relationship. At that point, Dating no longer describes your affiliation. Meanwhile, going on a fews dates with an OLD match is not dating? Am I missing something? BTW, I'm not a serial dater or anything. I barely have enough time/energy to tend to my parental responsibilities now, much less date several people at once.
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
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Did the meaning of Dating change?
| null | null |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/fag9fx/did_the_meaning_of_dating_change/
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adamdejames
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2023-11-29 20:51:26
| 1,701,291,086 | 0 |
['tinder', 'bumble']
| 0 |
186zq1f
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 6 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/186zq1f/i_22m_am_starting_to_feel_like_its_pointless_to/
| 8 |
To give a bit of back story, I'm almost 23 and I've only had a couple relationships. Only one was serious, and I ended it 2 months ago due to her consistent mood swings and deciding every other week we're not compatible, but never saying anything and just distancing. I've tried and tried to talk to her, she'd just gaslight me, tell me it's my fault because I'm shy (yes, that was her big issue with me: I'm introverted. That's it. Never yelled at her, never talked to other girls, was always there in a moments notice when she felt sad, etc) then apologize days or weeks later promising to change. There is so so much more to that story, but that's not what this is about. Anyway, I'm not a hookup type of person. I've only had sex with 2 partners, because I generally don't want to have sex unless I have actual feelings for someone. I've been on Tinder and Bumble for a couple weeks, with little to no success. I'm not an extremely attractive person, but I'm not bad looking. I have a really nice corporate job, and I have my life together. But I'm noticing the vast majority of the women in my age range (20-26) and in a respectable distance are only interested in hooking up, don't work and just smoke weed all day and that's their entire personality, or never respond (especially on Bumble, I don't have a choice but to wait for them to message first.) Finding someone outside of an app seems impossible these days, as most people don't want to be disturbed while they're in public trying to get shit done, and I also live in the middle of nowhere. I'm in the city and surrounding areas everyday, but I'm working and have a shit ton of sites to visit. I don't even have any friends anymore (me and my ex worked together before I got my current job, and she was friends with all my friends, whom have since stopped talking to me and barely respond to me.) so I don't really have anyone to go out with on the weekends. There's no bars or clubs or anything like that around me, and in the city I'd need a way home. No one will be driving me an hour and a half home. At the gym, I'm trying to workout, not seek out a partner, so I don't approach anyone and I doubt anyone \wants\ to be approached. Basically, I'm just tired of being alone. Hell, even in my last relationship I constantly felt alone. The last couple girls I've talked to and went on a date with had so many red flags, from either racist or homophobic views to saying they love me after a week of talking, so that was a no go. But in my eyes, no one around my age wants anything serious, and I'm not going to be someone's fuck buddy. I've worked my ass off the past couple years to get to where I am. I'm a high school dropout, no college at all. I've always had to push myself as hard as I could to do what I want, I've gone through some extremely fucked up and rough shit from the time I was a literal child, but I keep pushing, and now I'm happy, I have a job that requires a college degree that I love. I'm thankful, but honestly all I want now is just someone who cares :/ Maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm the problem. I don't know anymore, I'm just exhausted and about to just give up on the whole dating scene for awhile. Really sucks, I missed my high school experience due to a really fucked up childhood, and I've already missed a lot of my young experiences thanks to depression, a touch of cancer, and working full time for years. thanks for coming to my tedtalk, i'll be showing myself out now. tldr: dating sucks, red flags everywhere or they don't want what i want, living in the middle of nowhere makes it hard to find someone.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
I (22m) am starting to feel like it's pointless to even try to date anymore.
| 8 | 0.83 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/186zq1f/i_22m_am_starting_to_feel_like_its_pointless_to/
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Frequent_District_69
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2022-03-12 20:51:11
| 1,647,118,271 | null | null | 0 |
tcqk1x
| true | null | 4 | 0 |
/r/OnlineDating/comments/tcqk1x/should_i_go_see_the_girl_ive_been_dating_online/
| 1 |
So, here it goes: I matched with this girl from Europe (Lithuania) in 2020. We talked for a while and then lost contact. We follow each other on ig, so there was some interaction during this time (mostly from my side). However, we started talking again in February. It’s been going quite well and kinda feels like there’s a thing going on. We talk on a daily basis and I’ve felt that there’s mutual interest. So, amid jokes and stuff, we talked about me going to see her. We even picked the dates and she has told me that she would make sure that she’s free all the days I’ll spend there to hang out with me. She even said she’ll plan an itinerary. The thing is, I don’t believe in long distance relationships, even though none of us has manifested that we are into each other in that way. So, I’m not sure about what to do. I want to see her, that’s the only thing I’m sure about. Extra info: she’s 21, in her first year of university. I’m 25, already graduated and working. What do you think I should do? Do you think she’s into me, or am I just jumping into conclusions? Should I give it a chance or should I back out? Thanks in advance!
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OnlineDating
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t5_2qpe9
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Should I go see the girl I’ve been “dating” online?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/comments/tcqk1x/should_i_go_see_the_girl_ive_been_dating_online/
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wing_growingpains
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2022-06-09 13:47:40
| 1,654,782,460 | null |
['bumble']
| 0 |
v8h8lf
| true | null | 18 | 0 |
/r/dating_advice/comments/v8h8lf/where_do_people_go_nowadays_to_meet_other_single/
| 1 |
Anyone know of any speed dating lounges? I think a great idea to go to speed dating lounges and meet like 5+ people in a night that are also there to meet people for dating. Heres the issues nowadays: 1. Bumble is weird and inorganic 2. Bars and clubs are too risky with "hitting on" ppl aka u might hit on someone taken by a persom who takes it really wrong etc. 3. There is no option 3 or i wouldnt be posting this of course Where do u guys go to organically meet people also wanting to date?
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Where do people go nowadays to meet other single people... im over bumble and bars are too hit or miss, is there like speed dating lounges?
| null | 1 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/v8h8lf/where_do_people_go_nowadays_to_meet_other_single/
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SmoresPies
|
2023-07-31 23:29:56
| 1,690,846,196 | 0 |
['hinge']
| 0 |
15evnmh
| true |
Just Venting 😮💨
| 25 | 0 |
/r/dating/comments/15evnmh/just_had_an_hour_long_call_with_a_girl_on_hinge/
| 83 |
The call went well, really well. We were both laughing. At the end, she told me she liked my perseverance and I told her that I go after what I want. When she asked me what I want, I told her it was to take her out on a date. She said she would like that and that she had a lot of fun talking with me and was curious how much more fun I could be in person. I told her to leave her number after the call and told her it would be an adventure and she was super intrigued, almost excited. Like 10 out of 10, everything you ever want to hear. But she still hasn't sent her number almost an hour after the call... EDIT: SHE TEXTED BOYS LETS GO LETS FUCKING GO THIS IS IT! EDIT 2: She unmatched me sometime in the middle of the night (cause I woke up around 2-3am and she was still there) and hasn't replied to my text from this morning. What an absolute soul-crushing mindfuck.
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dating
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t5_2qhb1
|
Just had an hour long call with a girl on hinge. Give me hope that she will meet me. She's otherworldly.
| 83 | 0.93 |
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/15evnmh/just_had_an_hour_long_call_with_a_girl_on_hinge/
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DustBux
|
2015-06-07 23:17:36
| 1,433,719,056 | 0 |
['tinder']
| 0 |
38ymgc
| null | null | 1 | null |
/r/dating_advice/comments/38ymgc/tired_of_this_uncertainty/
| 1 |
What's up guys! Listen up because I really need your view on this. Last month I met a girl on Tinder. We both are friends with the same few persons (her sister is a gf of a friend) so that seemed to be a handy starting point. We chatted quite nicely the first day. The next few days the texting went downwards. After a few days it ended with she only sending a few 'haha' and emoji's. I let it rest for a day after I picked up the courage to ask her out for a drink sometime. No answer since then. It has been almost a full month after she texted me yesterday: "Hey". I replied back to her (Hi [name]) and since she had read that (+1 for WhatsApp feature) but didn't answered I added: "Been a while. How is everything?" A chitchat that everything is going well yada yada yada... I asked her why she didn't replied and that I felt bad about her not replying. She told me she was quite busy at that time, something I can hardly believe but okay.. Take it for granted. Bottomline: she texted me first after a month but seems to be not really in the mood for texting. It feels all so laborious. I think she is just confused and doesn't really know what she wants, which I find actually kinda cute. But it is so tiring to always take the lead in texting which only results in conversations like something about the weather and so... By the way, sorry for my long sentences. Tried to shorten it and failed obviously P
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dating_advice
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t5_2s4kl
|
Tired of this uncertainty
| 1 | null |
http://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/38ymgc/tired_of_this_uncertainty/
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