text: So if people you know, say colleagues, asked if you were married Sean, would you tell them to mind their own business or would you answer? Because it seems odd that someone would tell their colleagues to mind their own business. So if we assume that most people would answer that question, where does that leave gay and bisexual people who might be in a same-sex marriage? They have to come out at that point because it will be assumed they are heterosexual, as that is the assumption in our society. So it's not about telling everyone about your private life. It's about being able to talk about your life in the same way that heterosexual people can.